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delsutton
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 54
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Quote by fem_4_taboo
1. she doent know this guy well enough to know he is going to be loking out for her safety.
2. its rather full on fora first experience
These are just the kind of worries that I have for her as well. She has only just met the guy (a couple of nights ago, although they contacted each other via an online dating site and have chatted for a couple of months) and sounds like he has kind of swept her away.
Quote by Sarah
It sounds a bit to me that the guy is using your friend to get into a swingers party, and possibly once there he will go off and do his own thing.
Is your friend really ready for the swinging scene?
Good luck for what ever you advise her
As far as I can gather, he seems to be looking for an emotional attachment (why else advertise on a dating site) as well as a swinging partner - she showed me his profile on that site and he does seem pretty upfront about his "hobby" and that he wants someone to share it with (although obviously it's not expressed in explicit terms). He's been honest with her and said he likes sex in a group situation and that will never change.
I'm really happy for her that she's found someone she likes as she's been searching for a few years, but also worried that she will end up getting hurt by someone who may not regard the relationship in the same way.
One of my best friends has really surprised me this morning by revealing she is going to a swingers party at the end of the month. She's just met some guy who has charmed the panties off her and has persuaded her to go to it. To say the least she's a little unsure, but also excited (I think more about the guy than the party).
She's never, ever been involved in the swinging scene, even peripherally, and even though we've talked about the subject before she's always rejected the reality as being too difficult to handle. The concept isn't a problem - I've shown her the SH site a couple of times and she is interested in principle. She's a very sensible and also very confident woman, but also quite sensitive and I would hate to see her get hurt.
As a complete novice and non-participatory (as yet) member I don't feel qualified to advise her properly so I thought I would seek out words of wisdom from those who are experienced and who may have gone through this situation themselves. Any guidance that I can pass on to her would be really appreciated.
She's never, ever been involved in the swinging scene, even peripherally, and even though we've talked about the subject before she's always rejected the reality as being too difficult to handle. The concept isn't a problem - I've shown her the SH site a couple of times and she is interested in principle. She's a very sensible and also very confident woman, but also quite sensitive and I would hate to see her get hurt.
As a complete novice and non-participatory (as yet) member I don't feel qualified to advise her properly so I thought I would seek out words of wisdom from those who are experienced and who may have gone through this situation themselves. Any guidance that I can pass on to her would be really appreciated.
A friend has just sent me some distrubing information, that is, that some US guy has a penis size of 34cm long (24cm flaccid)
I'm not in any way feeling threatened by this, but BLOODY HELL! Have any women here ever found one even close to that size (honesty is definitley called for here)?
And even if you did encounter one like that, would it be a thrill or would you run a mile?
I'm not in any way feeling threatened by this, but BLOODY HELL! Have any women here ever found one even close to that size (honesty is definitley called for here)?
And even if you did encounter one like that, would it be a thrill or would you run a mile?
Quote by anais
Turn my music up full blast and turn my blow torch on and play with my hobby stuff!
xanaisx
I have a blow torch too, although it is rather small as it's for jewellery making. You make yours sound lethal :shock:
Oooo we should talk!!!
:) :) :) :) Mine is a bit of a flame thrower if its turned up high, not used my big girls one yet....cant wait!!!
My small one is called a hothead, other a bethlehem pirhana. Both used for making glass beads, large one for beads, small sculptures, paperweights, marbles etc.
I'd love to have a go at jewellry making, I make the odd thing but nothing I need a torch for.
I find it very relaxing though... so useful to let the mind go blank :) and be creative.
xanaisx
Mine is just an overblown Zippo! I did a silver jewellery making course last year (and part of this, but work got in the way unfortunately). Made several rings for me, plus a couple of bangles for a couple of relatives. Was just starting enamelling when work took over. You're right, it is VERY relaxing, especially at that point where the finishing work reveals the object in its near final glory and you feel very satisfied... almost as good as sex
: I will definitely get back to it at some point, the sex, that is.
Quote by Liaisons
I've got a few interesting toys for those lonely evenings, but not a Fleshlight, which seems to be the male equivalent of the Rabbit series for ladies. I think it needs to be investigated.
