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Quote by brucie
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.
If you hit the submit button it would have been posted. If we had removed it you would definitely have known why!
And just to move this on a bit. Whether he is bi or not and whether he is willing or not to admit does not give people open season to either try and 'out' him or ridicule him for it. Be careful what you post.
Mal
Quote by ANDSAM
Really or u winding be up lol
Winding you up because your post seems like either a wind up or the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Think about it, you can't even recall what the other guys were like from nearly ten years ago, why should anyone remember someone who hardly got them swinging from the chandelier - now that's the sort of meet people remember for years!
Forget your quest and find some new guys for her.
Mal
Firstly, make a post in the Let's Meet Up' forum. Members will then see who else is going as they add their name to the thread.
Secondly, invite the single guys. Some couples wont attend if you have barred them from coming. It's a social, you're having a drink and meeting people, why not let them come? Even if only guys turn up you will have laid the foundations for your next one which is likely to get more attending if the first one is known to be successful.
Thirdly, keep it simple. You don't need anything fancy, just a pub that everyone can travel to that has reasonable priced drinks. You don't need to lay on food as they can all arrange that themselves. Make it the sort of 'do' that everyone can chat to each other without shouting and without being overcrowded.
But above all, make everyone welcome and don't forget to enjoy yourself! You'll learn from your first one to make subsequent socials even better!
Mal
Secondly, invite the single guys. Some couples wont attend if you have barred them from coming. It's a social, you're having a drink and meeting people, why not let them come? Even if only guys turn up you will have laid the foundations for your next one which is likely to get more attending if the first one is known to be successful.
Thirdly, keep it simple. You don't need anything fancy, just a pub that everyone can travel to that has reasonable priced drinks. You don't need to lay on food as they can all arrange that themselves. Make it the sort of 'do' that everyone can chat to each other without shouting and without being overcrowded.
But above all, make everyone welcome and don't forget to enjoy yourself! You'll learn from your first one to make subsequent socials even better!
Mal
Quote by foxylady2209
I'll ask again - any chance the prevailing discussion full of really, really LONG posts could be taken into its own thread? It isn't a letting off of steam any more - it's a full blown discussion/argument with the usual reams and reams of quotes.
I'm all for the discussion taking place - and in the open is fine by me if it's ok with the posters. But it seems to have moved on from Steam and transformed into Fog.
Quote by easy
@ Foxylady: Sorry, but we don't have the ability to split threads any more, so we can't meet your request.
Mal
I'll be staying in a hotel in Blackburn over the Bank Holiday weekend and would like to know if anyone fancied meeting up, either at your place or at my hotel? I know there's a meet arranged at a club in Blackburn on Friday night, but I'm not keen on going as a single male and unfortunately Sarah will not be with me :sad:
I'm riding up on Friday and back 'darn sarf' on Monday, so if anyone en route who can offer a cup of tea and a fig roll, I'm easy!!
(Actually I'm not Easy, cos Easy is Easy. I'm just flexible!! )
Let's make it a great Bank Holiday! :bounce:
Mal
I'm riding up on Friday and back 'darn sarf' on Monday, so if anyone en route who can offer a cup of tea and a fig roll, I'm easy!!
(Actually I'm not Easy, cos Easy is Easy. I'm just flexible!!
)Let's make it a great Bank Holiday! :bounce:
Mal
Quote by Funlovers2009
Hiya,
sorry to hear about your bad experience, it gives nice couples a bad name, you should name and shame them on here so for two reasons, so no one else will be put in that same situation and that admin gets to know and they get kicked off SH, you really should report them they should not get away with treating you like this. Hope your ok and it hasnt put you off meets.
Take care
Jon & Beth xx
We don't name and shame on this site.
Mal
Granted that you don't name and shame as there is always two sides to every story. However this token, one line suites all seems more like "We take your money, give you a forum to arrange meets and if it all goes wrong we wash our hands of it".
Is there a system in place where reports on profiles are logged and kept? If the worst came to the worst could the system be interrogated by police? I am sure that the police could interrogate the system and if it was found that you (SH) had not acted on users concerns, reports etc would "Sorry but we don't name and shame" be seen as an adequate excuse for your lack of action.
If there is a system in place for dealing with such incidents as outlined in this thread (which I think is a horrid situation) and its not the only situation like this that we have heard of and in all of these incidents (as far as I'm aware) nothing has been done to protect the users of this site.
if someone has been assaulted, then it's a criminal matter and should be dealt with by the police, not Swinging Heaven Admin. If the original poster wants to report the other couple to Admin, he can and we can investigate, but only to the extent that we can check if others have made similar allegations. If no-one has and this is the first, then at least we have a start point.
As you say, there are two sides to every story and in the case of a criminal incident taking place, would you really want or expect us to investigate? Swinging Heaven Admin would and do, co-operate with the authorities where necessary.
as for this:
However this token, one line suites all seems more like "We take your money, give you a forum to arrange meets and if it all goes wrong we wash our hands of it".
Doesn't even warrant a response.
Mal
I agree with most of what you are saying, however,Your post "We don't name and shame (with a wink)response to something that could have been quite serious and the user felt strongly enough about the incident to post it what actually half hearted and a lets bring that old favourite back out. This post only got a full (well almost full) response in an almost knee jerk reaction when someone questioned the manner in which the site conducts its self and the level of support, advice and protection that it offers its users.
At no point did I ask Youto carry out a criminal investigation nor would expect you to from the comfort of your arm chair. The real question is how SH deals with such allegations and if the information is collated and if needed, acted upon.
