The reality is that monogamous relationships are in the minority. Divorce rates are increasing.... most people cheat on their partners/spouses and some are open about it but most are not. In the future I think most people will accept multiple sexual partners but it wont be called swinging.
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Cheetah
Over 90 days ago
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Right folks,
Have been looking at the forums over the last few days, there seem to be more and more shag me type posts.
Sarah, You must be the winner of this years most read thread competion!
What you said needs saying from time to time as the newbies need such sound advice and people who are doing ok tend to forget what it was like......and there are only so many more shagging days before Sexmas and everyone wants to ger a few more in!
A good one! Cheetah
Have been looking at the forums over the last few days, there seem to be more and more shag me type posts.
Sarah, You must be the winner of this years most read thread competion!
What you said needs saying from time to time as the newbies need such sound advice and people who are doing ok tend to forget what it was like......and there are only so many more shagging days before Sexmas and everyone wants to ger a few more in!
A good one! Cheetah
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Just wanted to start a thread with something that matters to me!!
Tomorrow is the 25th anniversary of the death of John Lennon, one of the most important figures in the development of popular music of the last century.
I had overslept, woken next to my wife and we made love, I got to work very late with a smile on my face and a spring in my step, the day had started in a wonderful way! I had a cup of tea and switched on the radio!
Every thing went down hill from there, All the radio channels were full of the news coming from New York that Lennon had been shot as he returned home by a single gunman Mark Chapman, a Beatles Fan!
As someone who had grown up listening to the Beatles, had his first kiss and had lost his cherry while their music was playing in the background the news was shattering.
The impact of his music cannot be over stated to die in such a mindless way at such a young age was such a waste!
So tonight the T.V. gets switched off and the music played
Luke
Yesterday was so sad.....I remember it so well...but still find it difficult to talk about - my Lennon Legend CD was played again and again........ Always think what he wouild have done if he lived...
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Personally I don't like condoms, I like to feel friction between me and my respective partner when we're doing the deed, so to speak.
I can be persuded with a ribbed one though, those I do like.
I must place that order again with my exclusive supplier for some extra sensual double sided super corrugated ones!
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If you were a bar of soap - what brand /fragrance would you be and why?
I discovered Soaps from Lush years ago and use them all the time - If I was a bar of soap it would be a blend of Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Neroli, and Clary Sage - very sensual aromas that enhance the mood and create a sense of anticipation - but mine would also be a massage bar that I would rub all over you and enhance that sense of anticipation to one that develops slowly and strongly to the climax when I burst the bubble for that deeper penetrating moment of sheer delight........Cheetah
With people now starting to get the Christmas decorations out of the lofts etc, and just for Dawn, a Christmas decoration thread.............
For all of us, male and female
So get those cameras out
They have all been wondeful - If I were a Santa I would be wanting to unload my sack and give a few presents out under the mistletoe!
For all of us, male and female
So get those cameras out
They have all been wondeful - If I were a Santa I would be wanting to unload my sack and give a few presents out under the mistletoe!
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so what,s the diffrence in sex and love are they the same are not some people think they are like the old saying it his better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all a load of crap if you have never loved you can,t get hurt but does sex lead into love am i talking sense not to sure myself
I agree with most of what has been said by others - A combination of love and great sex is an ideal - I have had it in the past an it was very good.... but often it does not last... if it does those people are really fortunate....
There are then all sorts of variations on the love and sex theme......
I have had some of my best sexual expereinces with people I have liked - neither of us were in love - but we had great sex......in fact I have loved some women but the sex was not as good as with women I just liked..... sexual chemistry. the right moments, two people who just connect - a wonderful mystery...... its why so many people cheat but dont admit to it - we all are in search of great sexual expereinces.....not just on the ceiling orgasms but everything else that goes with - the closeness, the build up, the excitement....the feelings that make us come alive.... people with low sexual drives or people who are repressed wrap it all up with the monogamy approach etc but the evidence is that for most people monogamy just does not work..... as a society we need a more open attitude....
