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MikeNorth
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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Quote by duncanlondon
yeah does anyone remember Rendezvous? Black and white 3/4 inch photos and a brief few words. there was no fine detail and no internet stuff, but we managed in those days.
Yes, some people are still using the same pics on their profiles here
Good grief. I mean I was using rendezvoue at least 20 years ago. There were some other ones as well. It was Goldstar Publications and such like?
There were also Experience, Vibrations, Silk Swingers, and Exposure, all published by Kentfern. There were about 20 ads to a page, but only very few had a pic with the ad.
In the days before the internet, when meets were arranged by classified ads and the phone, it was quite common to arrange to meet someone without seeing a pic. It made it slightly more exciting in a way, adding a certain mystique. But those days have gone now. Although I might still be prepared to meet someone without seeing a pic, I've always been asked for a pic myself.
I’ve been reading and posting here in this forum for over seven years, but the only way I regard myself as one of the “old guard” is that I can remember what the forum has been like through all those seven years, through all the ups and downs it has had. I can even remember several posts like yours during this time – the lament “What’s happened to this forum!” is not new at all.
The anonymity that the internet affords attracts all sorts of people who want to use that freedom to be idiotic, angry, hurtful, cruel, pompous, absurd, obscene, etc, etc, and many internet forums including this one have had their fair share. And when the arsey types seem to predominate, it is always liable to send the reasonable ones away after a while. I have used a particular internet forum (nothing at all to do with swinging) for a few years where I now only post facts or things from my own experience, so fed up have I become with being told pompously I was wrong by antagonistic or superior types – you know, the ones who begin every post with “obviously”.
When this forum has gone through quiet phases in the past, it has usually revived itself again. But that was before the era of facebook, twitter, etc, which are two of the increasing number of alternative ways members here have of keeping in touch.
A few people in here have met me at socials and munches, and we keep in touch from time to time, but I have never expected anyone here to defend me from (reasonable) attack by others, although, as Nola rightly put it, members are bound to post differently if they are addressing someone in here whom they know, compared with someone they don’t know. That’s just being human.
The anonymity that the internet affords attracts all sorts of people who want to use that freedom to be idiotic, angry, hurtful, cruel, pompous, absurd, obscene, etc, etc, and many internet forums including this one have had their fair share. And when the arsey types seem to predominate, it is always liable to send the reasonable ones away after a while. I have used a particular internet forum (nothing at all to do with swinging) for a few years where I now only post facts or things from my own experience, so fed up have I become with being told pompously I was wrong by antagonistic or superior types – you know, the ones who begin every post with “obviously”.
When this forum has gone through quiet phases in the past, it has usually revived itself again. But that was before the era of facebook, twitter, etc, which are two of the increasing number of alternative ways members here have of keeping in touch.
A few people in here have met me at socials and munches, and we keep in touch from time to time, but I have never expected anyone here to defend me from (reasonable) attack by others, although, as Nola rightly put it, members are bound to post differently if they are addressing someone in here whom they know, compared with someone they don’t know. That’s just being human.
As another single male on this site I understand your frustrations, and I have a few suggestions which you can regard or disregard.
To me your profile seems a bit too long. I know it's a dilemma, as for every member here who declares that they like a nice detailed profile, there seem to be many who just don't or can't allow themselves time to judge someone. But I still think it's too long, and rather too philosophical in tone. Some of the details about who you are and what you are looking for could wait until you make contact with someone who is curious about you. I also think your first sentence about "lazy people" sets a superior tone which would put some people off.
I think you have too many pics. I would also have at least one or two pics of you showing at least part of your body unclothed. I don't mean necessarily pics of you whanging your donger (or even showing it), just some visual evidence that you are seeking sex and not a date, for those who look at pics first.
Don't you think that some members seeing the username "Loveshell" might think you are a female named Shell (Michelle)?
If the bi-curious element in your makeup is as tiny as you say it is, wouldn't it be better to describe yourself as straight?
I'm not saying my own profile is perfect, indeed there's no such thing as the perfect profile, but I just had a few thoughts which you can regard as helpful or not as you wish.
To me your profile seems a bit too long. I know it's a dilemma, as for every member here who declares that they like a nice detailed profile, there seem to be many who just don't or can't allow themselves time to judge someone. But I still think it's too long, and rather too philosophical in tone. Some of the details about who you are and what you are looking for could wait until you make contact with someone who is curious about you. I also think your first sentence about "lazy people" sets a superior tone which would put some people off.
I think you have too many pics. I would also have at least one or two pics of you showing at least part of your body unclothed. I don't mean necessarily pics of you whanging your donger (or even showing it), just some visual evidence that you are seeking sex and not a date, for those who look at pics first.
Don't you think that some members seeing the username "Loveshell" might think you are a female named Shell (Michelle)?
If the bi-curious element in your makeup is as tiny as you say it is, wouldn't it be better to describe yourself as straight?
I'm not saying my own profile is perfect, indeed there's no such thing as the perfect profile, but I just had a few thoughts which you can regard as helpful or not as you wish.
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hwoar: back in here...
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I agree with those who urge you to cut the text down. When people contact you and you set up a dialogue, then it's the time to go into the precise details of what you are seeking.
Also, correct me if I'm wrong, you are both at the bi-curious stage only. Is it not jumping the gun a bit to give yourselves a user name with "bi cpl" in it?
Also, correct me if I'm wrong, you are both at the bi-curious stage only. Is it not jumping the gun a bit to give yourselves a user name with "bi cpl" in it?
