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I believe Fry's phrase was something like "Religion....arse gravy of the worst sort"
That was Fry's comment on Dan Brown's The Da Vinci Code...not the same thing.
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MikeNorth
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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Yes, a former member, Alexandra, changed her username to DarkSparrow years ago. Presumably a mod on here set it for fun so that the name Alexandra always changed by automatic formatting to DarkSparrow. I remember asking a mod at an SH social in June 2007 why this rather confusing setting was still operating. I think they said they would look into it, but obviously nothing happened!
Quote by Geordiecpl2001
We only having been involved with swinging via the internet, can we ask how the pre-internet stuff worked?
How did swingers find each other?
Was it a letter with a photo enclosed to make a date for a social meeting, then someone booking a hotel room for a later date? Presumably there were no swingers clubs in the 70s?
John & Shel
In the 1980s there were contact mags with classified ads, where you replied by letter to a box number - you would include your phone number (and some included photos), and from then on arrangements would be made between people by phone. From the late 1980s there was the classified ads paper Loot (in the London area where I lived anyway) which used voicemail replies - again people usually replied and gave a phone number. You usually ended up meeting without exchanging photos beforehand, which is very different from now! All the meets I had were at their place or mine, there were not all the Travelodges and Premier Inns there are now, so hotels were not so common or so cheap. There were a few swinging clubs from about 1992 onwards - I knew one or two people who went to them, but they were run very discreetly, usually connected to a night club or restaurant. Hope this helps.
Hi and welcome to the forums. Others have covered many of your interesting questions, and Srne's answer in particular is a fine response.
Might I add a word of advice? Don't go on so much about being old. There are plenty of members on here who are older than you (including me) and most do not go on about age. I meet members of all ages on here, as many others do, and age does not loom as large in many people's minds here as you might think. The user name you have chosen is distinctly unflattering, and might not help you. Maybe it's ironic, I don't know.
I might think of more later, but for now, good luck.
Might I add a word of advice? Don't go on so much about being old. There are plenty of members on here who are older than you (including me) and most do not go on about age. I meet members of all ages on here, as many others do, and age does not loom as large in many people's minds here as you might think. The user name you have chosen is distinctly unflattering, and might not help you. Maybe it's ironic, I don't know.
I might think of more later, but for now, good luck.
Quote by jay786_1
Im new to this but it seems hard to get action
Come in, come in, we have hot and cold running women on tap for you night and day...
On the other hand, why not write a proper profile saying what you can offer, instead of just demanding stress release. And sorry but you might have to write more than one line to attract anyone's attention.
Also it's a bit confusing: you have a single male profile, yet in one of the comments you've left you refer to "the mrs.". Maybe that's another thing you need to clarify.
Good luck.
Quote by Smooth2
If you are hell-bent on flashing do it in the daylight and let everyone have a look, but choose your locations.
I wouldn't encourage anyone to get up to this dangerous activity at any time of day at any location. Accidents can happen any time anywhere - a driver only needs to be distracted for a few seconds. Is it really worth the risk?
Let's look into this response a bit closer:
"'This is a swing site not find a mate"
This is true, although it's entirely up to each of us how we use the broad scope the site affords us.
i'm not into granny sex
Is this not an attempted humorous (though not very funny) reference to you putting your age as 108? (Not that I can talk, I'm 2010!)
"but hole is goal no matter how slack."
Yes, offensive, but doesn't it reflect more upon himself and his own attitude than upon you, as he is acknowledging that you don't want to meet him?
"Happy trawling"
Nothing offensive there - people regularly refer to "trawling the ads", or profiles.
Maybe it's more a sort of frustrated self-deprecating irony than insulting to you. Not that I would ever write anything like that.
"'This is a swing site not find a mate"
This is true, although it's entirely up to each of us how we use the broad scope the site affords us.
i'm not into granny sex
Is this not an attempted humorous (though not very funny) reference to you putting your age as 108? (Not that I can talk, I'm 2010!)
"but hole is goal no matter how slack."
Yes, offensive, but doesn't it reflect more upon himself and his own attitude than upon you, as he is acknowledging that you don't want to meet him?
