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Sexlightened
Quote by Shy_1st_timers
has anyone here refused to swing with someone because they or their partner were ugly?
Yes. There has to be physical attraction to swing with someone. In the case I referred to in my (overly) long post, the female of the couple did absolutely nothing for me from a facial and build point of view. Being straight, what the bloke looks like is largely irrelevant. They were very nice people, but she didn't light the fuse.
It's how one goes about communicating the "No" that is the important thing.
Sexlightened
There’s not much I can add that hasn’t already been said several times, Petal. Self esteem is a bugger, and although I’m outwardly gobby and confident, inside I’m mush and am basically a rather shy person. I have learned that swinging isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be – either getting meets (being a single bloke), or knowing what to say when the time comes, etc, but as time has gone on I’ve realised that in the bigger scheme of things it doesn’t really matter. I am myself now, and if they don’t like what they see, or my odd sense of humour, or the fact I will not have “one for the road†and drink/drive, or won’t send nude pictures including face, don’t cam, etc, etc, so what?
At the moment I can imagine that you would feel dreadful if you went to the effort of turning up gorgeous for a social meet, and felt you were being rejected. So If you can get the Yuk/Yes out of the way up front it might be easier for you. I always prefer to see a picture of the people I am going to meet with for a drink, but sometimes that’s not what the couple want to do, and maybe you wouldn’t be comfortable sending your picture to - lets face it - strangers. I had one meeting without seeing a picture first, and as the couple drove into the pub car park I thought “Feckin’ hell, no wayâ€. Apparently they are quite successful in their swinging, so what doesn’t ring my bell is rattling the clapper nineteen to the dozen for other people.
It goes both ways, of course. Last Friday I sent my mugshot to a couple who contacted me through this site, and that was the last I heard from them. A few years ago it would have bothered me that I didn’t hear anything back, but I think it’s funny now. I go back to what I said above – “so what?†They might have got a laugh from the picture – or at least something to threaten the kids with: “See what you turn out like if you don’t behave?†I’ve tried taking several self portraits, and they’re all shite. I wouldn’t shag me, either.
So getting a “no thanks†might happen to you, Petal, and because you don’t light one person’s candle it’s nothing that is your fault. How the other people react is a result of their personality, not a reflection on you as a person – and if someone made it clear by their attitude that they didn’t like how you looked, haven’t they shown the sort of person they really are, and would you really want to meet someone like that again? Coz if it doesn’t come out on the first meet, that personality trait will surface at some time or other over something trivial. Something I have in my profile is words to the effect of “We meet, we part and then we all decide whether we want to meet againâ€. Should it turn out that the meet doesn’t go well, taking this approach might make you feel less rejected as you won’t be left standing in a pub car park as your meet drives into the darkness having said “Noâ€.
The boot will deffo be on the other foot at some time or other, though. You will meet people that you wouldn’t swing with for a lottery win – ok, bad analogy – but how are you going to let them down? Probably, as you recognise the potential for hurting someone, gently. Not everyone is like that, though, and swinging needs a bit of a tough hide sometimes. I hope you don’t find yourself in the situation where you feel you have to go through with swinging so as not to hurt the feelings of the people you meet.
Umm. I’m waffling. I point that out just in case no one noticed. Did I really type “There’s not much I can add that hasn’t already been said several times, reallyâ€. Nah, I must have imagined typing it.
Ah, Croydon, the town of my birth. I was there for a week earlier in the month, shame we didn’t have the opportunity to meet up – but why would you have wanted to meet a bloke almost exactly twice your age? See, confidence affects us all, me ducks.
At the moment I can imagine that you would feel dreadful if you went to the effort of turning up gorgeous for a social meet, and felt you were being rejected. So If you can get the Yuk/Yes out of the way up front it might be easier for you. I always prefer to see a picture of the people I am going to meet with for a drink, but sometimes that’s not what the couple want to do, and maybe you wouldn’t be comfortable sending your picture to - lets face it - strangers. I had one meeting without seeing a picture first, and as the couple drove into the pub car park I thought “Feckin’ hell, no wayâ€. Apparently they are quite successful in their swinging, so what doesn’t ring my bell is rattling the clapper nineteen to the dozen for other people.
It goes both ways, of course. Last Friday I sent my mugshot to a couple who contacted me through this site, and that was the last I heard from them. A few years ago it would have bothered me that I didn’t hear anything back, but I think it’s funny now. I go back to what I said above – “so what?†They might have got a laugh from the picture – or at least something to threaten the kids with: “See what you turn out like if you don’t behave?†I’ve tried taking several self portraits, and they’re all shite. I wouldn’t shag me, either.
