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Are you suggesting the pussy posse has balls??? :shock:
Metaphorically speaking, I suspect that is probably the case!
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Sexlightened
Sorry to hear you're struggling at the moment, Sassy. I doubt if I've read them all, but it's been clear from some of the other posts you've made recently that things are not exactly going well for you.
You're not wrong when you say that the condition isn't unusual in your profession. A copy and paste from the article on -
"Health care workers are often prone to burnout. Cordes and Doherty (1993), in their study of employees within this industry, found that workers who have frequent intense or emotionally charged interactions with others are more susceptible to burnout. Still, burnout can affect workers of any kind."
It's a well known condition, but whether your employers have anything in place to help you deal with it is another thing, of course!
The following site seems to have a wealth of information on burnout and stress:
Knowledge is power, as they say, and hopefully knowing more about the condition will help you beat it quicker.
:therethere:
Edited to remove shite as I didn't read the original post properly. :doh:
You're not wrong when you say that the condition isn't unusual in your profession. A copy and paste from the article on -
"Health care workers are often prone to burnout. Cordes and Doherty (1993), in their study of employees within this industry, found that workers who have frequent intense or emotionally charged interactions with others are more susceptible to burnout. Still, burnout can affect workers of any kind."
It's a well known condition, but whether your employers have anything in place to help you deal with it is another thing, of course!
The following site seems to have a wealth of information on burnout and stress:
Knowledge is power, as they say, and hopefully knowing more about the condition will help you beat it quicker.
:therethere:
Edited to remove shite as I didn't read the original post properly. :doh:
Sexlightened
Quote by R n M
These emails can be as destructive as a virus. So many people forwarding them to all their contacts and the servers get clogged up leading to breakdowns and such like.
That is exactly the point of the hoaxes, R n M. The idea is to have the hoax replicate in a viral fashion. Person A sends it to 10 friends, those 10 people send it to another 10 each - so in just two generations this scenario gives 111 copies of the viral e-mail clogging up mail accounts.
Sexlightened
A book shop has been mentioned a couple of times already, but that appeals to me as I love the feel, weight and smell of books, and I normally manage to get in about an hour and a half of reading on a weekday.
Or owning a small brewery, turning out 30 or 40 barrels of real ale a week and selling to the free trade.
Many years ago I thought that my ideal life would be to own a free house in the countryside, but I realised that pissed people and loud opinionated bigots get on my nerves - so I decided that "following the dream" down that particular avenue would be a mistake.
For the sexy job.... don't know really. Condom tester.
Or owning a small brewery, turning out 30 or 40 barrels of real ale a week and selling to the free trade.
Many years ago I thought that my ideal life would be to own a free house in the countryside, but I realised that pissed people and loud opinionated bigots get on my nerves - so I decided that "following the dream" down that particular avenue would be a mistake.
For the sexy job.... don't know really. Condom tester.
Sexlightened
"I'm gonna be the first Mackem in space, me, like" - the Mackem squaddie (two words you really don't want to see in the same sentence) who stuck the firework up his arse.
"So what is the speed limit along here?" - Princess Diana.
"Move some of that glowing stuff over here so I can see to write this report" - Madam Curie.
"That grassy knoll could do with cutting" - JFK.
"I'm busting for a piss, but you could catch your death out there" - Captain Oates.
"One for the road can't hurt" - Oliver Reed
"So what is the speed limit along here?" - Princess Diana.
"Move some of that glowing stuff over here so I can see to write this report" - Madam Curie.
"That grassy knoll could do with cutting" - JFK.
"I'm busting for a piss, but you could catch your death out there" - Captain Oates.
"One for the road can't hurt" - Oliver Reed
Sexlightened
Quote by littlemee
" TISWAS"
we sing the song all lovers of water sing
...........for Sally James' tightly fitting denim waist-coat.
And the garters made from hat bands with RN ship names on. There's probably a name for those things. She made getting up on a Saturday morning worth the effort.
Saw Sal on the telly a few weeks ago. I still would.
Sexlightened
Like some of the other posters I live in the countryside, and experience several power outages a year. The longest in the last four years was 36 hours during and after a period of very high winds. Although it was the middle of January the winds were from the south west so fortunately it was relatively mild.
As soon as the power goes off I put extra clothes on rather than waiting until the house starts to cool so as to not lose heat. Then I get the candles lit and read or write letters to friends. Aye, real letters!
Then, of course, I'll get bored and think "I fancy some toast - oh, of course, 'leccy's off. Cuppa. Err, nope. Right, well, I'll check e-mail, ah, no I won't."
