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Quote by hornyred and dino
just to say hello to are newbies to this forum tho not to swinging so thought we could make new friends hopefully by using this thing tho,weve tried all day to regester in the chat room but it wont seem to crap on computers so if anyone can help we would be very n
Hi both, if you go to the cafe and read the stickies, and a few threads there they will help you with the chatroom problems. It is also the place, as a newbee to the sight Iv felt most at home... but be warned, its a den of insane humour and in jokes they are more than willing to explain to us novices.
So welcome, have a look around, and...ummmm if someone still finding her own feet can say it, make yourself at home
:welcome:
Hi Kevin, welcome to the Cafe, draw up a chair and let the waitress serve your coffee....Iv been here for a week now, and still waiting for it, but I live in hope.
(pssst insanity is not a necesary requisit for members, for full training will be given)
:welcome: :wave2:
Typical!!! you wait for ages then three come along at once!
(pssst insanity is not a necesary requisit for members, for full training will be given)
:welcome: :wave2:
Typical!!! you wait for ages then three come along at once!
Quote by butters999999
Last time I got flowers from hubby was October 4th 1990 How comes I can remember the date? It was the day our daughter was born and then he only did it because his mother told him too! Never got any when son was born (mother in law was on holiday!) Last time I got flowers was today from a close friend as a thank you.
When my daughter was born, flowers from Parents, Outlaws, and Work, from the ex? A packet of seeds and a trowel!!!!!!!!!!
I do buy flowers regularly for friends, male and female although have to admit to giving the 'plants in a basket' recently. Normally well received although I did come unstuck when a man I had a 'thing' with's girl friend opened the door to interflora and thought they were for her till she read the card (I didnt know about her!)
Quote by EnglishChris99
And an accent colour on your AVATAR
<<< Don't tell me, that's not blue?
I am blue/purple colour blind.... I can tell if people are upset or desparate I just try and make them happy
Seriously tho... most of its blue... but it goes purple at the edges... Your a victim of shading
OOPS...I miss read that as a victum of shaGing :shock: and thought yes, Im purple at the edges as well :P
Quote by Vix
For you, and anyone who genuinely doesn't know...
Each Friday, since the dawn of time (well, since about last month, really) the current Private Message victim of the week gets to choose the new PM victim of the week. To whit, we all send a PM to the victim.
Now, as I understand it, your PM should include a question for the victim to answer, so they cannot do a copy and paste answer.
Many thanks Vix
one of my many unasked question resolved....has anyone cosidered writing a newbie guide book?...All you wanted to know but cant find it in the threads? 
Al x
Quote by Vix
Can I tell you the new victim early? See, I have to go get my flu jab at lunchtime and I may not be around on the dot of 1300.
Don't wanna be late, so can I be early?
Ummmmm, as a Newbie....I have to ask ........Is a PM victim someone who's got to live with a woman without the T on 'that' week? 
hwoar:Quote by Rainbows
My sincere apologies to all - especially Mark and Mods - but since I tried to change my e-mail address I've been blocked from the site!!! So I re-registered
EEEkkkkkk - Sorry!!!!!!!
Hi Rainbows/Shy :wave2: as I said in the last pm...shy?
if its blocked do you want me to send it on to you there? Al x Quote by shynewbie
[Hey Nimbus - you could just be onto the way to go there :twisted:
hehehehehehehhehehehehehehehe Shy
:twisted: :twisted: Quote by Vix
I believe I would be bricking it and likely to woos-out if I were on my own.
bricking it is one way to look at it, thankyou Vix....I know Im not alone in my fears.
Quote by celticq
Although I'm not explaining it very well - I think I do feel exactly as you might. Firstly that I was appearing to be a fraud by presenting myself as a couple when really we were 2 singles playing together and secondly that I quite simply did not want to play on my own - the thought of meeting a couple as a single female did not appeal.
Since joining SH I have met so many folk who are useful for answering stupid questions and bouncing ideas off that I am now happy being a single swinging female - and so much more confident and able to explain to people what my relationship with my playmates is (can never think of a suitable word - surely FB is not the best we can come up with!)
Okay sorry rambling now so I'll shut up but best of luck. I'm certain that there is no better place to find your feet and make the right decisions.
Cheers
CQ
THANKYOU CQ!!!!!!!!!!!!! You explained it very well indeed! and yes hear hear about playing with couples on my own! I have done so a couple of times with people I know very well but to enter the scene as 'lone female seeks couple' doesnt appeal.
On the 'FB'/playmate question..... :idea: do I see another pole around the corner? :twisted:
Quote by midlandsman1970
why should you be so nervous? A munch is like a party, its a social event where we (the members) can meet and say HI for the first time and have a laugh.
As regards single or not, yes i class myself as single, i do have a buddy too but thats personal choice she's bi and has her life and i have mine.
Thanks midlandsman for both the reasuring PM :rascal: and the above, nervous is something we are all guilty of when what we face is the unknown, no matter how safe we are told bungie jumping is, there is always the little part of you that remembers the time you heard of a rope snapping. :grin:
Al x
Quote by Gryphon
Nimbus, a lot of us are still relatively new here - I don't think it was meant personally (more of a dig at students than our own lovely newbies - at least that's how I read it anyway!). The poll was only meant to be a bit of light-hearted irony!
