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Doesn't everyone?
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ooooooohhhh god its been sooooo long since I had a decent kiss. wife HATES it :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Computers? 1920's? WTF? :shock: It turns out that those who compiled statistics were called computers at that time. A sign of how the interpretation of language changes.
Now - on to my point. I honestly think that the concept of swinging is currently undergoing a change. In the past, swinging was seen as 'wife swopping' - couples who exchanged partners.
I think that understanding is changing, and swinging is becoming a term applied to anyone who is able to enjoy sex as an enjoyable physical and emotional exchange without the burden of expectations.
Further, if it is not too pretentious, I would say that Swinging Heaven IS at the forefront of that evolution, it attracts all sorts of people, but keeps those with the healthy and open attitude it takes to be a swinger.
There are some that appear on here whom I am happy to say to: 'you are not a swinger' It is nothing to do with age, sex, sexual orientation or marital status, it is purely based on the attitude they display.
lhk
Kat
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More bloody labels.
The site info refers to "recreational sex". |That's a good enough description for me. It doesn't say that single people need the permission or approval of the attached.
Those of you who consider yourselves "real" swingers according to your personal definition are welcome to your label, but stop pretending that it makes you superior because it doesn't, OK?
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Wibblywobbly & the utterly gorgeous GT Afters Party Confirmed
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I do like this thread - it makes people think about WHY others are here.
Fabio said it is about a state of mind. I would agree with him. Swinging is sex without the ego, jealousy and bed post notching. It doesn't matter what the combination is really, as long as it is a case of mutual enjoyment of the experience, and not just a shag for a shags sake.
lhk
Kat
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oooh... so where do that leave me???
i am a single guy but i condsider myself to be a swinger.
but i suppose by your terms anyone single is just after casual sex... which i think is grossly unfair and a generalisation...
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so if the partner is playing (with permission) with a single person..... by you defination the attached person is "swinging" while the single person is having "casual sex"
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i only have sex if i like the person i am doing it with... if i have built a friendship over time and it feels like a natural extensidn to whatever we all have........
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx
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if I met a female off here can I define that as swinging ? in a sense that we have both advertised ?
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so if we have 5 males an 5 females in a room some married an some not then whats that definition ?
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Then how do we define a single person who wants an does play with a sort of regular partner ?
I meant as attending odd nights ?
maybe single but is that still casual sex ? could define prostitutes as casual sex ?
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Have got Green Mile downstairs but haven't plucked up the courage yet to watch it. Fav old film which would see me bunking off school and curling up to was Cary Grant - Bringing Up Baby - god I loved Cary Grant! (One of my first crushes along with Rod Stewert and Annie Lennox.)
Bestest other film has got to be Shawshank Redemption - tissues puurlease......
Cathy x
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What I was thinking was we each decide whether to be an attacker or a defender and create temporary IDs to assume the role of some kind of magical or mythological being, be it Roman, Greek, Norse, LOTR, whatever or just invent one.
As long as we got roughly equal numbers of goodies and baddies, I think it could be a blast!
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EWWWWW PRINCE CHARLES LOL
though im not as old as him lol
love peppsxxxxxxxxx
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Can I make it a 4some and include Harrison Ford too?
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Alternatively
Me, Johnny Depp and George Clooney!
(I could think of quite a few involving some SH members too
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Righty ho poor old "Im a lady" Steve_lincs has mentioned to me that he hasnt had many pm's lately poor thing :cry: :violin:
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Must admit to giving Valentines day not much more than a second mention. We don't generally bother, but our wedding anni is only a fortnigt before and so we tend to go all out for that more.
Cxx
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God me too Wibbly.
Then again, skinnier women don't always feel confident either do they?
Bev
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Apologies if someone's already said this but no, big is NOT always beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? So someone might look at me and think 'yuk fat cow' , then look at another larger lady and think 'wow'. It's more than a size issue, it's about perception of a person as a whole. I do think that some women use the BBW label incorrectly sometimes. It's very hard to say that thin people are nicer or fat people are nicer and restrict yourself to one or the other. Some larger ladies do get very defensive when turned down (seen it in chat rooms) and either end up pleading to be fucked or moaning and saying that the person is wrong/don't know what they're missing. Well, they aren't wrong. It's everyone's right to turn someone down on whatever grounds they like. Just because you're fat doesn't mean people should give you a chance because you're calling yourself BBW.
I do agree with you on the whole idea of the media portraying the idea that thin women are better. However, being a large lady hasn't stopped some women from being successful (Dawn French, Jo Brand, Alison Moyet). These women, and others, have the confidence to stand up and do what they do very well and sod what people think of them.
I'd shag Dawn French any day in preference to Kate Moss, but that's because I think that DF is lovely and KM is a bloody ugly cow, not because she's skinny.
