Swinging or sofa? That's the dilemma I face today. There's a swinging club half a mile away from me. I am quite tempted to go tonight as I haven't been in a while. Last time I went I met a nice couple, but they won't be going tonight.
However, I am feeling lazy, and wouldn't mind just sitting in front of the telly. I am not helped by the fact that a giant spot has appeared on my chin (syphillis?). It's not very visible, it's one of those spots that pulsates and rumbles inches below the skin. But it feels visible, so I don't feel very sexy.
Also, I had a wank earlier, and now all the sexual energy has floated off into the ether (well, the mattress).
Still, I should consider myself lucky to have a swinging club on my doorstep.
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GregLondon
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 50
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Corriefem, that's very good advice. I think that all sexual decisions have consuequences and that you do need to be careful. Having said that, the only way I ever learn is by making mistakes (fortunately not serious ones).
I think the problem with sexuality arises because men are told that if they are straight they should not find men attractive in any way, shape or form. Whereas in reality there are plenty of straight men who can appreciate the looks or sexiness of a man. And there are also plenty of straight men who have dabbled and decided that at the end of the day they prefer pussy to cock.
I think the problem with sexuality arises because men are told that if they are straight they should not find men attractive in any way, shape or form. Whereas in reality there are plenty of straight men who can appreciate the looks or sexiness of a man. And there are also plenty of straight men who have dabbled and decided that at the end of the day they prefer pussy to cock.
Ian Wright is quite short. He got rejected by a lot of football clubs because they thought he was too small to make it. And he seems a bit too manic when I see him on TV. But still, each to their own.
I think the most interesting part of this discussion is the number of white women (and men) you see in the ads, asking for black guys. I think black guys still have a kind of totemic sexuality in the eyes of many white people. There's a quasi-racist notion of black men as untamed savages with vast sexual appetites...
I think the most interesting part of this discussion is the number of white women (and men) you see in the ads, asking for black guys. I think black guys still have a kind of totemic sexuality in the eyes of many white people. There's a quasi-racist notion of black men as untamed savages with vast sexual appetites...
You've answered your own question in the first post you made.
Do NOT try to fit in with a crowd. Be yourself. Can you imagine a girl saying "Oh, I really like that guy... he's never willing to offer his own opinion, and he tries to blend in with the crowd."
Just relax, be yourself, be honest.
Do NOT try to fit in with a crowd. Be yourself. Can you imagine a girl saying "Oh, I really like that guy... he's never willing to offer his own opinion, and he tries to blend in with the crowd."
Just relax, be yourself, be honest.
It's a tricky subject. I've been with all sorts of people, colours and creeds.
Everyone has their own taste in terms of aesthetics. If someone doesn't find black/white/indian people attractive, there's not a lot you can do. There's no need to be politically correct, because attractiveness is not something you can fake - either the you find someone attractive or your don't.
Having said that, I do find it a bit strange, simply because there are so many different ways for someone to be attractive... people can have attractive bodies, sexy faces or erotic personalities - I can't imagine I'd ever want to rule out a whole section of people before I'd even met them. I mean... I am white, but I look totally different to Ewan Mcgregor or John Prescott, who are also white, so I'd feel a bit strange if someone said they wouldn't meet me because I was white, because they'd have no idea whether I was sexy or not.
Hmmm... also, I went with a lot of transexuals, and they are one of the few people where whites are a minority. The majority of the girls I met were Thai, Chinese, black or filipina... and very sexy too.
Everyone has their own taste in terms of aesthetics. If someone doesn't find black/white/indian people attractive, there's not a lot you can do. There's no need to be politically correct, because attractiveness is not something you can fake - either the you find someone attractive or your don't.
Having said that, I do find it a bit strange, simply because there are so many different ways for someone to be attractive... people can have attractive bodies, sexy faces or erotic personalities - I can't imagine I'd ever want to rule out a whole section of people before I'd even met them. I mean... I am white, but I look totally different to Ewan Mcgregor or John Prescott, who are also white, so I'd feel a bit strange if someone said they wouldn't meet me because I was white, because they'd have no idea whether I was sexy or not.
Hmmm... also, I went with a lot of transexuals, and they are one of the few people where whites are a minority. The majority of the girls I met were Thai, Chinese, black or filipina... and very sexy too.
