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AtomCom2001
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 52
0 miles · Northamptonshire

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Hi there,
My lovely yummy Bi lady friend and I are going to Chams in Darlington on Saturday (4th April 2009) and was wondering if any other couples or Bi females are also going
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woohoo only a few hours before the party begins
see ya all there smile xxx

Oh I hope so .. biggrin
I have a completely unmarked card at the moment :cry:
Today is the day and I really can not wait !!
So looking forward to meeting up with some old freinds and hopeful making so new ones..
I will be the guy wondering around in a black towel..
So if you see me a coming you better start running... lol
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we go out regularly and enjoy a mixture of random and pre arranged meets - most dogging sites were originally gay cruising sites then the doggers moved in and were followed by str8 guys and boy that the majority of couples have become bored with dogging and moved to swinging clubs the gays are noticably in the majority.
its very rare to see a couple out now and usually they get mobbed as soon as they appear which puts them off. we've seen couples being chased all nite by horny single guys and even known them to be followed home.
there are couples out on a friday , saturday and sunday but very rare nowadays and they tend to only want one guy at a time at their car or they will be looking for other couples.
also i notice that most guys will rarely get out of their cars - they prefer to sit with their lights on which only annoys everyone.
the current trend is for guys to drive around in circles all night and then moan that they never see anything.
There is still a lot of fun to be had at the dogging sites but it wont come to you - but guys need to get out of their cars and walk about and talk to people.

This is very informative information and I can tell you are experienced in this area. smile
But I am sure you will agree with me, that because of the few couples there are turning up, there are more horny and annoyed men. This in turn puts off the couples that do turn up.. So has turned into a vicious circle. Though I am very sure that soon the number of single men will drop as they get fed up with the lack of any shows, and this will allow the couples to come back..
I have to say until this time I will only be doing planned met within Northamptonshire
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I disagree Atom... I would say discrimmination is not allowed in this site which is why you see adverts for ALL.
I agree with Dawnie, it's about choices.

I understand why you think I am wrong, but if a job ad stated 'whites only' this would be called discrimination. It may only be the employer's personal choice but still it is called discrimination.
I am not saying that is a bad thing at all on this site, I am just saying people are not offended by it when they see it on ads etc.
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Yes we can report to admin but that doesnt stop the abuse etc getting out of hand at the time. Plus as its happening on a daily basis. Reporting them all make you sound like a right winger instead of someone who has come in to chat/flirt and exchange freindly banter with like minded people.

This is something I identify with. I'm frequently in conflict with myself as to whether to report someone or just ignore it. I have this vision of the Chat Ops Lounge being a over-run with "not that fucking Marya again!" type posts. confused
At the same time, I abhor the abuse some people give out and don't think they should be allowed to get away with it so I continue to grass!
You have been warned! :twisted:
Not at all marya; if we know about a problem we can deal with it. I dont know any of the ops who will ignore a request for assistance. As Fire has said, we are busy in our vanilla jobs ( me too flat in Jan) but we will try and sort any problem out as quickly as we can. And you certainly wont be treated as that 'fucking marya ' again lol (but does that qualify me for my free bj:huh) lol
Smurf lol
OOOOO so bribs work .. ;)
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FFS!

Sorry but what that reply for!! That was a bit rude!
I have found that using a witch hazel stick works..
It dries the spot, and heals quickly.
But what ever happens do not pick, as this well only help spread the bactaria.
Andy
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it was a mistake I know, attending a fetish evening to be held in the village church hall.. so shortly after the Harvest Festival had been cleared away too.
of course, I never recognised him immediately... his outfit not being out of place at such an event (Harvest Festival, Fetish). However, the attentions of the Father and his trusty Lady Organ Cleaner were only shunned when the intermitant light from a Violet Wand shone across their faces :shock:
"please... no offence Father... I cannot allow you to touch my flesh, I shall surely blister!!!"
he was quite understanding... and we have since often shared stories of outings and scenings over tea and crumpets.
lp

I wonder if I could get my local church hall to whole a swinging party.. That would get the community together..
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I hate to admit it folks but flower has spoken sense wink Well done flower keep it up surprised

OMG I think I have to go and lie down !!! I`ve come over all faint !! :shock:
Could I help you with a pollow and a cold compress .. hehe
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As far as I see it, it isn't discrimination, it is choices.
We all have different things that 'work' for us and things that are a turn off. Nothing we can really control. So asking for someone to 'fit' a need is just a personal choice confused

