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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 51
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Quote by Funslut68
i can remember exactly where i was that day ... as a chelsea supporter i was standing in the away end watchin chels at leicester , chels had got promotion with record points that season .... and proceeded to lose 2 nil to them , we got legged all the way back to the car ... couldn't do that now lol . we new nothin about what had happened until on the m1 home.... my mate and i were in near tears listening to the radio reports on the way home. A sad day

I know exactly where I was that day as well.... Arsenal fan, we were playing Newcastle and I was where I always stood...Right at the back (top) in the middle of the north bank, 50,000 plus packed in like sardines as per normal...
The FA had taken semi-finals away from Highbury a few years before because Arsenal refused to put up those same type of barriers behind the goals at each end.... one of the things I am proud of my club for doing....
Anyway... about 15 minutes into our game we started to hear there were problems, at half time the tannoy annoucer said the game had been abandoned..... it was only after we heard that a few had been killed near the end of half time that the whole severity of it hit home.... I remember the 2nd half of that game like it was yesterday...... no singing or chanting, just the sound of transistor radio's playing out loud so we could hear what was going on.....
there were already flowers and scarves wrapped around the gates of Highbury when we walked out....
I think we were all just too shocked ... liverpool street where you get supporters from all london clubs mingling was just full of people consoling each other..... One big family....
I think I got the biggest hug from my mum when I got in.... it could have happened to anyones family.....
should be a really good one... just hope it doesn't rain......
nicky hayden had a huge crash yesterday..
Quote by MikeNorth
I don't worry about the performance side of things but I do worry if the person will like me, find me attractive and actually want to play (I also worry that I will not like the person, find them attractive or want to play). I think the performance element comes naturally (forgive the pun) if the other elements mentioned above are in place lol

Totally agree.
yep and me
Same here.
and me as well...... :lol:
I think I have this mental thing for me especially in clubs because I tend to be larger than a lot of the blokes that are in there, so I tend to do a lot of chatting.. I think In the end I bore them into playing... :lol: :lol:
it depends......
For a first time meet with people then I do like a certain amount of build up, just to make sure that I am people that are right for me.....
If it is people that I have met before, then Short notice is good for me, nothing like a bit of spontinaity....
as an arsenal fan I am saying nothing at this point in time...... :gagged:
I do have a hotel and travel to Rome provisionally booked for the 27th may... lol
oooooh... if we are suggesting programmes not on mainstreem tv that people should search out and watch... then "curb your enthusiasm" should be somewhere near the top of the list..
okay..... arm has been suitably twisted.... can i come along...
there... that should scare everyone.....
sean xxxxxxxx
i hope you have all learnt that the only people whoever win are the bookies..... lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
too late to ask for me tenner back???
couldn't live without my george foreman grill.... i love it!!!!!
Quote by Dirtygirly

Butler's Cabin - DirtyGirly

With odds of 17/2 - that means it's a donkey right? dunno
Sarah I hope you win! :giggle:
Blimey!! They've just said that Butler's Cabin is the clear favourite! Clearly I know shit all about the oods! redface
it means if you back the horse "to win".... if it does, for every 2 pound you put on, you'll win win 17....
in edit... it has just gone in big time.. now 7-1
when i was in the bookies 10 minutes ago it was 9-1.. i knew i should have taken the price!!!!
can you add me please..... glad you have reminded me... have to go to the bookies.... 5 each way on butlers cabin
Quote by Resonance
Gonna Fly Now from the Rocky Soundtrack...
Just don't try jumping over the benches in the park.

