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Thanks for your open honest post Fun. I am sure there are many (Minx included) who can relate to the situation you describe.
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when we first discovered clubs we used to joke we were addicted as we found ourselves going sometimes upto 4-5 times in one week and now due to hubbys newish job we only get to go about once every 1-2 months and i have to say we actually enjoy it much more really appreciate every min there catching up with friends and some quality playtime so maybe it is time to back away from the home turf meets maybe we really should concentrate on having vanilla nights out with friends then we might enjoy our swinging experiences even more
well you enjoy every second of it i know we did
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Strangely for someone with esteem issues,swinging gives me no validation,nor do i want it too,i just like sex,i like it a lot,and i like kev watching,and joining how shagging someone who doesnt even know me is meant to make me feel better about myself has always confused me.
The sex is a few hours of pleasure,the only emotion it should create is that nice knackered glow post orgasm.
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we hear about sex addition, mainly involving celebrities.
but what do they actually have to do to become unaddicted?
pills? injections? psychiatric treatment? slapping their bollocks with a nettle?
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But did he ask for Brucie?
What have you done now then?
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We as a couple have no illusions about swinging. we know the emotional risks and have seen the toll it can take in others. come on who doesn't know of someone in their swinging social circles who hasn't been fucked up by it. I just hope that taking the risks into account that we both wont have recourse to regret what we do. I realise that I have had wobbly moments once or twice thinking "what the fu*k are we doing" but its been short lived and the wobble unfounded.
Any negative impact our swinging has I must admit to not seeing in ourselves and the only thing I hate is lying to my kids about where we're going and what we're doing and with who. Talk about honesty in swinging that's the last thing most of us are. We are all a bunch of lying gits, other than maybe the few people brave enough to out themselves publicly.
However, the positives impact is apparent to both of in the respect that we get sexual gratification albeit to a lesser or greater degree on most of our meets. We get varied sex and varied experiences from each encounter. A few good friendships have been formed which are more open than friendships of a more vanilla kind ever can be. Its quite easy for J to say to a mate met through swing "jaw aches today i bj'd th guy with a massive cock too long". Not a thing you ay to your mate from work in most cases. Or for me too say how much i enjoyed watching J get f*cked with a strap on.
undoubtedly those of low self esteem can find some skin deep reassurance within Swingland and in itself that's not so bad but its when maybe it gets to detaching yourself from it that it gets difficult. Swing ostensibly is about NSA sex and initially that should be uppermost in peoples wants and expectations other stuff can come from it but that's down the line and should at the start be a secondary feature.
Ramble ramble ramble
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I know little of these matters.
I do know that auto erotic asphyxiation (where u do it to yourself) is the one that grabs all the media headlines and obviously increases the associated risks because the asphyxee is also the asphyxer.
That said I also recall that partner asphyxiation is particularly common in japanese culture and has been associated with a number of honeymoon deaths due to inexperience. This I believe has more to do with the technique of compressing the carotid artery in the neck which supplies the brain with blood rather than preventing breathing per se.
Thank you for starting the thread and thank you for the informed contributions. If anybody needs a Fanatsy Room hosting let me know, I had already been asked to do so by a friend and checked out the situation with a chatroom op.
In terms of risk, the lowest risk sexual activity is two people having sex only with each other for the rest of their lives. Anything beyond that increases the risks of illness and death. Its simply a matter of personal choice and I don't think anybody deserves to be judged for seeking knowledge that will help to keep them safer than they otherwise would be.
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I don`t thik it should be compulsory at all.....in fact it should be made more difficult.
People should have to answer questions to prove that they understand the policies of those they are voting for. That way, those that vote for people because of the way they look would probably be disqualified.
Just think.....Michael Foot would have had a chance and Tony Blair would have disappeared from the stage very early on !
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I don`t thik it should be compulsory at all.....in fact it should be made more difficult.
People should have to answer questions to prove that they understand the policies of those they are voting for. That way, those that vote for people because of the way they look would probably be disqualified.
Just think.....Michael Foot would have had a chance and Tony Blair would have disappeared from the stage very early on !
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i got called a timewaster because i wanted to chat and get to know someone first n not just meet n fuck ffs he was rather rude and insulting so as it was i was rather glad i decided to waste his time before we met :shock:
that isn't frequented by doggers or spoilers then pm us with details Quote by neilinleeds
but on the other site im getting winks and nice comments about the way i look etc and my profile and im using the same pictures lol so wtf.
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