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We both realised a long time ago even while watching porn together we both preferred the woman with men scenes. Often saying the girl on girl looked sensual but from a sexual arousal point of view men with a woman did it for both of us.
Even discussing fantasies over the years together I have mentioned him with another woman and it has had little impact on him. As soon as I have mentioned me with another man there has been an instant reaction. I have never had a sexual desire for another women although I have spoken to and get on well with a number of women here that are bi and had great laughs with and mutual respect for.
I would even choose MMFF as a second option if hubby ever changed his mind and wanted another woman.
So our preference is MMF or more M's :rascal:
Even though hubby has not always wanted to join in.
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
Blimey I just noticed that the cafe has had 905618 posts. I remember when the site was coming towards a million members, everyone was guessing what date the million roll over might happen.
Maybe we could do the same for the posts on the cafe.
I know we have some way to go but it would be a bit of fun to watch.
Might encourage more posters.
Also what will happen when it does?
Would it go back to Zero?
Or will it roll over to a 7 digit number?
I went back to the first posts I could find and this looks like when the forums as they are today first started. Seems there was something prior but no records.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforumpage/1/36800.html
905618 is a 6 digit number ya chuffin numpty!! :lol:
:shock:
Based on todays results so far and including this post. 59 posts have been posted since writing this thread I have calculated it out to being the million should hit around the 18th December 2015 :shock: If I have calculated that wrong, I better give up my day job :lol:
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Blimey I just noticed that the cafe has had 905618 posts. I remember when the site was coming towards a million members, everyone was guessing what date the million roll over might happen.
Maybe we could do the same for the posts on the cafe.
I know we have some way to go but it would be a bit of fun to watch.
Might encourage more posters.
Also what will happen when it does?
Would it go back to Zero?
Or will it roll over to a 7 digit number?
I went back to the first posts I could find and this looks like when the forums as they are today first started. Seems there was something prior but no records.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforumpage/1/36800.html
905618 is a 6 digit number ya chuffin numpty!! :lol:
:shock:
Quote by Funlovers2009
Blimey I just noticed that the cafe has had 905618 posts. I remember when the site was coming towards a million members, everyone was guessing what date the million roll over might happen.
Maybe we could do the same for the posts on the cafe.
I know we have some way to go but it would be a bit of fun to watch.
Might encourage more posters.
Also what will happen when it does?
Would it go back to Zero?
Or will it roll over to a 6 digit number?
I went back to the first posts I could find and this looks like when the forums as they are today first started. Seems there was something prior but no records.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforumpage/1/36800.html
905618 is a 6 digit number ya chuffin numpty!! :lol:
:shock:
Blimey I just noticed that the cafe has had 905618 posts. I remember when the site was coming towards a million members, everyone was guessing what date the million roll over might happen.
Maybe we could do the same for the posts on the cafe.
I know we have some way to go but it would be a bit of fun to watch.
Might encourage more posters.
Also what will happen when it does?
Would it go back to Zero?
Or will it roll over to a 6 digit number?
I went back to the first posts I could find and this looks like when the forums as they are today first started. Seems there was something prior but no records.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforumpage/1/36800.html
Maybe we could do the same for the posts on the cafe.
I know we have some way to go but it would be a bit of fun to watch.
Might encourage more posters.
Also what will happen when it does?
Would it go back to Zero?
Or will it roll over to a 6 digit number?
I went back to the first posts I could find and this looks like when the forums as they are today first started. Seems there was something prior but no records.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforumpage/1/36800.html
When we joined here, we were looking for people with like minds and wanted to invited a couple of men into our lives and explore some sexual fantasies together. Sex between us had somewhat waned and had become staid over 30 years of being together. So we both agreed on injecting new life into it by trying something different and exciting together.
We felt this had just happened to us, but after talking to loads of couples over the years it seems we were not alone after being together so many years. I guess a lot of the time it becomes inevitable with some couples. But not something you would talk to your friends in the vanilla world about over dinner. The love stays the same but I guess for a better world the sex becomes a bit predictable. Also what we have noticed together is we change our minds and bodies change and found we shared fantasies beyond just us two.
