I don't have an ad and my profile makes it fairly clear that I'm not actively looking however I still get mail saying nice ad and when do I want to meet. I reply to those that are just saying hello but not to those who obviously can't be bothered to alter their multi-mailshot to a personal message.
In my alter-ego as a couple, we recently placed an ad, being quite specific about what was required, location, dates, what we wanted in reply. Of all the mail we got, only one sent what we asked for and fitted the rquirements of the ad. Should we reply to all the others that either couldn't read or just thought what the hell, I'm not what they're looking for but I'll reply anyway?
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but I do "do" handbags lolThere is an assumption that if you look at someone's profile, you are interested in them. I have a shit memory and I use chat, if someone talks to me I look at their profile, even though I may have looked at it ten or so times before. It doesn't mean I'm interested, it just means I'm reminding myself of who I'm talking to. I have a stilted conversation with someone and then they mail me asking if I want to meet on the grounds of me looking at their profile. If I'd wanted to meet I would have made it clear(ish) while chatting. I don't think knowing who'e looked at your profile is all that important, but if you want it - you have to pay for it. Simple as that, it's not cheating you that you now have to pay for it, it was a bonus that for a short time you didn't have to.
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I've just watched this. Good grief how many other things are we supposed to feel self-consious about? I felt like giving that painter a slap, and like the woman said, get him to get his todger out so we could all see how perfect that was, or not, as the case may be. I've never been particularly confident about my body (to put it mildly) but this is one thing I've never had an issue with, strangley. Not because I think mine is nice (I don't), I think if anyone gets as far getting up close and personal with it, they should consider it an honour, not spend their time in judgement. If they don't like it, more fool them 
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A lot of men think that women want 'huge' which isn't always the case. If I was confronted with 'huge' I'd run a mile. I'm not going to lie and say it doesn't matter at all, it does - to me, at least. A little larger than average is nice but I watch some porn films with my legs crossed 'cos I'm thinking 'there's not a cat in hell's chance of him getting near me with that'
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No-one is saying all single males are time wasters, in the same way they're not saying all couples/ single women are saints. But a lot of people have been messed around by single guys, not because they are all bad but because there are more of them. Simple maths, if there's 1,000 single guys and 10% are shit heads, thats 100 shit heads. The same percentage of 100 couples only gives you 10 - so less people will have been mucked about by couples.
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I have seen some couples - usually the male half - behave abismally towards single guys in chat. They seem to forget they are only one forgotten anniversary away from being in the same position. I tend to treat people how they deserve to be treated, ie if they talk to me pleasantly I reply in the same manner. Some of the rudest things I've had said to me in chat was from couples.
But on the subject of single guys actually being single, you'd be amazed at the percentage of guys who have a single profile who are married/with someone.
There is some snobbery I think, but then there are a lot of single guys who are pushy and rude - it's only a higher number because there are more single guys here than anything else (working on a ratio basis), there are a lot of couples who are too, and single women. It's just down to numbers at the end of the day.
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But on the subject of single guys actually being single, you'd be amazed at the percentage of guys who have a single profile who are married/with someone.
There is some snobbery I think, but then there are a lot of single guys who are pushy and rude - it's only a higher number because there are more single guys here than anything else (working on a ratio basis), there are a lot of couples who are too, and single women. It's just down to numbers at the end of the day.
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It's increadably rare for me to meet a guy I fancy enough to want to have sex with, in all the time I've been here I've yet to arrange a succesful meet with a single guy - so now I don't bother, saves me getting my hopes up and saves them accusing me of being a timewaster (even though I only ever arrange a social meet first). There have been guys I'd like to have become friends with, only to find they were only interested in spending time with me if they were going to get a shag out of it. One left me in the middle of town on my own after we'd arranged to go out for a social night out (which I thought had been made pretty damn clear) and he asked if I wanted to go back to his place - I said no, he just left. Charming.
I'm not sure which is worse, feigning friendship in the hope that you'll have sex with them or telling you straight up you're not worth spending time with unless the get to have sex.
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I'm not sure which is worse, feigning friendship in the hope that you'll have sex with them or telling you straight up you're not worth spending time with unless the get to have sex.
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Quote by Peanut
Your post gives insight to your problems, i.e. the thick walls and the DECT phone, both of which will interfere with wifi reception. The other thing that can cause slow down is numerous other wifi stations who are close and on the same channel (changing to another of 1,5,9,13 can sometimes help).
"Rangemaster" is Netgear's response to trying to get faster speeds and longer reception distances. Each of the large network component manufacturers have similar sorts of schemes utilising different methods of achieving the same goal. There is also a new wifi standard currently in ratifications , which takes the .11g 54mbs up to 74mbs but that won't be finalised until Dec 2009.
Whichever of the manufacturers you choose, and Netgear is one of the better ones for consumer use, you will need a router and a matching network card for each computer you want to use with it if you want to take advantage of the extra 'power'.
Failing that, you could always use your electric mains as your network cable. There are devices that will allow you to do that. They aren't particularly expensive, but they aren't particularly quick either but compare well to wifi speeds.
That sounds intriguing, how might one go about it?
And if the isn't finalised yet, how can you buy routers with it available now?
I'm being dense aren't I...........
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Wifi isn't the be all and end all that a lot of people think. It does have limitations, the prime one being range especially if there are walls in the way.
It also depends on other things in the way like DECT phones and microwaves as examples (it works on a similar frequency to bluetooth and microwaves, i.e. the block). It also depends on which wifi protocol/speed is being used eg, B or G etc.
Things can be improved by using routers and network cards using faster protocols (which also add better range through obstacles) like "Rangemaster" and other similar non-ratified standards.
To optimise the connection you already have it's best to have the base station as high as possible and away from DECT base stations.
I'm using wifi purely for the practical solution of having a long house with thick walls and I don't really want to start running cables around the place. The router is plugged in to the only BT socket in the house, as is the DECT phone but I can't really move either because of the possitioning of the pugs, and the fact that they're situated in the middle of the house and at the moment there is reception at both ends, all be it low. What is 'Rangemaster' and would I need to get a new card (currently )?
I apologise if, to those in the know, my questions area little basic but I'd rather appear a fool here than in Curry's/Dixon's/PC World (other outlets available)
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