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Tania
If your getting all my pms will you pass them on please
Nah, nobody PMs me ever since I had a baby. I am now officially 'unmarketable'.
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Tania
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 60
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Quick, go to the supermarket, buy some chamomile tea, boil water, put a couple of bags in a container, pour the hot water and let brew. When tepid, use the mixture on a towel and place it on your face. Leave for 5 mins or so (as long as you feel comfortable for). Repeat as often as you like. Chamomile has soothing properties and is fantastic at combating infections. You can also use cotton wool dipped in the chamomile tea if the towel idea sounds a bit extreme.
Good luck!
Good luck!
I may not qualify as a BBW at size 32+ but here are my thoughts:
Any woman can be attractive as long as she believes she is attractive.
People who attract others are people who feel good in themselves.
I have been to BigGirlsParadise party nights in London and felt on top of the world not because I was in a place with other fat women but because I knew I looked good with my hair and makeup and clothes. I knew when I walked into the room that heads would turn and everyone would be wondering who I was. I once even dared to go in a mini dress (oh my!) because my then partner wished me to. It was exhilarating to do something so unlike me (I normally dress in dark colours, long skirts, roomy tops) and appear in pubic in a mini dress that you could nearly see my bottom and black stockings held up by a suspender belt. That night I flirted with friends and forgot all about my size.
I have also been to the same place and felt miserable and ugly because my then partner had had a fight with me and did not compliment my looks and spent time with other women. When I felt so downtrodden, nobody wanted to speak to me which made me feel even worse. This is why I say attitude is everything.
Finally in my experience men may gawk at the model type of female but they prefer a woman of substance for the longer term. Substance exists in all sizes fortunately!
Any woman can be attractive as long as she believes she is attractive.
People who attract others are people who feel good in themselves.
I have been to BigGirlsParadise party nights in London and felt on top of the world not because I was in a place with other fat women but because I knew I looked good with my hair and makeup and clothes. I knew when I walked into the room that heads would turn and everyone would be wondering who I was. I once even dared to go in a mini dress (oh my!) because my then partner wished me to. It was exhilarating to do something so unlike me (I normally dress in dark colours, long skirts, roomy tops) and appear in pubic in a mini dress that you could nearly see my bottom and black stockings held up by a suspender belt. That night I flirted with friends and forgot all about my size.
I have also been to the same place and felt miserable and ugly because my then partner had had a fight with me and did not compliment my looks and spent time with other women. When I felt so downtrodden, nobody wanted to speak to me which made me feel even worse. This is why I say attitude is everything.
Finally in my experience men may gawk at the model type of female but they prefer a woman of substance for the longer term. Substance exists in all sizes fortunately!
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I have a BBW party whenever I meet one... we play Kiss Chase, Musical Beds, Open the Parcel, Blow out the Candle, Hide the Sausage...... Lots of jelly and lashings of cream, of course.
Hours of fun.
Trouble is, I just never get to meet enough BBWs. :cry:
Welcome!
Nothing much to add to that apart from this:
Pulls tablecloth causing all bottles and glasses to fall on the floor and break, then beckons you to come near...
The above is not as meaningless as it reads. I am sure kniphofia will understand.
Agreed about over cleanliness and lack of resistance to micro-organisms at a later stage in life.
At the moment my life is not very happy. Apart from a very difficult pregnancy/labour, I have been diagnosed with DVT which has thrown me into a turmoil. Having DVT means frequent visits to hospital to have your blood checked and your medication adjusted and one can't help but wonder about the future.
Maybe this explains a bit more about the lack of time to do things that are pleasant.
Still, it is nice to read your good wishes and experiences. Would you believe it, freckledbird, that I would have one thing in life that I am not an expert in? LOL
Goodness gracious, the world is coming to an end!
At the moment my life is not very happy. Apart from a very difficult pregnancy/labour, I have been diagnosed with DVT which has thrown me into a turmoil. Having DVT means frequent visits to hospital to have your blood checked and your medication adjusted and one can't help but wonder about the future.
Maybe this explains a bit more about the lack of time to do things that are pleasant.
Still, it is nice to read your good wishes and experiences. Would you believe it, freckledbird, that I would have one thing in life that I am not an expert in? LOL
Goodness gracious, the world is coming to an end!
