I suppose so but those who have tried to organise events know that things don't quite work out that way. As I am still a newbie compared to others and have had only one experience (not even sure I'd call it swinging as it was 1:1), I need advice on how to plan things successfully and numbers is always an important issue.!
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Tania
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 60
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Back home... On very hot summer nights we'd take the furniture out (sofa, armchairs, coffee table) and arrange it on the stone patio, then light up some special torches and share a bowl of various fruit swimming in ice cubes under the stars. We would often sing songs trying to outdo one another (my friends and I are performers).
Here in England... no one to share the tiny water feature garden with, no one to have a bbq with. One half of a couple is nothing at all - happiness to those who are in a loving relationship!
Here in England... no one to share the tiny water feature garden with, no one to have a bbq with. One half of a couple is nothing at all - happiness to those who are in a loving relationship!
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Thanks for all your advice folks xx
I havent got a partner currently so i think i'll save this for when i get a partner, even a regular meet.
A safe word sounds sensible! I just didnt know how you would tell your Dom if you'd had enough.... lol I could imagine saying "stop, i cant take it anymore", could just egg him/her on even more!! lol
thanks again for the advice xx
OK listen carefully as I am only going to say this once.
Safewords and safecalls - RUBBISH!
Regarding safewords: in the throes of passion you are 99% likely to forget about this privilege and suffer intense mental and physical trauma. This is why you need a Dom/me or Master/Mistress who is experienced and can read your body. They will be able to call it a day if they notice things have gone too far. Again, they need to be experienced to do this and you need to have absolute trust in them.
Safecalls:
Bit dodgy.
Let's assume you ask your pal to ring you at a certain time and if you don't answer for her to call the police.
Not a good idea because:
your battery may have gone flat
you may be having such a good time that you may forget to answer the phone
you may have dropped your phone and it is no longer functioning
your friend may forget to ring you anyway
you may be enjoying yourself and the ringing may bring you crash landing onto Earth
you may be /abused/killed and the police may arrive too late
you may be embarrassed if the police do break down the door to find you tied up with a big after orgasmic smile on your face...
and many other reasons.
Of course you should never meet anyone in private or go into anyone's car first time and you must always let a trusted friend know where you are, who with (give them all details of this man/woman, if necessary copy the emails to them) and what is the expected duration of your meeting. Also let them know if you are changing locations. You can agree to ring them back in an hour or two just to verify things are alright but again you must remember to ring them or they will be worried sick.
Personally I would never ever agree to meet a person for S/M purposes unless I knew some vital info about this person, i.e. full name (verified by copy of driving licence or passport), address, profession. A genuine person would have no problem providing these details but of course they must trust you, too.
It is good to read up on the subject for entertainment value but beware of having ideas planted in your head about how things should be (they never are... experienced players have long ago thrown away the manuals or use them for a good laugh).
The best advice I can give you is log on to , seek the munch page, find a munch local to you, attend, meet people, ask questions, learn. But again you can't take everyone you meet as God's envoy on Earth as there are a lot of bullshitters in the Scene who take advantage of newbies.
A final piece of advice: If it doesn't feel right, it isn't right so walk away as fast as possible! Trust your instict and don't let anyone talk you into doing anything you are not ready or prepared to do. There are no 'musts' in the Scene - it is all consensual.
Happy to discuss all the above with you in PM.
Milking the prostate is similar to titilating a woman's G-spot. Basically you stick a finger up his ass, hook it so it points to his balls, move your finger till you feel something hard when you press. That is the prostate gland. Then keep pressing it till the milk comes out. It is ejaculation without orgasm. One way to keep your man faithful to you, I hear. I have never performed the operation myself as I like to see them cum, and hear them grunt, and watch their faces.
I agree, BB is sick. This year it has collected some of the most unattractive people on earth - not just in looks but in personality, too. At least last year there was the black speech writer, the Italian and Makosi (even though she went off the rails in the process) that made the show a bit interesting. Eugene was a breath of fresh air in the end.
If any of my friends went into BB, I would probably lose respect of them. I think the show changes people in a bad way and gets in their head.
If any of my friends went into BB, I would probably lose respect of them. I think the show changes people in a bad way and gets in their head.
It is strange but when I think of my childhood I can only bring back one memory: of me sitting on an old washing machine and the girl from next door feeling up my skirt. She was 2 years younger than me but very progressed. I am sure there are more memories but somehow the state of constant sexual arousal I am in the last week seems to have obliterated them all! LOL
I think there is a problem with the setting of clocks. For example, when I look at my profile it tells me I am not online (huh?) and that I last logged on 6 hours ago (no, I didn't!). Therefore, I guess the SH clock is six hours behind GMT which could explain the discrepancy between the time shown on messages and the time you received them.
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I am not Tanina and I know no one by the name of Stuart. But thanks for the tip. I will never cease to be amazed by men using female nicks.
Which man used a female nick then?
Tanina= female, Stuart=male, Alexandra= female.
Freckledbird you are losing it, I am afraid... You used to be spot on understanding posts. The female nickname is 'Lucyfingers'. *sigh* But of course you had to type something critical; I know you well now not to be bothered.
The pain was not in the bladder, more in the kidney region and very internal (so it probably WAS the kidneys!) Oh I don't know... it is all too much for me sometimes. I think I will just be happy with what I've got and leave exploring for another time. Thanks to everyone for their answers, I have a clearer idea now of what is happening.