History is just that: history... it's not who you are now, although it our pasts obviously contribute to our present.
The reason I asked the question is because most people here like to give the impression that they are sexually confident and sexually omnivorous... and so it's nice to be able to show people that we all started out as nevous fools (well, I certainly did) and that even late starters or people with sexual issues can end up having a great time.
The reason I asked the question is because most people here like to give the impression that they are sexually confident and sexually omnivorous... and so it's nice to be able to show people that we all started out as nevous fools (well, I certainly did) and that even late starters or people with sexual issues can end up having a great time.
Phew! I have spoken to the mods and sorted that all out. For some reason they seemed to think I was a journalist. I am NOT a journalist (I wish I was, then I wouldn't be quite so skint).
I was asking this type of question because I am genuinely interested in people's sexual histories. I wasn't expecting many people to answer, but I was hoping for open, honest answers because I've been pretty open and honest myself. I wasn't expecting it to lead to accusations that I was a hack!
Just to recap: I am neither Lois Lane nor Peter Parker. I have NO secret identity and do NOT work for the Sun!
I was asking this type of question because I am genuinely interested in people's sexual histories. I wasn't expecting many people to answer, but I was hoping for open, honest answers because I've been pretty open and honest myself. I wasn't expecting it to lead to accusations that I was a hack!
Just to recap: I am neither Lois Lane nor Peter Parker. I have NO secret identity and do NOT work for the Sun!
One of the strange/interesting things about this forum is that there are all sorts of people with different levels of experience. And one of the frustrating things is that some people seem quite genuine, and some people are clearly just fantasists who like the idea of swinging, but run away when it becomes a reality, and not just something to wank about.
Anyway, I thought it would be interesting to hear people's sexual history and why/when they started exploring their sexuality.
I guess I'll start. I was always quite shy and was a bit of a late starter with girls, but university got that sorted and I ended up sleeping with a few girls, snogging a lot more and generally having a good time.
I had a number of steady relationships and explored a bit sexually, but it was all pretty "vanilla". Then about 3 years ago I split up with a girl and decided that I would have some fun while i was single.
I went onto a few gay chatrooms and ended up getting in on with some nice, sexy guys. But my real curiosity was always transexuals and transvestites, so I immersed myself in that for a year or so and had a very strange, but enjoyable time. The highlight was a threesome with two Filipina "girls".
After all that, I decided that for all the fun involved with guys and tv/ts I really preferred women, and since then I've had a few relationships and a few flings. I ended up going to a swingers night a month or so ago and having sex with a couple as quite a few people watched.
So, I guess I've had sex with men, women and TV/TS and tried most things, but in my own way I still feel quite naive. I think there's lots to learn about people... and the real hardcore isn't sex, it's committment!
Right... now it's over to you.
Anyway, I thought it would be interesting to hear people's sexual history and why/when they started exploring their sexuality.
I guess I'll start. I was always quite shy and was a bit of a late starter with girls, but university got that sorted and I ended up sleeping with a few girls, snogging a lot more and generally having a good time.
I had a number of steady relationships and explored a bit sexually, but it was all pretty "vanilla". Then about 3 years ago I split up with a girl and decided that I would have some fun while i was single.
I went onto a few gay chatrooms and ended up getting in on with some nice, sexy guys. But my real curiosity was always transexuals and transvestites, so I immersed myself in that for a year or so and had a very strange, but enjoyable time. The highlight was a threesome with two Filipina "girls".
After all that, I decided that for all the fun involved with guys and tv/ts I really preferred women, and since then I've had a few relationships and a few flings. I ended up going to a swingers night a month or so ago and having sex with a couple as quite a few people watched.
So, I guess I've had sex with men, women and TV/TS and tried most things, but in my own way I still feel quite naive. I think there's lots to learn about people... and the real hardcore isn't sex, it's committment!
Right... now it's over to you.
Hah! I am just happy to get a reply.
I think your reply is very good. I think it's important to be firm but diplomatic with people.
As for the explanations, I think there are quite a few people who think that they are god's gift to sex, and can't believe that people wouldn't want to shag them.
I think your reply is very good. I think it's important to be firm but diplomatic with people.
As for the explanations, I think there are quite a few people who think that they are god's gift to sex, and can't believe that people wouldn't want to shag them.