G xx
The pole was taken as such Gryphon
It was a type in haste, repent at leisure moment...maybe I ought to set up a pole of my own 
...how often do you reply before considering all the angles?oops, Im outa here before Im lynched
I think if you go to a munch and then tell him about the people you met and what a great time you had, he might wish to join you next time without you having to try to persuade him.
It still doesnt alleviate the fears of the first time Ice Pie, and once the 'first time nerves' are over with, will I need him there? :twisted:
it's scary being the single femail, but maybe think about what "scares" you the most? You may find that a lot of those fears have already been bi-passed in your time here?
My bigest fear is the unknown, safety in numbers and all that.
I think you're really lucky to have a friend who at least knows what you're about. At least you have the safety of someone else at least knowing. And I'm with IcePie here too. Bet it wouldn't take him long to want to join in.
Maybe You and I'd be better off facing the unknown together shy? :evil2: the men wont know whats hit them!
Quote by roger743
There do seem to be a lot of newbies around in the last few weeks revisiting hoary old topics - maybe students who've just discovered the joys of their University's computer network?
As one of said Newbies, I have to say this is the first disdainful remark Iv seen directed at us, If Iv revisited an old topic, many apologies, but there are so many topics in the cafe to read, and Iv not got through them all yet, if something springs to mind I do admit to posting a new thread, rather than opening an old one, mainly due to not realising what has gone before.
Ok, Im siting here having given some thought to Mal pointing out Im a couple and coming to the realisation that Im actualy showing disrespect to those of you who are TOGETHER.The tearm 'couple' I use loosly to describe myself and a friend who joined me in MY exploraion of the swing scene. A little nervouse to join in as the single femail it apeared the ideal solution. I did not think he was aversed to the idea of this (to quote "Im quite Bi actualy" "would like us to join other people"...) infact he gave me the link to this sight...However Iv come unstuck, realising that the only way the two of us will be able to explore fully is to put some work in and go to Munches, (yes I understand what that is now) and clubs, but he does not want to go that route. So Im in the quandry of going on my own :shock: which I never thought Id hear myself consider, or continue trying to persuade my friend to join me.
So, am I a couple (ok, one half of a pair of f**k mates) or a single femail? :fuckinghell:
Quote by mal609
Nimbus
Nothing to do with this particular thread, but as you say you are a couple and your avatar is a female, if you are both posting on here, could you not at least post your male or female name at the end of your posts? That way we know whether we are talking to the male or the female side of the couple.
Thank you
Mal
Mal, thanks for that, I am part of a couple, but he doesnt talk, :gagged: Im TRYING to get him in to the cafe but he's a run through and look, never talk type ...so Im always the woman in the Avatar. When he eventualy joins in he wont be using this name, any help?
Quote by Keith K
I suppose the bit that gets folks in a flap is the idea that 2 is "normal" ,3 is kinky,4 or more is !!!!..If it stems from goodness,desire,playfulness,sharing then what does it matter,its a lovely thing,a gift we all have..
..oh dear ,I'm getting myself all wistful again,sorry!
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Normal? your telling me 2 is normal? after the time spent on here, I was sure I was abnormal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!woooooohooooo Im normal! :angel: with a bit of !!!! thrown in :giggle:
Quote by EnglishChris99
Rather dissapointingly it doesn't actualy have a software interface... its purely power only.
Granted its easier to use a control box rather than try and guide your mouse whilst cumming, but it would have been fun if it had software... I think everybody here would have been buying them to use along with cams and MSN.
now there's a thought for the techies amongst you, design a programmable vibrator to interface with chat, we will also need the male version so the sensation can be the same at both ends of the link up. brings a new meaning to 'safe sex'
Can I place my order now?
Quote by mojobiker
I have been mostly dealing with the girl and she and her man both want a nice slow touchy feely beginning to the evening, which is great for me because I wont feel pressured to perform and we should all be relaxed.
My only advice is to alow them to continue to lead when you get together, dont rush in. After all they dont want a bull in the china shop!
And...GOOD LUCK! :wave2: :thumbup:
Quote by Paul80
The interesting vote must be that women seem to want to watch their straight man with another man. When I asked Rachel she said she would like to see me on a man. Could I ask some of you to expand on why and to what end please? Is the poll right, is their more interest into 4 way Bi swinging? Or is it more of a fantasy. I would have said bi girl on girl would have topped the poll.
The four way Bi swing is something that is no more or less a fantasy than any other sexual act, Iv always felt that if the men in the group are interested in experiencing that then why not? If your partner is bi or curious, then isnt it better to both be open and frank about it, rather than hide it?
what the heck am I trying to write here? let me go and think Quote by maureenandtom
A couple of years ago we were in Australia. In the Sydney Morning Herald there was an article about calories in semen, overweight men and a fairly comprehensive article it was.
It said that overweight men who lost weight could expect to see an apparent increase in length of their penis by one inch for each stone lost.
Ths things Austrtalians read over breakfast. I could imagine a wife saying "Put down that Four X your bloody drongo and give that steak and eggs to the pooch. I'll get you a slice of cucumber and a leaf of lettuce."
Having lost 4 stone over the past 4 years Iv noticed that something of my anatomy has increased in size..but not an inch a stone I hasten to add. Have any other women out there noticed ths? Or maybe I can just see better now :twisted:
Umm things Australians read over breakfast? looking at some of the times postings are placed Id say the same for us :shock:
