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delsutton
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 54
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Quote by the_Laird
Oh if ever a thread title caught my eye it’s that one!!!!
Best advice I can think of is pluck up the courage to ask her directly.
Don’t rule out kissing as a lesser sport, with the right person it’s far more important than that……
The thing is, is that it's not really an issue of asking her. We're pretty open with each other so it won't be a problem asking her what she meant the next time we meet, whenever that may be. In some ways I fully understand, without fully understanding, if you see what I mean!
As for kissing, I couldn't agree more. I'm a great fan of a good long snog. And it doesn't need to lead anywhere else either.
What is probably leaving me feel in need of a full answer right now is that she made a point of saying sex wasn't on the cards. I never at any stage made any sexual moves on her, it was she who started snogging me... I just responded!
Quote by merseypair
we have been trained in tantric massage- where you can delay the big o and then turn it into a full body orgasm which leaves you with a silly grin for a week! works on both male & female
Well, I did have a silly grin the last time (plus, I'm sure, a very strange walk) for a few hours afterwards. Where do you get training like that?
Quote by Drewxcore
Sex with a friend works pretty well, although getting texts at 3am because they are drunk and horny can be a tad inconveniant since i dont drive :P i'd get in a taxie straight away but i live in the town centre and it would cost me a fortune :cry:
I think at this stage I'd be happy with texts at any hour!
Quote by blonde
OK here goes ........
1. She likes you too much to lose you as a friend
2. She wants you to chase her
3. She just doesn't fancy you!
There's only one way to find out :rascal: ask her and then try to read between the lines, coz you know what us girls are like!:giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Actually, now I think about this more in depth, it's probably number 3. Thanks for helping me see things more clearly, Blonde
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Without actually ASKING her, I reckon it could be any one of those 3 though the favourite would be "I don't want to damage a valued friendship". Maybe she just doesn't see you as relationship material and to sleep with you could damage your friendship beyond repair.
For you to shag a close friend and still stay friends afterwards is not impossible ( been there, done that, currently knitting the t shirt) but you have to know it could very well lose you a special person.
I'd quite happily have sex with a friend and still be capable of continuing the friendship, even if it were a one-off shag. It's even more confusing for me in this case becasue she's quite a sexual woman and has told me that she has shagged almost all of her male friends at one time or another. So to say that she wouldn't ever shag me is the baffling point. I should point out here that it's really a point of confusion rather than feeling rejected, as I don't. In point of fact I do seem to remember that I did ask her what she meant, but the mist of drunkeness precludes me from remembering clearly what her answer was at this stage!!
Can anyone help me understand? Last night I went out with a female friend of mine of many years and we ended up drinking way too much. We had a great chat about everything (including swinging, which she's curious about, but just getting her head around) and ended up having a nice long snog, but then she said that she could never sleep with me because "I was too nice".
Now this is the third time that this has happened to me in my life and I'm still a bit baffled, especially as I don't consider myself to be unusually "nice".
What exactly does it mean? Is it a gentle way of saying "I like you as a friend but there is no way I fancy you enough to drag you to bed", or is it a way of saying "I don't want to damage a valued friendship"? Or is it simply that we drank too much and ended up kissing without realising what was happening? But, on the other occasions drink wasn't a factor.
Has this happened to any other guys? I think this definitely needs the women's perspective to give an insight.
Now this is the third time that this has happened to me in my life and I'm still a bit baffled, especially as I don't consider myself to be unusually "nice".
What exactly does it mean? Is it a gentle way of saying "I like you as a friend but there is no way I fancy you enough to drag you to bed", or is it a way of saying "I don't want to damage a valued friendship"? Or is it simply that we drank too much and ended up kissing without realising what was happening? But, on the other occasions drink wasn't a factor.
Has this happened to any other guys? I think this definitely needs the women's perspective to give an insight.
Quote by westerross
Isn't Babe the name of a pig?
Sweetie rolls of the tongue with me but only with people I reeeeeeeally like.
One v. special person calls me cariad, which melts me - because it's her.
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A (female) friend of mine regularly calls me Sweetie. Normally I would cringe at the use of the word, but coming from her it's very warm and friendly. I think it's not what the term of endearment is, but who has used it and in what circumstances. I tend to shy away from using them, but if I ever do use one it's "hun" and that just for special women in my life.
I've fairly recently discovered the pleasure of delayed orgasm i.e. getting right to the edge and then DEAD STOP :!: for about 10-15 minutes.
