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Firelizard
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 60
Straight Male, 63
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Quote by Stormwalker
My laptop broke a few days ago, well to be honest it broke months ago, but like Scotty with a warp coil generator I managed to keep it going way beyond reasonable expectation, now however tiz dead, totally and unequivocally dead.
I need a new one and can’t be arsed to do the research myself when I know there are better informed bods on here just itching to tell me where to get the best deal.
So, a Laptop, ish max I’m old and need a big screen to see the letters and purdy pictures. I write on it, it surf on it and play the odd game on it with a bit of music maybe. No mega image manipulation, no vast music/film library and I don’t need to carry it with me all day so it needn’t be uber-light I need something solid that will last a few years before falling to bits like the last one, a Toshiba Techra if it helps.
Many thanks.
Oh and number 1 daughter is after a notebook thingy, I fear they would be too small and fiddly for my sausage fingers, but we could just about get one each for so I have to ask about them too.

Oi :shock: how many fecking daughters have you got ???
Hope you have a lovely day gorgeous man!!!!!
:inlove: :rose: passionkiss :bounce:
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Firelizard x x
:shock: It takes me a week to get there..the last thing I'd want to do it stop it confused
Ok Kenty smile
Even without my situation though I still feel that it is not selfish to want to work as long as it is done sensitively to your own children's needs. Obviously a healthy babies' needs are the same universally...warmth, food, love but as they get older you learn what your individual child needs from you and no two of your own are the same.
Looking at it from a parent's point of view for a second though. You may have built your career from 16 and then you have a child. That child on average will be dependant upon you for 18 years maybe a little more. No career will wait that long. If you were 23 when you had your child what are you going to do at 41 when you need to occupy your time with something you feel is worthwhile again. There are only so many times you can be a lady that lunches without getting bored to tears with it surely?
I thought that you were doing your generalisation thing and I get really irritated when you do that :)
Quote by Ms_Whips
fire i think you were in a very lucky position to be able to keep your career. from my point of veiw it gave you a freedom of choice that i didn't have. i wish i could have stayed on the path i wanted to but just didn't have the choice.
i envy those who get to keep their chosen careers and still have children. so long as the kids are happy and you spend the rest of your time with them i think it's great to be able to do what you want.
whips

I actively clung to it Whips as I knew that if I didn't then my son and I might have had a very bleak future with nothing to look forward to but daytime telly and benefits.
I agree with you it gave me the freedom to choose. Thank goodness as my future could have been very bleak without it.
kiss
A lady on here introduced me to "acid croft music" not sure if it's on you tube haven't looked but try Shooglenifty and Martyn Bennet for starters and see where it takes you. :P
We are all different as people. Women that stay at home and look after their children are fabulous in my opinion. You need patience, organisation, empathy, patience, imagination, energy oh and did I say patience?
Me? I need to work. Not only do I need the money to survive (and no I don't have a mortgage, brand new car, flatscreen TV and the children do not have computers, electronic games etc etc or even mobile phones) BUT I need to work for my own sense of achievement and enjoyment. I have been doing my job since I was a child (16) and still am at 44. I am good at it and I love it. In the last 12 years or so I have reconciled it to family life by working from home. You have to be disciplined and very organised.
My children say they love me and they are happy that I work and that it makes me happy. Happy parent= happy children usually. My daughter even spent a day working with me on go to work with your parent day and she loved it and was surprised and admiring of what I do in a normal day's work.
Back when I had my first child in 88 I would have given anything to have been in the position to stay at home with my son. Flaming lucky I didn't!!! as his father turned out to be an alcoholic gambler who got worse and worse and had it not been for the fact that I hadn't left my career when I had him I would have been "the single mother on benefits struggling to make ends meet" that so often gets slated on here. As it was I left him, moved a long way away with my son and was able to get a job easily and quickly to support us (I was never paid a penny by his father). I admit a large portion of my wage paid a childminder at first as my son was not at school age but again my career was kept going and eventually I was (and am) able to make a good living (credit crunch permitting).
I have 3 children and have needed childcare for all 3. Of the 4 childminders I have used I am still very good friends with ALL of them and it has been 5 years since one was needed. I would never choose someone to look after my child without serious deliberation and listening to my gut instinct which believe me when you are a mother is strong.
Kenty I'm sure when you said that using nurseries for children was wrong you meant (in your opinion??) wink
Quote by kentswingers777
Thanks Minxy was going to say the same thing.
A lot of todays problems are caused by kids where there are no parents/parent about, either when they come in from school or....when the kids are on holidays.
I cannot think of many better things than a parent being at home full time.
I realise that some parents have to work for financial reasons but....I have known people to have a child in a two parent family, and as soon as the maternity leave is finished, they go back to work and leave the baby at a nursery. Sorry that is wrong and if it is because of financial reasons they do that, then don't have kids.
How anyone can leave a baby with a nursery baffles me.