Does anyone know if you can get them in shops or are they just an online buy? I was in a branch of Ann Summers at the weekend with a friend who was buying a Rabbit (wow, there is quite a range to choose from! She got the "beginner's model" as the sales assistant called it) but they just stared blankly when I asked if they sold Fleshlights, and just pointed me towards some cock rings and butt plugs!! Oh, and some device called a Cone which you apparently sit on (it has several buttons, one marked "orgasm" :shock: )
The mind boggles somewhat del, have you not heard of google?
f**king Fleshlights every where!
Indeed, but the query was whether they are available in shops, not online.
Quote by swing_fun_cpl
Never heard of a fleshlight before,so went off to investigate
:notes:
You will have to let us all know what they are like if you get one,as there seems to be so few worthwhile toys for men.
And if its good i want to beat the christmas rush
Nicky
Well, the reason I was asking this morning was that I have a day off so was hoping to be able to dash in somewhere in the London area and pick one up and try it later on, rather than wait a few days for an online order to arrive.
But, I will definitely get one and report back to you on the matter in hand, as it were
Yes, the Cone can be mounted on the wall apparently. The demo we were given in the shop certainly showed it to be pretty flexible. The sales lady asked me to put my hand on the tip of the device and pressed several buttons. All had a very definite vibrating pattern. And the Orgasm button made my finger literally jump off the thing it was so powerful!
I've got a few interesting toys for those lonely evenings, but not a Fleshlight, which seems to be the male equivalent of the Rabbit series for ladies. I think it needs to be investigated.
Does anyone know if you can get them in shops or are they just an online buy? I was in a branch of Ann Summers at the weekend with a friend who was buying a Rabbit (wow, there is quite a range to choose from! She got the "beginner's model" as the sales assistant called it) but they just stared blankly when I asked if they sold Fleshlights, and just pointed me towards some cock rings and butt plugs!! Oh, and some device called a Cone which you apparently sit on (it has several buttons, one marked "orgasm" :shock: )
Does anyone know if you can get them in shops or are they just an online buy? I was in a branch of Ann Summers at the weekend with a friend who was buying a Rabbit (wow, there is quite a range to choose from! She got the "beginner's model" as the sales assistant called it) but they just stared blankly when I asked if they sold Fleshlights, and just pointed me towards some cock rings and butt plugs!! Oh, and some device called a Cone which you apparently sit on (it has several buttons, one marked "orgasm" :shock: )
Quote by Drewxcore
I'm giving up Christianity for Lent
Last year for lent i did the same thing as Josh Hartnett in 40 days and 40 nights. I lasted as well!
Look up the film if you dont know what i mean
I haven't seen the film but know about it. But then, does the definition of celibacy mean no masturbation either?
yup, no masturbation either
Well, that must have been an extremely difficult 40 days (and nights). Or is it like giving up chocolate in that for the first week or so you can't think of anything but chocolate, but by the end you don't really think about it and maybe even not want it again?
it was on my mind practically every second of every day just becaue i couldnt do it
And we don't need to ask what happened on the 41st day, do we? Makes you realise how tough being a priest or nun must be.
Quote by Drewxcore
I'm giving up Christianity for Lent
Last year for lent i did the same thing as Josh Hartnett in 40 days and 40 nights. I lasted as well!
Look up the film if you dont know what i mean
I haven't seen the film but know about it. But then, does the definition of celibacy mean no masturbation either?
yup, no masturbation either
Well, that must have been an extremely difficult 40 days (and nights). Or is it like giving up chocolate in that for the first week or so you can't think of anything but chocolate, but by the end you don't really think about it and maybe even not want it again?
Quote by Drewxcore
I'm giving up Christianity for Lent
Last year for lent i did the same thing as Josh Hartnett in 40 days and 40 nights. I lasted as well!
Look up the film if you dont know what i mean
I haven't seen the film but know about it. But then, does the definition of celibacy mean no masturbation either?
Quote by blonde
sounds better than calling it a C**T.
