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12 Jan 2005

I`m so sorry Kat, really I am. I`m afraid you are fighting and losing battle with retrobates like us on the board

Is that something to do with wanking the old fashioned way? wink

lhk
Kat
You know I did pick up on that when I first posted! I could have sworn I`d edited it! redface

Well done for taking up the cause though! :mrgreen:
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12 Jan 2005

I suppose I`m lucky in the respect that a large percentage of my real life close friends are already members here (which is one of the reasons I joined, because I prefer to surround myself with tolorant friends). The others are either friends I could trust with it, or ones who wouldn`t dislike me for it, but would express dire concerns! I have neither the desire or energy to educate the latter! As for family/co-workers/neighbours, I can`t chose them, so that`s an entirely different can of worms! One I choose to avoid!
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12 Jan 2005

AWW bluddy hell, I`m pouring and I NEVER cry at poetry!
I have no soul dammit!
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by Sgt Bilko
I have just noticed this in your sig:
gs and keep Sarge employed!

I am now officially your biggest knocker!!!! mad

You`ve only JUST noticed?! rotflmao

:giggle:
I`m so sorry Kat, really I am. I`m afraid you are fighting and losing battle with reprobates like us on the board redface

Could have been worse though eh? wink

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by Sgt Bilko
It can take a great deal of courage to get naked in front of others. I do wish people wouldn`t knock it before considering that. :P

There's always going to be the knockers!!!! confused

I`m not entirely sure mine are big enough to be considered `knockers` confused

:mrgreen:
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by manofmuchfun
Dont tell anyone ....simple!
people do judge you by what you are and become and just maybe you shatter their illusions of you, so if you told ALL your friends then I bet a percentage dissappear or you get talked about ?

People are who they are regardless of whether they decide to be honest about their sexual lifestyle. If anyone decides to like me on an illusion they have, and then decide to drop me like a hot potato (for any reason), then it is their issue not mine, and I`d consider myself enlightened about the strength of that friendship.
That said, cross reference that with what I said about different approaches to friendships generally on the `Fairweather friends` thread (yes I`m being lazy) then you`ll realise that that is how it works forme and I`m not saying that that is an attitude which everyone should adopt. biggrin

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by Sgt Bilko
Venus could be giving you a bed bath this time next week

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Now now Sarge, don`t resist, I just need to make sure you are not hiding any sharp objects on you before we continue....bend over, there`s a good boy. This won`t hurt a bit, I promise :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
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12 Jan 2005

It can take a great deal of courage to get naked in front of others. I do wish people wouldn`t knock it before considering that. :P
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12 Jan 2005

Well I never! :shock: :shock: :shock:
The fact this anal thread has overtaken mine for hits, only serves to confirm that you are all past salvation!
I`m shocked to the core! mad

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by MikeNorth

Have you heard of 'Any questions Answered' (AQA)? It's a number on your mobile that you can text any question and they guarantee an answer.
Eg, what's the capital of New Zealand? will come back with Auckland and various facts about Auckland.
So for a laugh (and to hear a Jo Public view that isn't just NOTW), I texted:
"Is swinging immoral" and got back "Immoral means violating principles of right and wrong and swinging is far from being universally regarded as immoral. In fact many think it is good."
Sounds encouraging, my views exactly, so I texted:
"How should one tell one's non-swinger friends about one's swinger lifestyle?"
and got back:
"AQA suggests buttering them up, as it were, with a nice meal and some drinks before dropping that bombshell. And if they drink enough . . . you never know. . ."
I don't think I agree with the advice, but thought it was at least a fun and imaginative (and non-judgemental) response!
If you want to try the AQA, the number to text is 63336 - you get a reply within minutes - and please don't be so naughty as to use it in pub quizes!

Only problem there is that the capital of New Zealand is actually Wellington - lost a bit of credibility there then.... lol

Mike.
Smartarse :huh:
(somewhat mortified that she didn`t pick up on that herself)
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by edinbughchris
Sounds encouraging, my views exactly, so I texted:
"How should one tell one's non-swinger friends about one's swinger lifestyle?"
and got back:
"AQA suggests buttering them up, as it were, with a nice meal and some drinks before dropping that bombshell. And if they drink enough . . . you never know. . ."
I don't think I agree with the advice, but thought it was at least a fun and imaginative (and non-judgemental) response!

Now THAT was funny! lol

I think it was a fine idea for a thread kiss

Not everyone adopts the same approach, but you`ll find that for the most part people here will respect the approach which works for you.
My atttude is much the same as yours. smile

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
They go grey :!:
Then when your really old they drop out :shock:
Dawn :silly:

I can`t wait for mine too fall out :mrgreen:
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by freckledbird
sorry Venus, that wasn't aimed at you for telling your mate. If that's what you wanted to do, fair play. I just wondered why Edinburghchris wants to tell people/why is he asking HOW we tell mates?

Urgh, ever get the feeling we are all trying to balance on eggshells! No worries Freckle, I wasn`t feeling defensive! You just offered an opening for me to expound on my statement! kiss

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Why would you want to tell people anyway?
I don't feel the need to share details about other aspects of my life, so why would I want to share this?
It's nobody's business really, is it?
Having said that, if someone asked me, I would be honest without giving them all the gory details (and have done, when asked outright - so has hubby); we aren't ashamed of what we do.
Bev & Chris
xx

Oh, I didn`t find the need to tell, (or rather admit), but I am glad I did, it`s nice to have a friend from a different circle who I can natter to about it! It`s also nice to have the opportunity to give an insight to someone who isn`t that familiar with the lifestyle. Equally I`m comfortable with keeping it to myself, as it`s entirely up to me who I do, or don`t choose to share it with smile

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12 Jan 2005

Choose one of your really savvy friends, mention parties and couples you visit up north a lot, and wait for the penny to drop! That`s how it`s kinda worked for me! And yes, I received a very positive response, because she IS savvy, and is capable of thinking outside of the box smile

We haven`t stopped nattering about it since!
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12 Jan 2005

Libra, as the parent of a Goth (who seems to be growing out of it) you have my sympathies!
No, actually I lie, I love that Goth look redface

, it`s the `tortured soul` act that drives me up the wall! lol

Seriously, all the best to your son smile

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12 Jan 2005

Apparently I will be taught methods of restraint :twisted:
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Perhaps we should offer them sanctuary on this thread!
Venusxxx

Just offer them some day time fun... that will get them here in double-quick time wink

Trying. to. be. good :gagged: lol

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12 Jan 2005

Perhaps we should offer them sanctuary on this thread! lol

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12 Jan 2005

Quote by musketeer
Yeah, Christmas 1982!

Yes, there was absolute crap on the telly

KitKat, good luck!!
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12 Jan 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Venus, are you going to be a doorwoman (if ya name's not down, ya not getting in) or will you be rounding em up lol
Bev
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Assistant nurse at the outset, where I can work toward my NVQ (which is where my Access course comes in handy, as I only have the one GCSE), on to possibly the last two years of a Nursing diploma, specialising in Psychiatric nursing, or being sponsored to take a certifcate in Psychotherapy, which is expensive (or if I`m feeling really ambitious, both!)......then on to my Psychology degree, and if it`s not reaching for the stars, a PHd in Clinical Psychology. I realise there are quicker routes, but this one keeps me in touch with the people I`d like to work with, and pays! It`s also not cast in stone, working my way up vocationally will give me more of an insight of where I want to head as I go along. smile

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12 Jan 2005

That`s a very interesting theory, one which I`d like to see the outcome of! I agree with Kat, there are plenty of other existing threads to get judgemental on!
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12 Jan 2005

BTW, Thankyou to everyone who wished me the best for Friday, and thus reminded me that it is infact Wednesday today! This means I can now catch up on the sleep I missed last night, and leave interview homework, and sorting out the posh clothes etc until tomorrow! blink

Oh and Sarge, it`s a position in a secure psychiatric ward. I`ll just be myself! :mrgreen:
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12 Jan 2005

Freckle I love you! kiss

I too did an access course, Mars was working, and we were receiving Family Tax credits. We couldn`t get any help with Childminding costs as I wasn`t needing them for work, so we paid for one ourselves, and as a result I ended up taking the `intensive` option which allowed me to attend college one day a week, but demanded a fairly heavy amount of course work was done at home. This meant I couldn`t keep up with the course and had to drop out. I was devastated at the time. As you probably know Freckle, Access courses are fairly intense, as you have to prove to be capable of showing a fairly high level of understanding as its a fast track route into Uni. It doesn`t have a high failure rate, but does have one of the highest drop outrates of any course. I just felt stupid, it knocked me back for ages. However, I was able to try again when my youngest started school, took the five day a week option and was able to pass. It`s the piece of paper from this which is allowing me to apply for some of the positions I have been, and eventually, through these positions, I will be able to work my way up the ladder to a wage which will get us off of benefits entirely. We had no outside support for this, and if we hadn`t have been able to keep up with the demands ourselves, we would be still looking at claiming over 100 pounds a week in Family Tax credits indefinately. Where is the sense in that?! Unemployment doesn`t even amount to that! And yes, it is you guys who have been paying for this!
It seems to me that by merely getting people into badly paid work, the Government is trying to look good statistically, but in reality, the tax payer`s money is still going toward the same thing; supporting families because they can`t support themselves. A different label on the benefit is not going to change this. More support toward gaining qualifications from the outset might, and thus free up more money for our health and education systems and omg I`m beginning to do politics and I NEVER do politics :shock: lol