As for
However this token, one line suites all seems more like "We take your money, give you a forum to arrange meets and if it all goes wrong we wash our hands of it".
Is actually a quite a pertinent statement given your initial input into this thread!!
Have a look back at my posts - mearly every single post I have ever made has :wink: after my name. It's something I have used for years and is almost a trademark (to me anyway).
That level of protection you talk about extends to all members, including those who may be libelled by someone making unfounded allegations in a public forum. That could be anyone. You don't know the truth, only what one person has said. Who is to say that what he said is the full story? That's why the options are to report it to admin (which he hasn't) and/or go to the police. What more do you really expect us to do? If the original poster felt so strongly about it, why has he not reported it? Posting one half a story in an open forum is not reporting it, it's telling a story.
as for what you describe as a pertinent statement, I find it quite offensive that you have such a low opinion of the people who run this site. I fail to see exactly what you expect them to do once a meet has been arranged. This is a website, we're not your minders.
Mal
no smilie
Oh, and for your information, I also have a working knowledge of the law and the rules involved with gathering of evidence and intelligence used to act upon criminal cases and this, as it stands, is too low a grade of intelligence even for the police to act upon. He needs to contact them to make a statement, not post it anonymously on a website.
Quote by twiceasmuchfun
Hiya,
sorry to hear about your bad experience, it gives nice couples a bad name, you should name and shame them on here so for two reasons, so no one else will be put in that same situation and that admin gets to know and they get kicked off SH, you really should report them they should not get away with treating you like this. Hope your ok and it hasnt put you off meets.
Take care
Jon & Beth xx
We don't name and shame on this site.
Mal
Granted that you don't name and shame as there is always two sides to every story. However this token, one line suites all seems more like "We take your money, give you a forum to arrange meets and if it all goes wrong we wash our hands of it".
Is there a system in place where reports on profiles are logged and kept? If the worst came to the worst could the system be interrogated by police? I am sure that the police could interrogate the system and if it was found that you (SH) had not acted on users concerns, reports etc would "Sorry but we don't name and shame" be seen as an adequate excuse for your lack of action.
If there is a system in place for dealing with such incidents as outlined in this thread (which I think is a horrid situation) and its not the only situation like this that we have heard of and in all of these incidents (as far as I'm aware) nothing has been done to protect the users of this site.
if someone has been assaulted, then it's a criminal matter and should be dealt with by the police, not Swinging Heaven Admin. If the original poster wants to report the other couple to Admin, he can and we can investigate, but only to the extent that we can check if others have made similar allegations. If no-one has and this is the first, then at least we have a start point.
As you say, there are two sides to every story and in the case of a criminal incident taking place, would you really want or expect us to investigate? Swinging Heaven Admin would and do, co-operate with the authorities where necessary.
as for this:
However this token, one line suites all seems more like "We take your money, give you a forum to arrange meets and if it all goes wrong we wash our hands of it".
Doesn't even warrant a response.
Mal
Quote by Jonbeth2007
Hiya,
sorry to hear about your bad experience, it gives nice couples a bad name, you should name and shame them on here so for two reasons, so no one else will be put in that same situation and that admin gets to know and they get kicked off SH, you really should report them they should not get away with treating you like this. Hope your ok and it hasnt put you off meets.
Take care
Jon & Beth xx
We don't name and shame on this site.
Mal
It's nothing to do with curbing free speech, it is about the safety of those involved, be they marchers, spectators, people who live along the route and the police themselves.
Yes, let them march, but only where the safety of all involved is not compromised. If that means an alternative route, what's wrong with that? If you're driving along a motorway and you have to divert off because of a problem ahead, is that eroding your right to free speech? I don't think so, just using common sense.
Mal
Yes, let them march, but only where the safety of all involved is not compromised. If that means an alternative route, what's wrong with that? If you're driving along a motorway and you have to divert off because of a problem ahead, is that eroding your right to free speech? I don't think so, just using common sense.
Mal
Quote by Dave__Notts
Coals to Newcastle springs to mind!
I think that you might like to put more effort into your profile and maybe some pics if you are hoping to attract someone to come with you. All expenses paid holidays to Thailand don't come cheap, so knowing something about you should help people make up their minds.
Good luck.
Mal
Free holiday to Thailand? Do you think he would notice my stubble if I put a frock on?
Dave_Notts
Sorry Dave, even the bad lady boys over there look a lot better than you in a frock!
:rotflmao:Best you don't book any time off! :lol:
Mal
:wink:
Coals to Newcastle springs to mind!
I think that you might like to put more effort into your profile and maybe some pics if you are hoping to attract someone to come with you. All expenses paid holidays to Thailand don't come cheap, so knowing something about you should help people make up their minds.
Good luck.
Mal
I think that you might like to put more effort into your profile and maybe some pics if you are hoping to attract someone to come with you. All expenses paid holidays to Thailand don't come cheap, so knowing something about you should help people make up their minds.
Good luck.
Mal
Set a date.
No point 'gauging opinion' if no-one has a clue whether the date is suitable. If you set a date and everyone says they can't make it, change it to another one.
Once they have a date they can make their own arrangements, like babysitters, time off work, travel arrangements.
No date = no commitment.
Hope that helps
Mal
No point 'gauging opinion' if no-one has a clue whether the date is suitable. If you set a date and everyone says they can't make it, change it to another one.
Once they have a date they can make their own arrangements, like babysitters, time off work, travel arrangements.
No date = no commitment.
Hope that helps
Mal