lol... I do have the rocky OST on my phone/mp3/pod.... I actually have a fair bit on heavy metal on there when I am doing my walking......
Quote by meat2pleaseu
I'm also hoping ongoing rumours that the Stone Roses will be touring this year come to fruition biggrin

that is the one that I want.... but manny keeps saying that will happen when man city win the champions league!!!
I'd love to see the jam get back together.... same with the smiths with morrisey....
like BIoke said... there is a lot going on in the north east (I live just up the road from you....)
with the greatest of repsect.. you have been here a month... I have been here almost 5 years.....
I am not going to flame you.... but i will say what I say to every person who complains...
you get out what you put in......
Do you ever go to clubs.....
Do you go to any of the socials on the site...or even put your name down
Have you ever used the forums to get to know people....
Have you ever stepped inside the chatrooms....
the site is there to help you help yourself... it is more than just the ads.... if you don't use the site to sell yourself to other people then people can only help you so much......
get out there and sell yourself..... get yourselves known to people... imagine SH to be like a pub, would you expect people to be all chummy with you on your first time in? like others have said.. it does take time and it does take perserverence...
for example.. in your profile it says nothing about the person you are or the people that you are after rather than the basics....if you are only going to use one line, then I'm sorry but that smacks like a lack of effort.....
same with using winks.... complete lack of effort.. and as one lady said in your profile, it is like a cop out
SH hasn't started charging by the word, so start using them....... tell people why you are different from the others? give people a reason to say "yes, I have to meet that person"
the successful guys in the scene are not all 6ft muscle bound big dicked behemoths..... they are the guys who go the the socials, who go to the chatrooms, who go on the forums, who can have conversations with people, who made the time to get themselves known........
sorry to be so blunt..... but I hope it helps you understand a little
sean
actually.... very interesting article out today....
from
Many over-45s 'ignore STI risks'
STI rates have been increasing among people over 45
Many middle-aged people are continuing to take an irresponsible attitude to their sexual health, say experts.
The Royal Pharmaceutical Society of Great Britain polled over 2,000 adults.
Nearly a fifth of those polled aged 45 to 54 said they had had unprotected sex with someone other than a long-term partner in the past five years.
There is a misconception that their risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI) is "next to nothing", says the RPSGB.
Sexually transmitted infections have doubled in under a decade in people over 45 and have been rising at a faster rate than in the young, recent figures from the Health Protection Agency show.
Older people are increasingly likely to be single or undergoing relationship changes and are less likely to consistently use condoms, perhaps because the risk of pregnancy no longer exists, experts have observed.
The RPSGB's survey of 2,258 UK adults - half who were aged 45 plus - found older generations were flippant about the risks of catching an STI.

Naughty 40s
A quarter of the 45-54-year-olds surveyed said they did not use contraception as they trusted the person they were sleeping with not to have an STI, with one in 10 saying they did not like the feeling of condoms.
Nearly a third surveyed described their risk of getting an STI when having unprotected sex with a new partner or someone other than their current partner as unlikely or very unlikely.
A further 20% believed that their chances of picking up an infection were "next to nothing".
Double the number of over 55s (25%) believed their chances of acquiring an STI from unprotected sex were next to nothing, compared to 13% of those aged 18-24.
RPSGB spokeswoman Heidi Wright said: "The majority of safe sex messages are targeted at teenagers, but as more adults begin new relationships later in life, they quite clearly need advice too.
"You can't always tell who has an STI and infections don't discriminate on the basis of age."
She said local pharmacies were an excellent source of sexual health advice and support.
Lisa Power of the Terrence Higgins Trust said: "Teenagers aren't the only people who think they're immune from harm.
"Whatever your age, if you have a new sexual partner or more than one, condoms should be a basic part of ensuring your sexual health and theirs.
"It's more embarrassing to get an infection than to use a condom."
A Department of Health spokesperson said: "The message is the same for everyone - anyone having unprotected sex potentially puts themselves at risk of an STI.
"Infections rates have risen in all age groups, including older people.
"Older people also need to be aware of the need to use condoms consistently, particularly those who are newly single and entering relationships with new partners."
Quote by brucie
im satrting to doubt it... no not really, but i do think the risk is overdone.
i have been havng unprotected sex with straight white non drug user females for over 15 years. girls i know from work, meet in bars, swinging clubs (very rarely do women/couples even suggest a condom, let alone insist!), saunas etc. probably over 200.
i had a full medical recently including HIV test. negative.
even the doc said you would have had to have been very very unlucky even with your history...
so why do some people get so hung up about safe sex?