I have a little UPS on the PC to protect it against the regular glitches, but I have a question about standby generators.
Does anyone know approximately how much a generator, the interface into the house wriing system and a network isolator switch to support the essentials like heating, microwave oven and lighting would cost? Say, a unit so I wouldn't have to switch stuff off to use the microwave.
Supplementary question: Do modern generators put out a stable enough supply to run electonic kit like the telly/hifi without risk of damage due to voltage fluctuations?
As soon as the power goes off I put extra clothes on rather than waiting until the house starts to cool so as to not lose heat. Then I get the candles lit and read or write letters to friends. Aye, real letters!
Then, of course, I'll get bored and think "I fancy some toast - oh, of course, 'leccy's off. Cuppa. Err, nope. Right, well, I'll check e-mail, ah, no I won't."
I have a little UPS on the PC to protect it against the regular glitches, but I have a question about standby generators.
Does anyone know approximately how much a generator, the interface into the house wriing system and a network isolator switch to support the essentials like heating, microwave oven and lighting would cost? Say, a unit so I wouldn't have to switch stuff off to use the microwave.
Supplementary question: Do modern generators put out a stable enough supply to run electonic kit like the telly/hifi without risk of damage due to voltage fluctuations?
Sexlightened
Quote by littlemee
Yayyyy!!!! Rocky Mountain Way on Planet Rock!!!
Better than some of the crap they've played tonight.
Planet Rock boils my piss sometimes. Well, most of the time, actually. I gave up listening, as I got sick of tracks being cut off by robo-jock two thirds of the way through the track, and halfway through a stonking solo.
Currently listening to Charming Snakes by Andy Summers at mega volumes - ah the benefits of living in a detatched.
Sexlightened
I’ve made a definite choice to avoid vanilla at all costs. About five years ago I managed to get out of a relationship that I hated being in, but which proved very difficult indeed to break out of. Since that time I have not been able to consider a “traditional†relationship as I’m shit scared of ending up in the same situation again. I found it very painful to see the effect that me not wanting to be in the relationship had on Herself – she was desperately in love, I wanted out big time.
There are two specific reasons I don’t want to be in a vanilla arrangement – one, I never again want to make anyone feel as bad as I made Herself feel, and secondly I don’t want to be as unhappy again, either. I know that logic says that the chances of being caught in the same trap twice are slim, but I just can’t take that risk, and even 1% possibility is too much of a possibility.
So for the foreseeable future I can’t see myself even considering a vanilla relationship, and am quite clear about that in my advert. Even five years down the line the fear of being trapped again is as strong as it was immediately after my escape. I don’t know whether I will ever feel any different.
Fortunately I’m comfortable with my own company, as being the bog-standard single bloke the opportunities for meets aren’t exactly flooding in, and there are rather long gaps between meets.
There are two specific reasons I don’t want to be in a vanilla arrangement – one, I never again want to make anyone feel as bad as I made Herself feel, and secondly I don’t want to be as unhappy again, either. I know that logic says that the chances of being caught in the same trap twice are slim, but I just can’t take that risk, and even 1% possibility is too much of a possibility.
So for the foreseeable future I can’t see myself even considering a vanilla relationship, and am quite clear about that in my advert. Even five years down the line the fear of being trapped again is as strong as it was immediately after my escape. I don’t know whether I will ever feel any different.
Fortunately I’m comfortable with my own company, as being the bog-standard single bloke the opportunities for meets aren’t exactly flooding in, and there are rather long gaps between meets.
Sexlightened
Two Stephen Stills songs for starters:
"Love The One You're with".
......
And if you can't be with the one you love,
Love the one you're with
Love the one you're with.
Don't be angry, don't be sad,
And don't sit cryin' over good times you've had,
There's a girl right next to you
And she's just waitin' for something to do.
......
Then there's "Change Partners" off his second solo album. Actually it's about a masked ball, but the title fits the bill.
The Beatles "All Together Now". Bit tenuous, that one.
Country artiste Trace Adkins has a song called.... "Swing". Not in our context unfortunately, as it compares the game of baseball with picking up a woman, three strikes and you're out. Tthe words in brackets spoken by baseball commentator:
Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter swing,
Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter swing,
(Strike one)
Hey baby do you do come here often?
(Strike two)
Hey baby now what’s your sign?
(Strike three)
Hold on now where you goin’?
(Heeeee's out)
Jimmy’s out, next in line.
......
Someone else gets his three strikes, then the tables get turned and the singer is the one who gets pulled by the woman the blokes are queueing up to have a go at. A dead good rocking tune.
"Love The One You're with".
......
And if you can't be with the one you love,
Love the one you're with
Love the one you're with.