)When we reach a state of sexual excitement and have really good orgasms endorphins and other natural chemicals are released within our bodies. These radically improve out health as well as making us feel better. Research indicates that this is more likely to happen when we have short intense realtionships rather than longer monagamous ones. It is suggested that that is why one in three marriages lead to divorce and why so many of us play away in no strings realationships. Think about it - you have an encounter with a new person and you are really turned on and the excitement can become more intense at first rather than if you kept seeing the same person for years. In addition to this the more expereinced we become at sex the more we improve. So on one level younger guys reach a physical peak earlier but guys over 40 who have had many sexual relationships have learnt not only what a woman really needs but are more relaxed in providing a more intense and sustained sexual relationship. The research suggests that whilst love is important good sex does not depend on it and really great sex is more likely to happen if both persons are not in love but can let the chemistry overwhelm them for that most wonderful moment (s). Annecdotal evidence suggests that guys from Lancashire are particularly good no strings partners but women are invited to undertake their own personal research into this matter to verify it.
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OK so I was being lazy before. Did a search on google and a few pics came up... I'm assuming this was the shot you were thinking of
Yes, They did rather stand out but I have seen better with many of our lovely ladies on this site....perhaps we should shouild have a biggest / hardest nipple contest.... I would volunteer to judge - photos to me and I will shortlist down to seven who I will in depth interviews to in person before coming to the winner. Ben
As some of you are probably aware I was 'sexually abused' last night. (I have posted separately from the thanks thread as not to put a dampener on it)
Kaz, It might be rare but it should never happen under any circumstances..... it's totally unacceptable and whilst your restraint is commendable I only hope he has been dealt with appropriately. I feel other women have the right to know so they can be wary and keep away - I would name and shame.
You appear strong and be coping with it well on one level but it reminds us all of a sense of vulnerability and the need to look out for each other. Take care and accept comfort from freinds - it's still a shock, Ben
Kaz, It might be rare but it should never happen under any circumstances..... it's totally unacceptable and whilst your restraint is commendable I only hope he has been dealt with appropriately. I feel other women have the right to know so they can be wary and keep away - I would name and shame.
You appear strong and be coping with it well on one level but it reminds us all of a sense of vulnerability and the need to look out for each other. Take care and accept comfort from freinds - it's still a shock, Ben
Anybody watch the couple on tele walking naked from Lands end to John o' Groats.
I am very happy on nudist beaches / sites and feel there should be more public places availabe - it's so good not having to wear anything and amongst nudists there is no fuss etc. You feel more relaxed somehow - maybe as nudists we let a lot more go than the clothes...... However I think there has to be respect for other people's views as well. Most people are up tight about these matters. Not sure about the walkers - it was good to raise the topic but can be counter productive if people stereotype nudists as exhibitionists which is not the case. Ben
I am very happy on nudist beaches / sites and feel there should be more public places availabe - it's so good not having to wear anything and amongst nudists there is no fuss etc. You feel more relaxed somehow - maybe as nudists we let a lot more go than the clothes...... However I think there has to be respect for other people's views as well. Most people are up tight about these matters. Not sure about the walkers - it was good to raise the topic but can be counter productive if people stereotype nudists as exhibitionists which is not the case. Ben
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Oh but you've already changed your username once haven't you Cheetah, cos the old one was asociated with you being a whinger. Don't think a new name will help, will it?
Blue, You have got it so wrong - I changed from Blake45 because I was fed up with the whinging from a few the people on this site. I had always made it clear that I was cheating but decided to make a clearer statement by using a new username - Cheetah - this was in a hope to suppress the tendency of the small minority who go on about people playing away. However I cannot complain about the number of genuine people I have got to know on this site. But you have to accept that there are a number of us that are cheating but most wont admit it as I have done. And I respect that - because most people have good reasons and I have been always been very discreete about my contacts. However there are some people who cannot relate to me using the username Cheetah as thay feel it is too much in your face - someone else's words. I am doing ok and confident but listen to others who have suggested that I may be putting some women off with that username adn i could do with someone more neutral. I am considering going back to Blake 45 and making my situation clear just in how I describe myself in the advert / interests etc. I have never met anyone without making my situation clear-- that's not me - and never would. Ben
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I think you mean 1000 men to each woman dontcha?
