..I were to state that I have a "non member" bi female friend who wants to play with me and another girl?
that's what I am currently looking for (the "other" girl, that is)...but I have a feeling that if I were to post this on my ad (it somehow already is), most people would dismiss it as the umphteenth single bloke who tells no matter what story to try and score a date..
am I being too cynical?
I just get the impression that most of us are prejudiced against the "hordes" of single males and therefore tend to dismiss their "claims" as just that...when actually there can be truth in them. I myself am a cynic by default..so I wonder if I should bother making the effort or just forget about it...
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Sex God
You can't advertise for a non-member.
AUP
From the AUP:
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
:thumbup:
AUP
From the AUP:
Quote by Admin
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Allowing a third party to activate or use your account.
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
:thumbup:
Quote by Dirtygirly
You can't advertise for a non-member.
AUP
From the AUP:
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Allowing a third party to activate or use your account.
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
:thumbup:
But if it is MP only using the account, then the section of the AUP you quoted hasn't been broken
IF he was to post in LMU that he would like to meet someone in a pub, purely for a drink to see how things go, and that being a pub, it is a public plaved unable to be governed by munch rules etc, and that there will be a friend with him, I could see that being the only way to do this without breaking any rules.
I'll have a look but if I remember correctly, currently it's just my ad, on which I've just added a line saying that I can involve another bi friend..
anyway if it's a problem I can work on the wording to make it compliant to the rules
but I guess it still is a waste of time..
anyway, for the sake of debate...would anyone actually believe my words, or just dismiss it as fake bait? what is the general view?
anyway if it's a problem I can work on the wording to make it compliant to the rules
but I guess it still is a waste of time..
anyway, for the sake of debate...would anyone actually believe my words, or just dismiss it as fake bait? what is the general view?
Sex God
Quote by Melting_pot
I'll have a look but if I remember correctly, currently it's just my ad, on which I've just added a line saying that I can involve another bi friend..
anyway if it's a problem I can work on the wording to make it compliant to the rules
but I guess it still is a waste of time..
anyway, for the sake of debate...would anyone actually believe my words, or just dismiss it as fake bait?
It's also in your profile text as an update.
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
You can't advertise for a non-member.
AUP
From the AUP:
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Allowing a third party to activate or use your account.
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
:thumbup:
If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
Sex God
Quote by Melting_pot
true...is that also not allowed?
Whether it's allowed or not, the issue is still whether or not anyone would think it's 'bait'.
Depends whether or not people are prepared to take the risk, I suppose. And really, you're advertising as a couple when you are listed as single.
Quote by noladreams
You can't advertise for a non-member.
AUP
From the AUP:
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Allowing a third party to activate or use your account.
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
:thumbup:
If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
that's the thing..we are not a couple..and I'm mainly looking for myself...but we have talked about 3somes and would like to try it...(and she wouldn't mind meeting a girl herself
)but ultimately it's me, looking for a girl.. and if this girl (as in another member of this site) agrees to playing with me AND someone else, I fail to see how that is of any relevance to the website, it's staff or anyone but me and the girl..I just am upfront and telling whoever likes the idea of meeting with me, that this is an option I am looking into and I might bring up if we ever get to meet.
not trying anything here...just debating the limits of the rules and how to abide with them without sounding like a cheepskate or a faker..
if you insist it is against the rules I will of course take it off..
just to clarify, I am the only one accessing this profile and the other person doesn't know about this profile or this website (we met on another similar site and agreed on looking together and independently each on our "other sources" so to speak)
Sex God
So, just arrange to meet ladies as a single male, as you have been doing. When you meet them, bring up the possibility of a female friend joining you at a later date.
Sex God
You have a single male account. You can advertise for yourself to meet other members of the site.
You cannot advertise for a third party.
If you want to advertise for you and your fuck buddy (whatever term you want to use) then the two of you would need to get a joint/couple account.
If you have a problem with the site's AUP, then by all means contact Admin. I'm sure they'll be happy to discuss it with you.
Nola x
You cannot advertise for a third party.
If you want to advertise for you and your fuck buddy (whatever term you want to use) then the two of you would need to get a joint/couple account.