Are you saying nursery rather than childminder or are you tying the two in together???
I'm busy getting my child ready for school now oh and WORKING!!! I'll be back to this.......
Oh I missed it :cry:
Happy Birthday Sass!!!!
From me and him...hope it was fab xxxxxx
Quote by Pete_sw
Hello ya sexy welsh foxy lady kiss
All my mates say i was born a few cunturies too late :shock:
Apparantly I'd have made a spot on medieval war lord dunno
Oh what fun :twisted: pass me another venison haunch wench, and more mead, oh yes, deffo more mead :cheers:
:lol2:

and you still would have met Stormy probably then because that's a time he probably would have been happy in too lol
Quote by Tan--Kinky
Hi Firelizard,
Just to warn you - I can talk about all things foody all day!! One question is - do you think you have a wheat intolerance or a gluten intolerance? If it's just wheat, then I know that Kellogs Cornflakes should be okay - Coco Pops have a tiny bit of wheat starch added, depending on how strict you're being about things. For main meals Rice is a saviour - and use all the different types from Risotto to wild Rice, Polenta is really good too. I make and sell various food stuffs, not that I'm trying to sell to you don't panic, but would be more than happy to mail you through some recipes I've tried that have worked and had goodfeedback from my wheat free clients, if that's any help at all.
Scar xxxx
PS: One fact I thought was interesting when I researched this a while back - apparently there is wheat in the gum on the cheaper brands of envelopes. Bizarre but True - so no more licking envelopes!!

Can she still lick the queen though? :giggle:
My queens are all sticky and they don't need to be licked wink
Go on spoil my wank material why don't you :doh:
redface
OMG Tan you really are peverse :shock: the Queen!!...wank material confused :giggle: ...or even worse...postage stamps :undecided:
Quote by splendid_
“This woman is an absolute disgrace as a mother.
“First she has an affair with her son’s best friend, then she dumps her kids to move in with him.
“She’s now living with him while her youngest children and my kids are staying with strangers. It breaks my heart and makes my blood boil in equal measure.> snip<“Anyway, she can’t just turn up and be a mum when she likes. It is just not fair on the 

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I had to read it thee times but I got there in the end!!!!!! lol
Quote by splendid_
If you have an intolerance you would notice this quickly.

Yes I have been noticing stuff getting gradually worse and worse over the last few months and understand that it's possible to develope an intolerance later in life, the same as it is possible for childhood intolerances to decrease and stop as they get older.
xxxxx
Cubes you are right!!! we had chicken and rice instead lol
Sara I had free from bread today but must admit that the texture was abit crap...I tried rye bread however and that was quite nice though.
I'm not that big a bread lover anyway so I don't think it will affect me much.
Today my tummy feels fine. I do not have wind. I am not overly tired and I don't feel anywhere near as uptight (read that as anxious) as I can be at this time of day.
It might be psycological as surely I wouldn't notice a difference this quick? but I don't care whatever the reason...it's great!!!!!
Quote by Theladyisaminx
My son was on a wheat free and milk diet for 3 years due to a problem he had. A well know supermarket did supply a wheat free book if you contact their head office they should send you one of all the products they store. Also chemists or health food shops are a good source for help too. I used to get a lot of his food from the chemist at the time but goods are very good at being marked these days. I remember rice cakes Yuck being a treat for him, no flavours around then.
Hope that helps a little

Thanks Minxy smile
Quote by Tan--Kinky
Hi Firelizard,
Just to warn you - I can talk about all things foody all day!! One question is - do you think you have a wheat intolerance or a gluten intolerance? If it's just wheat, then I know that Kellogs Cornflakes should be okay - Coco Pops have a tiny bit of wheat starch added, depending on how strict you're being about things. For main meals Rice is a saviour - and use all the different types from Risotto to wild Rice, Polenta is really good too. I make and sell various food stuffs, not that I'm trying to sell to you don't panic, but would be more than happy to mail you through some recipes I've tried that have worked and had goodfeedback from my wheat free clients, if that's any help at all.
Scar xxxx
PS: One fact I thought was interesting when I researched this a while back - apparently there is wheat in the gum on the cheaper brands of envelopes. Bizarre but True - so no more licking envelopes!!