Being here has made us more open about our desires, fantasies and being open and honest about us as a couple together. Sadly since I decided to stop meeting sex between us hasn't improved although we have a different respect for each other and feel even closer that we have shared some very sexy experiences together. We haven't completely shut the door just our live has gone on a different journey together now.
People have said in the past about this site has become a networking site or just a sex site. I now use the site for both of those reasons to with hubbies consent. I like to come here sometimes during the day as I work from home and use it as a bit of company in the background either in the forums or chatrooms it feels like a bit of life around, someone to have a bit of banter with while working. I have spoken to others that use it for the same reasons. Some would say you sado's but we have lives. It can be pretty lonely working from home. Also I have used it on occasions to meet up with a few men I have got to know over the years to have a bit of private cam fun with, women have sexual urges and it is nice when you have someone to share those with.
I never thought when I first come here that 4 years on I would still be using this site.
But as I have evolved I have found the site has offered me what I have wanted.
I never expected SH to offer to cater for different needs and desires and long may it continue to do so, it is pretty unique, if you are honest with yourselves and others you can find what you want here.
We felt this had just happened to us, but after talking to loads of couples over the years it seems we were not alone after being together so many years. I guess a lot of the time it becomes inevitable with some couples. But not something you would talk to your friends in the vanilla world about over dinner. The love stays the same but I guess for a better world the sex becomes a bit predictable. Also what we have noticed together is we change our minds and bodies change and found we shared fantasies beyond just us two.
Being here has made us more open about our desires, fantasies and being open and honest about us as a couple together. Sadly since I decided to stop meeting sex between us hasn't improved although we have a different respect for each other and feel even closer that we have shared some very sexy experiences together. We haven't completely shut the door just our live has gone on a different journey together now.
People have said in the past about this site has become a networking site or just a sex site. I now use the site for both of those reasons to with hubbies consent. I like to come here sometimes during the day as I work from home and use it as a bit of company in the background either in the forums or chatrooms it feels like a bit of life around, someone to have a bit of banter with while working. I have spoken to others that use it for the same reasons. Some would say you sado's but we have lives. It can be pretty lonely working from home. Also I have used it on occasions to meet up with a few men I have got to know over the years to have a bit of private cam fun with, women have sexual urges and it is nice when you have someone to share those with.
I never thought when I first come here that 4 years on I would still be using this site.
But as I have evolved I have found the site has offered me what I have wanted.
I never expected SH to offer to cater for different needs and desires and long may it continue to do so, it is pretty unique, if you are honest with yourselves and others you can find what you want here.
Quote by skinny
We'll all miss you!
Ahhh I wasn't expecting to read that, Thank you!
I took an 8 month break from SH a little while back and I did miss the forums and it's users. I did sneak back a couple of times.
Something pretty unique about this place.
Hopefully I stall return sometime in the new year, I am please I wont be lost and gone forever, it took a long time to write over 5000 posts. :shock:
Although, I was a bit piqued when I discovered they had axed my fun threads
Quote by MidsCouple24
Because it's the man thing, we just haven't got our heads out of 3000 years of "I am the hunter/provider state, many men find it so much harder to admit that they are bisexual, and like some women they don't see themselves as bisexual because they only give or recieve oral and nothing more, none of that gay kissing or penetration stuff, personally I think whatever you are be happy and comfortable with it and if you play with the same sex you are bisexual, so what.
I think you missed my point, they were asking for a Bi female that would hardly make them a Bi or curious male would it? :-D
With my membership coming up for renewal soon and Christmas fast approaching I don't know if I can justify renewing my membership this side of Christmas.
I was just wondering what happens with your profile?
Does everything get cleared and you have to start from fresh?
Would all my silly ramblings on the forums be lost forever?
Would my user name be available to be used by someone else?
I wonder if anyone knows the answers, Thanks all.
Minx
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I was just wondering what happens with your profile?
Does everything get cleared and you have to start from fresh?
Would all my silly ramblings on the forums be lost forever?
Would my user name be available to be used by someone else?
I wonder if anyone knows the answers, Thanks all.
Minx
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I am just curious after looking at profiles on here, why a straight single guy would be looking for a bi or bi curious female?