So getting a “no thanks†might happen to you, Petal, and because you don’t light one person’s candle it’s nothing that is your fault. How the other people react is a result of their personality, not a reflection on you as a person – and if someone made it clear by their attitude that they didn’t like how you looked, haven’t they shown the sort of person they really are, and would you really want to meet someone like that again? Coz if it doesn’t come out on the first meet, that personality trait will surface at some time or other over something trivial. Something I have in my profile is words to the effect of “We meet, we part and then we all decide whether we want to meet againâ€. Should it turn out that the meet doesn’t go well, taking this approach might make you feel less rejected as you won’t be left standing in a pub car park as your meet drives into the darkness having said “Noâ€.
The boot will deffo be on the other foot at some time or other, though. You will meet people that you wouldn’t swing with for a lottery win – ok, bad analogy – but how are you going to let them down? Probably, as you recognise the potential for hurting someone, gently. Not everyone is like that, though, and swinging needs a bit of a tough hide sometimes. I hope you don’t find yourself in the situation where you feel you have to go through with swinging so as not to hurt the feelings of the people you meet.
Umm. I’m waffling. I point that out just in case no one noticed. Did I really type “There’s not much I can add that hasn’t already been said several times, reallyâ€. Nah, I must have imagined typing it.
Ah, Croydon, the town of my birth. I was there for a week earlier in the month, shame we didn’t have the opportunity to meet up – but why would you have wanted to meet a bloke almost exactly twice your age? See, confidence affects us all, me ducks.
Sexlightened
The most I ever do by way of cooking is boiling a pan of rice occasionally, and doing scrambled eggs on a weekend. The oven has been broken four about four years and I haven't missed it. Yet I too have cookery books. Six including the recipe book that came with the microwave oven.
I also have "The Encyclopedia of Vegetable Gardening". The pictures are nice, but other than that it has no value!
I also have "The Encyclopedia of Vegetable Gardening". The pictures are nice, but other than that it has no value!
Sexlightened
I sort money into different denominations, turning each note so that the Queen's head is the right way up, then put fivers on top and twenties at the bottom before folding them in half to put in my pocket. There are not normally as many notes to fold as it might sound like!
CDs in alpha by artist with their earliest realease on the left, latest on the right, DVDs alpha by film name.
Exactly the same route every week around the supermarket.
I count stairs as I'm climbing them. I know there are 14 in the house, but I still count them almost every time.
If I didn't have a routine for the mornings, I would never get out of the door!
CDs in alpha by artist with their earliest realease on the left, latest on the right, DVDs alpha by film name.
Exactly the same route every week around the supermarket.
I count stairs as I'm climbing them. I know there are 14 in the house, but I still count them almost every time.
If I didn't have a routine for the mornings, I would never get out of the door!
Sexlightened
About 15 years ago I was talking to the neighbour over the back fence, and as I like to turn the wick up on the hi-fi I wanted to check that when I used Volume 11 it wasn’t audible in their house. I tried to ask “Can you hear the music when I crank the volume up?â€, but mid-sentence decided to change “crank†for “whack the volume upâ€. Unfortunately it came out as “Can you hear it when I wank… errrr, whack the volume up?†
Even longer ago I walked into a shop and instead of asking the kid behind the counter “Do you sell…â€, I managed to ask “Do you smell…â€
I though of something else well embarrassing when I was dozing off in bed last night, but I can’t remember what it was. I’ll post it later if I remember.
Even longer ago I walked into a shop and instead of asking the kid behind the counter “Do you sell…â€, I managed to ask “Do you smell…â€
I though of something else well embarrassing when I was dozing off in bed last night, but I can’t remember what it was. I’ll post it later if I remember.
Sexlightened
Quote by SteveClarke
hold down Ctrl (far left) and then press "a". -> This will select all the text.
Well I'm buggered. I've worked with computers of one form or another for the entire thirty years of my working life, and I didn't know about Ctl A.
That is going to save soooo much highlighting with the mouse!
Sexlightened
Packard Bell have a very active forum, where other owners help each other out with problems. I used their collective knowledge when I had a problem with a what should have been a straightforward memory upgrade.
Not sure what the policy is on external links of this nature so if it gets removed PM me and I'll send it to you:
You have to register to be able to post to the forum, but it costs nowt and they don't spam you at all.
Good luck.
Edited for spelling error.