"Happy trawling"
Nothing offensive there - people regularly refer to "trawling the ads", or profiles.
Maybe it's more a sort of frustrated self-deprecating irony than insulting to you. Not that I would ever write anything like that.
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Sorry Nola, didn't know you were in Scotland.
I'm not. I'm in the Republic of Liverpool and it is pouring down.
I was in Yorkshire last week and I got a sun tan! I want more sun.
I am proper grumpy. :mad:
Ooof, sorry. You should come back to Yorkshire, it weren't that bad today.
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For the benefit of us poor wee innocents on the forum... um, what's a troll - in this particular instance? We aren't talking Billy Goats Gruff here, are we?
Sappho awfully confused, but then, confuses easily...
Hi Sappho, they're not talking "trip-trap trip-trap over the ricketty-racketty bridge" in this instance, but this:
...(edit: but you have to click on disambiguation to find it).
Quote by Versace Vase
Dont want to pay the earth, but i dont want a tesco special if you know what i mean?? What do you use? Is it a good bit of kit? Look forward to hearing your ideas please. You never know.. One day... you may get the chance for the Vase to show you his gratitude.
I think you're being ironic.
Quote by ANDSAM
hi again,
i still cant find a download link for this or any playback site...can anyone suggest??
It doesn't seem to be available to download or playback - not everything is, is it...maybe some day. Why don't you contact Landmark Films who made it: it was called "Real Wife Swaps" and was made in 2004.
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How do you know though that you're approaching someone who isn't going to be completely shocked and horrified though?
I think I'd be too worried about them making a scene.
I am normally a good judge whether they will be "up for it" or not, Never completely horrified any of them yet :lol2:
I could not imagine anyone being horrified by an up for it Tannie, nor an up for it Nola...just :-P:-P:-P
Quote by duncanlondon
i think scaffolders probably score the most. mainly because they are macho animals and are just so obviously up for it. also they are on the job temporary, so if there's any embarassment it won't be for long.
.....or maybe it's because their work has a close connection with the word "erection".
I used to be an assistant to a milkman on his round a long time ago. Unfortunately this was years before Victor from Big Brother coined the chat-up line I could have used: "They call me the milkman, because I always deliver." :twisted:
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My opinions have changed on this as I've got older and stuff has happened to me. I think it's fair to say I am morally ambiguous on the subject.
I have been cheated on and not really cared and I have been cheated on and it broke my heart. What changed was my depth of feeling for the individuals concerned and not my feelings towards the act of cheating.
I have also been unfaithful in a relationship, so I suppose I find it hard to be on any kind of moral high horse at all.
As far as swinging goes, all I ask is that people are honest with me. I'd rather know upfront than find something out later. I'm not sure it'd put me off a meet because I don't really think I'm in a place to judge anyone else.
If I were to ever be in a relationship again, then I would love to trust my partner enough for it to be an open relationship. Till then, I'll continue to be a somewhat morally fluid swingle!
This coincides more or less with my stance on the matter. I used to rule out playing with "cheaters" but had a rethink at one time and realised that I should respect other people's decisions about their activities, and not get on any moral high horse, though I do expect people to be honest with me.
One thing that does surprise me is the risks some people take, I mean risks that they will be found out by their partner. I have had one or two swinging contacts where I have been invited to their house while the person was alone. Even when I was younger I was never agile enough to be go shinning down a drainpipe, and I value my safety. So now I ask a few more questions beforehand. Maybe it adds to their excitement, but I don't wish to be in any situation where I might be in danger!
If she says she is not keen, there is nothing you can do. Swinging is a minority interest, and however highly-sexed someone is, it does not mean they will be interested in swinging. There is no magic technique for persuading a partner to try swinging - even if you get half a dozen replies here from female halves of couples, saying that they weren't keen on swinging at first but now they love it, I don't see how that will help at all.
By the way, if you do manage to spark her curiosity, how are you going to explain that you describe yourself in your ad as having been "on the swinging scene for four years"?
By the way, if you do manage to spark her curiosity, how are you going to explain that you describe yourself in your ad as having been "on the swinging scene for four years"?
