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DJohn
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
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Quote by bluexxx
BTW, what the hell is an iPod - I feel like life is passing me by
It's small, sexy, white, and runs on batteries.
It's an mp3 player - with a hard drive that's small in size but large in capacity, so you can have your entire CD collection in something the size of a walkman.
Sex God
That's a good idea, Kat. I have a suggestion for both Sappho and Kit. But I'm not sure they'll like it (I know, I know. Stop being so insecure, John!)
No, it's not that. Go and wash your dirty minds. (Although if they insisted...)
I have promised both of them a picture of me in a rabbit costume. I further promised Sappho that she'd see it in March. So my proposal - make it to the end of the month, and you shall be rewarded. Or punished. Whichever way you want to see it.
No, it's not that. Go and wash your dirty minds. (Although if they insisted...)
I have promised both of them a picture of me in a rabbit costume. I further promised Sappho that she'd see it in March. So my proposal - make it to the end of the month, and you shall be rewarded. Or punished. Whichever way you want to see it.
Sex God
That's great news, Sappho, and I wish you every success in it.
I've never been a smoker, so I haven't experienced quitting myself. But I know people who have tried. It's hard. One friend stopped dead - no slow wind-down (does that work?), no patch, no nothing. It lasted about six months, then work got stressful and she started again.
Get all the help you can. I don't know what practical use I could be, but if there's anything at all I can do, I'm here. Anything you need. I care, and I know I'm not alone in that.
I've never been a smoker, so I haven't experienced quitting myself. But I know people who have tried. It's hard. One friend stopped dead - no slow wind-down (does that work?), no patch, no nothing. It lasted about six months, then work got stressful and she started again.
Get all the help you can. I don't know what practical use I could be, but if there's anything at all I can do, I'm here. Anything you need. I care, and I know I'm not alone in that.
Sex God
Quote by bell412
perhaps i jumped the gun a little by thinking I was a fully accepted member of the forum.
Your first post was enough to cover your membership for the next few years. Honesty is probably the most valuable thing you can have here. Every post gets you more and more respect.
It sounds like your wife approves, so I will wish you the best of luck! Not pushy, honest, writes well... what more qualification does a man need?
Quote by bell412
Havent had sex since that was the first time for two months
That's actually once more than I've had in the same period. But you're not a single man who goes straight home from work every night.
Sex God
Tell them that they sound like a lovely guy/girl/whatever, but they're really not what you're looking for. And wish them luck in finding what they're after.
I don't think it's possible to say "no" without causing a little bit of hurt (it is a rejection, however you word it). I think the gentlest way is to let them know that it's not that there's something wrong with them, and that you recognise that they're looking for something as much as you are. That leaves them with some hope.
That's the sort of thing I'd want to hear.
I don't think it's possible to say "no" without causing a little bit of hurt (it is a rejection, however you word it). I think the gentlest way is to let them know that it's not that there's something wrong with them, and that you recognise that they're looking for something as much as you are. That leaves them with some hope.
That's the sort of thing I'd want to hear.
Sex God
Quote by WilmaFlintstone
Now I do remember asking you if there was anything I could get you
It's taken me this long to realise that the answer I should have given was "You". I need a lot more practice at this.
And you didn't see my post, did you? Maybe next time
(I did the serious bit at the top of this thread. I'm allowed to have fun now)
Sex God
Someone asked me recently "What do you want?", and the best I could manage at the time was "I don't know". You deserve a better answer than that, so here it is:
I still don't know.
A few people here have said that one of the best things about joining in on the forum is the real friendships they have made. They weren't expecting it, and that wasn't their goal in coming here, but they recognised a good thing and grabbed it.
That's pretty much how I live my life. I don't have well-defined goals. I watch for opportunities, and when I good one comes along I take it (actually, I'm usually too much of a wimp to take it, but that's the theory). I also manipulate my world to encourage the appearance of good opportunities. That's why I'm here. I had a feeling that if I joined in, good things would happen, even though I didn't have any idea what they might be. I haven't been disappointed so far.
So what opportunities would I grasp if they got near enough? That's about the closest I'll get to "what do I want?"