I am not saying it is a bad thing at all smile I am just asking at what point would someone be offended..
The is no way I am going to get it the whole discrimination topic itself as we would be here for the next 10 years.. lol
Hello people,
I have been on this site for many years now, and have to say and I am pleased to say, it is one of the only places where discrimination is allowed and accepted.
People can ask for white or blacks only, tall people, small people, VWE, BBW etc etc. And it is very rare that people are offended smile We all see it for what it is, the right for people to like what they like.
But is there any discrimination that a person could put in an Ad that would offend you?
You know when you are old when ...
You ask the kids to turn the horrible screching noise down.. and anyways the used to have real tunes in your day ..:violin:
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Don`t use the default rooms for general chit-chat. They are always open to abuse because they are unhosted.
If you and your friends make a point of opening a room in the same place with the same name each day, you`ll be able to chat to your hearts content, safe in the knowledge that when the morons arrive they can be removed.
I honestly can`t understand why people sit in unhosted and therefore completely unregulated rooms and then complain about the lack of ops !!!!
The facilities already exist to take the pressure away from the ops but sitting in an unregulated room is simply asking for trouble.

I have to say the default rooms are generally the busiest, maybe it is because they know people will always be in there and maybe because these people just do not want the responsiblity of running a room?
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Great bit of revenge by the boy friend public humiliation :eeek: .
But i'm thinking what would she have done to his place by the time he got home surpriseduch: I mean you have been out'ed on the radio & shes in his house still!! errm did he have any clothes left whole after this :evil2: .

Damn!!! Very good point made there... Maybe he should of made sure she was out of the house and the locks had been changed first...!! Nothing like a woman scorn!! :fuckinghell:
Hi I am Andy also from Northamptonshire.
I have to admit like yourself I have gone out on occusions hoping to met couples etc, but usually with very little luck.
On the times I do get luckly the place is soon full of guys etc. So I have given up on this.
I think the best way is to have planned outdoor meets. It is maybe not what you was hoping for but at least you do not waste hours of your life sitting in th dark and cold just hoping.
Andy
Andy
Hi there,
Well firstly I am glad you are slowly getting back in to the swing of things.
I think like a lot of people December has been a quiet month on the play front, but looking forward to get back into it all again smile
I have a friend at work that drives an extra 8 miles to a petrol station because it is 2p cheaper a litre..
So sometimes a bargain is not a bargain .. lol
Wow!! that mans has some balls..
I hope he does not work for the Samaritans though.. lol
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I have to say one of the biggest issues I have is that you have no idea who the room owner is..
The room could be title 'couple looking for VWE males' but you have to ask in the room who is actually looking etc.
Plus I think a room owner needs to be the first one controlling the room, so it would be nice to report things directly too them, so know who they where would help.
Also (maybe I should be doin a support ticket instead .. lol) would be nice to be able to to have an option avaiable to room owners to turn on or off whispers..

If you don`t know who the room owner is, best thing to do is ask. If you don`t get an answer and it`s important to you, then just move on to another room.
When we open a room we always put our name in the title, that way everybody knows who it is lol
Maybe that`s why nobody comes into our room !! :shock: confused :shock: :?
Awww, I am sure that is not the case... I will have to keep an eye out for you then and make sure I pay your rooms a visit. smile
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And ATOMcom, worry not, most times we've been there's been equal genders there. We always go together to hold each others hands :inlove:
pink x

Maybe you could come with me and hand my hand.. hehehe
Andy
I have to say one of the biggest issues I have is that you have no idea who the room owner is..
The room could be title 'couple looking for VWE males' but you have to ask in the room who is actually looking etc.
Plus I think a room owner needs to be the first one controlling the room, so it would be nice to report things directly too them, so know who they where would help.
Also (maybe I should be doin a support ticket instead .. lol) would be nice to be able to to have an option avaiable to room owners to turn on or off whispers..
I have to admit I have been swinging now for awhile and have never been to a GUM sad
Though from reading this topic I can see it seems to be a lot of woman that go. Is this because men are more scared of them or just do not feel they need to go?
I am going to look for my local GUM clinic and go as soon as I can now ..
Maybe there should be a cerificate you get each year or 6 months like a swinging MOT.. (though maybe I should not be making light of this subject)
Andy
Hi there, like most my partner and I, enjoy playing with others.
But it is are secret our freinds and family have no idea what we do.
I was wondering if there was expections to this people that do not mind there friends and family knowing what they get up to.. ?
Hi all
It is my birthday on the 19th of Jan and I was wondering if there was any parties, meets, special club events etc on or around that date?