Still don't quite get SHREP but then we've never found it a draw back to be quite honest.
Most of the other stuff on your off putting list seems very similar to what irks us, Especially the Proffesional, profeshional, proffessional bit. Especially, as so said, prufeshunals should be able to f*cking spell PROFESSIONAL when it appears on their profile blurb. Anyway what the hell is a so called 'professional' nowadays? Do you get a certificate saying "Professional doctor or professional school teacher" No I don't think you do. More a thing about being competent in specific set of skills nowadays I'd of thought.
Another thing that puts us off is profiles that say things such as ***NO SINGLE MEN WE ARE NOT INTERESTED AND DO NOT WANT YOU DO YOU UNDERSTAND YOU ARE WASTING OUR TIME***(Lifted from an actual profile) and going on about it in that fashion.
Or other profiles that list two dozen no's no's to meeting people. OK can understand having preferences but some go on and on and on. For goodness sake it's not as though your looking at marrying your next meet and your bringing them home to meet your parent. For these people I reckon it would be easier for them to take their genitals in their hands, look in a mirror and rub furiously until satisfied because it seems that the person your looking at in the mirror is your ideal meet.
I could go on...Oh, I already did.
For us Valentines is always 'us' time so we stay away from planning any play at that time. Same goes for birthdays. Others might feel the same, although, the clubs seem to get jammed packed then so maybe we are the exception rather than the rule
One day I'm going to to college and learn SHREP lol
Meeko's right - its nothing do with new ppl in although the crashing is bloody bad tonight
Yup yup n yup same from us
I know it sounds a bit pap but knowing that a neuro surgical operation, fraught with OMG what is going to happen type thoughts and possibilities, my Mrs had late in 2010 was 90% successful and has made a big difference. We know and realise how very lucky and fortunate we have been.
For a few of our friends and acquaintances from SH. We know that 2011 has been a god awful year full of change,pain and/or uncertainty, and to them, we extend our very best wishes, sympathy and empathy. truly hope that they find peace and have a far better 2012. they all truly deserve that.
I tried sniffing it, as a school kid, from a bottle bought from an ad in a sex mag. Got a 30 second 'Like WTF is going on here' type buzz followed by the feeling that something was clawing on the inside of my head, with an ice pic, not nice!
Poppers have also been used widely within the gay community for years as a preparation to receiving a cock up the ass. The idea is that the popper is sniffed immediately before someone hoofs it up your butt and that the 'high' is so intense and immediate that it overwhelms any feeling of discomfort, and also relaxes your bum muscles, from the immediate penetration. This I may add is information told to me by friends who are a 40+ something gay couple who partied hard in their youth.
According to my kids I was born....yesterday!
I reckon you answered your own question in part Skinny as paying for sex is and is horny in its illicitness.
I guess the idea of paying for sex is a and a no no for me is that I believe that its one of the last things that one person can give to another freely and willfully and for that reason having sex with someone else is a privilege and makes, and should make, one feel special. Paying for it is an emotionless transaction therefore just acquired.
For others the detachement might very well be a factor as well as possibly the idea they maybe doing it behind their partners back could also be a bit of a kick. Maybe living out fantasies that they have that their partners won't/can't indulge. Other times we might just need sex, after all most of us have sexual needs, and if there's no other option freely available otherwise. Then paying for it makes it available but not freely.
Know what your saying about pigeonholing and labeling Essex, and for the most part I agree, although there has to be some sort of distinctions made in some areas of life so as to be able to know how to approach people and situations in an appropriate way.
We definitely approach swingers in a different way to our non swinging friends but how we do can vary very much, obviously as people and attitudes and vales they and we hold vary greatly. For instance. My oldest and closest pal is a church minister so to be too open to him would not be fair on either of us yet I value his friendship massively. He would be appalled at what we do so I label him as a non-swinger, seems a fair label to me lol. It is difficult though as I'd love to share that part of our lives with him but i'm not going to compromise his position and our friendship
As Swingers we really love keeping company with other swingers socially as well as sexually. How brilliant is it to be able to talk about anything and everything with people who swing and know what the score is. also think it spills into other areas of conversation too. I guess one drawback is that, and I hate to admit it, but I'd prefer to seek out the company of swingers more so than those who aren't. Is that bad?
In fact I's say that our bestest buddies are people we've met through swinging and even though we mat not do the do with them or may of started off doing the do with them, and the fact that we love their company socially, means that even though we don't swing with them anymore, or so much at least, we still seek their company and cherish their friendship more than ever we though could happen.
At first when we started out about seven years ago we knew that swinging could possibly become complicated and give stresses and strains where there were none before but we we're at the very least secure with each other. What we didn't expect is swinging to change the rest of the world we lived in, The people the places the things we do and who we do them with. all to the good I might add.
Same as Funlovers here really. Its been known to have a manic week and then its been known to be 6 months or more but i guess in 6 years on here swinging (not inc socials etc) about once every two months at most. Thats why I guess we're not lifestylers just hobbyists lol
I'll get me coat 