By repeating this a few times over the space of a few hours my orgasms end up being incredibly powerful. It takes a huge amount of will power and concentration to get the moments just right but it's really rewarding. I haven't refined it enough yet to say what the optimum times and gaps are. Has anyone researched this more?
And just wondering does this work for women as well?
By repeating this a few times over the space of a few hours my orgasms end up being incredibly powerful. It takes a huge amount of will power and concentration to get the moments just right but it's really rewarding. I haven't refined it enough yet to say what the optimum times and gaps are. Has anyone researched this more?
And just wondering does this work for women as well?
Quote by Shireen
I would have thought that most men would feel guilty and embarrassed about the fact that they are unable to get/maintain an erection. Dont men see their cock as "proof" (wrong word but I cant think of another one at the minute) of their masculinity??And therefore if the cock dont perform then they would feel that their masculiity was somehow undermined :dunno:
I have encountered men in the past who has suffered on the odd occassion but it never bothered me at all... They managed to satifsy me in other ways so I was a happy bunny :giggle:
I would have thought it would affect men in a phsycological way more than anything
Am I making sense?? :dunno:
Edit : Yes you made sense to me Splendid
A great positive attitude Shireen.
I can't answer for other guys but for me it wasn't a question of my masculiniity being undermined, but simple human self-confidence. The first time I had sex was in my 20s and I was so nervous nothing happened. My gf of the time made a huge scene about it and made all sorts of intimidating comments, including saying that she would tell my friends if I couldn't get it up! Well, that sort of kills any chance of it ever happening! All very confusing, confrontational, emotional and ultiumately destructive, and not surprisingly it didn't last very long.It did leave me very dejected and scarred though, so inevitably with my next gf I was focusing so much on it that the same problem arose (or didn't!
). And she was even worse, actually telling all her friends about it (I heard back through a mutual acquaintance)!It took several years before I dared venture into the arena again but then I met a great woman who was intelligent, sensitive and incredibly sexy. She was so understanding that it put my mind at ease and whereas the first few times it was a little uncertain, we ended up having the the best sex both of us had ever had. But even on those occasions where it didn't arise she taught me not to be embarrassed and just forget about it; and also to defocus and to understand that there is more than one way to skin a pussy
! In fact, it was with her that I discovered the joy of locating a woman's G-spot for the first time. :love: Well, that's my confession done for a Sunday morning! Will 3 Hail Mary's suffice :?:
The one that always baffles me is "Bob's your uncle" and I've never heard a satisfactory explanation.
One theory is that it comes from an old slang saying "all is bob", meaning that everything is pleasant or satisfactory. Apparently there are
other old sayings long since fallen out of use containing "bob", mostly relating to robbery and gambling, but that doesn't really explain it properly to me. I'm still baffled as it doesn't explain the uncle bit
One theory is that it comes from an old slang saying "all is bob", meaning that everything is pleasant or satisfactory. Apparently there are
other old sayings long since fallen out of use containing "bob", mostly relating to robbery and gambling, but that doesn't really explain it properly to me. I'm still baffled as it doesn't explain the uncle bit
Quote by blueandpink
Hi del and welcome back
I was a real tomboy - hated skirts and girly things although a real fashion victim even when young. I didn't wear pink till i was about 30!
I started wearing suspenders and skirt when I discovered sex! And never looked back, I am far more girly now and love my heels, skirts and nice underwear.
Am I sexual? Am I sexually active? You decide...
pink x
Pink, you look all woman from here, but can't tell from 18 miles if you're sexual or active!
It is interesting that there seems to be a number of women who have gone through the tomboy phase. My friend said that it is only in the last few years that she too has started wearing sexy clothes after discovering sex. I wonder if anyone has ever done any academic studies on the topic?
Hi all, it's been some time since I posted due to personal issues that needed concentration, resolution and, at times, the odd sherbet, but not chat!
I was speaking to a friend of mine a few days ago and during the course of the conversation she mentioned she was a tomboy when young. This jolted my memory to a girl I knew a few years back who also used to be a tomboy. Both of them are the most sexual and sexually active women I have ever known and although it's far, far from a statistical analysis it made me wonder if there's any link between the two. Probably not, but wondered if anyone else has any further experience/views on the subject?:
I was speaking to a friend of mine a few days ago and during the course of the conversation she mentioned she was a tomboy when young. This jolted my memory to a girl I knew a few years back who also used to be a tomboy. Both of them are the most sexual and sexually active women I have ever known and although it's far, far from a statistical analysis it made me wonder if there's any link between the two. Probably not, but wondered if anyone else has any further experience/views on the subject?
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