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Andy_Wakefield
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 55
0 miles · Wakefield

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I am another poor soul who didnt get there..
I have cum across some good people in the past redface, and hopefully I will cum across some more in the future if it's meant to be. biggrin
Hopefully that munch on our side of the pennines will happen soon, Alex. smile
Kindness and openness and honesty.
If it has to be something physical then it would have to be a cheeky smile and a wicked twinkle in the eyes. smile
Yes! Having fun and frolics with a good friend who you know well and care about is as good as swinging gets in my eyes, if you can call it swinging.
I have had a couple of "best friends with benefits" over the years, and its the next best thing to making love, so close if you both care for each other and respect each other to be almost indestiquishable. smile
They have moved on and are in relationships now although we are still very good friends and in contact with each other.
I am proud to say I have been on friend name terms with everyone I have been intimate with in my life. :)
I have never said "I've got a big cock, fancy a shag?" or "looking for a horny woman with big tits, pm me" LOL
It really doesnt work (I hope) and I dont know why people keep posting things like that - they say hope springs eternal, but thats ridiculous. biggrin
Get to know people - and you never know, it might be the start of a wonderfuly and erotic friendship. If you gel and the chemistry is there, it will happen if you both (or all three, four, etc of you :D) want it it to.
Quote by we2wantu
Expressing an opinion is fine, as we did, but to continually poke fun and shove it down our throats is not.

But poking IS fun.
I never ram anything down anyones throat... unless they ask nicely. smile
Remember this is all meant to be fun - its good that we can talk and have a discussion like this, but we all have our own viewpoints, and we should live and let live.
We all make decisions, good or bad, and the consequences are are own too. :)
Be excellent to each other, and party on dudes (and dudettes) :)
Quote by Cutechick
We just love the naughty husbands who don't tell their wives. They are so much more adventurous redface