Nice to have a baby daughter when she is behaving herself and not crying her tiny lungs out punching and kicking the air around her, but is there life after birth? What do single mums do to entertain themselves and how do they find the time? I sometimes wonder whether I should continue my membership to SH seeing how it seems impossible to do the things I once wanted to do but never got the opportunity to do.
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Anyone got any advice on splitting with your married partner and kids? I am about to move out and finding life very hard at the momoment and drinking far too much,but cant sleep,is it posible to dislike your partner when with her,but miss her like crazy when you know she's not . I know this isnt really a swinging issue,but most swingers seem to be happy and comfortable with themselves and can offer salient advice
Love is very fickle. It comes and goes in a flash, leaving us weak in the knees or making us feel as if we've been punched in the stomach. You say your partner does not love you any more. Why is that? Have you tried talking it over with her, find out why the spark is gone? Is there another man who is giving her more than you can give (emotionally, practically)? Or is she just fed up with the daily grind of life and hopes that once free she can start living again? It can be very hard to mend bridges but believe me it is much easier than trying to rebuild a life from scratch. At least you have the basic building blocks there lying around waiting to be used...
Talk to her, like friends. After all, who knows her better than you do? You have had two kids with her, seen her at her best and worst and your relationship has lasted 8 years which must account for something surely!
I wish you all the best and please do not take to drinking for solace as this can only help to alienate her from you. No woman likes a man who crumbles to pieces at the face of adversity. Show her she can depend on you, show her that whatever happens you will be there for her and the kids, able and strong to handle life!
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Lactating women have been using them for years. A device for removing milk from the breast.
Nothing new in it but its nice to see it being used for other purposes.
Fred (never used one myself)
Fred
I think she is using just a nipple pump, not a breast pump. The difference is that the nipple pump just elongates the nipple whereas the breast pump pumps the breast and helps with milk extraction. Alas, I know of these devices only too well, but not for sexual reasons.
Angie
Be sure to use water or a water-based lubricant on your nipples before pumping. Also do not pump for too long as you can cause nerve damage and it takes AGES for the sensation to return.
Happy pumping!
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Have a good day - hope you don't have to work like me!
JBW
I am a full time mum nowadays so my day has no timetables. I just take it as it comes - can't do otherwise.
Have a good day at work tomorrow and enjoy the opportunity of interacting with people even if they can sometimes be obnoxious. Going back to the issue of using professional services... 
I met a working girl at a friend's BBQ some summers ago. At first I was shocked and did not know how to behave. Act cool? Act indifferent? But she brought me out of my misery with her effortless cheery chat and then I realised that she was just another human being and her job was not the sole thing defining her as a person.
I hired that girl some time later for a visiting friend of mine. I admired how she managed in the briefest period of time to find out so much about my friend, even things that I did not know and had never thought (or dared) to ask! I admit to feeling a bit jealous at some point. I wanted to wave my arms in the air and say 'hello? remember me? I am your friend, the one who is wonderful enough to care for your needs... please acknowledge my existence!'
The thing about this girl was that she really enjoyed meeting people and granting them their fantasies (within limits of course). She did not have to fake her excitement and pleasure because it was real. And her clients love her because even though they know they are one of her many admirers, they have her full attention for the time they are together. I met a few of her clients myself by chance. It is funny how small the world turns out to be in the end.
Anyway, nobody told our Welsh friend to go curb crawling (is that how you call it here?) He has the technology (internet) to seek out a classy lady who will fulfil his fantasies. And he should not be made to feel guilty for choosing this option till the right girl comes along. Besides, who said that pros can't form relationships with clients? It may be unethical and devastating but it can happen.
I met a working girl at a friend's BBQ some summers ago. At first I was shocked and did not know how to behave. Act cool? Act indifferent? But she brought me out of my misery with her effortless cheery chat and then I realised that she was just another human being and her job was not the sole thing defining her as a person.
I hired that girl some time later for a visiting friend of mine. I admired how she managed in the briefest period of time to find out so much about my friend, even things that I did not know and had never thought (or dared) to ask! I admit to feeling a bit jealous at some point. I wanted to wave my arms in the air and say 'hello? remember me? I am your friend, the one who is wonderful enough to care for your needs... please acknowledge my existence!'