I was thinking it could only be because they might want a FB to play with or he might feel he might hit lucky in that the female might ask if a female friend of hers could join them.
I thought the Bi female or Bi curious female option would be more useful for Bi females either single or as part of a couple looking for other Bi females.
I don't think any guy would turn down a female if they liked them on the basic of then finding out they are bi or bi curious so why not just put looking for a female or a couple?
What are your views?
I was thinking it could only be because they might want a FB to play with or he might feel he might hit lucky in that the female might ask if a female friend of hers could join them.
I thought the Bi female or Bi curious female option would be more useful for Bi females either single or as part of a couple looking for other Bi females.
I don't think any guy would turn down a female if they liked them on the basic of then finding out they are bi or bi curious so why not just put looking for a female or a couple?
What are your views?
Quote by Funlovers2009
I would never meet anyone without seeing face pics first. We have done this once, it was our first ever house meet at our home, they turned up, we really didn't fancy them and I would never want to be put in that position again.
I understand that some people don't want face pics on their profile for privacy reasons, we don't have face pics in public either but I don't see why someone wouldn't add pictures to a private gallery allowing them to be attached to a message as and when required. I dont like the 'you can see me on cam' thing or giving out email addresses.
As for general pics on profiles, I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile. I don't expect pervy pictures but I do believe you figure out quite a bit about a person/people from pics of them (even dressed or with faces smudged). I also wouldn't contact someone who hadn't bothered to say a little bit about themselves (what they're looking for, etc.) on their profile. This can save a lot of time and energy in email tennis before discovering that they really aint for you!
Personally, I feel that a little effort is needed and I do believe that you reap what you sow.
Hey Fun, You have seen me on cam but not my picture. We have even done pelvic floor exercises together on cam, isn't that enough? :sad:
We had the problem with our first meet on only seeing a face picture in that we met luckily for a drink first and it was only then we realised the photo he had up was in fact one taken 5 years earlier. We then insisted on the cam idea.
I guess we all do things based on our own experiences on what best works for us as couples or individuals.
Quote by nostringsluton
I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
you retweeted me
or reswinged or something like thatErmmm sorry I don't have a clue what you are asking, if that was a question.
Quote by MidsCouple24
I have a question, one which only some will answer honestly, well done to those who will answer honestly (whichever way your answer goes) and to those who have already given opinions on here but choose not to answer my question or answer it dishonestly, I hope you will at least ask yourself the question and be honest with yourself.
Many here say that they don't care if there are pictures on a profile or not, some like to see them before they meet some don't care if they never see a picture, so my question is.
Of those without pictures on your profile who contact people with pictures "how many people do you contact because you like the pictures they show on thier profiles" ? "and do you look at people pictures on profiles at all or do you believe them totally irrelevant" ? and "do you contact as many people without pictures as you do the ones with them" ?
I have noticed when I look at the profiles of people with pictures that they have a lot of comments on thier profile saying to the effect "great pictures" many times from people who have no pictures whatsoever.
In answer to you question, the men we have met I have met via the chatroom. One I whispered to by mistake as the list name moved and I was meant to whisper the person below him who I had chatted to before having a laugh. I apologised for the whisper and we just got chatting and decided to set up a private room and just had a face to face chat on cam. We communicated on cam and phone over a period of a couple of months, we never stripped and played nor asked each other for photos a face and personality was all it took to decide we wanted to meet and play.
One day one mentioned about their profile, he was surprised I hadn't even looked at his profile, but I wasn't surprised to see he only had clothed pictures and face shots of himself there to. I do however have a look through profiles more out of being nosey and seeing what other write about themselves. I have never contacted people on the back of their profiles though.
In response to the op I read both your posts, I think to a lot of people they don't get your concerns. Yes it is about two adults consenting to have sex, but you never had sex as two people as there was a third party involved.
She was honest about being married, maybe you should have thought longer and harder about the consequences about what you were getting into at that stage. Hindsight however is a wonder thing.
Like other here say it is about NSA fun, but I have always believed in honesty so people can make an informed choice.
You now find yourself in what could be a delicate position whereby they have videos of you which could now be used against you if they wish. Luckily it seems you have a copy also, judging by your posts.