I am not sure which I am more worry about... the carefree attitude you have about your health, or the carefeee attitude you seem to display to others.... :shock:
you may have gotten lucky and not caught anything, but I know people who has had to call up people they have played with to tell them to get themselves checked because someone had "something"......
its not only HIV you have to worry about... lets talk about hep b and c, lets talk about chlamydia, herpes, Gonorrhoea, Syphillis and other nasties....
lets talk about pregnacies
you may want to play russian roulette with your health, but I am sure that most people don't
wow.... just wow........
I don't have any problems with the tagging per se.... but I still will not be putting my pictures back into the public domain till the facility for others to tag pictures is removed....
that give people the power to make decisions on my pics that I may not be happy with......
that is still my gripe with the entire fiasco....
only let people do there own....
Quote by essex34m

I have black friends who use the "N" word to describe themselves when they're with peers. I can't say I'm keen- and you won't hear me say it. However, it's their choice. If it makes me uncomfortable to hear it thats my problem- not theirs.
It's the intent, not the word that makes it "ist."

And thats why the word (and such like) will never 'die'
............. and that in a sense is the problem, people can and do make assumptions about words, It is one of the words that really divides.... even if you were to ask people I bet most black people hate it, but a large section of people who use it will say they are reclaiming it......
my friends know not to use it in front of me, it does make me feel very uncomfortable because I have had it used at me with so much venom in the past
there are words that I do use when I am around friends, but that is from having that sense of familularity (sp) I would never use anything that I know my friends would be offended by....
sorry... thinking out loud then... but a bloody good topic...
Quote by Gnb
It sounds like the survey in general has been a good thing as it has given everybody the real picture of the site rather than a select few opinion on how it should be.
GnB - Delighted with the improvements!

do you know what...... today is your lucky day!!!... I had decided since you are "delighted with the improvements" and take I am going to take it upon myself to tag a few of your pictures...
you can thank me later.......no, really!
now... I don't know you from adam, but if I did, and I had some sort of agenda, what do you think may possibly have happened next??
All 1's (poor) for the photo quality because obviously they are not professional quality and I only have the highest standards...... .
Any picture of just one of you in is obviously "gay"......
The ones wearing stocking are obviously "fettish",
Anything more than a size 6 and it has "BBW" tagged on it...
rather subjective isn't it.... ooooh loving your pics by the way, having a blast!
NOW do you see why a lot of people are up in arms? if it not necessarliy about the tagging, but who is doing the tagging!
leave it up to people to do their own, and you have nowhere near the flack there is now..........
the way it has been implemented has "pigs ear" written all over it, and they just wanted to get it done quickly and let others do it, rather than right and let people do it own there own......
sean xxxxxxxxx
by the way, thanks for letting me tag your pictures......I have hidden mine for the time being just until I see the results of this, then I'll decide what I want to do...... what do you know, finally an informed choice in this entire mess......

p.s actually the whole "tagging your pictures" thing was a lie, I didn't really do it but I was really really tempted to and to prove a point, but I thought I'd let ya sweat..........
Quote by Angel Chat
and they happen to be holding a social at a swingers club for every tom,dick and harry,which seems like a veiled attempt to just get people into their venues.

