Time for me to take the search button for another walk?
I am going to drag this one back up to the top becuase I found it a fascinating thread when it was first posted, but also because recent events have seen me have to face the bigotry and prejudice of the Lesbian/gay community. And I make that distinction between Lesbian and Gay, by the way - becuase even within that marginalised group there is prejudice and dissension.
What prompted me to come back to this thread was a PM I recieved from a member of this site. Someone whose opinion I value and was not upset with. She just made me think again about social norms and mores. She used the word "rules", which interested me. "You know the rules of the community".
And so I find that every aspect of my life is governed by rules. Rules set by whom? As I said in a previous post - the majority? Or those that shout the loudest. Becuase those that shout the loudest are always the ones that are scared the most.
I made a decision today to remove myself from the Lesbian/Gay community here in my home town. I decided that I can't change the prejudice in that community from the inside, and have decided to get actively inolved in bi-sexual "politics". I know this isn't about swinging, but it is about trying to change people's perceptions. I think the gay/lesbian world has come far, but that doesn't give them the right to now stand up and knock back what they don't understand. Just as racism by black people agianst white is no more rigth than that of white people against black - so is prejudice within the gay community not "right". Sorry - just my opinion.
And before you start saying that it is a waste of time - cast your minds back to the Suffragettes, or something loser to my heart - I was involved in the anti apartheid movement in South Africa. I had friends thrown into detention for speaking out against what they believed to be wrong. People lost their lives - but ultimately a result was gained. It took many years - but it happened.
As for sticking your head over the parapet and getting shot for it. If it wasn't for those brave people who have stuck their head over the parpapet in many instances, we would live in a completely different world today.
Okay - getting off my soapbox now!
aRSexx :color:
Oh geez - Fee you have my sympathies!!!
Tell you what - why I don't come over and help Fee ignore you :twisted:
Just told my best bet mate about my swinging lifestyle and just got cast out out big time!!!!!
Feel very alone right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Well, to add my tuppence ......
1) I agree with Freckeldbird - if you arranged to just meet then maybe she wasn't prepared for further "stuff" happening.
but.......
2) If you specifically stated that you would only go with someone who was well - trimmed and it was agreed that thss wasn't just a social meet, then fair play. Everyone has their preferences,and averyone has a right to say "no thanks".
"No thanks" can be "no thanks" for a number of reasons and I firmly believe that you have a right to that, no matter what the reason.
aRSexx :color:
:D :D . We even watched Dr Who together :D I am one happy 'Bows right now!!!!!
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. Gawd - some people are just never satisfied 
I almost there!!!! 
I have a job that makes me feel worthy of being here. Now let me get on with it!! :evil: 