The thing about this girl was that she really enjoyed meeting people and granting them their fantasies (within limits of course). She did not have to fake her excitement and pleasure because it was real. And her clients love her because even though they know they are one of her many admirers, they have her full attention for the time they are together. I met a few of her clients myself by chance. It is funny how small the world turns out to be in the end.
Anyway, nobody told our Welsh friend to go curb crawling (is that how you call it here?) He has the technology (internet) to seek out a classy lady who will fulfil his fantasies. And he should not be made to feel guilty for choosing this option till the right girl comes along. Besides, who said that pros can't form relationships with clients? It may be unethical and devastating but it can happen.
I saw a beautiful film recently on DVD called 'Inside I am Dancing'. It is the story of two disabled young Irish men. The film is brilliant yet it never got the critics acclaim because of its subject. Many people are naturally scared of things they cannot understand and disability is one of these things.
You are asking whether it would be wrong to turn to pros for some love and understanding. No honey, it is not wrong. Women who do this kind of job have a lot of love in their hearts for their fellow human beings and a lot of understanding. So what if you pay for their time? Wouldn't you wine and dine a girlfriend and buy her flowers and chocolates and little presents? At least with a pro you do not have to jump through a hundred loops to get to the same result. Just be careful who you choose. Make sure she is clean, both physically and mentally, and always play it safe. Maybe once you get your self confidence back, you will be able to pull normal girls at the pub or park.
Hope you find what you seek
You are asking whether it would be wrong to turn to pros for some love and understanding. No honey, it is not wrong. Women who do this kind of job have a lot of love in their hearts for their fellow human beings and a lot of understanding. So what if you pay for their time? Wouldn't you wine and dine a girlfriend and buy her flowers and chocolates and little presents? At least with a pro you do not have to jump through a hundred loops to get to the same result. Just be careful who you choose. Make sure she is clean, both physically and mentally, and always play it safe. Maybe once you get your self confidence back, you will be able to pull normal girls at the pub or park.
Hope you find what you seek
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I was wondering what the forum thought about hearing neighbours sexual activities.
I am blessed/cursed with with paper thin walls and every week I get to hear the neigbours girlfriend do her samantha from sex and the city impression, and I was wondering is it wrong to listen in or should I start charging admission money as they guy sounds as it he knows what he is doing!
Tape it and play it back to them loudly on your Hi-Fi when they've finished :twisted:
Absolutely marvellous idea! Might use it one day.
Clare, I know exactly how you feel. When it becomes so loud that it gets intrusive and disruptive, it is wrong.
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Found my Mobile Phone Girl
Well I found her last night on the same bus, this time round she gave me a smile, so I jumped off teh bus at teh same stop and said hello.
Nice girl, Jenny, 25 years old, We had a drink and im seeig her again on friday.
'Why did she take the photo' - I hear you ask
Her answer ' it got you to talk to me did'nt it'
Well she was right there so lets see what happens from here.
You are old enough to be her father... I would tread carefully if I were you. You never know if it is a bait to get you into trouble.
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I find this kind of documentaries quite annoying actually. They have nothing to say. Whether they mask themselves as the dark side or the blessing of being in the porn industry, they serve one purpose only: to get people glued to their screens to catch a glimpse of flesh. Pathetic really!
Errr...Surprised you haven't appeared in one of these documentaries. Still, guess there are some limits beyond which some people will not go. :therethere:
P.S. Glimpse of flesh - pathetic?
Sorry, I must be a pathetic glimpser then.
I have a bit more self respect than that
I find this kind of documentaries quite annoying actually. They have nothing to say. Whether they mask themselves as the dark side or the blessing of being in the porn industry, they serve one purpose only: to get people glued to their screens to catch a glimpse of flesh. Pathetic really!
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Is there anything you haven't tried/experienced Tania? From your replies on different threads, it would seem that you have indulged in most activities and yet you seem to lack fulfilment.
I googled 'asphyxioplia' and it couldn't be found. Cambridge online didn't find it either, or the dictionary of difficult words, or a sexual dictionary. They DID find asphyxophilia though.
You are right, I mispelled the word, it is asphyxiophilia - grrr, I can't believe in my urgency to post my views I made such a gross mistake!
Serves me right! At least now I know you are reading my posts. As to your question, yes, I have experienced lots of things in my life so far. After all I am much older than you are and when you get to my age and position in life, I am sure there will be some cocky young girl who thinks she knows it all to come and psychoanalyze you. :P
