Sexual Technique Tips

14 Jul 2004

I may have missed it, but I`m surprised to see that there doesn`t seem to be a general advice thread for sexual techniques. Come on....you can`t ALL be experts!
There must be someone here who is as crap in bed as I am! redface

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I gag when I swallow..please help
I can`t take it anally (but I`m not too bothered by that)
I choke on deep throat.
That`s fine with myself and Mars, for we have a whole seperate level of emotion which come into our lovemaking, but I would like to have some tips on how to improve the above, as I do have the desire to do it, but physically I suck....or not as the case may be! lol

So come on, I threw myself to the wolves here. Can someone please come and keep me company!
I need to be educated. How can I improve the above, or indeed, is there anything people have discovered with thier partners which may be new to others here?
Eg, I know, and knowing my luck you all do too, that if pressure is applied correctly behind the scrotum, that you can stop a guy from cumming.
There`s my feeble contribution!! :lol:
I shall go crawl in my hole now :oops:
Venusxxx

14 Jul 2004

Venus,
great honesty
great desire to improve, Mars is a lucky guy, but maybe some would offer advice for how we guys might improve.
Will be interested to know who the experst are here.
Tonguey seems to have something of a reputation I can't think what for!!! :shock:
Good thread Venus
Gilbert

14 Jul 2004

Only tip I can give anyone is to never say to a man those three little words.......
'Is it in?????' confused

Sorry i cant be more help......xanaisx smile

14 Jul 2004

Quote by VenusnMars
I can`t take it anally (but I`m not too bothered by that)

Ok what does "can't take it" mean?
Its not comfortable, doesn't all fit in or you don't like it?
Unless you have enough cock inside your backpassage it can feel very uncomfortable.
Lubricated enough it feels better with a large part of the cock inside you rather that sitting on the edge. Poking a little up and you not liking it is normal to begin with. I also think its a feeling you need to adjust to.
I have trouble with deep throat too. No matter how hard I try I can't get it past my tonsils.
I don't gag, I'm just a rare adult who's tonsils haven't shrunk redface

and the bashing against them causes terrible throat infections. If anyone knows how to stop sore throats then please shout up
Dawn :silly:
by the way, great post Venus

14 Jul 2004

Venus, bluddy great thread .......... now I need advice please. redface

When going down on a guy I'm quite happy, until he says he's gonna cum ..... then for some reason I just start to heave sad

Have no idea why cos I like the taste (mostly) I think I have this fear that it's gonna shoot to the back of my throat and either choke me or make me throw up. Got to the point now where I can't swallow much at all. I can do it manually into my mouth, but can't seem to hold someone orally as they cum any more
It is difficult cos I only like it that split second it comes out, after that it's not nice in the mouth :undecided:
So can anyone help me stop growling when I hear the words 'here it cums' dunno

14 Jul 2004

MISSCHIEF have you tried raising the back of your tongue to the roof of your mouth so if can't shoot down your throat without your control?
Dawn :silly:

14 Jul 2004

For anal sex, you could try reading
"The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino
Trust a Californian to write a book on the subject. smile

Heh, I guess it beats "A Hand in the Bush: The fine art of vaginal fisting."

14 Jul 2004

I would hazard a guess that you are among a majority of women in this, MISSCHIEF. Only do what you enjoy would be my advice - I certainly would not want any partner of mine to be forcing herself to do something for my sake, or making a special effort, just for me.
Mike.

14 Jul 2004

Dawn...
Best cure for sore throats and infection is very weak salted warm water gargled NOT swallowed. I have toncillitus on and off and it is an old cure costing very little...
Sorry cant help on the rest but maybe MISSCHIEF if you guy tells you, then try to roll the tongue around the end to save the initial spurt shhoting to the back of your throat and not loosing the feeling? Guess as a guy I cant help much, but maybe it helps???
LOL redface

14 Jul 2004

Quote by Dawn_Mids
I have trouble with deep throat too. No matter how hard I try I can't get it past my tonsils.