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Tanina - MUAH!
If it was painful, I would check it out fully before trying again.
If you ever see Lucyfingers in here - it may be worth asking him.
He has a certain knowledge in that region and may be able to offer an explanation.
Take care and hugs to you and Stuart
Alex x x x
I am not Tanina and I know no one by the name of Stuart. But thanks for the tip. I will never cease to be amazed by men using female nicks.
Thanks Jags. Most of those threads are debating whether female ejaculation exists or not - they are not describing the feeling for the woman in detail so I can compare whether what I felt was a precursor to ejaculation or not.
However, a person called Woodface seems to have some interesting points about technique and I can agree that a finger rubbing outside, near the urethra, whilst a couple of fingers are rubbing inside can cause a wonderful sensation that can lead to orgasm but it is not as unbearable as what I experienced.
I shall keep reading the posts. In the meantime, if anyone has any first-hand experience and can either verify or disclaim the possible outcome of my experience, I would be grateful to hear it.
However, a person called Woodface seems to have some interesting points about technique and I can agree that a finger rubbing outside, near the urethra, whilst a couple of fingers are rubbing inside can cause a wonderful sensation that can lead to orgasm but it is not as unbearable as what I experienced.
I shall keep reading the posts. In the meantime, if anyone has any first-hand experience and can either verify or disclaim the possible outcome of my experience, I would be grateful to hear it.
Hello girls
Long time, no see, as I had been abroad.
A strange thing happened to me a few days ago and would love it if someone could explain it to me.
I was with a regular sex partner. Had just had an earth shattering orgasm when he inserted his fingers into my vagina and began masturbating me again. It felt weird but pleasant until it got a bit too much and I had to beg him to stop. I got the feeling I was going to explode but not in an orgasm kind of way, more like wanting to have a wee but having your urethra blocked. I had strong pain internally and the feeling I was going to wee myself. He kept encouraging me, telling me this is how it should feel before a woman 'ejaculates', so I went along for a while hoping for the scientific answer to that big question but it got unbearable.
Was I a step away from ejaculation? I tried to relax my muscles but it was an impossible task. I tried to relax my brain but I was in panic. I felt that some harm was about to happen, maybe my kidneys would explode or something.
Should I let him try this again or forbid it totally? Can I actually be harmed this way? Is there an actual outlet for this tremendous built-up?
Grateful for your answers.
Long time, no see, as I had been abroad.
A strange thing happened to me a few days ago and would love it if someone could explain it to me.
I was with a regular sex partner. Had just had an earth shattering orgasm when he inserted his fingers into my vagina and began masturbating me again. It felt weird but pleasant until it got a bit too much and I had to beg him to stop. I got the feeling I was going to explode but not in an orgasm kind of way, more like wanting to have a wee but having your urethra blocked. I had strong pain internally and the feeling I was going to wee myself. He kept encouraging me, telling me this is how it should feel before a woman 'ejaculates', so I went along for a while hoping for the scientific answer to that big question but it got unbearable.
Was I a step away from ejaculation? I tried to relax my muscles but it was an impossible task. I tried to relax my brain but I was in panic. I felt that some harm was about to happen, maybe my kidneys would explode or something.
Should I let him try this again or forbid it totally? Can I actually be harmed this way? Is there an actual outlet for this tremendous built-up?
Grateful for your answers.
Glad to hear you have a name for what is ailing you and even happier to see that you have taken control of it and dealing with it as best as possible. Although we have never met, I do hold you in high regard and believe that you can beat the disease with courage and determination 
All the best!
All the best!
Funnily enough the best sex I've had has been with a guy whose limp cock resembles a baby's (honestly) and when aroused it looks like a viennese sausage (bit like a frankfurter, only shorter). It is not the appendages that matter, it is the brain that drives them and the dirtier the better as far as I am concerned ;)
Having said that, i have had a man with a huge cock and it was great impaling myself on it but bit tiring after some time as neither of us could come and there is only so much pummeling you can take before you call a tea break.
Hope the above puts men's minds at ease.
Having said that, i have had a man with a huge cock and it was great impaling myself on it but bit tiring after some time as neither of us could come and there is only so much pummeling you can take before you call a tea break.
Hope the above puts men's minds at ease.
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bluddy hell
You have been missing for some time, welcome back, I hope life is ok...........
The younger age group does matter to me, ie under 30.
Thanks for the welcome Sarah, life is OK; not brilliant, but at least the naughty thoughts have returned so there is still hope for me ;)
Please explain about the younger group - are you saying that you'd shag under 30s or not?
Does age matter? Would you rather play with singles/couples of a similar age to you or are you open to anyone who may sound interesting and have a good approach? Or is age a big to you that you cannot overcome?
I was lying in bed this afternoon imagining myself being taken by two men, but not just any men... they were mature gentlemen (60 years old and over), white haired, tall and virile. Obviously this was a fantasy but even in my fantasies I cannot imagine myself being with someone younger than me. Am I missing something?
I was lying in bed this afternoon imagining myself being taken by two men, but not just any men... they were mature gentlemen (60 years old and over), white haired, tall and virile. Obviously this was a fantasy but even in my fantasies I cannot imagine myself being with someone younger than me. Am I missing something?