Don't be angry, don't be sad,
And don't sit cryin' over good times you've had,
There's a girl right next to you
And she's just waitin' for something to do.
......
Then there's "Change Partners" off his second solo album. Actually it's about a masked ball, but the title fits the bill.
The Beatles "All Together Now". Bit tenuous, that one.
Country artiste Trace Adkins has a song called.... "Swing". Not in our context unfortunately, as it compares the game of baseball with picking up a woman, three strikes and you're out. Tthe words in brackets spoken by baseball commentator:
Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter swing,
Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter, Swing batter batter swing,
(Strike one)
Hey baby do you do come here often?
(Strike two)
Hey baby now what’s your sign?
(Strike three)
Hold on now where you goin’?
(Heeeee's out)
Jimmy’s out, next in line.
......
Someone else gets his three strikes, then the tables get turned and the singer is the one who gets pulled by the woman the blokes are queueing up to have a go at. A dead good rocking tune.
Sexlightened
Mine's a "Number 2" thing as well.
For the last few weeks, a couple of minutes before it's time for me to leave the house to go to work, I need a pony. I have three different start times which can be in any combination during the week, and therefore three different leave-the-house times, but every day the turtle pokes it's head out of the shell just before I'm due to leave.
Highy inconvenient as I need to catch a train to get to work, nd I'm always pushing it time-wise.
Got to be a psychological thing - a subconscious comment on what I think of my job, perhaps!
For the last few weeks, a couple of minutes before it's time for me to leave the house to go to work, I need a pony. I have three different start times which can be in any combination during the week, and therefore three different leave-the-house times, but every day the turtle pokes it's head out of the shell just before I'm due to leave.
Highy inconvenient as I need to catch a train to get to work, nd I'm always pushing it time-wise.
Got to be a psychological thing - a subconscious comment on what I think of my job, perhaps!
Sexlightened
Quote by PoloLady
You missed the bit about how people swing/play in different ways... the content of the sex, soft swing, foreplay only, oral only, outdoors only, being watched, being filmed, whether it is one-off meets they want or not, sexuality within the sex, daytime, evening, weekends, hotels, need to accom or not.... the list goes on and on.
Oh the preferences
Sex? Hmmm.... Oh yeah, I remember that. Slipped my mind, there. :lol:
Nice sig picture. Practicing my pucker.... :rascal:
Sexlightened
You've got to look at the ratio of single males to couples or single females who are looking for a single bloke.
Then remove a large section of that small percentage, because they will be looking for someone taller/shorter, older/younger, fatter/slimmer, blacker/whiter, closer/further away than you, and you are left with a very small universe that is "available" to you.
And then of that very small universe, a small subset will view you as being "their type" and worth meeting.
It's how the numbers stack up, mate. Single males are ten a penny, and speaking as 0.1 of a penny all I can say is be patient and stick with it. But don't expect to be in a different bed every week, coz it ain't going to happen. In four years I've met two couples for a total of 7 or 8 meets, and have had three social meetings which didn't go any further than a drink in a pub. I don't know, but I may well be about average in the luck stakes.
Then remove a large section of that small percentage, because they will be looking for someone taller/shorter, older/younger, fatter/slimmer, blacker/whiter, closer/further away than you, and you are left with a very small universe that is "available" to you.
And then of that very small universe, a small subset will view you as being "their type" and worth meeting.
It's how the numbers stack up, mate. Single males are ten a penny, and speaking as 0.1 of a penny all I can say is be patient and stick with it. But don't expect to be in a different bed every week, coz it ain't going to happen. In four years I've met two couples for a total of 7 or 8 meets, and have had three social meetings which didn't go any further than a drink in a pub. I don't know, but I may well be about average in the luck stakes.
Sexlightened
Quote by keeno
Thanks for the suggestions so far. I had
Rotterdam - The Beautiful South
Jerusalem - The hymn
Kingston Town - UB40
Istanbul - They might be Giants
Londons Burning - The Clash
The Clash might be lost on the 50+ crowd! Still, the old geezer with the safety pin through his flat cap and bondage long johns might get it!
Fog on the Tyne.
Long Haired Lover From Liverpool.
Doing the Lambeth Walk. Oi!
White Cliffs of Dover.
Pirates of Penzance.
Sexlightened
Quote by Medic_1
Choon mate
Wow this thread went on for a long time. Must go and have a re-read of it
I stand corrected. It was Hayley Mills and her dad John.
Can not remember the other actors. The Female bugs me, I can see her face but no name comes to mind.
Phredd
Yvonne Mitchell, Megs Jenkins?
Ah, post number
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