In no particular order:
I want good conversations with good people. Intelligent conversations, silly conversations, outrageous flirting... all the things that are in plentiful supply right here.
I want to meet new friends.
I want to be happy, and to make other people happy.
I want to broaden my sexual horizons. You can't know if you like something or not until you try it. I've learned some things that I like (foreplay is much more fun that sex itself) and some that I don't (being tied up does nothing for me). There are still lots of things that I'd like to try, and a few that I'm sufficiently sure I wouldn't like that I won't try, such as anything involving pain.
I want to broaded my horizons in general. I'm fascinated by people. Somehow I got the idea that understanding how other people think would make me better able to interact with them, and would make me a better person.
I want all the other things that I can't think of in advance.
If I find any of that here, then I'm a happy man. If I can't (and it's too late for that, because I've already found some of it), that's OK. No one owes me anything.
While I'm here - if we were at that pub (you know who you are) and I was reasonably sure the answer would be "yes", then I would be very tempted to ask. My shyness and fear of rejection would probably get in first and I'd spend the next six months kicking myself, but I'd be extremely tempted.
You were warned that I'm much more articulate online than in person.
I still don't know.
A few people here have said that one of the best things about joining in on the forum is the real friendships they have made. They weren't expecting it, and that wasn't their goal in coming here, but they recognised a good thing and grabbed it.
That's pretty much how I live my life. I don't have well-defined goals. I watch for opportunities, and when I good one comes along I take it (actually, I'm usually too much of a wimp to take it, but that's the theory). I also manipulate my world to encourage the appearance of good opportunities. That's why I'm here. I had a feeling that if I joined in, good things would happen, even though I didn't have any idea what they might be. I haven't been disappointed so far.
So what opportunities would I grasp if they got near enough? That's about the closest I'll get to "what do I want?"
In no particular order:
I want good conversations with good people. Intelligent conversations, silly conversations, outrageous flirting... all the things that are in plentiful supply right here.
I want to meet new friends.
I want to be happy, and to make other people happy.
I want to broaden my sexual horizons. You can't know if you like something or not until you try it. I've learned some things that I like (foreplay is much more fun that sex itself) and some that I don't (being tied up does nothing for me). There are still lots of things that I'd like to try, and a few that I'm sufficiently sure I wouldn't like that I won't try, such as anything involving pain.
I want to broaded my horizons in general. I'm fascinated by people. Somehow I got the idea that understanding how other people think would make me better able to interact with them, and would make me a better person.
I want all the other things that I can't think of in advance.
If I find any of that here, then I'm a happy man. If I can't (and it's too late for that, because I've already found some of it), that's OK. No one owes me anything.
While I'm here - if we were at that pub (you know who you are) and I was reasonably sure the answer would be "yes", then I would be very tempted to ask. My shyness and fear of rejection would probably get in first and I'd spend the next six months kicking myself, but I'd be extremely tempted.
You were warned that I'm much more articulate online than in person.
Sex God
Yes, I am running. It might look like a walk, but to be honest it wouldn't be safe to go any faster. I might knock you over when we finally collide.
Who said I was running away?
Sorry for the little thread hijack, Up4it. It's one of the hazards here. Welcome! I'm sure you'll have a lot of fun. I am.
Who said I was running away?
Sorry for the little thread hijack, Up4it. It's one of the hazards here. Welcome! I'm sure you'll have a lot of fun. I am.
Sex God
I didn't want to clutter an important sticky thread with this.
You need to have a look at the Top 10 Modern Films thread: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/6142.html There's a lot of very good taste in here.
Quote by Moist
Eraserhead - what a superb & relatively unknown David Lynch film....
Sorry - completely off topic but had to say that !!
You need to have a look at the Top 10 Modern Films thread: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/6142.html There's a lot of very good taste in here.
Sex God
I still have a lot to learn, but I've managed to work it out this far: there's more to swinging than sex, and more to sex than a cock.
Yes, some women do think the size and shape of a cock is important. They're the ones with the ads that ask for a picture of it. In my limited experience, most women don't mind (or were they just being kind to me? :-)
Yes, some women do think the size and shape of a cock is important. They're the ones with the ads that ask for a picture of it. In my limited experience, most women don't mind (or were they just being kind to me? :-)