So dogging is an extreme sport? I bit like bungee jumping or rock climbing then? LOL
I guess I can see the corrolation. Either way one foot wrong and you are in deep trouble, wether its falling off a mountain or getting beaten to death with a rolling pin. LOL
If I'm 100% honest I have played with a married woman who's husband did not know, years ago, and I must admit there was an adrenilyn rush, because I'm an abject coward (I'm a lover not a fighter) and wouldnt have fancied being beaten to a pulp - but I was seduced, and led astray.
Welcome to the forums they are a friendly bunch on the whole and I'm sure the official welcome wagon will be along in to time to meet and greet. smile
No one said hello to me when I joined the forums however - but then again I didnt exactly introduce myself, I just kinda dived in....
The waters are warm - enjoy. :)
I think that the population as a whole just needs to get real and then there would be a lot less affairs and a lot more fun.
We are told from an early age that monogamy is the order of the day and you can only be with one person, and thats how it works...
But surely if that was true then Jerry Springer (hello Fran biggrin) et al would all be out of a job.
Monogamy (only having one sexual partner) isnt a natural law, its a human "law", and as "law"s go I dont think its a very good one.
If it was the natural order of things then surely there would be no cheating and no philandering.
I think that cheating is the result of the human race trying to fit its square peg in a round hole. LMAO.
But maybe this is not exactly on topic? I'm not sure myself.
There was a recent poll that said that the number of affairs in soap operas are actually LOWER than the national average, and of course for every affair and cheat that are found out there are a few that arent, or ones that fizzle out without anyone being the wiser.
I am not pro-cheating, as I have already said, but I think that cheating shows an underlying problem in the way society is trying to push people into 1 on 1 relationships when it obviously - 1000s of years of proof here - doesnt work out so well, more often than not.
We have to face our jealousy (which is a taught reaction) and just be honest open loving people.
I never thought I would get married after seeing what a bad job of it my parents did, and having nasty nasty step dads, but now I'm very happily married to a beautiful loving lady who understands the nature of the beast, and knows that I know where I belong.
I think I need my avatar text upgrading to "boy can I type..." smile
Sorry I can waffle for England can't I? :D
If it's before noon or after 8pm let me know and you have another person on the pile. I don't have the net at work so it has to be outside those hours. smile
Lets see if we can break the record (and hopefully not the server). :)
Just as I thought - "Swinging is a state of mind." smile
Thanks for the replies. Its good to see some ol' fashioned discussion and stuff going on.
You are a swinger if you think you are a swinger, if you have the swinging philosophy in your heart and you respect others.
Singple people can quite happily swing with the best of them - if they are polite and good to be around and get lucky. :)
However (from another popular thread) I would say that some married people arent swingers, the are just very naughty boys and girls, if they havent discussed it with their partners first. ;)
Single Swinger...
Can such a person exist, or is it a contradiction in terms? It never occured to me before to ask the question although I have wondered a few times.
The (unfair) swinging stereotype seems to be middle class couples in their 40s, if you believe television - which we obviously don't. LOL
I just wondered if there were two sides to this argument, or if its cum one cum all. biggrin
When I had my threesomes and fun in the past when I was single I'm not sure if I considered myself to be a "swinger" as such at all, maybe just a guy having some fun before settling down again after a break up. But now I'm happily married and still having fun occasionally when I'm let out to play. Was I a swinger before or just now that I'm part of a couple?
Discuss... or not. :D
For me it basically comes down to this difference...
An affair is underhand and without knowledge and pemission/consent of your partner.
Swinging is damn good fun and not hidden from the one you love, and hopefully with them joining in the fun, or at least giving full support and permission.
Swinging shows respect for people. Some people perfect to keep it more private than others, so they dont get funny looks in the street LOL but a persons partner is always in the loop and not in the dark.
Like the "joke" in my sig. Its the old cliche where the man says that his wife either "doesnt understand him" or is fridgid or whatever, even if its blatent lies. If couples are so out of whack with each other surely its better to part and find someone you are more in tune with and allow your partner to do the same, rather than living a lie, and telling them too habitually.
I am absolutely speechless over the idea of an "alibi service" but I have been around too much and seen too much of human nature to be overly shocked and suprised that it exists.
Erm... so if its not in the north east, where would you say it was? smile
I thought north east was this side of the pennines and north west was t'other side, manchester way? :)
Most drunk person? smile
I wasnt there unfortunately, but it sounds like there were a few people slightly worse for wear by the end of the evening? :)
I am ever so partial to a good much as my wife, and a couple of good friends can tell you - but once I start munching away I just can't stop. smile
I think a get together in the NE would be wonderful, preferably in Leeds (very central to just about everywhere) cause its only of the only places I could probably made it as far as with not driving, unless I managed to hitch a ride with someone. :)
Bring it on! biggrin
I'm sure you will get a 100% turn out in the "yes" variety of votes. smile
Why would anyone not want to talk to you I wonder? I can't think of any reason.
I had a lot of fun with a wonderful lady from leicester uni who was doing archeology(sp?) a while ago, and if she is anything to go by then its a very ful place. :)
I have been a typical and voted for MFF, cause I have done MFM a few times now and need more experience in the other kind of "two's company, three's a damn good night". smile
Not that I would say no to more MFM, its jolly good fun, and some of the other options look rather interesting too. :)
have you resized the pic you want to use? Avatars can only be upto 100x100 pixels (I think).
You should be able to resize in pretty much any art package or photo manipulation package.
My ugly mug is on my messages and if people dont like the look of me then that is their decision - we are who we are, and looks are not everything. smile
It really sounds like everyone had t'riffic time, and I hope that a future Northern Munch is on my side of the Pennines... Leeds anyone? smile
EEK! I didnt mean review as in performance, I meant in the way of how they come across and how they are as a person. Some people are nice and genuine and honest, and on the internet in real life there are the people who are not so nice and not so genuine and not so honest.
I mean such things as has a person broke promises, been caught out lying about marital status etc, or have they been ignorant or stood you up without a valid reason and without letting you know.
And on the plus side, where they fun to be with and good company, did they make you smile, are they easy to talk to, always kept their word.
I never meant anything like size, shape, staying power, or anything so unimportant as that which as you say would be totally unfair on people.
I judge people, and decide who I want to have as friends and be around on their actions and their treatment of others, not on shallow things, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
I'm sure it would be open to abuse as is anything else, and you are probably right that its a bad idea but it was just something thought of in passing - I dont think there is any fair way of "validating people" other than dealing with them for yourselves probably.
And you are right that this place definately isnt Amazon. LOL. And I'm glad too. smile
Sorry if my idea sounded dire, just throwing it up in the air and to be honest didnt really put much thought into it. Thanks for shooting me down before I hurt myself. biggrin
I have only replied to one advert so far and didnt get a reply (as yet).
I think I will just try to get to know people in the forum rather than reply to ads or post my own - I am open to offers however, needless to say. smile
This forum is a fun place to be, and maybe when people get to know me I may even get an offer or two out of the blue without asking - hope springs eternal. And if not then no worries, I will have made some friends and thats what its all about, sharing and enjoying life.
I hope you made sure you were "hands free" biggrin
Its not something I think I will enjoy at any point because my wife is the driver in the family and I dont know my gear shift from my elbow. smile
She once gave me a bit of that aformentioned pleasure when we were stuck in gridlock on the M1 though which was nice. Cars in front and behind and on either side - very exciting. :)
Very very nice pics, it looks like a fun time was had by all - and thats what its about. smile
I hope someday soon I will have opportunity to put up some pics too to share. If I get a willing volunteer that isnt too shy that is - I have plenty of sexy pics of myself with several ladies but dont have permission to share them, so I will have to wait until I get a green light from someone, maybe with pixelated face or whatever. I had to trim my avatar cause it had a lady in the rest of the pic down there somewhere. ;)
Maybe there can be an option (like on Amazon) to put "user reviews" on peoples profiles, where people can comment on each other and their dealings with them.
Of course I guess there is nothing stopping someone with "bad writeups" from making another profile with fake info in, but thats the internet all over. There is nothing in this world that will stop a lot of people lying and making things up to try and get their way.
I can't see the point myself - people can take me how they find me (yes please!) or not at all. I am just me, thats all there is too it really, and I dont think I'm such a bad egg.
Liers always get found out in the end, especially when it comes to meeting, and you have told the other person you have the body of a Greek god/godess and its total bull.
Verification is a good idea in theory but can be tricky in practice. smile
That game is a stroke of genius... Did you create it yourselves or was it suggested to you? Whoever is the creator deserves a pat on the back, or maybe even something better. smile
Well you are both right, the music is identicle. smile
Weird Al takes a pop song and changed the lyrics and makes comedy parody versions.
He took One Week by BNL and made his Jerry Springer one, and hes done it many times before and after too - he has about 11 albums I think.
Remember Eat It the version of Michael Jacksons Beat It from many moons ago? Same guy. :)
So Fred was right to say it was Jerry Springer and Fran is perfectly correct to say that it was Bare Naked Ladies - so you either both owe each other one (if I get to refree and be a tag team partner. lol) or you can call it a draw. biggrin
Quote by FredFlintstone
Do you mean the music?
Sorry - could not find the music to Jerry Springer show and would not know it if I heard it - if anyone finds it please let me have it and I will change the page!
If not the music - you lost me! redface surprisedops:
Fred