I know you are asking the women so I won't say much except that there's no formula and desperation doesn't work. Oh and, if you are going to cheat, it's better not to tell the whole world about it - Mr Cheetah.
Thanks Tune - I went for the open approach about cheating but recognise that too open may be a bad thing too...there is an implicit recognition that some people are cheating but a lot don't want to be open about it. So may be a new nick name may help? Ben
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Hi everyone,
My name's Simon and im 18 (this is 100% true), and I've just started a new uni course, where I only know 1 guy (well), and 1 girl (a really tiny bit). I'm a guy by the way.
The course is an art course, so needless to say, it's got tons and tons of really cute fit girls on it (dont want to sound like some chauvanist pig here) who are really 'my kinda girls' if you get me.
Basically, I've never had a girlfriend once, never even a girl who was a friend, and I'm sick and tired of it. Everyone else has got a boy/girlfriend, and I swear I'm the only person ever to have not had sex yet.
Anyway, you people on here seem like altogether nice genuine people, so I figure here would be a good place to ask about how to go about getting a girlfriend. I really need the absolute basics here! What can I do? All I want is just one girl to like me (a lot if you get what I mean)!
Please note! I am not some plug ugly gorilla-man, I've just only had friends who have been guys for the last 10 or so years.
So anyway...Thanks everyone!
Simon.
Simon, Whatever you do learn to interact with the real world. You have received some good advise but don't stay here too long or you will become dazzled in the headlights adn forget where you need to go. You have common interests with lots of women on your course even if it just about the Art....find questions that come from you and are not false - 'what do you think about ...xxxx? ' find common ground' - you all are away from home, in a new town so use that as an intro - what do you think about xxxtown - have you found any good bars etc - try the obvious ... hang out with some mates and let things develop...
Don't you just love double meanings!
I don't know what excactly it is about our sexy women in the North West but I find myself attracted to them ..... maybe it is something to do with the fact that whilst there are sexy women over the rest of the UK / World they are too distant.... but then there is the added complications that some are in couples and are not interested in other guys, some are only armchair swingers who don't want to meet, and some are too young and are not interested in a 45 years young guy. Sure we are all turned on by others at times but I wonder if true sex appeal is about the chemistry when people get to know each other. Very difficult to do. And very difficult for a guy in my situation on this site to find a woman who may have compatible needs. I was watching the David Attenborough programme about insect mating rituals and that felt like this site. We have so little time to say something about ourselves but have to do so in ways to attract potential partners for sex. With about 1000 women to each man the odds of acheiving this are daunting! I am creative, thoughful, enjoy a good laugh but is there anything else that is worth noting apart from the usual ? So I am asking women out there - how do I improve my sex appeal in this virtual world in order too attract more interest? Replies by post or PM ,
Thanks for reading this, Ben
I don't know what excactly it is about our sexy women in the North West but I find myself attracted to them ..... maybe it is something to do with the fact that whilst there are sexy women over the rest of the UK / World they are too distant.... but then there is the added complications that some are in couples and are not interested in other guys, some are only armchair swingers who don't want to meet, and some are too young and are not interested in a 45 years young guy. Sure we are all turned on by others at times but I wonder if true sex appeal is about the chemistry when people get to know each other. Very difficult to do. And very difficult for a guy in my situation on this site to find a woman who may have compatible needs. I was watching the David Attenborough programme about insect mating rituals and that felt like this site. We have so little time to say something about ourselves but have to do so in ways to attract potential partners for sex. With about 1000 women to each man the odds of acheiving this are daunting! I am creative, thoughful, enjoy a good laugh but is there anything else that is worth noting apart from the usual ? So I am asking women out there - how do I improve my sex appeal in this virtual world in order too attract more interest? Replies by post or PM ,
Thanks for reading this, Ben
Any one got anything to add?
