Nearly 20 years ago I lost 90% of my vision in my left eye due to colleagues larking around at work, throwing sticky labels screwed up into a tight ball (about the size of a squash ball and hard enough to bounce on a concrete floor).
I was quite surprised at how well I've adapted to basically only having vision in one eye, and to only be able to see general shapes and light in the other.
DVLA are happy for me to retain my driving licence, and it's not affected my insurance.
And the fact that I got a very nice compensation cheque from my employer's insurance, enough to be able to move from the centre of Leicester and put down a very large deposit on my house made me feel a lot better...
I'm not always 100% I'd prefer to have my eyesight back; it's something I've learnt to live with, but in a much nicer area...
Over the years I've injured my ankles and knees running, and sprained wrists at work, so I've hade to be able to hobble about on one foot, or do everything one handed for a couple of weeks and coped, but I'm not sure how I'd be able to cope should I ever lose the use of my right eye as well.
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SansSouci
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Just had an email from my friend;
Get hubby to find out how his mate likes girls to be dressed, then dress accordingly.
In warmer weather, try wearing a white see-through blouse with no bra, and leave a few buttons undone. Or leave the bottom ones undone and tie the bottom in a knot to reveal your midrife.
If you're all going out to the pub/dinner and you're wearing a very tight skirt or dress which zips at the back, try to have a "wardrobe malfunction"; pretend to try to sort it yourself so you show off your curves whilst putting your hands behind your back/bum, then get him to free it for you, so he gets a good look at you from behind and close up and can smell your purfume, and it lets him put his hands where they wouldn't normally be. Giggle and tell him he tickles.
Or, as you get into the car drop your purse so his mate picks it up for you - he gets a good look at your calf and foot. If you're feeling daring, have a problem with a shoe and ask him to sort it.
The longer you flirt with him (over the course of a few weeks), the more accidental body contact you should be initiating; you're telling him it's ok for him to touch you in a non sexual way, and if you smile at him every time he does so, then you're encouraging him to be more daring.
Get hubby to find out how his mate likes girls to be dressed, then dress accordingly.
In warmer weather, try wearing a white see-through blouse with no bra, and leave a few buttons undone. Or leave the bottom ones undone and tie the bottom in a knot to reveal your midrife.
If you're all going out to the pub/dinner and you're wearing a very tight skirt or dress which zips at the back, try to have a "wardrobe malfunction"; pretend to try to sort it yourself so you show off your curves whilst putting your hands behind your back/bum, then get him to free it for you, so he gets a good look at you from behind and close up and can smell your purfume, and it lets him put his hands where they wouldn't normally be. Giggle and tell him he tickles.
Or, as you get into the car drop your purse so his mate picks it up for you - he gets a good look at your calf and foot. If you're feeling daring, have a problem with a shoe and ask him to sort it.
The longer you flirt with him (over the course of a few weeks), the more accidental body contact you should be initiating; you're telling him it's ok for him to touch you in a non sexual way, and if you smile at him every time he does so, then you're encouraging him to be more daring.
I'm no expert in flirting, but an old school friend has a degree in psychology and when we are in pubs or restaurants or at parties she'll often watch to see who is flirting, and most of the following will send signals to her that you are flirting:
eye contact; try to make sure you are looking at him first; follow it up with the half smile - smiling with the half of your mouth closest to him/away from your hubby; this is supposed to say that you know he fancies you and that you might just fancy him too.
prolonged eye contact, and slightly dipping/turning your head when breaking eye contact, especially if you look down his body towards his crotch. And if you half smile when looking at his crotch it'll give him ideas...;
running and twirling your fingers through your hair when you talk to him;
fidgeting when talking to him - turning you body slightly away but constantly looking at him, then turning your body back to him; Apparently you're showing your profile and curves to him;
eye contact;
showing a little bit more leg or cleavage than normal, and then smiling when he notices you can see him staring at you;
the only time you should cross your arms is to bring your breasts together to highlight your cleavage. Just bringing your elbows close to your sides will have the desired effect. If you just sit there with your arms crossed your stomach and your shoulders slouched you're creating a barrier;
If you use a scrunch to keep your hair in a pony tail, use both hands to remove it and redo you hair (see running your fingers through your hair above). Only do this whilst you're talking to him so you've got his attention, as your breasts will rise as you put your hands behind your head.
asking him for help opening a stuck jar/moving furniture/pass you something rather than asking hubby;
eye contact;
make him feel he's the most important thing in your life;
laugh and smile at his jokes;
complimenting him/be interested in him as a person - what he does, how his day was etc;
bite your lower lip when you say something slightly suggestive, but don't over do this one or you'll appear nervous;
the longer you're flirting with him, the more suggestive your comments become;
picking bits of fluff (sometimes imaginary bits of fluff) off his shirt/jacket/jumper, especially useful to get his attention.
eye contact;
getting closer to him than you would normally do, then lightly touching him on the forearm when getting his attention or talking to him. At a more advanced stage you'll be brushing lightly past him as you walk by him, say in the kitchen where's there less room but still sufficient room to pass without contact;
If you're sitting next to each other, cross your legs and let the crossing foot "accidentally" touch his leg but leave it there for a second or two. Do this every time you cross or even uncross your legs. After the second time this happens, don't apologise. Always cross your legs so the leg furthest from him moves towards and touches him - that way you move your hips towards him with the suggestion that your pussy could become available. If you cross the leg closest to him away from him you are giving him the signal that your pussy is not available.
Point something out in the room by using your arm/hand furthest from him, that way you'll lean into him slightly
If you're sitting opposite at a table, "accientally" play footsy. Again, after the second time, don't apologise, just half smile at him - only he'll know why you're smiling at him;
accientally drop something and go against H&S guidelines to pick it up; don't bend your knees, bend your waist so he gets a good look at your arse.
When he leaves, get hubby to shake hands with him; that'll give you to the opportunity to kiss him cheek to cheek, and at the same time put your body against his so he can feel your breasts and legs against him, especially if you brush a leg against his crotch.
I'm sure you can kiss him suggestively with a hint of your breath in his ear - maybe you whispered something inaudible...? He won't know that, but it'll put thoughts in his mind...
You'll need hubby to pretend not to notice any of the above, or it'll be a giveaway.
I'm guessing that you possibly did most of the above to get your hubby's attention before you started getting serious/became engaged, but if you want to practice any of the above, give me or any number of males here, a shout...
eye contact; try to make sure you are looking at him first; follow it up with the half smile - smiling with the half of your mouth closest to him/away from your hubby; this is supposed to say that you know he fancies you and that you might just fancy him too.
prolonged eye contact, and slightly dipping/turning your head when breaking eye contact, especially if you look down his body towards his crotch. And if you half smile when looking at his crotch it'll give him ideas...;
running and twirling your fingers through your hair when you talk to him;
fidgeting when talking to him - turning you body slightly away but constantly looking at him, then turning your body back to him; Apparently you're showing your profile and curves to him;
eye contact;
showing a little bit more leg or cleavage than normal, and then smiling when he notices you can see him staring at you;
the only time you should cross your arms is to bring your breasts together to highlight your cleavage. Just bringing your elbows close to your sides will have the desired effect. If you just sit there with your arms crossed your stomach and your shoulders slouched you're creating a barrier;
If you use a scrunch to keep your hair in a pony tail, use both hands to remove it and redo you hair (see running your fingers through your hair above). Only do this whilst you're talking to him so you've got his attention, as your breasts will rise as you put your hands behind your head.
asking him for help opening a stuck jar/moving furniture/pass you something rather than asking hubby;
eye contact;
make him feel he's the most important thing in your life;
laugh and smile at his jokes;
complimenting him/be interested in him as a person - what he does, how his day was etc;
bite your lower lip when you say something slightly suggestive, but don't over do this one or you'll appear nervous;
the longer you're flirting with him, the more suggestive your comments become;
picking bits of fluff (sometimes imaginary bits of fluff) off his shirt/jacket/jumper, especially useful to get his attention.
eye contact;
getting closer to him than you would normally do, then lightly touching him on the forearm when getting his attention or talking to him. At a more advanced stage you'll be brushing lightly past him as you walk by him, say in the kitchen where's there less room but still sufficient room to pass without contact;
If you're sitting next to each other, cross your legs and let the crossing foot "accidentally" touch his leg but leave it there for a second or two. Do this every time you cross or even uncross your legs. After the second time this happens, don't apologise. Always cross your legs so the leg furthest from him moves towards and touches him - that way you move your hips towards him with the suggestion that your pussy could become available. If you cross the leg closest to him away from him you are giving him the signal that your pussy is not available.
Point something out in the room by using your arm/hand furthest from him, that way you'll lean into him slightly
If you're sitting opposite at a table, "accientally" play footsy. Again, after the second time, don't apologise, just half smile at him - only he'll know why you're smiling at him;
accientally drop something and go against H&S guidelines to pick it up; don't bend your knees, bend your waist so he gets a good look at your arse.
When he leaves, get hubby to shake hands with him; that'll give you to the opportunity to kiss him cheek to cheek, and at the same time put your body against his so he can feel your breasts and legs against him, especially if you brush a leg against his crotch.
I'm sure you can kiss him suggestively with a hint of your breath in his ear - maybe you whispered something inaudible...? He won't know that, but it'll put thoughts in his mind...
You'll need hubby to pretend not to notice any of the above, or it'll be a giveaway.
I'm guessing that you possibly did most of the above to get your hubby's attention before you started getting serious/became engaged, but if you want to practice any of the above, give me or any number of males here, a shout...
There is a big difference in granting asylum to those facing torture and death, and for those who face jail for falling foul of a country's laws.
Russia is pushing for anti-gay laws too.
Presumably we'll be allowing in those Russians as well?
And then every other countries' nationals if they face jail for their sexualilty?
Why stop at gays? Why not anyone who faces jail, regardless of the offence?
And what should we do with immigrants who break our laws that warrant custodial sentences?
Russia is pushing for anti-gay laws too.
Presumably we'll be allowing in those Russians as well?
And then every other countries' nationals if they face jail for their sexualilty?
Why stop at gays? Why not anyone who faces jail, regardless of the offence?
And what should we do with immigrants who break our laws that warrant custodial sentences?
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But surely the challenge for any civilised society is to cure the problem at source. Prison is not a deterrent because it is a reaction to an event. Why don't we be proactive and find out why people commit crime and solve that. Far cheaper and hey we all get a nicer society to live in!
It's all very well knocking down all the prisons and trying to educate people not to commit crime.
But what about all those immigrants which have never been educated in how to live in your Utopian society? Are we to ban them from Britain? Note; I'm not classing all immigrants and criminals.
And what about those who commit crime because of desparation? I knew someone who twenty years ago held up a shopkeeper with a knife because his mother couldn't afford to buy the weekly groceries. He did two years; when he came out he vowed never to go back in again. Now he works with offenders trying to keep them on the straight and narrow; he dispairs of those who boast on how easy it is in prison nowadays - the benefits of crime outweigh the risks of getting caught, hence the reason why they reoffend.
More police will just mean more motorists getting caught speeding, more fines and more revenue for the Home Office/Chancellor of the Exchequer.
A copper I know has the standard reply to motorists he's caught speeding who complain that he should be investigating "proper" criminals such as thieves/muggers/rapists/murderers etc: "If you and the other motorists weren't speeding, I'd be on the beat investigating "proper" theives/muggers/rapists/murderers..." Sums up the Home Office's and Chief Constables' attitude to policing - go after the easy targets and claim the number of offenders caught rise each year.
A copper I know has the standard reply to motorists he's caught speeding who complain that he should be investigating "proper" criminals such as thieves/muggers/rapists/murderers etc: "If you and the other motorists weren't speeding, I'd be on the beat investigating "proper" theives/muggers/rapists/murderers..." Sums up the Home Office's and Chief Constables' attitude to policing - go after the easy targets and claim the number of offenders caught rise each year.
The majority of the times when I enter a room and say hi I get no reply...
edited to say:
I've been into three rooms this morning and said "morning all" in all of them, and got no reply in any. In fact, in two of them, those that were chatting just carried on chatting to their "friends" so my post was a little island in the chat - most welcoming, that -, and in one room someone even said "hi" to another who had just entered the room but had not posted!!
edited to say:
I've been into three rooms this morning and said "morning all" in all of them, and got no reply in any. In fact, in two of them, those that were chatting just carried on chatting to their "friends" so my post was a little island in the chat - most welcoming, that -, and in one room someone even said "hi" to another who had just entered the room but had not posted!!
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We have a very rare free Saturday night free tomorrow...
5th January 2014.
Would any COUPLES be interested in meeting?
Regards
Andrew and Nicole x
Er, Saturday is the 4th...
As it happens I shall be in Bedford on Sunday night (the 5th) as I need to be in London Road (Elstow Road end) first thing Monday morning. Shame I don't have a female to bring to you.
I got my nickname at work years ago when a Frenchman told me he had never seen me in a bad mood no matter how bad the nightshift was going or running late, and it was a perfect example of an British Stiff Upper Lip with a hint of a Gaullic Shrug.
I learnt many years ago that if you're in a position of responsibilty at work then sometimes you have to be like a duck; all calm on the top, but underneath paddling like fury to keep going.
I learnt many years ago that if you're in a position of responsibilty at work then sometimes you have to be like a duck; all calm on the top, but underneath paddling like fury to keep going.
