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curvynjackb
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Male, 56
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Quote by blueandpink
Sorry to be pedantic but needs must:
1. How frequently do you buy magazines or adult related publications?
Once a week
Twice a week
Three or more times a month
Four or more times a month
Two to three times a year
Less than once a year
Never
Surely this should read in chronological order such as:
More than once per week
Weekly
Bi-weekly
Monthly
Bi-monthly
2-5 times per year
Once per year
Never
Confused the hell outta me. I am sure many people subscribe to monthlies and there wasn't an option for this.
pink x

me too, no option for monthly so my answer to thsi is just crap, closed my eyes and clicked
h x
Quote by the_Laird
I'm thinking of getting one of mine done.
I seem to remember a thread before about peoples pain experience of it all.
How much should it cost?

cost me £35 last november.
I use AVG for virus,
Zonealarm as firewall
firefox browser to avoid popup and other IE related holes
Thunderbird email to avoid Outlook holes
spybot and adaware for those other little annoyances.
All works great, never had a problem.
Main thing to say is, don't click on any attached file in email unless you're very sure what it is and be very careful what you click on in web pages and pop-ups if you're unlucky to get some.
good luck
h x
this is horny here as well now,
don't worry peeps, all of this has been discussed with me, we are both totally open with each other about swinging, wouldn't work otherwise. All feelings have been talked over and over and over and over and over, the fucking fantastic feelings and the scary feelings (and there are many more fucking fantastic than scary :P)
we have re-read our original post and both agree that the term relationship is the wrong one to use and people have taken it in the wrong sense.
We're not looking at a polyamorous triangular relationship, no no no, god no, just fun. If you're reading this, you-know-who-you-are, you don't have to move house lol
That's not what curvy meant. What curvy meant by that was getting to know him a bit, rather than just treating him as just a handy appendage to have fun with or as a single fuck. It was fun, we got on really well we think, we'd all like to do it again.
there's no danger of anything serious developing, just a question of how much more fun to have, but by having those other meets, does it become a bit of a friendship and how to handle that.
thanks for the concern shown, but be reassured that the worries shown in the earlier posts are not justified, just the high from that first meet being a bit overwhelming, sure people can remember those.
anyway, thanks for your replies, we're OK really, not as bad as it seems, just a bit of overanalysing rolleyes , won't do it again, promise.
tc
c & h kiss
Quote by jaymar
I think Rob is right, you can sometimes over analyse something. BUT of course it is your first time and the first is very impressionable. It is a difficult one, we have only had one meet with a single guy and he is lovely, we still chat but haven't had a chance to meet up again. It's also about what they want as well, has he indicated whether he would like to see you both again?
I think you have to remember your first priority is your hubby and talk it through with him. Swinging is mostly about sex without the pressure of a relationship but it can of course bring relationships.
You are clearly confused. I would let the dust settle for a few days and enjoy the aftermath with your hubby.. :grin:

thanks jaymar,
it IS easy for me to overanalyse, i'm good at that!!
yeah horny and i have talked bout it lots and we are certainly enjoying the aftermath :grin
just wanted to hear experiences of others who have met more than once and what that has led to - good or bad or indifferent
cheers,
curvy xx
being part of a couple and having just had our first wonderful amazing encounter with a single guy and feeling the thril, excitment of the night of passion i am now wondering - do we see him again.
is that about having more wonderful sex or about finding more out about him and getting into a relationship?
its left me with questions
- can i have sex without a relstionship?
- can relationships like this work?
- whats the costs and benefits??
aarrgghh, loads of unanswered questions, so anyone got an opinion, thought or an experience to share please do
confused :confused2:
curvy xx
what a great thread. i think our hair is more important to us that we give it credit for - its a statement of who we are.
mine has always been short and very short. i have tried on countless occassions to grow it no no avail and lots of bitter disappointment. i have always hated going to the hairdresers.
i have now realised how i am attached to my hair - its part of my femininity.
over the past two years i have increasingly accepted my feminine part of me and -hey presto - been able to grow my hair. it's now beautifully wavy, shoulder length hair which is very feminine.
i've also found that it adds to my sexual pleasure cos i love having it pulled (but thats another story for aother day!!!).
i now LOVE my hair and going to the hairdressers
i'm seeing how long i can get it :grin
curvy xx
being welsh we like to join in converstaions with fellow welshies ...... but living in englad it's only fair to enjoy the company of those living moe local so we use the bristol/wilts/ ox room.
we sometimes use the couples room too coffee
horny n curvy xx
not what you're looking for i'm afraid, we can't meet sat :cry:
but just wanted to say from a swans fan to 2 others:
Who are we confused:

