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i would ban christmas by all means,it spoils it for my birthday

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@ fabio
Thanks very much for the info re mail settings, have now adjusted the setting
"I am not bi at all , but that is very presumptive of you and I see more and more couples doing this and it feels like it is almost bordering on being homophobic"
Appreciate the input re the bi male comments, but have to say that suggesting that it is bordering on homophobic is ridiculous to us. We have made a choice of likes and dislikes in OUR advert. Neither of us is homophobic and to suggest such a thing is just a bit of insult to us. We are all entitled to views/desires etc and if we suggest we do not want a particular sexual type to contact us, are we not entitled to do so?? We worded our ad very clearly and surely anyone who reads the ad completely is showing disrespect to us by responding to an ad that they clearly do not meet the desired criteria??
How many ads do you see with comments such as "no beer bellies " etc etc, are you going to claim that people who say this are being fattist!!!!!
Where does it stop??
@ Whipsnspurs
Thanks also for your comments, re the bi male issue, it is not just the male who does not wish any contact, the female does not wish contact with a bi male. Is her opinion not important also?? Everyone assumes it is the male person who is the one who is against contact with a bi male, in our case it is both of us.
Thanks for the replies and suggestion re the mail settings.

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would have been more thoughtful to give away his prize money to charity

Quote by Freckledbird
Perhaps everyone could sit on their hands for a few days.......

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i cant work it out...
are we meant to be encouraging or discouraging posting?????

Quote by Lost
I cant see the point in all this, I may be overly sensitive but it just seems that there is an undercurrent crappola going on. Cant ya just please get rid of the last page of this thread :-(

Quote by woohoo

i dont dispute any words on that little lecture but you must respect some threads will expect different or controversial views

Please don't look upon that as a lecture,it's just how I see this place as fun and nothing more but obviously different people have different views about SH and what they get out of it is up to them.
Its human nature that different people have different views and personalities,that's what sets us apart from each other.
It would be a boring world if everyone thot the same and dressed the same etc, altho it would be handy buying second hand clothes cos they would always fit.

Quote by keeno
The main problem is not the exchanging of 'strong views'. It is the mind state that involves winners and losers. Since you can't have a winner without having a loser and nobody wants to lose.
I suspect that a few posts here aren't going to change someones strongly held opinions.
I just think of this place as a game. A nice chat, an arguement, or joke they don't really add up to much. Sure I've learnt a lot and some of my views have changed due to what I have read but its all tomorrows chip wrappings isn't it?

Quote by woohoo
when they back down on a debate

Not everyone backs down from a debate, some just stop debating because the debate becomes a slagging match or it stops being fun and that is what this site is primarily about now, having fun,whether it be thro swinging,meeting people socially or just chatting to friends.
I have even posted stupid things to make light of the situation but to no avail, if you can't laugh at yourself then you ought to get out more. :lol:
It's not about, going to your bed plotting revenge on someone who didn't agree with your views(not meant personally to anyone).
We are all adults on here and should be behaving like them but sometimes shewwzzzzzzz it's like handgbags at 10paces :lol: :lol:

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I agree dee cee, people my not necessarily care one way or another in an argument or debate as we like to call them in the forum, but its the way the put across their views, which make them come across as a strong view.
for example, i could say to the question
'which is better butter or margerine'
i dont really care much to be honest because I dont really like either.
an ambivalent, non comittal view
or i could say
To be honest, i dont really give a flying fuck weather marg or butter is better because they are both as vile as each other and are just clogging up peoples fucking arteries anyway.
again, sitting on the fence with regards to an opinion, but put in a far differnt way that makes it seem strong or forceful.

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I agree dee cee, people my not necessarily care one way or another in an argument or debate as we like to call them in the forum, but its the way the put across their views, which make them come across as a strong view.
for example, i could say to the question
'which is better butter or margerine'
i dont really care much to be honest because I dont really like either.
an ambivalent, non comittal view
or i could say
To be honest, i dont really give a flying fuck weather marg or butter is better because they are both as vile as each other and are just clogging up peoples fucking arteries anyway.
again, sitting on the fence with regards to an opinion, but put in a far differnt way that makes it seem strong or forceful.

Quote by fabio
This is a phrase commonly used on this forum but what makes one to be described as having strong views,or is it just an excuse of surrendering from a heated debate
name calling pls

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Having a viewpoint that is strongly held, or having an opinion which you argue/defend strenuously?

Quote by keeno
I've been chatting to one of those people who lurks but doesn't post. She gave the following reasons for not posting
1. She's not clever enough, and has nothing witty or clever to say (I wonder which forum shes reading )
2. Some of the MODS like nothing more than to lock newbies threads. She named names.
So clearly we need less clever people here and less officious MODS