Deep throating is easier if you are laid on your back with your head over the bed ..... creating a straight line from chin to neck, just like sword swallowers do, well not on the bed, lol but they create that straight line of the throat. You have to be completely relaxed, and completely trust the person you are doing it to. Reccommend holding him round the back and nudging him forwards at your pace rather than letting him ram it in :lol2: Once you are comfortable then let him have a bit more control. cool

The more you relax the easier it is ...... my problem is when they say they're gonna cum, then I'm outta there, heaving like theres no tomorrow sad

14 Jul 2004

Quote by MISSCHIEF
Deep throating is easier if you are laid on your back with your head over the bed ..... creating a straight line from chin to neck, just like sword swallowers do, well not on the bed, lol but they create that straight line of the throat. You have to be completely relaxed, and completely trust the person you are doing it to. Reccommend holding him round the back and nudging him forwards at your pace rather than letting him ram it in :lol2: Once you are comfortable then let him have a bit more control.
The more you relax the easier it is ...... my problem is when they say they're gonna cum, then I'm outta there, heaving like theres no tomorrow

I have tried that MISSCHIEF, several times but it just can't get past my tonsils no matter how far off the bed I hang. I have asked to have them removed but doctors aren't keen on removing tonsils from adults :(
Dawn :silly:

14 Jul 2004

I haven't tried raising my tongue at the back of my throat, but won't that push him towards the front? How far does a guy have to be in your mouth when he cums? If its only the tip in then he's not gonna get much of a sensation is he?? dunno

Bit of practice there needed for me I think :twisted:
I have done it a few times in the past and thoroughly enjoyed it, but have developed this block which tells me to heave lol.
Thanks for the advice
MissChief - trying not to look too naive confused

14 Jul 2004

Quote by Dawn_Mids
I have asked to have them removed but doctors aren't keen on removing tonsils from adults
Dawn :silly:

It probably won't help any anyway ... I had mine removed as an adult after suffering loads of bouts of tonsillitus one year ..... I still get horrendous sore throats and still loads of times a year.
The pain and suffering isn't worth it Dawn ...... sorry.

14 Jul 2004

Quote by rocky horror
Dawn...
Best cure for sore throats and infection is very weak salted warm water gargled NOT swallowed. I have toncillitus on and off and it is an old cure costing very little...

Always some one that beats me to it. Yep warm saline solution is excellent for sore throats and keeping mouth infections at bay Dawn.
Venus if you really want to do these things.......practice wink

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14 Jul 2004

As a guy I dont need to be in far to get the feeling, with hands and mouth at work, your cumming, its warm, its wet, and as long as the lady is somewhere near the end it doesn't matter how far it is in.
At least that the case for me, at that point there far too many sensations flying around to notice depth smile

So I wouldnt worry about it too much.

14 Jul 2004

Quote by Calista
It prorbably won't help any anyway ... I had mine removed as an adult after suffering loads of bouts of tonsillitus one year ..... I still get horrendous sore throats and still loads of times a year.
The pain and suffering isn't worth it Dawn ...... sorry.

Thats what they keep telling but and I have asked two doctors.
The only thing is, I'd be able to deep throat properly and I'd love to do that.
I can get a fair amount in, its just that last little bit I'm having a problem with
Dawn :silly:

14 Jul 2004

Misschief are you saying that if the guy does not say he is about to cum you deal with it better?
Gilbert

14 Jul 2004

Personally I think from my own experience if I am having oral sex I tend to go from the highly aroused state to the almost coming state before it happens. In this instant all the mouth work has done its part and coming, be it on the down stroke or the upstroke is not important, because the feeling just is so bloody brilliant. It is like a hand job with baby oil, if you have even done this on your guy and watched him as he orgasms, you will find the reaction is very similar, so blocking it with your tongue then is not really an isue? Any other guy find this is right???

14 Jul 2004

Quote by easy
Dawn...
Best cure for sore throats and infection is very weak salted warm water gargled NOT swallowed. I have toncillitus on and off and it is an old cure costing very little...

Always some one that beats me to it. Yep warm saline solution is excellent for sore throats and keeping mouth infections at bay Dawn.
Venus if you really want to do these things.......practice wink

:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :grin:
I have tried that gents but it doesn't help.
Being allergic to penicillin doesn't help either and my tonsillitis has been know to put me in hospital cos it can be bad :cry:
But I will try it again next time I have a problem confused

Dawn :silly:

14 Jul 2004

You could try a herballist store? Many have things that are well tried and tested. I sympathise with the toncills hun....know it TOO well...

14 Jul 2004

! am soooooooooo pissed! I wrote a nice LONG reply to you all and lost it when I lost my connection mad

I`ll try again later when the kids are in bed, it was hard enough the first time with them floating around!
Venusxxx

14 Jul 2004

I'm afraid I'm every guy's nightmare ... I hate giving oral sex. Have just progressed to getting used to it ... but the feeling of a guy's cock in my mouth just has me gagging sad

I'm just beginning to feel comfortable ... just licking for now
Occasional anal sex I do enjoy ... you have to be very relaxed and very well lubed :twisted: then it's just a case of slowly and gently .... I found starting with anal beads helped initially (nice and small) and then progressed to plugs etc.
anyway ... probably more than you needed to know about me ... :twisted:

14 Jul 2004

Quote by rocky horror
You could try a herballist store? Many have things that are well tried and tested. I sympathise with the toncills hun....know it TOO well...