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JACKARMY lol
Enjoy the game
h kiss
Quote by robhambledon

Ooh, just noticed, our hundredth post, small milestone, 1000 next stop lol

incidentally congrats on almost reaching 100........unfortunately no telgrams I`m afraid
hey I`m almost at 200 biggrin
some people just have to go one better don't they rolleyes :thumbup: :lol:
h
Since we've been active on here over the last few weeks our already open views on sexuality have broadened even more.
Speaking for myself (i'll let curvy speak for herself if she chooses), I have always been slightly curious about my having a bi-side and this has increased to yes I would like to experiment and see what happens with another man who also wanted the experience.
We have been chatting to a guy and I have realised I am definitely interested, and so is curvy in watching it. In fact the scenario now actively turns her on whereas before she hadn't even considered it.
I think I am still mainly hetero in that given the straight (ironic choice if word maybe confused) choice between a guy and a gal I would still go for the lady - they have so much more to play with biggrin. But when the opportunity arises I now know I will go with the flow and just enjoy what happens.
Being on this site and chatting just changes you, well it has us. Sex is a physical (mainly, not denying the emotional side totally) sensation and does it really matter who is involved with the pleasure as long as you 'click' in the first place.
just my thoughts
tc
h
Ooh, just noticed, our hundredth post, small milestone, 1000 next stop lol
If you want the full gen on this, try reading this book
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
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Title says for women, but it all fits for men too - same basic plumbing in that area :shock:
Excellent book with excellent advice, really does tell u everything you need to know.
good luck & have fun
h
i suffer with blocked sinuses quite a bit and horny treated me to some plastic strips to stick across my nose at night.
they are brill. not only does he get a good nights sleep but i do too. i hadnt realised that i was having as much disturbed sleep as him. i wasnt aware of my snoring - it didn t wake me up.
after using thse for about a week i feel much less tired with lots more energy.
curvy xx
Welcome wave to the community, remember, you're here to have fun so enjoy :grin:
There are some great people in the chatrooms, we've had some great times since delurking last year, worth taking that step, isn't it confused
Good profile, btw, makes you stand out amongs a sea of single guys, imho
have fun
h
Quote by Mallock2006


For tha same price as a dedicated satnav it seems a no-brainer to me - go for the PDA.
have fun
h

There are satnavs out there for £150.....And they will also play mp3 tracks.
All we need is UK maps really as I have no intentions of going abroad.
Got a calender on my phone and several around the house lol
Just want a basic(ish) satnav really.....
didn't realise some were so cheap, use mine for satnav, music and films mainly. Oh and I've got OS maps on there as well for walking.
u get what fits the bill, then you're happy biggrin
have fun
h
Quote by Sally-dave
we have a garmin, it does the job, and i think it does speed cameras as well! we got garmin as we do GEOCACHING and have a garmin GPS as well,and can use the same mapping software in both!
:happy:

hi sally, hi dave,
swingers and geocachers, us too. Do you use
Reckon you could combine the two?, What swinging swag would you put in the final cache box. Or how about a multi-cache where you have to take off an item of clothing or do a naughty task before you can go to the next one.
have fun,
h kiss
Have you thought of going for a PDA with built-in GPS. You can get a Mio P550 with TomTom pre-installed for about £250 now.
This is more than comparable with the price of a dedicated satnav and you get the benefits of a PDA - word procesing, spreadsheets, calendar, appts, games, voice recorder, plays MP3s, store & view pics, lets you watch films and a myriad of almost any other application you can think of out there on the net to download and install.
The Mio P550 also has bult-in bluetooth for PC connection and built-in WiFi so you can connect to the net (wherever a wirelss network exists of course). Just thnk you can be on SH anywhere and everywhere biggrin
One of the best gadgets I ever bought.
For tha same price as a dedicated satnav it seems a no-brainer to me - go for the PDA.
have fun
h
:welcome: Dave,
I would reiterate what Sassy said, complete your profile and add a few photos, nothing worse than getting a PM only to then look at a profile and find it pretty much empty, don't generally bother after that.
I would also suggest frequenting the Bristol Chat , there's usually a room open on server2, great bunch of people.
Oh, and have fun biggrin
h
Figured it would be something like that, just wanted confirmation.
ty for taking the time cool
cheers
h
How does the friends section work?
Is it like an address book in email where you just keep a list of people you want to keep in touch with?
or is it like contacts in MSN where the person has to agree to be on the list.
I'm not asking cos I plan to stalk anyone confused but we're new to this and are still a bit shy redface
We've got lots of little bits of paper on the desk with scribbled screennames on :small-print: and thought this might be a better way to do it biggrin
h kiss
Quote by BiWelshMinx