If you have a problem with the site's AUP, then by all means contact Admin. I'm sure they'll be happy to discuss it with you.
Nola x
Quote by noladreams
If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
So for aguments sake, two single members want to advertise for something, whether it is a meet for a threesome in a hotel, maybe a spot of dogging etc, am I right in thinking that this is only possible once those two singles have become a couple and created a couples account?
Looks like we have the answer to "what is a swinger?" it seems the answer definitely is a couple, and singles definitely are facilitators.
So manufactured couples, say two friends are breaking the site rules to arrange something via the site if they dont have a couples account?
I thought a public debate would help other people in similar ambiguous situations
(and I'm also still intrigued by the "public perception" of single males profiles and what in them is perceived as honest and or misleading or "baiting")
however, I guess I'll take it off then, no problem with that..but I would really love to receive a public answer on this matter, from anyone of the admins..
(and I'm also still intrigued by the "public perception" of single males profiles and what in them is perceived as honest and or misleading or "baiting")
however, I guess I'll take it off then, no problem with that..but I would really love to receive a public answer on this matter, from anyone of the admins..
Sex God
Essex, I appreciate what you are saying - but let's be clear: Melting Pot is advertising on a single male account for a third party who is NOT a member of SH. That is not allowed.
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
So for aguments sake, two single members want to advertise for something, whether it is a meet for a threesome in a hotel, maybe a spot of dogging etc, am I right in thinking that this is only possible once those two singles have become a couple and created a couples account?
Looks like we have the answer to "what is a swinger?" it seems the answer definitely is a couple, and singles definitely are facilitators.
So manufactured couples, say two friends are breaking the site rules to arrange something via the site if they dont have a couples account?
It's the non-member part that is the issue. Two singles, three singles, four singles who are members can advertise for whatever they want. :mrgreen:
So nothing to do with what is a swinger. If the friend had a single female account they could advertise together. She's not a member. That is the problem.
Quote by Dirtygirly
If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
So for aguments sake, two single members want to advertise for something, whether it is a meet for a threesome in a hotel, maybe a spot of dogging etc, am I right in thinking that this is only possible once those two singles have become a couple and created a couples account?
Looks like we have the answer to "what is a swinger?" it seems the answer definitely is a couple, and singles definitely are facilitators.
So manufactured couples, say two friends are breaking the site rules to arrange something via the site if they dont have a couples account?
It's the non-member part that is the issue. Two singles, three singles, four singles who are members can advertise for whatever they want. :mrgreen:
So nothing to do with what is a swinger. If the friend had a single female account they could advertise together. She's not a member. That is the problem.
My apologies, I read what noladreams said, that being "if you want to play as a couple..." I took that a little too literally, so apologies for any offence caused.
Sex God
MP
Just get your female friend to join the site.
End of problem.
Just get your female friend to join the site.
End of problem.
Sex God
Quote by Melting_pot
I just might..lol
as for the debate, I doubt it would go anywhere with the admins either..which is why profile and ad have been restored
my interest is and was more in "how things are perceived"..
In answer to your question... I wouldn't respond to an advert from a single male advertising "his friend the bi female". Mostly because I'm even more fussy about women than I am about men and I'm afraid I wouldn't be interested in discussing the possibility with you and having no contact with her. It's not believeable (although I'm sure you are entirely honest) but from the point of view of a single female, I'd be dubious that whoever was advertising was at it.
Past experience would put me off getting involved with a couple anyway, manufactured or otherwise so I dare say I'm probably not the best person to answer the question from that point of view. Still... it relieved the boredom for five minutes.
thanks ste..I thought my ad to be pretty accurate in what I look for and repeated it mainly to be visible in the various searches (by categories)..I would never repeat the same ad in the same area and I am indeed not ready to shag just about everyone..lol ( I just repeated it because I AM however interested in the diverse "configurations" couples, single ladies, groups..etc..and repeating the ad is just the way to be visible to all these different configurations, nothing more..it's still me)
I'll think about it though and see if I should modify some of the ads or take them of altogether (but I'm sure that as an ex single you'll agree that less visibility reduces any chances even further :P.. then again...I'm not really desperate either, lol)
I'll think about it though and see if I should modify some of the ads or take them of altogether (but I'm sure that as an ex single you'll agree that less visibility reduces any chances even further :P.. then again...I'm not really desperate either, lol)
I realise we have 2 mods and an op on this case.