It most certainly is ........... God I hate that word!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Personally I find the word immensely powerful and beautiful. I was talking to two of my women friends over the weekend about this very subject and both of them said they find it a very liberating term, not in its use as an expletive, but as a noun. But interestingly they both hate the word "pussy" as, for them, that is far too closely related to inane and dated 70s comedy.
Did anyone watch Balderdash and Piffle when they looked at the origin of the word? Fascinating series in general, but really interesting on the use of the evolution of "cunt". Germaine Greer said at the end that whereas she loves the term, it shouldn't be overused as there is something precious about it, in that it is now one of the few remaining words in English that still retains its power to shock. Totally agree!
Quote by jaymar
Del define attractive in your honest opinion, define plain, define sexy.... I bet each of your definitions would totally contrast or contradict someone elses on here.
I knew someone would ask me that!
It is so difficult to put these into words, but I'll have a concise go.Attractive = someone who I would find very interesting and pleasing on the eye, just as I would a good piece of art.
Plain = Someone who has no defining features that would make me want to take a long or a second look at.
Sexy = Someone, whether they are plain or otherwise, who has that je ne sais quoi and makes you think naughty thoughts.
And of course you're right, it is a very personal thing, and probably changes according to mood as well.
Likewise, I've not met anyone yet from SH, but it doesn't bother me. I've had a couple of great email conversations with people and the forum is a good place to hang out too.
I'm happy to dip in and out and not expect too much and if it happens that I meet someone at some stage, it will be a bonus. What's life without a little hope?
I'd say just enjoy what is here and don't focus too much on the authenticity or otherwise of the ads... the really genuine people seem to be the ones who hang out in here.
I'm happy to dip in and out and not expect too much and if it happens that I meet someone at some stage, it will be a bonus. What's life without a little hope?
I'd say just enjoy what is here and don't focus too much on the authenticity or otherwise of the ads... the really genuine people seem to be the ones who hang out in here.
Quote by Ukwineman
i do think sometimes you look at an extremely attractive women, and if she knows it and makes it obvious to that fact that it some what dulls the overall sexyness if that makes sense.
That's true... trying too hard is a turn off for me. But this particular woman in the gym wasn't the preening type, she was just naturally very attractive looking, but no spark.
Forgive me if this has been done before (as I'm sure it must have been at some stage) but couldn't find it through the thread search.
I was at my gym this morning and there was an incredibly attractive woman there who I didn't find in the least bit sexy. I find this happens pretty regularly. I found it difficult not to take my eyes off the woman, but it was more like looking at a great painting. On the other hand there were a couple of "plain" women in the gym who just oozed sex appeal.
Obviously this differs between men and women and between person to person, but I'm curious as to what others find makes someone sexy?
Is it the way they move? is it confidence? is it shyness? is it brashness? is it subtle body language? is it what they wear? is it how they wear what they wear? I'm sure all of these plus countless others go into the pot, but as I'm in a contemplative and observing mood I'm curious to see if there's a consensus.
And can we make ourselves more sexy by being conscious of how we act or wear, or is that when it all goes horribly wrong and end up looking like an idiot because it's too obvious!? :taz:
Finally, am I alone in finding someone physically attractive but not sexy?
:!:
I was at my gym this morning and there was an incredibly attractive woman there who I didn't find in the least bit sexy. I find this happens pretty regularly. I found it difficult not to take my eyes off the woman, but it was more like looking at a great painting. On the other hand there were a couple of "plain" women in the gym who just oozed sex appeal.
Obviously this differs between men and women and between person to person, but I'm curious as to what others find makes someone sexy?
Is it the way they move? is it confidence? is it shyness? is it brashness? is it subtle body language? is it what they wear? is it how they wear what they wear? I'm sure all of these plus countless others go into the pot, but as I'm in a contemplative and observing mood I'm curious to see if there's a consensus.
And can we make ourselves more sexy by being conscious of how we act or wear, or is that when it all goes horribly wrong and end up looking like an idiot because it's too obvious!? :taz:
Finally, am I alone in finding someone physically attractive but not sexy?
:!:
