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Mr_D_and_HotTart
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 57
Bisexual Female, 62
0 miles · Hereford and Worcester
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In my experience, women lie about men's cock size too! Several time I've had women say "my god that's at least x inches, but never once have I heard a number that's been remotely realistic (and yes, I am a sad git who measured... all in the name of research, you understand!)
It's always nice to have your ego massaged, but I don't advise any man to believe the hype
It's always nice to have your ego massaged, but I don't advise any man to believe the hype
Munches... not just because you can meet 100 people in a night and think 'yes/no/maybe' (or in my case yes/yes/oh god yes please 
) but because there's always the chance of that spark in someone's eye who you didn't think would be interested from their forum posts. Text is a rich medium, but it can't compete with seeing someone's face while you chat.
) but because there's always the chance of that spark in someone's eye who you didn't think would be interested from their forum posts. Text is a rich medium, but it can't compete with seeing someone's face while you chat. Quote by Mal
...how much more can we do?
I've often wondered if pre-approval of ads might require less work for the mods - not putting the ads up until a mod has seen them?
Might work well for the 'women seeking men' section, which seems to suffer a particularly high percentage of fakes and blokes posting because they think that's the palce to go if you want a woman seeking a man.
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Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.
It's quite difficult to write anything on the subject without either putting in gender based pronouns or sounding very, very odd, but what I wrote was intended to apply equally to all genders/ combinations of genders. I think Communication, Confidence, Compatibility and attraction to Shape are important for both parties, and in all situations if the sex is going to be particularly good.
Tryfun, please engage brain before posting!
This is a social meeting, which will probably be in a pub or restraunt. I'm not sure about the pubs you go to, but round here the chances of 'pleasuring' a complete stranger over the bar without being noticed are pretty slim!
Take a look at the terminology page (in the left hand menu) and you'll see what these mettings are like:
"..a purely social event held in a totally neutral environment, often somewhere like a pub, where members of Swinging Heaven get to meet each other. As there's no play involved everyone can relax which gives newbies a chance to ask questions of the more experienced without any fear of getting jumped on, and gives the regulars time to catch-up with old friends and make new ones.
...The exact location is kept strictly secret between the organisers and those who have been invited; strictly secret before and after the event. Organisers will usually only give out the exact location information to those who are invited just a few days before the event."
Also, "A Munch is open to all - couples, singles, Gay, Bi, CDs, etc., there are no limits. The exception to this is the brand new newbie, i.e. those who have just joined the site or have not been an active participant."
My advice is to hang around the site a bit more, get yourself known, and then ask for an invite when you know what to expect!
This is a social meeting, which will probably be in a pub or restraunt. I'm not sure about the pubs you go to, but round here the chances of 'pleasuring' a complete stranger over the bar without being noticed are pretty slim!
Take a look at the terminology page (in the left hand menu) and you'll see what these mettings are like:
"..a purely social event held in a totally neutral environment, often somewhere like a pub, where members of Swinging Heaven get to meet each other. As there's no play involved everyone can relax which gives newbies a chance to ask questions of the more experienced without any fear of getting jumped on, and gives the regulars time to catch-up with old friends and make new ones.
...The exact location is kept strictly secret between the organisers and those who have been invited; strictly secret before and after the event. Organisers will usually only give out the exact location information to those who are invited just a few days before the event."
Also, "A Munch is open to all - couples, singles, Gay, Bi, CDs, etc., there are no limits. The exception to this is the brand new newbie, i.e. those who have just joined the site or have not been an active participant."
My advice is to hang around the site a bit more, get yourself known, and then ask for an invite when you know what to expect!
IF YOUR PICTURE IS TOO BIG:
Use the free resizer software here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/personal/jql/
Use the free resizer software here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/personal/jql/
FOR THE FORUMS:
You need the strip of text that has "Hotlink for Forums" written after it, it's just under your picture on the imageshack page, as I said before.
Once you have highlighted it, click your right mouse button and choose 'copy' from the menu that appears.
Now go to Swinging Heaven, and start writing the mesage you want to put the picture into. Right click in that messsage, while you are writing it and choose 'paste' from the menu that appears.
Now your message should have the strip of text in it that you got from image shack.
That's all there is to it, when you press 'submit', that strip of text will magically be replaced with the picture!
You need the strip of text that has "Hotlink for Forums" written after it, it's just under your picture on the imageshack page, as I said before.
Once you have highlighted it, click your right mouse button and choose 'copy' from the menu that appears.
Now go to Swinging Heaven, and start writing the mesage you want to put the picture into. Right click in that messsage, while you are writing it and choose 'paste' from the menu that appears.
Now your message should have the strip of text in it that you got from image shack.
That's all there is to it, when you press 'submit', that strip of text will magically be replaced with the picture!
Nearly there then!
You just need to copy the "Hotlink for Forums" link into your posting. Look for the box just under your picture on the imageshack page you see when you've uploaded it, it will have a big long string of code in it similar to this:
and it will have "Hotlink for Forums" written after it.
You need to select that line of stuff (but not the "Hotlink for Forums" text after it) and copy it into your post on SH. If you are happy using cut and paste, that should be easy, but I can explain in more detail if needed.
You just need to copy the "Hotlink for Forums" link into your posting. Look for the box just under your picture on the imageshack page you see when you've uploaded it, it will have a big long string of code in it similar to this:
and it will have "Hotlink for Forums" written after it.
You need to select that line of stuff (but not the "Hotlink for Forums" text after it) and copy it into your post on SH. If you are happy using cut and paste, that should be easy, but I can explain in more detail if needed.