I dont see how the rule "Thou shalt not allow a third party to operate thine account " could possibly be interpreted as meaning you cant advertise for somebody to have sex with you and uncle tom cobbly and all.
For instance, how the hell do you ensure punters at dogging sites are SH members? Employ a bouncer?
Just a thought, perhaps the AUP could be better worded or perhaps the interpretation is wrong.
I dont see how the rule "Thou shalt not allow a third party to operate thine account " could possibly be interpreted as meaning you cant advertise for somebody to have sex with you and uncle tom cobbly and all.
For instance, how the hell do you ensure punters at dogging sites are SH members? Employ a bouncer?
Just a thought, perhaps the AUP could be better worded or perhaps the interpretation is wrong.
I realise we have 2 mods and an op on this case.
I dont see how the rule "Thou shalt not allow a third party to operate thine account " could possibly be interpreted as meaning you cant advertise for somebody to have sex with you and uncle tom cobbly and all.
For instance, how the hell do you ensure punters at dogging sites are SH members? Employ a bouncer?
Just a thought, perhaps the AUP could be better worded or perhaps the interpretation is wrong.
I dont see how the rule "Thou shalt not allow a third party to operate thine account " could possibly be interpreted as meaning you cant advertise for somebody to have sex with you and uncle tom cobbly and all.
For instance, how the hell do you ensure punters at dogging sites are SH members? Employ a bouncer?
Just a thought, perhaps the AUP could be better worded or perhaps the interpretation is wrong.
Sex God
I guess you'll need to take that up with Admin... we didn't write the rules! 
as a single fem... if I were looking for a couple then I would look for a couple.
if meeting a single bloke and I had a super time and wanted to repeat it if he had a female with him then I would take that up with him after I had the super time.
Like DG tho' I am perhaps not the best person to answer this as I don't look for couples and I don't meet men twice.
if meeting a single bloke and I had a super time and wanted to repeat it if he had a female with him then I would take that up with him after I had the super time.
Like DG tho' I am perhaps not the best person to answer this as I don't look for couples and I don't meet men twice.
humm,
i see the issue is that she( the ther person) isnt a member, but what if you are a single member and theres another single member and you do play together but also want to meet others as a couple? you can then say on your single profile that you have another male/female that you play with and would like to meet others with?
but only if your both members, but hw would you know? unless those two single memebrs have to state on each of the profiles that they are paired up for sex with ***** o, infacto breaching discretion?
also if two singles are a couple but liek to remain as singles as they also play alone they cant actually advertise to meet as a couple as they dont have a couples account. or should thay have 3 accounts?
just pondering really.
back the the op.
i wouldnt come across you looking for a bi fem to join you casue if i was looking for a couple you wouldnt come up in the search.
xx fem xx
i see the issue is that she( the ther person) isnt a member, but what if you are a single member and theres another single member and you do play together but also want to meet others as a couple? you can then say on your single profile that you have another male/female that you play with and would like to meet others with?
but only if your both members, but hw would you know? unless those two single memebrs have to state on each of the profiles that they are paired up for sex with ***** o, infacto breaching discretion?
also if two singles are a couple but liek to remain as singles as they also play alone they cant actually advertise to meet as a couple as they dont have a couples account. or should thay have 3 accounts?
just pondering really.
back the the op.
i wouldnt come across you looking for a bi fem to join you casue if i was looking for a couple you wouldnt come up in the search.
xx fem xx
Sex God
Fem, I've seen stuff in LMU where a post has been made saying "threesome with myself and female member XXX" and then their name has been stated.
I guess it is up to you how you arrange it. I have had a meet with two guys off here and we arranged it to our mutual convenience in chat.
Point being that we are all members, so none of us were breaking a rule.
I guess it is up to you how you arrange it. I have had a meet with two guys off here and we arranged it to our mutual convenience in chat.
Point being that we are all members, so none of us were breaking a rule.