Never gave a herballist a thought but next time I'm in town I will pop in and see what they can offer me
kiss

rocky horror
Dawn :silly:

14 Jul 2004

Quote by rocky horror
You could try a herballist store? Many have things that are well tried and tested. I sympathise with the toncills hun....know it TOO well...

I was thinking homeopathy .... great minds think alike Rocky Horror

14 Jul 2004

Venus you're wonderful I do so hope this post gets the support it deserves. kiss

It takes honesty and guts to post and we are so capable of both.
We are never to old nor too wise too learn ...I hope!
I have two issues I seek clarification on .....The G spot ....does it exist ...Oh yes it does and so does the F spot....most definiteley ...the one spot is on the upper wall of the vagina quite a way in ...just before the cervix..the other is again on the upper wall but only an inch or two in ....This is talking from 20 years of exploration and experience with one woman ...I am sure it varies for other women ... Digital stimulation of these areas leads to a very intense and usually rapid orgasm. Certain positions during intercourse bring cock and these together very nicely too. My question is do all women have them ...as I have found quite widely varying degrees of sensitivity?
I also find that making a woman cum through G spot stimulation she can come many times over whereas a clitoral orgasm can make her so sensitive so she cant bear to be touched
My second question is the male g spot ...how many men have been brought to orgasm from stimulation of the prostrate ...its supposedly very intense too...short of mounting an expedition ..casual investigations have been unable to locate my particular organ.
Ponders on the submit button.....oh fuck it ! A fool I know I am ..its up to you to confirm it

14 Jul 2004

I know, erm only too well they are good...
dont tell a sole ok, this is private...
I had terrible wind once and they gave me charcoal tablets which worked brilliantly and originally when the doctor told me I had trapped wind he only prescribed a bloody kite!
Honestly try the herballist...many mock em,but they come up trumps...erm so to speak...? lol

14 Jul 2004

So Dawn
just start to imagine how you are going to go about this
( also consider the Chinese herbalist stores and imagine talking to them as well)
You say to the Chinese herbalist ( or the UK herbalist)
Hello I would like something to help me deal with the toncillitus that I keep getting when I give head, I mean suck cock I mean enjoy oral sex, I mean, I mean!!!
the possible onward conversations are filled with possible tears of laughter,
wha yu mean?
you suck cok?
is tha male chicken?
you ha sal vigar?
flied or boiled?
sorry My silly mind got lost
but the very thought of asking for remedy for toncillitus brought on by deep throat is causing me great smiles!!! Dawn I mean you no harm
you clearly want to enjoy
hope you get to do so
Gilbert

14 Jul 2004

I had my tonsils out 3 years ago. I had a bit of a rough year feeling ill and feverish so I went to the doctors and they sent me to hospital. 6weeks later my tonsils were out. I'd say keep pestering them and they'll have to do it.
Mrs easy says that you should all try giving a BJ while having 2 alkaselsers or swizzlers in your mouth. It keeps the taste at bay and the fizzing is supposed to be very nice for the guy.........
hang on confused

:? :? :?
You've never done this with me :? evil

:? :evil: :? :evil:
HOW THE FUNK DO YOU KNOW THIS.
*takes Mrs easy off for a QUIET word*

14 Jul 2004

Ok, so I just tried to tell Mars the nature of the thread I started....in code.
`I started an advice thread....`
`What on?`
After some strange gesturing on my part, I offer `You know, on stuff I can`t do`
dunno

`What? Cook? Clean.....? :dry:
Venusxxx

14 Jul 2004

Quote by VenusnMars
Ok, so I just tried to tell Mars the nature of the thread I started....in code.
`I started an advice thread....`
`What on?`
After some strange gesturing on my part, I offer `You know, on stuff I can`t do`
`What? Cook? Clean.....? :dry:

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Quote by niceguysdoexist
The G spot ....does it exist ...Oh yes it does and so does the F spot....most definiteley

My G spot was only discovered earlier this year - was so amazed by the feeling I got from it that I had to tell everyone within earshot at the mids munch about it redface

was in incredible feeling tho :happy: ..... the g spot thing I meant, not the telling everyone :shock:

Quote by niceguysdoexist
My second question is the male g spot ...how many men have been brought to orgasm from stimulation of the prostrate ...its supposedly very intense too...short of mounting an expedition ..casual investigations have been unable to locate my particular organ.
Ponders on the submit button.....oh fuck it ! A fool I know I am ..its up to you to confirm it

Fraid I don't know about this one :dunno: although have heard of it ......... but did find the use of a pulstron while giving oral brought a fair few 'omg's' cool