Yeah, the music is cool - to the untrained ear it might sound like One Week by Bare Naked Ladies, but it's actually "Jerry Springer" by Weird Al.
Anyone who hasnt heard the song should definately try to have a listen. The guy is a genius.
Here is a link to the lyrics in case anyone wants to sing along to Fran's page - lots of fun I can assure you. smile

Great great page. It was you that did it Fred? Inspired. :)
Me and my wife were once on Kilroy. LOL
ScotsCpl - we are one of the couples that are stuck in the house most of the time cause we have kids at home, so I guess I know where you are coming from on that score. smile
I have three step daughters, 10, 8 and 7 - hopefully in a few years when shes a teen, the eldest can be persuaded to babysit her sisters for a couple of hours now and again - but at the moment its usually only me who can get out and about - I dont work mondays, and dont start work til the afternoon the rest of the week.
Sounds like a good schedule - but unfortunately being free to play, and playing, are usually two different things. :)
Well my wife is a size 20 and shes the most wonderful woman in the world to me and I wouldnt have her any other way - well I have her every way I possibly can actually, but you get the point.
I think that fitness is much more important than dress size, and I think the media has a lot to answer for making people ill with stress trying to get into those size 6 drainpipe jeans or whatever.
I run a group on MSN for BBW (big beautiful women) and hopefully men who will love them and support them just the way they are for their sense of fun and their personalities. To many of these ladies have been hurt and abused and put down for years.
It's good to see you are trying to make dieting fun, but not attach too much significance to size - I love good people, loving kind people, not someone of a certian height, width, length(lol), colour, age, whatever. smile
Party on dudes.... and.... Be excellent to each other...!