Not sure what the policy is on external links of this nature so if it gets removed PM me and I'll send it to you:
You have to register to be able to post to the forum, but it costs nowt and they don't spam you at all.
Good luck.
Edited for spelling error.
Sexlightened
Quote by MrFC
As a leftie I've played cricket but hold the bat right handed golf as well
Meself too. Left handed, but can't work out how to hold a golf club or cricket bat left handed - just doesn't feel right. If I could it might cure my vicious slice.
I also use a mouse right handed and it feels perfectly natural.
Kettles with one guage has been mentioned here too. I'm forever leaning over the sink to see how full the kettle is.
Sexlightened
Quote by Jags
Interesting link. According to the report, purchases in the departure area will be allowed on board, so one could actually buy a laptop or mobile phone or perfume...
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It doesn't say that AT ALL...
Quote by BBC webreport
Those travelling to the US will be able to purchase goods for consumption in the airport but no additional items, other than those on the list, can be carried onto the aircraft.
What the page at actally says is:
Any purchases made in departure lounges will be permitted onboard aircraft, with the exception of those flying to the US.
Those travelling to the US will be able to purchase goods for consumption in the airport but no additional items, other than those on the list, can be carried onto the aircraft.
So you are both right.
Sexlightened
You might be allowed to take hand baggage in the cabin when you come back - unless you are in the US.
I've just had a look at the BA web site and it says:
"With immediate effect, the following arrangements apply to all passengers starting their journey at a UK or United States of America airport and to those transferring between flights at a UK airport."
And at the end of the item it says:
"Customers travelling to the UK from overseas airports may be subject to local airport restrictions and therefore customers should plan to travel with the very minimum of hand luggage."
This suggests to me that the restrictions are not global, but depend on the territory you are travelling from.
Enjoy your time away.
I've just had a look at the BA web site and it says:
"With immediate effect, the following arrangements apply to all passengers starting their journey at a UK or United States of America airport and to those transferring between flights at a UK airport."
And at the end of the item it says:
"Customers travelling to the UK from overseas airports may be subject to local airport restrictions and therefore customers should plan to travel with the very minimum of hand luggage."
This suggests to me that the restrictions are not global, but depend on the territory you are travelling from.
Enjoy your time away.
Sexlightened
Quote by sheddy
I've had to step in because no one has mentioned the mighty Zonda yet
Isn't Zonda the model name - made by Pagani Automobili?
(Looks for a Smug Grin icon)
Sounds dead knowledgeable, but in reality I didn't have the first clue until I went Googling for a web site to see what a Zonda looked like.
Sexlightened
Quote by felixx1416
Acura, Alfa Romeo Audi Aagland AC Abarth AC Schnitzer Alpina Austin
BMW Baldwin Motion Bentley Bond British Leyland
Chevrolet Chrysler Citroen
Dodge
Envemo Elfin Cars Effedi
Fiat Ford
GMC
Honda Hyundai
Infiniti
Jeep
Kia Koenigsegg
Lancia Lexus Lincoln lamborghini
Mahindra & Mahindra Maruti Mazda Mercedes-Benz Mercury Mitsubishi
Nissan Noble
Opel
Peugeot Pontiac Porsche
Qvale
Renault Rover
Saab Scion Seat Skoda Subaru Suzuki Shellby
Tata Toyota Triumph
Ultima
Volkswagen Volvo
Westfield Willys/Willys-Knight
Yugo
Zagato
Sorry got carried away then realised i really need to get out moreops:
You are Jeremy Clarkson and I claim my £5.
Sexlightened
I can heartily recommend "The Killing Joke" by Anthony Horowitz. It's his first book for adults (he has written lots of books for children, one of which has just been made into the James Bond Jr film). And it's not too long at 262 pages in the hardback variant. Got mine for less than £3 in The Works.
"The Killing Joke" is one of the funniest, most original books I've ever read. Basically, a bloke overhears some builders telling a joke in a pub, he objects to the subject of said joke and gets a headbutt for his trouble. He then decides to find out where jokes come from, and the rest of the book is about his efforts to track down the originator.
Ben Elton's "Inconcievable" is very good, too.
In a previous book-related thread I have already sung the praises of "Rocket Boys" by Homer Hickam.
Finally - for this book thread, anyway - "Incompetnece" (sic) by Rob Grant (one half of the creators of Red Dwarf) is good.