I am a female from a couple, in the past when I was meeting hubby would at some stage talk to the guys beforehand with me, all on cam together face to face to reassure them we were in this together. I have always felt it is about putting the guy at ease as much as them putting us at ease to invite them to share in what we do.
I feel the couple you saw(as it was a couple) even if they were a cuck couple, were not totally honest. Some would say it is your fault I believe it is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. If she had said she was single and then you found out she was married I could understand you more, but maybe the lesson to learn from this, is next time you think you are screwing a mans wife behind his back, just wonder if they are in fact screwing you to.
If they had an open relationship and lead their lives that way, then maybe you should have just asked to have seen them both on cam and had a brief 5 minutes together. So you can establish if he fact there is consent on both parts. If they didn't want to do that basic requirement maybe you should have walked away.
She was honest about being married, maybe you should have thought longer and harder about the consequences about what you were getting into at that stage. Hindsight however is a wonder thing.
Like other here say it is about NSA fun, but I have always believed in honesty so people can make an informed choice.
You now find yourself in what could be a delicate position whereby they have videos of you which could now be used against you if they wish. Luckily it seems you have a copy also, judging by your posts.
I am a female from a couple, in the past when I was meeting hubby would at some stage talk to the guys beforehand with me, all on cam together face to face to reassure them we were in this together. I have always felt it is about putting the guy at ease as much as them putting us at ease to invite them to share in what we do.
I feel the couple you saw(as it was a couple) even if they were a cuck couple, were not totally honest. Some would say it is your fault I believe it is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. If she had said she was single and then you found out she was married I could understand you more, but maybe the lesson to learn from this, is next time you think you are screwing a mans wife behind his back, just wonder if they are in fact screwing you to.
If they had an open relationship and lead their lives that way, then maybe you should have just asked to have seen them both on cam and had a brief 5 minutes together. So you can establish if he fact there is consent on both parts. If they didn't want to do that basic requirement maybe you should have walked away.
I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
I don't know about others but I have never had photo's on profile but have never had a problem meeting from here and never suffered from no shows.
I decided not to have photos on profile when we joined, hubby said put some up but I said I want men to get to know me to want to meet and not want to meet me because they thought the photos were sexy. Likewise I never met men based on having photo's on profile.
I don't think photos can give you any idea about the people or person you intent meeting on the basis you found the photo's sexy. For me sexy is very much in the mind and you can't see that in pictures. I believe cam is a far better way to see a personality and sexiness within a person.
I have always insisted on having chats on cam, but never on photos. I would not meet anyone that never had a cam but had pictures.
I have believed if you don't want to cam you have a lot more to hide than not having photo's on profile. You can cam in a locked room here.
I have spoken to very sexy people that have no pictures but have cam.
I just wondered what other views are?
I don't know about others but I have never had photo's on profile but have never had a problem meeting from here and never suffered from no shows.
I decided not to have photos on profile when we joined, hubby said put some up but I said I want men to get to know me to want to meet and not want to meet me because they thought the photos were sexy. Likewise I never met men based on having photo's on profile.
I don't think photos can give you any idea about the people or person you intent meeting on the basis you found the photo's sexy. For me sexy is very much in the mind and you can't see that in pictures. I believe cam is a far better way to see a personality and sexiness within a person.
I have always insisted on having chats on cam, but never on photos. I would not meet anyone that never had a cam but had pictures.
I have believed if you don't want to cam you have a lot more to hide than not having photo's on profile. You can cam in a locked room here.
I have spoken to very sexy people that have no pictures but have cam.
I just wondered what other views are?
Quote by Mal
I have just sat here crying with laughter whilst reading it and Sarah is just looking at me thinking "he's lost it!!"
I am sitting here all alone my ribs are aching, I think I have lost it!!
Mal that was such a funny read thanks.
Back to the OP
We got two rescue cats a brother and sister 6 years ago after our first tom cat had to be put to sleep after 18 years.
All three have been so different, I have found toms use us as a hotel, they come in for food, sleep, shelter from the rain and then go back out again. The female loves being at home, loves affection, company. The toms however would have affection on their terms and if suddenly their tails start to flick we remove hand promptly.
I would love to come back as a Tom cat one day.
Quote by Big_Fraser
My first day on SH, How was your experience?
Painfully slow
I had a few brushes with the wilder side of sex and wanted to check out the 'scene'
(and have a perv at the same time :rascal
I checked out a few profile pics, the gallery and even popped into chat if I remember correctly.
Problem was........ 56kbs dial up internet
So slow and with my long, slow and frequent (back then!) wanking and 5p / min connection my first phone bill after joining SH cost me a fortune!!
Quote by Dave__Notts
It took me months before I discovered that there was a forum too!
I'm going to have to have a word with admin again........we had set the forum to "hide" from your profile. There must have been a bug in the system
Dave_Notts
Admin know which side their bread is buttered dave, forums are searchable in google and viewable to the public.
Which avatar entices more people to part with the membership dosh
Dave_notts:
'That dog is gonna bite that mouses head off' :shock:
or
Funlovers2009
'fuck me i could die happy between them boots and thighs'
:grin:
Took me 5 years to find the forums fun - was that your doing too eh dave?? :lol2:
You must of discovered the door in the cellar on your exploration of SH, the one that when you walk past you get dragged in.
That was Dave, didn't you feel the force?
Before joining this site, we had been together 28 years leading a general life. Then one day after a lot of talking we decided it was time for us to explore the possibility of invited other men into our sexual life.
I was aware of what I wanted and what I was doing but the prospect was scary but also exciting being that my hubby was the only man I had ever had sex with. I also had feelings and thoughts about, are these thoughts normal wanting to explore things sexually with another man. I felt we were odd as it isn't something you can discuss with family and friends.
So we started looking for sites that would link us up with others with the same mindset as us, we knew we wanted to talk to others so looked for a site with chat rooms and then discovered this site and decided to join, I was shaking so much, we were taking the plunge I thought OMG what was I entering into but I could feel the excitement of the unknown.
We paid our money and logged in for the first time and looked to explore the chat rooms. Just to observe what went on in these places. I entered a chat room with hubby by my side hesitantly and with trepidation. Hubby urged me on with support.
As we entered a room all these words started scrolling up, it took me a while (being a complete novice on chatting online in any form) to realise it was people chatting in a chat room.
I said to hubby what do I do now. So I thought I would type Hi all we are new and just joined for the first time today, please be gentle with me. Mrs minx typing and hubby by my side
Realising now that is the worse thing I could have said. :lol:
I couldn't understand why all these people started whispering me and wanted to chat to someone they never knew.
Looking back I was so naive in those days but being here has taught me a lot. Not only that we are not alone in the world with our thoughts but also there is a whole new world within the walls of SH to be discovered and if you ignore the fools there are a lot of nice friendly, normal pervy people about.
I was aware of what I wanted and what I was doing but the prospect was scary but also exciting being that my hubby was the only man I had ever had sex with. I also had feelings and thoughts about, are these thoughts normal wanting to explore things sexually with another man. I felt we were odd as it isn't something you can discuss with family and friends.
So we started looking for sites that would link us up with others with the same mindset as us, we knew we wanted to talk to others so looked for a site with chat rooms and then discovered this site and decided to join, I was shaking so much, we were taking the plunge I thought OMG what was I entering into but I could feel the excitement of the unknown.
We paid our money and logged in for the first time and looked to explore the chat rooms. Just to observe what went on in these places. I entered a chat room with hubby by my side hesitantly and with trepidation. Hubby urged me on with support.
As we entered a room all these words started scrolling up, it took me a while (being a complete novice on chatting online in any form) to realise it was people chatting in a chat room.
I said to hubby what do I do now. So I thought I would type Hi all we are new and just joined for the first time today, please be gentle with me. Mrs minx typing and hubby by my side
Realising now that is the worse thing I could have said. :lol:
I couldn't understand why all these people started whispering me and wanted to chat to someone they never knew.
Looking back I was so naive in those days but being here has taught me a lot. Not only that we are not alone in the world with our thoughts but also there is a whole new world within the walls of SH to be discovered and if you ignore the fools there are a lot of nice friendly, normal pervy people about.
I often ask myself if my hubby and I debate or argue?
It is still a question I ask myself even after 32 years being together.
I remember my best friend begging me not to marry him, as we always argued and he was wrong for me, when I told her we were getting married 24 year ago. We are still good friends and she has never married and hubby and I are still together debating
Our son 12 years ago aged 8 asked me why we both argued, I said we don't argue we strongly debate because we both have strong mind and opinions.
Family and friends say we are amusing when we start and they sit back and watch battle commence.
I have realised over the years, I am passionate in what I believe in and I have strong opinions but then so does hubby but we don't always share the same thoughts and opinions.
People over the years have often asked why we stay together, my answer has always been because I love him, admire him, I don't always expect his opinions to be the same as mine. Also I quiet enjoy my mind, thought and opinion challenged it keeps me on my toes. He has made me challenge my own opinions and to understand his.
Others say we argue, I say we debate.
Is an argument just another persons perception of a debate?
What is the difference between an argument and debate?
It is still a question I ask myself even after 32 years being together.
I remember my best friend begging me not to marry him, as we always argued and he was wrong for me, when I told her we were getting married 24 year ago. We are still good friends and she has never married and hubby and I are still together debating
Our son 12 years ago aged 8 asked me why we both argued, I said we don't argue we strongly debate because we both have strong mind and opinions.
Family and friends say we are amusing when we start and they sit back and watch battle commence.
I have realised over the years, I am passionate in what I believe in and I have strong opinions but then so does hubby but we don't always share the same thoughts and opinions.
People over the years have often asked why we stay together, my answer has always been because I love him, admire him, I don't always expect his opinions to be the same as mine. Also I quiet enjoy my mind, thought and opinion challenged it keeps me on my toes. He has made me challenge my own opinions and to understand his.
Others say we argue, I say we debate.
Is an argument just another persons perception of a debate?
What is the difference between an argument and debate?
Quote by Derek_kelp
I read an interesting article to do with the length of time that a man and woman ideally would want to stay together...in terms of a deep seated (caveman) instinct. Bearing in mind this would just be to keep the human race going.
It surmised that a man would want to be with a woman for a maximum of 6 months; to impregnate her and know that a child would be in it's way. Then he would move onto the next mate.
Then a woman would want to be with the man for 12months; so that she knew that the child was healthy after birth. Then she would move onto the next best mate.
I also read that a man's purpose was to have as many mates as he could and a woman's purpose was to get the best mate that she could...a fun imbalance lol.
Interesting article you read there.
I wonder what it says about someone that had been in a monogamous relationship for 29 years, without either the want or desire for another?
If they are basing their theory on cavemen instinct does that mean we have evolved further along in evolutional?
Quote by flower411
tumble weeds
OI !! Tumble weeds !!!
Now let`s get one thing straight .....I have no idea why this thread is still going ya donuts !!
But Tumble weeds ....they`re not fuckin inanimate now are they ?
If ya gonna insist on playing at least play by the rules !!
Could you explain the rules to me please? :roll:
Quote by FeistyMinx
3 weeks ago my darling mum died of a very nasty cancer called mesothelioma. This is the first time I have written a poem since school!!!!
Mum…
You taught us all so much…
How to ride.. and how to sew,
How to cook!!
How to weed … and how to read …
You never judged and always helped
Wiped tears and mended broken hearts…
Even now you are gone…
I know you are there…
Sitting in your comfy chair...
Just wanted to know if others have the same problem or have a way to help solve my problem.
As I have got a little older I have this problem of waking in the night and need a wee, and then can't get back to sleep again, so am often awake for a couple of hours in the night then tired half way through the next day.
Do our bladders shrink?
Have you had this problem or know of a way to stop this happening?
It is driving me crazy, I used to sleep all night, although I guess the 20+ cups of coffee I have in the day doesn't help
As I have got a little older I have this problem of waking in the night and need a wee, and then can't get back to sleep again, so am often awake for a couple of hours in the night then tired half way through the next day.
Do our bladders shrink?
Have you had this problem or know of a way to stop this happening?
It is driving me crazy, I used to sleep all night, although I guess the 20+ cups of coffee I have in the day doesn't help
