Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Firelizard
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 61
Straight Male, 64
UK

Forum

Quote by Sgt Bilko
you have alerted me to something I don't do enough...in fact at all....eye contact when I'm giving oral!

I feel it would be my duty to allow you to practice this eye contact thingy during oral on me!!! :rascal: :rascal: :rascal: :rascal:
One of these days you're so gonna get it smackbottom and I aint talking about a blow job lol
Hope the day went as well smoothly as it could have Earthy kiss :rose:
Love
Fire & Stormy xxx
Quote by H-x
As Nola said, anal comes down to trust more than intimacy. I think oral is more intimate possibly down to the eye contact whilst doing it, and possibly down to the amount of touch sensation you have in your mouth and fingers compared with er.... anywhere else biggrin
Giving a BJ is a huge turn on because of the level of intimacy and reaction of the person you're doing it to, the turn on from anal is more to do with trust and submission than intimacy (for me anyway).
As for kissing, if you don't feel that flip in the pit of your stomach when you kiss someone, sex aint gonna happen wink
H.x

H...will you write my posts for me when I don't have time!!!!
I agree with everything you say here and you have alerted me to something I don't do enough...in fact at all....eye contact when I'm giving oral!
:notes:
Quote by splendid_
lots of stuff to get into single fem's knickers.
rolleyes
....and it's about time you changed your's again smackbottom :giggle:
Quote by winchwench
OK whose for a barbie... :shock: the weather is gorgeous confused oh! by the way that chair close to the fire is spoken for cool
I've got plenty of meat to go round :? :shock: er..whose got the drinks??

Awww, bless. Mr FC saved me a chair kiss
Will you get off my lap woman!! didn't you see me here? rolleyes
Speaking as the bi half of a couple. The single most helpful thing for us has been the Forum. If you post on it alot, people (including the ladies you are looking for) will begin to get to know you. Anyone we have met has always said that they don't want sex with just anyone no matter what they looked like or how they thought, but that they are almost as fussy choosing a swinging partner/s as they are a real life partner.
It has helped that we are pretty much the same when it comes to playing. We need to know abit about the person and have spoken to them for quite a while before taking things further and also the thing that turns us both on is seeing her have a good time. It's not all about us.
Single women on here are often treated as a commodity rather than people and if I were one of them there is nothing that would put me off more quickly.
Anyone who doesn't know me well will possibly read this post and think "oh there she goes writing a post that she thinks is what a single woman will want to hear" rolleyes There are enough folk on here that do know me well enough though to know this really IS the way I think and not an advert.
So in a nutshell to the op if you are genuinely here to be interested in another person and care that they have fun too then you will probably have lots of fun but if it's all about you then even if you try to hide it, it will come through in the end.
I'm not for a minute suggesting that this IS you by the way but just trying to suggest different ways and ideas that may (or may not) help.
Love
Fire xx
Yes I did ...and then I married him.....so proof that yes it does bugger up your friendship wink :P
Quote by Whipsnspurs
kissing for me has to be one of the biggest turn ons. but it all depends on how it's done.
i find the ones done in public that are unexpected but very sexual in intention the biggest turn on. i also like my hair held, a reason i keep it long :twisted: i like to held off when i'm trying to take control, for him to move away from me and make me wait.
the long lingering kisses that build in tension and leave you breathless are also great.
i hate sloppy kisses though.
whips

ok... we get the hint...
lp
can someone please tell me why this keeps happening.
ro just watch yourself, you are playing with firelol
whips
:shock: No he isn't !! I would notice smile
Fire mutters about the discretion going swiftly downhill in SH Towers !!!!
Thanks for all your replies lovely people...it's been very interesting reading and has mostly served to reinforce what I already believe. Doesn't help with a situation around me at the moment though but hey ho you can't please everyone rolleyes
Would you discipline (not physically) your friends child if they were very rude to you in public ?
The reason I ask this is that I was having a convo with my Mum and she said that back in the day when she was bringing up myself and my sister if a few Mums went off to the park with their children, then generally they would all muck in and if one of them needed telling off it could have been any one of the mums that did it and the children all knew this and she says it produced alot more respect from the children to the adults. Nowadays I know that there are parents that would be absolutely affronted if one of their children were told off by anyone other than themselves.
In the instance of blatent rudeness for instance would it be too late to tell the mother if she hadnt been there and say nothing to the child. Would the moment have passed and the child think they had got away with it?
What do you think?
My view on this in general is that yes it's ok for a friend or family member to tell the child off. I will admit though to feeling miffed in the past when one of my children has been the subject in question and has been told off by another adult, but having said that I still think it's a good thing provided the teller offer has all the facts and there is no question that they could be wrong.
My 5 year old came home from school the other day and I asked him "had he had a nice day?" and who he played with. He told me I played with xxxx my Indiany friend lol he's quite fond of his Indiany friend smile
Hi Chief Moo
Nice to meet you smile
Love
Running Duck and I'm sure Chief Eiderdown (AKA Stormwalker) will be along shortly too lol
I feel the same way as I suspect Rose felt....a little shortchanged and as if I got the booby prize.
Still cried though sad lol
The photo's in this thread are brilliant from lots of folk. This is just one more of my favourites before I get carried away....
Thats one of the things I love about this forum Steve. There can be someone you find you constantly disagree with and I myself get abit disappointed with that because I feel I am failing to connect with that person on any level and then along comes a subject where you find you both have a middle ground and it's like a little ray of sunshine smile
Quote by Stormwalker

Some elements of our society think its 'big' to flout the law, they think its 'hard' to carry a knife or a gun. macho to be a gang member. We (meaning society) need to find ways of shaming their behavior, ridiculing their gangs and violent culture.