We're stepping our way through this enjoyable minefield and having a fantastic time so we'll just carry on having fun and just let things happen and try and make them happen when we feel confident.
h kiss

Lovely way to put it :thumbup: biggrin
ty, minx,
always nice to be appreciated

h :kiss:
This is such a 'Help I don't know what to do area' dunno' for us as newbies, just starting to arrange meets and hoping others will know what they are doing but just aiming ot have fun, whatever happens.
It's the whole swinging scene really, when do you start playing at a club, when does flirting in chat mean something more, when do you exchange face photos, what happens when you meet. All scary, but exciting stuff.
We're stepping our way through this enjoyable minefield and having a fantastic time so we'll just carry on having fun and just let things happen and try and make them happen when we feel confident.
h kiss
Quote by swing_fun_cpl
After all kids are naive as are alot of adults and can be very cruel regarding things they dont understand or are unusual. Found this out last year when i moved house and quite inocently a female friend and her two kids moved with me for a few months. We couldnt understand why the other mums and parents at the village primary school wouldnt look us in the eyes or talk with us and put it down to village mentality ......untill my 8 year old son came home and asked what a was :shock: it then came out that every one thought we were the only gays in the village lol was funny for us adults but not funny at all for the kids sad But after a few visits to the local pub and talking to the nosey lady in the post office the village were soon put right. And suddenly our children were invited to birthday partys and for sleep overs.......so yes it isnt something i would shout about but i'm not the one embarressed its those that dont understand the lifestyle that are :lol:
nicky

That's so sad that someone's 'supposed' sexuality has such a negative effect on children & people close to them. SO small-minded and, lets face it, homophobic.
h
Quote by lostboysandgirls

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Where as, if we discussed openly we would be leaving our children/parents to possibly suffer. And suffer for our lets face it - social life and indulgences ..
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This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
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damn. you give good forum lost biggrin
that's the reason we keep it under wraps, the effect it would have on some of our friendships. It's sad that some people we know wouldn't accepts it but they have other good points and are generally very good friends. LIke you a major concern as well is the effect on the kids; we can choose this lifestyle and it would be fantastic to be open about it (would probably get more opportunity for meets for a start lol ) but it would be a nightmare for our kids in school.
We love the secret little smiles and knowing looks we can share, but , it's also difficult not to blurt out little things in the middle of conversations, been so close so many times to blowing it, but have just got away with it confused
it's good to have a few naughty secrets anyway, makes it that bit more exciting.
h kiss
no real tech problems just some thoughts on the new chat.
Liked:
buttons for photos - don't need to go to new window & profile to perve redface
button for profile - 1 click less, fine by me
clicking on room joins, again 1 click less, like it
swirchable cams and user/room lists - more room for chat
Didn't like:
separate whisper tabs - lose thread of chat, but could get used to it, especially if whispering to more than one, we'll see.
Return didn't work in whisper tabs to send msg had to use button
Emoticons didn't work in whisper tabs
Msgs were slow to appear in chat window after sending
Webcams don't appear in seprate list, have to scroll through all users to see who's on cam.
Overall, quite liked, just used to the old chat now, sure once it's up and running reliably (unlike old chat!) we'll get used to and love it.
It's different tonight from last nght, now has separate lists for users and rooms, preferred last nights with tabs.
h kiss
Tricks of The Mind by Derren Brown
Just finished this. Great book - funny and informative.
h
yes, i was glad to hear that, some of the soundbites they were giving on the radio were vile, just ignorant, nasty comments.
And these people are supposed to be caring religious types - bah, makes my blood boil
h