Can she still lick the queen though? :giggle:
My queens are all sticky and they don't need to be licked wink
Quote by ScarletTheHarlot
Hi Firelizard,
Just to warn you - I can talk about all things foody all day!! One question is - do you think you have a wheat intolerance or a gluten intolerance? If it's just wheat, then I know that Kellogs Cornflakes should be okay - Coco Pops have a tiny bit of wheat starch added, depending on how strict you're being about things. For main meals Rice is a saviour - and use all the different types from Risotto to wild Rice, Polenta is really good too. I make and sell various food stuffs, not that I'm trying to sell to you don't panic, but would be more than happy to mail you through some recipes I've tried that have worked and had goodfeedback from my wheat free clients, if that's any help at all.
Scar xxxx
PS: One fact I thought was interesting when I researched this a while back - apparently there is wheat in the gum on the cheaper brands of envelopes. Bizarre but True - so no more licking envelopes!!

Thank you Scarlet that would be lovely!! smile
Quote by Dirtygirly
My best mate has an intolerance for all sorts, including wheat. I'll ask her for some recipes for you. It's not easy and she does cheat from time to time but pays for it.
She's in Japan/Singapore/Malaysia at the moment and is finding the food over there way better. She loves sushi so I dare say she's been eating a lot of that cause it agrees with her. I'll ask her for some tips for you. :mrgreen:

Thank you DG smile
Today I have started the first day of my wheat free diet. Well actually I tried to start yesterday but I kept finding that everything had chuffin wheat in it so I had to delay it until today to be completely wheat free.
At this stage I will just point out that I don't have a diagnosis I am just doing the elimination thing but my suspicion is very strong on the wheat thing being the problem.
So far I have had a wheat free breakfast...I had nothing rolleyes and for lunch I had free from bread with salad and pastrami. Not sure what tea will be but probably cauliflower cheese or something like.
How many of you folk are wheat intolerent? and what things do you eat to keep a balanced diet whilst not breaking the bank and buying all the "super expensive" wheat free ranges.
Love
Fire
I agree with Res's post in the Hero's thread with regard to this issue.
I feel that we should'nt have faith schools as it does lead to parents "having" to be hypocritical to get their children taught in the best school that they are able to.
Take a "good" catholic school for instance and then your local comprehensive. That catholic school is not necessarily better because it is "Catholic" it's probably better because classes and indeed the whole school are smaller.
However completely contradicting that, I was taught in the (very large) local comprehensive and a friend was taught in a (small) catholic school not far away...I have been fairly succesful in life ie/ happy marriage, long standing career etc, she is in prison serving a life sentence. I know thats an extreme example but I'm trying to get across that it's not the "religion" that makes the school good or bad it's the size, committment of the teachers/staff, the catchment area it is in and so on.
I also feel that children should be taught to learn and make up their own minds. RE for instance should consist of many beliefs and inspire the child to find out more later if they want to rather than having any one religion packaged up and thrown down their throats as the "right" thing.
It's fairly easy to start up a school for anyone with money, business acumen and the enthusiasm. The rules are not that stringent as I discovered along the journey of looking into home schooling and other alternatives for my daughter. It's a minefield and parents are supposed to be responsible for getting their children the best education they can. In my view religion and the process of getting your child the best education are two completely seperate issues.
.....when no matter where you are in the world and whatever is happening in your life..a hug from that person feels like home :inlove:
Quote by Freckledbird
Someone said this to me a while ago:
'If you love someone, let them go free. If they don't come back, you never had them. If they do come back, love them forever.'
I let go :cry:

You did have him Freckles, but minds and times change. You still do and will always have the good times to remember. :therethere:
I get that too Sass...I hate it and its almost every night. I've tried quinine sulphate tablets which help a bit but have never met anyone else who knows what I'm going on about smile
Quote by Dirtygirly

oooooh!!! how rude :shock: I didn't mean those kind of knobs lol I mean't jars of knobs...you know collections of things in jars loon
kiss

:giggle:
I know what you mean... but I'm still not collecting knobs in a jar, I have enough trouble explaining the rude magnetic poetry when my mum comes to visit! redface
Better than trying to explain to her "knob magnets" on the fridge though :uhoh:
Aaaaanyway..back to topic! knobs? yes, I love them..the more knobs the better :P