For me the advantage is about experience and memories. When I think back I have some great memories - lots of personal moments that accumalate with time. I also can think of a number of women I have enjoyed relationships with over those years. Both long term and short term.....In fact some no strings short term intense relationships were amazing. I would say my bext shag ever was in one of those. I think that is something you value with experience and time - you can have great sex and the chemistry can work well without either person being in Love and wanting to make a long term commitment. I think all the accumalated experience and variety help as well! It is why I am swinging - wishing to share more of those great intense moments which is what we all want I guess.
For me the advantage is about experience and memories. When I think back I have some great memories - lots of personal moments that accumalate with time. I also can think of a number of women I have enjoyed relationships with over those years. Both long term and short term.....In fact some no strings short term intense relationships were amazing. I would say my bext shag ever was in one of those. I think that is something you value with experience and time - you can have great sex and the chemistry can work well without either person being in Love and wanting to make a long term commitment. I think all the accumalated experience and variety help as well! It is why I am swinging - wishing to share more of those great intense moments which is what we all want I guess.
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Hello there
well my thought for the week. I have been watching advertisements on TV for retirement villages (not that I am THAT old yet!!!) and I had this feeling of dread at the thought of playing bowls, cards etc etc in one of them if thats where I am destined one day to end up. So has anyone thought about the concept of creating a swinging retirement village???? Not such a stupid thought as you may first think as you may be in one of these places for 20 years!!!!!!!!!!
Your thoughts here appreciated:D
Sounds a great idea - so long as it was large enough to host enough people to cater for a wide range of tastes - personally I want to keep on shagging until they try to screw down the coffin lid! It so much more appealing than the other sort - there could be staff to provide a wide range of personal services as well as the cleaning, shopping, etc
The communal areas would be fun .... my imagination goes wild! but then I thought of some Jehovah Witness types arriving to sell The Watchtowers - running away screaming......loads of fun - it would make a great sitcom !
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Newbie - got lots of work - even coming to office on Sunday to work - been in since 10 and all that been done is wondering through SH site - I think this site should have a governement wealth warning!! Haven't even tried yet to contact anyone - can only get worse - any help in breaking this addiction?
I am running a support group - SH Forum Anonymous - for those us us who have become addicted - trying to ease off myself - it can take over your life - I am currently inviting women living in the North West to engage in some hands on therapeutic sessions. This will provide meaningful distractions and satisfying expereinces for those who have tended to become virtual swingers instead of real ones.....
Myself and PLC were wondering how many Northern Soul fans we have on the site
Vicky - I'm glad I heard it on the grapevine.....I was born in Manchester and grew up in the Manchester Clubs and North West Scene - great days - great seeing bands like the Drifters, 4 Tops, Temptations etc at the MEN Arena nowadays but you cannot beat seeing them in the early days in the clubs for the impact....I enjoy a good dance but there are other forms of gyration to enjoy good soul music with as well...
Vicky - I'm glad I heard it on the grapevine.....I was born in Manchester and grew up in the Manchester Clubs and North West Scene - great days - great seeing bands like the Drifters, 4 Tops, Temptations etc at the MEN Arena nowadays but you cannot beat seeing them in the early days in the clubs for the impact....I enjoy a good dance but there are other forms of gyration to enjoy good soul music with as well...
anyone else, famous or not, past or present, who would it be?
And why?
I would like to be me when I was 18 but this time with what I know and have expereinced - it would be interesting to have an alternative personal history - stop some of my mistakes and prevent John Lennon from being killed, tell Freddie Mercury what will happen if...... convince peoplle about tragedies about to happen like the Tsunami
And why?
I would like to be me when I was 18 but this time with what I know and have expereinced - it would be interesting to have an alternative personal history - stop some of my mistakes and prevent John Lennon from being killed, tell Freddie Mercury what will happen if...... convince peoplle about tragedies about to happen like the Tsunami