An interesting topic (what makes someone good at sex, not Errol Flynn's habits)...
I guess we can only go by our own observations, and I suppose one man's 'good at sex' might be another's 'intimidating' or 'lifeless'. With that said, here's my list:
1. Communication
2. Confidence
3. Compatibility
4. Shape
Expanding a little... Communication: Maybe because I'm a giver more than a reciever, but if I'm not sure that we are both enjoying things, then it's not good sex. Good sex isn't something that you do to someoneone, it's something you do together. If you are lying there thinking 'I wish he'd move left a bit' or whatever, and you don't let me know somehow, then how can we be having good sex? Feedback, constructive criticism, and mutual agreement on what we are going to do next are all important for me.
Confidence: Not just the confidence to leave the lights on, but the confidence to ask for things, or suggest things without fear of putting the other person off.
Compatibility: Some people just click better with others. Put simply a sub and a dom are usuallygoing to work better than 2 subs or 2 doms, but this applies to levels of attractiveness, body shapes, attitudes, levels of experience, willingness to be kinky, choice of kinks and so many other things.
Shape: Call me shallow, but if I don't fancy you very much, then the sex isn't going to be great. Sorry!
I guess we can only go by our own observations, and I suppose one man's 'good at sex' might be another's 'intimidating' or 'lifeless'. With that said, here's my list:
1. Communication
2. Confidence
3. Compatibility
4. Shape
Expanding a little... Communication: Maybe because I'm a giver more than a reciever, but if I'm not sure that we are both enjoying things, then it's not good sex. Good sex isn't something that you do to someoneone, it's something you do together. If you are lying there thinking 'I wish he'd move left a bit' or whatever, and you don't let me know somehow, then how can we be having good sex? Feedback, constructive criticism, and mutual agreement on what we are going to do next are all important for me.
Confidence: Not just the confidence to leave the lights on, but the confidence to ask for things, or suggest things without fear of putting the other person off.
Compatibility: Some people just click better with others. Put simply a sub and a dom are usuallygoing to work better than 2 subs or 2 doms, but this applies to levels of attractiveness, body shapes, attitudes, levels of experience, willingness to be kinky, choice of kinks and so many other things.
Shape: Call me shallow, but if I don't fancy you very much, then the sex isn't going to be great. Sorry!
"Lost" here too - there's a 3 week gap before the next Episode (in the US schedule - thanks to Bittorrent I'm about a year ahead of the UK broadcasts), and I've got the shakes!
"Desperate Housewives" too - but I'm trying not to download Series 2 yet.
But mostly, I'm addicted to the internet. I've got it bad... I can unwittingly go from 11pm to 4am in thie blink of an eye, via a constant series of 'I wonder what's been posted over there since I last looked' going round half a dozen sites in turn!
"Desperate Housewives" too - but I'm trying not to download Series 2 yet.
But mostly, I'm addicted to the internet. I've got it bad... I can unwittingly go from 11pm to 4am in thie blink of an eye, via a constant series of 'I wonder what's been posted over there since I last looked' going round half a dozen sites in turn!
Glad to see you are getting over your nervousness, Tinksy. It's a pity you didn't go to the Rios meet or the Essex Drinks meet that you put your name down for, as you would have found that we do welcome newbies!
As for pubs in Romford, I don't know the area too well, but I'd avoid the really busy binge-drinkers paradise/semi-night club ones on South Street, maybe I'm an old fogey, but I can't hear myself think in there.
As for pubs in Romford, I don't know the area too well, but I'd avoid the really busy binge-drinkers paradise/semi-night club ones on South Street, maybe I'm an old fogey, but I can't hear myself think in there.
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men look good in:
black pvc pouches/thongs
dinner suites
red pvc pouches/thongs
dinner suites
good quality (preferably intalian) business suites
dinner suites
hard hats
oh and did i mention..................................dinner suites?
All you need is the red indian and you've got the Village People!
Thanks to all who turned up, it was a great evening. If any of the no-show/no apology people are reading this, you need to be sorry twice - once for letting Helen down, and once for yourselves for missing out on things!
To clear up the confusion about the topless dancing... The venue was quite spectacular (and I really hope the low turn out doesn't prevent a return), being a huge balcony/mezannine bar suspended over the middle a trendy nightclub, where a lively haloween party was going on. We didn't have any access to the club, and the clubbers didn't have any access to the munch, but we could peer over the balconies either side of the munch area and see what was going on downstairs... and during the topless dancing downstairs, quite a few of us did! So munch rules were strictly followed, and everyone upstairs was indeed strictly social only... even if it is a little anti social to line up along the edges of a munch facing the other way
To clear up the confusion about the topless dancing... The venue was quite spectacular (and I really hope the low turn out doesn't prevent a return), being a huge balcony/mezannine bar suspended over the middle a trendy nightclub, where a lively haloween party was going on. We didn't have any access to the club, and the clubbers didn't have any access to the munch, but we could peer over the balconies either side of the munch area and see what was going on downstairs... and during the topless dancing downstairs, quite a few of us did! So munch rules were strictly followed, and everyone upstairs was indeed strictly social only... even if it is a little anti social to line up along the edges of a munch facing the other way
Adding my thanks to Chardonay for organising a great little night out, and to all who attended for making it so friendly and entertaining.
Great to meet a few new faces - and to make friends with a few people I'd briefly met but not had a chance to talk to before.
Those huge hungover breakfasts are legendary, I may not need to eat again for a week!
Great to meet a few new faces - and to make friends with a few people I'd briefly met but not had a chance to talk to before.
Those huge hungover breakfasts are legendary, I may not need to eat again for a week!