I do that every time I see some wanker with a hoody trying to do an imitation of someone with arthritic fingers and a gangsta rap.
Careful Peanut.....thats too much generalisation. My favourite sweatshirt has a hood which I do actually use if the weather dictates ....I am 43, 5ft 1 and can be quite young looking sometimes....I wouldnt like to be labelled and put in a box because of my sweatshirt thanks wink
:shock: rotflmao
You can laugh as much as you like, but you don't get as many PM's as me due to your youthful looks and your captivating charm do you lol confused:
Quote by Peanut
I must just say in answer to this though that the child of one of my relatives was brought home by the police one night and said child started spouting off about what his father could and could not do to him and he was quickly put straight by the police officer that if his father needed to use reasonable force to chastise him then the police certainly wouldnt have a problem with it.

These kids seem to forget that a lot of Police staff are parents themselves and don't necessarily agree with this PC bullshit that is having the effect of declining discipline and increasing juvenile crime.
:thumbup:
Quote by Peanut
We have a society where a parent can lay down rules, a child can say "F*** that" and the parent has no resources to combat the behaviour.

Actually there is an alternative. I chose to ignore all this political correctness bollocks by taking a rather fast moving hand to my youngest's ass and thighs when she overstepped the boundaries of good behaviour. Her response, as I'm a dad who doesn't live with her, was to report the fact to her school social worker who in turn reported the 'child abuse' to her boss. I in turn received several phone calls warning me that it was an offence. They in turn received several epithets from me , including "fuck you, I'm her Dad and if I choose that way to punish her then that's what I'll do. If you don't like it then arrest me". Strangely enough I heard nothing else on the matter.
For those concerned that I may be physically assaulting a young child, she was just 15 at the time. The punishment she got was for attempting to physically bully another kid at school. My technique was to let her know what it's like to feel bullied and to see if she liked it. I made it quite clear that I wasn't teaching her how to bully.
I must just say in answer to this though that the child of one of my relatives was brought home by the police one night and said child started spouting off about what his father could and could not do to him and he was quickly put straight by the police officer that if his father needed to use reasonable force to chastise him then the police certainly wouldnt have a problem with it.
No Peanut what your statement says to me is that you are saying that you ridicule anyone you see in the street wearing a hoody and doing or mimicking rap. Or have I got that wrong ? These youngsters are peoples children and you as an adult are surely not setting a good example if you are ridiculing them before they have done anything wrong if I have read this correctly and havn't got it all arse upwards, which I must admit I do occasionally.
Quote by Peanut

Some elements of our society think its 'big' to flout the law, they think its 'hard' to carry a knife or a gun. macho to be a gang member. We (meaning society) need to find ways of shaming their behavior, ridiculing their gangs and violent culture.

I do that every time I see some wanker with a hoody trying to do an imitation of someone with arthritic fingers and a gangsta rap.
Careful Peanut.....thats too much generalisation. My favourite sweatshirt has a hood which I do actually use if the weather dictates ....I am 43, 5ft 1 and can be quite young looking sometimes....I wouldnt like to be labelled and put in a box because of my sweatshirt thanks wink
I was five and he was six
We rode on horses made of sticks
He wore black and I wore white
He would always win the fight
Bang bang, he shot me down
Bang bang, I hit the ground
Bang bang, that awful sound
Bang bang, my baby shot me down.
Seasons came and changed the time
When I grew up, I called him mine
He would always laugh and say
"Remember when we used to play?"
Bang bang, I shot you down
Bang bang, you hit the ground
Bang bang, that awful sound
Bang bang, I used to shoot you down.
Music played, and people sang
Just for me, the church bells rang.
Now he's gone, I don't know why
And till this day, sometimes I cry
He didn't even say goodbye
He didn't take the time to lie.
Bang bang, he shot me down
Bang bang, I hit the ground
Bang bang, that awful sound
Bang bang, my baby shot me down...
Quote by winchwench
I just had my very long hair cut to just below shoulder length :shock: I cried before she made the first couple of cuts :cry: It's the first time I ever cried in a hairdressers rolleyes my soon to be teen daughter will never forgive me redface

If thats the cut you were sporting at camp- you looked bluddy stunning! The colour was amazing too.
Not that I paid any attention to you at all innocent
Nope just had it done today....and thank you for the compliment surprisedops: You were not too shabby yourself!!!! :twisted: