Quote by Bloke2005
No, I used to co-habit.
Ok, then maybe like me you're not the best person to give advice here
True, although I was also once a counsellor.
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byron
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 53
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Master of Sex
Quote by Bloke2005
Why are you saying all this here, why not go to a counsellor and ask them to help?
Your wife could have some pyschological problem that she needs help with - she oculd feel insecure about things. How would you feel if that were the case and she then has you trying to have sex with her when she has self-esteem problems?
Hi byron
Are you married?
No, I used to co-habit.
Master of Sex
Why are you saying all this here, why not go to a counsellor and ask them to help?
Your wife could have some pyschological problem that she needs help with - she oculd feel insecure about things. How would you feel if that were the case and she then has you trying to have sex with her when she has self-esteem problems?
Your wife could have some pyschological problem that she needs help with - she oculd feel insecure about things. How would you feel if that were the case and she then has you trying to have sex with her when she has self-esteem problems?
Master of Sex
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Tony has a bit of a fantasy watching me get DP and i seem to like the idea :twisted:
But not the DP as one would normally expect...
As i don't like anal we was thinking about 2 in the same hole but we have a few questions?
As the 2 guys would be going in the same hole, would they need to be bisexual?
Just that if we did have to get bisexual guys to do it then we would rather not try it...Don't want them end up forgetting i am there and leave me out :shock: and also not really in to watching 2 men doing things together
So have any of you lovely ladies tried DP this way and if you have....
Is it possible ?
what was it like?
what position did you find best?
and most of all, would you do it again?
Shaz x
Shaz, trust me on this, no guys would ignore you in favour of each other!
Master of Sex
You don't read people very well do you? Where in everything that I have said has it come across that everything I do means I want it to end in a shag, or even that it MUST end in shag?
I get it from things like this:
A romantic weekend away, for an anniversary, walking in the countryside, having a drink and a meal to celebrate our marraige? I don't think it was unfair of me to expect some love-making was it? Hardly an every-weekend-occurance for anyone is it
Which bascially underlines my point.
Master of Sex
Quote by Bloke2005
Don't spoil a lovely evening...."
OMW - you do have a point and I'm sorry for you but the answer still isn't swinging I don't think... If you can't sort it out then I'd leave here and shack up with a bloke - the blow jobs are brilliant and non-stop most of the time.... :shock:
And when you fart in bed, you both find it funny! :twisted:
How many ladies do you know who go to the bother and expense of booking a surprise weekend away for an anniversary and then after spending the night in the hotel bar and returning to our room actually decline sex - even though it was approached in a sensitive and loving manner. The response I got was "Don't spoil a lovely evening...."
And what were you doing at the time macman? Did you spend the evening in the bar with her? Or did you spend it making sure that she understood that the weeked away was just so you could get laid?
Why would wife want a lover when she knows there is nothing she can't get from me - apart from the obvious one about just being a different person!
And maybe another person is giving her what she wants and that may not be just sex. Your attitude seems to be one of "If I do this, this and this, will we shag?" Have you ever considered that your wife would just be happy with you doing all the romantic stuff but without a shag at the end?
Master of Sex
There was a sales firm near here which was getting it's sales people to pretend that they didn't speak much English so that they would get their sales pitch out uninterrupted.
Which would have worked except that they ran intoa mate of mine.
It went something like this:
Salesman "Excusing me, I not speaking much English, am Polish"
My mate (in Polish) "That's OK, would you like to come in and have cup of coffee?"
Salesman "Huh?"
My mate (still in Polish) "Do you understand a word I'm saying? If you do, hold up your right hand"
Salesman "I not speaking the English"
Mate (In English) "Dude, I just spoke to you in Polish. Half the people that live around here are of Polish descent. Do you really want to continue this bollocks or will you just fuck off?"
Salesman then left. At a run.
Which would have worked except that they ran intoa mate of mine.
It went something like this:
Salesman "Excusing me, I not speaking much English, am Polish"
My mate (in Polish) "That's OK, would you like to come in and have cup of coffee?"
Salesman "Huh?"
My mate (still in Polish) "Do you understand a word I'm saying? If you do, hold up your right hand"
Salesman "I not speaking the English"
Mate (In English) "Dude, I just spoke to you in Polish. Half the people that live around here are of Polish descent. Do you really want to continue this bollocks or will you just fuck off?"
Salesman then left. At a run.
Master of Sex
Quote by da69ve
But why should we be just "tolerated"....i'm not looking for approval just acceptance of what we do......
That is exactly what tolerance is!
There is also such a thing as free speech, so people are entitled to voice their opinions of us... just as we are entitled to voice our opinions of them.Tolerance in my book means putting up with something wether you like it or not....i would like swinging to be accepted as a normal activity for adults.
So would I, but you have to accept the fact that some people will never accept anything that appears to be outside of the 'norm'. What I find is best is to be as tolerant of those who are intolerant - if you were to see two people arguing and one is shouting and screaming abuse and the other is quietly and politely putting forward their case, which would you side with?
Master of Sex
Shireen, a friend of mine hs a good one: When telesales interupt his evening, he politely says "Can you hold on a minute, puts the phone down, goes and makes a cup of tea, comes back and says "I'm not interested, but thanks for keeping the other annoying assholes from phoning me. Bye"
Master of Sex
The following have worked for me:
1. "I'm sorry, but I'm going to Iraq tomorrow with the Army"
2. "I'd love a patio, but what would the people in the flat below think?"
3. "I'm not falling for that - come on, where's Dom Jolly?"
4. "I can't stand here and talk - I'm and English teacher. Someone out there might be using a split infinitive"
5. "So good to see you. We need another person to take our coven up to 13"
6. "Do you ever hang around the locker room at the gym?"
7. "But the Police promised me a new identity!"
1. "I'm sorry, but I'm going to Iraq tomorrow with the Army"
2. "I'd love a patio, but what would the people in the flat below think?"
3. "I'm not falling for that - come on, where's Dom Jolly?"
4. "I can't stand here and talk - I'm and English teacher. Someone out there might be using a split infinitive"
5. "So good to see you. We need another person to take our coven up to 13"
6. "Do you ever hang around the locker room at the gym?"
7. "But the Police promised me a new identity!"
Master of Sex
Quote by Kinky Lizard
What about a pair of antique nut-crackers in a lovely summer yellow hue, ideal for a night beside the hearth....
do i hear.......Ok! no need to swear!
I'll try down the Swan....
Anyone know of a ladder party???
KinkyLizard
*winces*
Sounds too painful for words!
Master of Sex
Guys, I don't want to be rude, but people don't have to reply to you, it's really up to them.
Always think carefully about what you write to someone - remember you don't know then from Adam (and vice versa), so why not just write to them as a potential friend, and see what develops from there?
Always think carefully about what you write to someone - remember you don't know then from Adam (and vice versa), so why not just write to them as a potential friend, and see what develops from there?
Master of Sex
Quote by Sappho
I have to agree with Judy - making love in the woods surrounded by bluebells. Wonderful memory! Well, they do say, hug a tree and get back to nature!
Sappho xxx
Much the same for me, except we used the lower branches of a pine tree, which is the only reason I still use pine disinfectant - the smell brings back excellent memories!