"The Killing Joke" is one of the funniest, most original books I've ever read. Basically, a bloke overhears some builders telling a joke in a pub, he objects to the subject of said joke and gets a headbutt for his trouble. He then decides to find out where jokes come from, and the rest of the book is about his efforts to track down the originator.
Ben Elton's "Inconcievable" is very good, too.
In a previous book-related thread I have already sung the praises of "Rocket Boys" by Homer Hickam.
Finally - for this book thread, anyway - "Incompetnece" (sic) by Rob Grant (one half of the creators of Red Dwarf) is good.
Sexlightened
I use a hair remover made by a company called Beauty Formulas. It works a treat for me, without any redness or stinging. I'm told that some hair removers can stink, but this one has a pleasant smell.
I trim with scissors first, then smear the cream on.
I get it from Morrisons, but I'm sure it must be available from other places, too.
I trim with scissors first, then smear the cream on.
I get it from Morrisons, but I'm sure it must be available from other places, too.
Sexlightened
Homer Hickam's "Rocket Boys" is excellent. It was the book that was turned into the film October Sky, though I have not seen the film as I think it would probably spoil a great book. It's the first (and best) of a trilogy, the others being "The Coalwood Way" and "Sky of Stone".
Also I would recommend Anthony Horowitz's "The Killing Joke", which is the funniest, most original book I have read for a long, long time. AH has written books for teenagers up until this, his first adult book.
Stephen King's "Hearts In Atlantis" and "Dreamcatcher" are good, and more than just the "usual" blood and gore.
Richard Preston's "The Hot Zone", a fascinating book on Ebola, my fave fatal disease. :shock: Actually, all of Richard Preston's books are immensely readable.
Finally, on the train home tonight I finished "Sorting Out Billy" by Jo Brand. Quite funny, as one would expect if you like her humour.
Also I would recommend Anthony Horowitz's "The Killing Joke", which is the funniest, most original book I have read for a long, long time. AH has written books for teenagers up until this, his first adult book.
Stephen King's "Hearts In Atlantis" and "Dreamcatcher" are good, and more than just the "usual" blood and gore.
Richard Preston's "The Hot Zone", a fascinating book on Ebola, my fave fatal disease. :shock: Actually, all of Richard Preston's books are immensely readable.
Finally, on the train home tonight I finished "Sorting Out Billy" by Jo Brand. Quite funny, as one would expect if you like her humour.
Sexlightened
There are some very funny things in this thread, but some very worrying things, too. My biggest fear in life is to be lumbered with another bunny-boiler, and there seem to be a few of them lurking out there!
My example would be… You know it’s not right when a couple send a “Meet tonight†message, but when told that a) there was not enough notice and b) she wasn’t what I was looking for, they called me a timewaster.
My example would be… You know it’s not right when a couple send a “Meet tonight†message, but when told that a) there was not enough notice and b) she wasn’t what I was looking for, they called me a timewaster.
Sexlightened
The writers of The Simpsons have never revealed what state Springfield is in.
A cinema manager in Seoul, Korea felt that The Sound of Music was too long, so he shortened it by cutting out all the songs.
Scooby Doo's first real name is Scoobert.
Breath, by Samuel Beckett, was first performed in April, 1970. The play lasts thirty seconds, has no actors, and no dialogue. And no customers I would expect.
Pnigophobia is the fear of choking on fish bones.
Achluophobia is the fear of sitting in the dark.
Phobophobia is a fear of fearing. Ah, a recursive loop!
Pentheraphobia is a fear of a mother-in-law.
:sleeping:
A cinema manager in Seoul, Korea felt that The Sound of Music was too long, so he shortened it by cutting out all the songs.
Scooby Doo's first real name is Scoobert.
Breath, by Samuel Beckett, was first performed in April, 1970. The play lasts thirty seconds, has no actors, and no dialogue. And no customers I would expect.
Pnigophobia is the fear of choking on fish bones.
Achluophobia is the fear of sitting in the dark.
Phobophobia is a fear of fearing. Ah, a recursive loop!
Pentheraphobia is a fear of a mother-in-law.
:sleeping:
Sexlightened
My microwave oven - can't cook to save my life.
The sort of environment in which I live - I woud hate to have to live on a high density estate again.
Books.
NOT having kids. Can't stand 'em, and have always known I didn't want any.
My bed - oh, how I love my lay-ins on a weekend. :sleeping:
The sort of environment in which I live - I woud hate to have to live on a high density estate again.
Books.
NOT having kids. Can't stand 'em, and have always known I didn't want any.
My bed - oh, how I love my lay-ins on a weekend. :sleeping: