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SunBunny
Over 90 days ago
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i have been thinking about this all day Jezzay and couldn't access the site to tell you that I'm sorry and white lies are perhaps NOT the way forward. I really shouldn't post first thing in the morning.
If you lack passion now - imagine what it will be like a year down the line. How will you resist the advances of others if you are unsatisfied in such a fundamental way with your new man?
If Brotha has what it takes then you have your answer. If neither are what you are essentially looking for....then there's your answer too....
If you lack passion now - imagine what it will be like a year down the line. How will you resist the advances of others if you are unsatisfied in such a fundamental way with your new man?
If Brotha has what it takes then you have your answer. If neither are what you are essentially looking for....then there's your answer too....
Jezzay,
I think a white lie is aceptable in this situation. Tell Adam you have a family do, or a meeting with a friend who is going through a hard time, or a girlie night round a mate's.....
as in all walks of life, you still have to keep your options open.
I would not feel guilty about dating more than one guy. . . .in some ways I think it would make the most interested parties work that little bit harder....
Good luck honey keep us posted.
I think a white lie is aceptable in this situation. Tell Adam you have a family do, or a meeting with a friend who is going through a hard time, or a girlie night round a mate's.....
as in all walks of life, you still have to keep your options open.
I would not feel guilty about dating more than one guy. . . .in some ways I think it would make the most interested parties work that little bit harder....
Good luck honey keep us posted.
Quote by duncanlondon
I was 27 and had sex with a woman of 65. Very enjoyable. There were some awkward moments, with positions and general flexibility, but otherwise a wonderful experience.
Like when she had to put her teeth back in?
sorry. no offence to any 65yr-old swingers with all their own teeth, of course
Quote by VenusnMars
It occured to me that a single swinger entering a couple situation must be a huge responsibilty, especially since the couple have each other to lean on emotionally, but the single person doesn't have anyone they are as close to to back them up when the nerves and possible unspoken vibes kick in.
Is there a constant worry of jealously kicking in?
Great post Venus.
Swinging with couples as a single girl is probably a lot harder than as a guy, in my opinion. The point you have made about the lack of emotional support hits the button on the head. A guy would not have the same need in such a situation.
You also have to try hard to please both - it's as if you were 'in a contract' and you don't want to disappoint. But where a couple can mostly get what they want from the situation, and even if they don't, they have each other, when you swing alone it is not you who calls the shots, unless you go in as this mega domme - which I am not. In my experience it is more a question of going along with what the couple wants because they're the ones with the boundaries. A single girl playing with a couple naturally has far less boundaries because she has no one to try not to make jealous; no one to consider except herself...and yet unique boundaries are dictated every time she meets a new couple, and it is hard therefore to lose control, or be fully relaxed. Both these things contribute to the sex, of course.
Does this make any sense?
Quote by Percy Play
for goodness sake . . . what exactly is vanilla dating?
It's dating people in the old-fashioned way, i.e. In Real Life.
You may think my posts have been somewhat over-dramatic but after 8 months of purely SH meets it is more a psychological stance with me - I find I am a lot happier knowing I am not meeting guys off SH anymore - at least not for sex. How can I 'date' a guy and be meeting 'swingers' on the side? I say 'swingers' but what I mean is guys who pretty much expect sex on the first meet, and once they have had it the chase is over (the best bit, IMHO), and they lose interest quite quickly. (As I do, for the 'relationship' is built on very unsubstantial ground - there is little or no depth and therefore cannot really last)
I feel the swinging scene is now holding me back from finding someone really special.
My posts are to explain why I won't be playing any more. I don't care what anyone thinks, they were written more for me than for anyone else.
Hope that explains a little Mr Play....
Well since sharing my vanilla thoughts with the forum I must say I've had some very interesting PMs - and I mean that in a positive way. It seems I am not alone in my opinions
and that a certain attitude attracts a certain guy. I'm not saying I will date them all because I want to look outside of SH but it's refreshing to get private thoughts and non-sex-related compliments from men who see exactly where I'm coming from.
I am not dissing swinging in any way , it is just not for me. Not as a single. Anyone who knows me will know I am naturally adventurous and I think threesomes will always feature in my life, but that doesn't make me a swinger.
SunBunny Mark 2 is about to play a whole different ballgame.
(And would like to take this opportunity to thank her dear friend PoloLady, without whom Sunbunny the Confused would not have coped at all with the overwhelming barrage of hurt and disappointment she has recently had to deal with, due to unreliable, unthinking, uncaring men. Thank you babe you mean so much. xxx)
and that a certain attitude attracts a certain guy. I'm not saying I will date them all because I want to look outside of SH but it's refreshing to get private thoughts and non-sex-related compliments from men who see exactly where I'm coming from.
I am not dissing swinging in any way , it is just not for me. Not as a single. Anyone who knows me will know I am naturally adventurous and I think threesomes will always feature in my life, but that doesn't make me a swinger.
SunBunny Mark 2 is about to play a whole different ballgame.
(And would like to take this opportunity to thank her dear friend PoloLady, without whom Sunbunny the Confused would not have coped at all with the overwhelming barrage of hurt and disappointment she has recently had to deal with, due to unreliable, unthinking, uncaring men. Thank you babe you mean so much. xxx)
Excellent thread Dammie. And a thread I am compelled to post on, especially today.
I have only had two vanilla dates with guys in about 12 years. I had my reasons, and certain circumstances come into it, but it's been a long time.
I am curious to know what it is like now that I am older, wiser and in search of something particular.
My main attraction to dating - and one I have only recently discovered - is that I want to go out for the night and meet single guys with no expectations, no assumptions that we will have sex. I want to meet real men, and not boys, men who are willing to accompany me to a pub/restaurant/club/family do without fear of being caught, or seen as too 'couply'. All this NSA is all good and well but there really does come a time when sex , and rarely good sex at that, is just not enough. I want more. I want respect and affection, I want a man to stay the night and have a leisurely breakfast, not leave when he's done. I want romance.
I haven't wanted it up till now, but along with my personal needs, I feel the quality of the men I have had the stupidity to shag on here (I make very few exceptions) has contributed to my recent decision. It came about after a weekend of one letdown after another. Bang Bang Bang. Enough is enough. I think I am worth more than that.
I will stay for my fabulous friends, and the friends I have yet to make. But I will only actively swing again as a couple, if I find a man who wants to try it. It has scarred me somewhat, to be honest, I need to stop meeting boys (convincingly disguised as men) who have no idea how to treat a woman.
So Dammie. You have given me the opportunity to tell the studmuffins on here that I ain't playing. I'm going vanilla. i love the smell anyway. Very summery.
I have only had two vanilla dates with guys in about 12 years. I had my reasons, and certain circumstances come into it, but it's been a long time.
I am curious to know what it is like now that I am older, wiser and in search of something particular.
My main attraction to dating - and one I have only recently discovered - is that I want to go out for the night and meet single guys with no expectations, no assumptions that we will have sex. I want to meet real men, and not boys, men who are willing to accompany me to a pub/restaurant/club/family do without fear of being caught, or seen as too 'couply'. All this NSA is all good and well but there really does come a time when sex , and rarely good sex at that, is just not enough. I want more. I want respect and affection, I want a man to stay the night and have a leisurely breakfast, not leave when he's done. I want romance.
I haven't wanted it up till now, but along with my personal needs, I feel the quality of the men I have had the stupidity to shag on here (I make very few exceptions) has contributed to my recent decision. It came about after a weekend of one letdown after another. Bang Bang Bang. Enough is enough. I think I am worth more than that.
I will stay for my fabulous friends, and the friends I have yet to make. But I will only actively swing again as a couple, if I find a man who wants to try it. It has scarred me somewhat, to be honest, I need to stop meeting boys (convincingly disguised as men) who have no idea how to treat a woman.
So Dammie. You have given me the opportunity to tell the studmuffins on here that I ain't playing. I'm going vanilla. i love the smell anyway. Very summery.
Quote by duncanlondon
I noticed that there has been a lot of 'the search button is your friend' advice, which is designed to kill off a thread. I think the threads should be allowed to run as it involves new people at the time and place they are available, they are allowed to contribute and develop associations through the thread. They can't do this by taking up an old thread. Its just like normal conversation really, everybody feels they must have their say, in front of those who are present, not to statues and paintings of prevous contributors.
Well said duncan, I do agree. Who could be bothered searching through so many pages?
If I see a thread about something done before, that I have posted on, I just don't bother with it. But others may find it enjoyable, people who have only been around for a week, say, and who are still finding their feet. Certain topics attract constant repetition because they are popular subjects. How many football conversations wil be going on in a pub at any time? Should we all join the same conversation?
Excellent post Sir.
I wholeheartedly agree with you and have not been posting much at all lately. I have a look every day but then leave quite quickly, somewhat saddened and nostalgic for the good old days of side-splitting banter and funny threads. I know I could start my own - I just choose not to.....but I do hope things liven up a bit.......(not that I could possibly leave).
I wholeheartedly agree with you and have not been posting much at all lately. I have a look every day but then leave quite quickly, somewhat saddened and nostalgic for the good old days of side-splitting banter and funny threads. I know I could start my own - I just choose not to.....but I do hope things liven up a bit.......(not that I could possibly leave).
A Badly Written , Over Promoted Book
I keep turning the pages in the hope that I will find something gripping to get my teeth into but with every chapter I am regretting spending my money on it. When I reach the end I am filled with both dissatisfaction, and relief that it is over. And I WON'T be recommending that author to my friends.
Polo - shall we just keep this thread to ourselves???
I keep turning the pages in the hope that I will find something gripping to get my teeth into but with every chapter I am regretting spending my money on it. When I reach the end I am filled with both dissatisfaction, and relief that it is over. And I WON'T be recommending that author to my friends.
Polo - shall we just keep this thread to ourselves???
Quote by dream_loveruk
im married with kids but cant help saying `no`, totally untrustworthy and dishonest. Not well endowed (7"), average looking, 5`09 tall and portly
Hope this post raises a laugh and at the same time provides an insight into me
It certainly tells us a bit more about you.
If your success rate is zero on this occasion please don't be surprised. I imagine the ladies on here will be too scared to contact you for sex, given your glowing credentials.
Good luck nonetheless....
what a nice munch we just had. Big thanks to DreamerHelen - fantastic venue, loved the red walls and the music. Nice one girl.
The highlight has to be meeting Misschief - :bounce: talk about exciting! I never got to say goodbye to you love, but it was FAB meeting you we must do it again sometime soon....
Also great to put names to faces and get to meet Calista and Morbius, Leprechaun (little green whore indeed... ), Ice Pie, Lucifer (you ride a bike??? ), Kit ( a picture, and so sweet-smelling..) and Kitkat, HandH, and the Scottish ladies, who arrived looking all very lush - Lucy'sweebaps are anything but...but very , erm, compelling to look at... :lol: . CelticQ I'm sorry our conversation was interrupted I really enjoyed talking to you, and Little - I will never forget you again I promise :wink:
Great to catch up with so many friends. Libra you were positively glowing in white, Chris, we must talk again next time x, Mr and Mrs Tigs thank you so much for the lift and the wonderful friendship, Euan you left so early, Dave so sorry you didnt get a Kylie ticket and Maggie, you looked knockout. EssexLady nice to meet you properly at last, Sarah1448 you are so much bubblier than I thought, GenHertsCpl hope you enjoyed TG, MikeNorth we should avoid bars with loud music :? , DukeReid you just don't stop smiling do you?...
Sure I've forgotten someone and will wake up kicking myself but it was such a chilled, sociable munch that I want to be the first to report back. And at I need to press submit and be gone.
I had a great night out. Thanks guys. xx
The highlight has to be meeting Misschief - :bounce: talk about exciting! I never got to say goodbye to you love, but it was FAB meeting you we must do it again sometime soon....
Also great to put names to faces and get to meet Calista and Morbius, Leprechaun (little green whore indeed...
), Ice Pie, Lucifer (you ride a bike??? ), Kit ( a picture, and so sweet-smelling..) and Kitkat, HandH, and the Scottish ladies, who arrived looking all very lush - Lucy'sweebaps are anything but...but very , erm, compelling to look at... :lol: . CelticQ I'm sorry our conversation was interrupted I really enjoyed talking to you, and Little - I will never forget you again I promise :wink: Great to catch up with so many friends. Libra you were positively glowing in white, Chris, we must talk again next time x, Mr and Mrs Tigs thank you so much for the lift and the wonderful friendship, Euan you left so early, Dave so sorry you didnt get a Kylie ticket and Maggie, you looked knockout. EssexLady nice to meet you properly at last, Sarah1448 you are so much bubblier than I thought, GenHertsCpl hope you enjoyed TG, MikeNorth we should avoid bars with loud music :? , DukeReid you just don't stop smiling do you?...
Sure I've forgotten someone and will wake up kicking myself but it was such a chilled, sociable munch that I want to be the first to report back. And at I need to press submit and be gone.
I had a great night out. Thanks guys. xx
Quote by PoloLady
I can think of a few 2's (MF) were I felt left out
now let me think.....hmmm. not getting you. ........or are you trying to say you have had some crappy shags with selfish guys? Surely not??? :shock:
You find them in here? In this stud paradise? :cry: You poor thing.
I found one (of many) in here.....he was so shocked when I told him what I thought of his performance I almost felt sorry for him. I said almost.
Having never had a foursome I cannot truly comment on this thread.
Well I can but I don't feel like it, I'm off to munch. ..
:lol:
Quote by foxylady 123
I prefer men with a bit of weight behind them. How else can they deliver a good pounding?
I can see where you're coming from foxy but just because the guy has a big body doesnt mean he has the necessaries to pound you with. A fit guy, with stamina and thrustability (not to mention the 'suitable' equipment), can be thin fat or in between.....
But to answer the thread question - I like my partners as fat-free as possible - although I do make exceptions with the ladies. They are just so soft and bouncy with a bit of meat on them...........
And the boobs tend to be a lot fuller.....
hwoar:......sort of bury your head in them fuller. Steph I agree this site is quite amazing in its ability to welcome and change lives...but more importantly this gives me an opportunity to tell you how grateful I am for your support, much needed, and used, in the past. You are such a genuine, caring, generous person, and if SH ever decides it needs a saint, I would vote for you.
Good luck to you hun you're a long time dead. xxxxxx
Good luck to you hun you're a long time dead. xxxxxx