Or could it be that the organisers just want to have an event where play occurs, or is that considered wrong in the swinging scene?
I'm sure that's not considered wrong by anyone. In my personal opinion, the annoyance/frustration/confusion comes in when the definition of "social" is taken so far out of context as to mean something completely different.
To me, a social should be just that, social. A meet where play could happen is far more than "just social". Or am I being too pedantic? wink
I think this is what more of what I am getting at .... It just feels the term "social" has been hijacked for any meaning.... maybe it is more about a case of reclaiming the word back to what it was..... but it does feel like some people do play up the term "social" and play down the club elements as they people believe less people who be inclined to go to these...
I think it also helps people know more likely as to what they are signing up to......
I think the whole site is becomming more and more "commercialised" which is sad... but I am not sure whether people have gone out to find loopholes in the rules..
for example, the whole "socials in clubs" pheonoma that has sprung up..... could be considered to be fairly blantant promotions for clubs to get around paying the site....
I now know of at least 4 clubs who are now advertising nights that people from sh have organised on there own sites as party nights.... hey, again gets round the adveritising rules I suppose.....
I am not saying for people not to organise stuff... but at least be honest about it when advertising it and not shielding it in other language "people were saying that socials were socials" which is rubbish when you consider the derby ones compared to the chams ones (I only used those two as one is purly social...the other takes place in a club)
thats why i did ask for the socials in clubs to be called "club meets" rather than "socials".... at least it means people are far more aware of what they are signing up for.... and the intent of it being a commercial event
if you are doing an intensive driving course, can you let me know how yours goes... it is something i am looking at possibly doing sometime soon....
Quote by fem_4_taboo
ok i know not very sexy, but then nor is being smelly lol
the water bill just dropped on the mat.
I live n cornwall and we have very high water bills, yes i know we have lovely beaches etc , but then you up country folk have mor eroads than us and moterways, we still pay same car tax down here for shite roads and no moterways,
ok,,, off the soap box lol
is any one on a water meter and do they find it cheeper? ok cheeper than £70 a month (£700 a year) for a small 2 bed house with only one adult in it?
im considering going over to one, ive been on the SWW site and im not sure if i will be better off?
opinions please
xxx fem xx

okay... all I can tell if if that I have ended up saving about half by getting a water meter installed....last years bill would have been 270, I ended up paying 140
but there are normally a few things you have to consider...
see if they are prepared to give you a one year option to take it back out? give you a chance take see if you don't like, after a year you are normally stuck with it...
also bear in mind that if you get it put in, then normally the next residents don't get an option
see if you can get any information on the U switch website, they may be able to tell you if you'll be better off
hope that helps...
sean xxxxxxxxxx
you all have a blast for me... i haven't been well for the week so I haven't been around much....
get lots of kissing done for me!!!!!
Quote by Resonance
They are currently on special offer in tesco's!!
I like any except any coffee ones!! yuk

That's just so typical of this place...
Oh you are allowed to debate the plus and minus points of marmite as much as you like, but somehow Coffee Chocs are just wrong are they?!?!
Bloody cliques...
bolt
yes.......... they bloody are!!!!!!! :bolt:
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
You prompted me to find him on youtube. I cried most of the way through, I'm sure my customers think I've lost the plot now redface

saw him when he was on tour was bloody funny... mind you so is justin lee collins,
I suppose I like the friday/sunday night project so much
mate...
two words.....
Stop Digging!!!!
if you don't like it... leave, you've been here 3 years... you know where the door is......
and don't come back with some sarcastic fancy answer.... I have a weeks worth of illness and general frustration built up and quite frankly.... just don't
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Any news on whether there will be a quiz tonight?

no quiz tonight, I have come down with sereve tonsilitius and a tempreture of 102
its not nice sad
Today.....Saturday 14/March is Steak & BJ Day!

Had a steak for me lunch.... yummy....
think I should go to a club tonight now...... lol :lol:
Quote by Twobicurious40s
Thanks for your input all of you but I can't help noticing that you have real profiles on the are thinking of reasons that others may leave theirs blank which only demonstrates your own generosity of spirit doesn't it?I wasn't advocating jumping into bed with anyone merely on the basis of their profile but it is a sort of filter if only to put a line through those who live several hundred miles away or to highlight the heavily tattooed bbw hairy smokers if that's your kind of guy/girl! smile
I maintain that they probably just can't be bothered to put any effort in so it's unlikely that we'd get on anyway.
I do take the point about updating to reflect your wants at a particular time though.
xx Mr Two

I think the point being made is that people may choose there partners different ways, and might work for you may not for others ....
for example, some people may chose to go down the social route and talk to people .... but yet going thru your posts I have yet to see your name for any.... wink
some people I know will only meet in clubs...good for them!
some people will only go dogging.... good for them!
some people only get meets thru the chatroom.... some from the ads... and even some people will only meet with sarcastic 6ft2 black guys from newcastle... and good for them!
rather that worry about the different approaches, embrace them, if everyone did everything the same way then it would be a bloody boring site.....
if it works for you... cool... it is doesn't then find a way that it will