first off what does ot stand for ? My daughter fried her hair with bleach we sought advice from a salon and she bought tigi comfort food shampoo and conditioner. Two massive bottles only cost £25. It was amazing. X
its good reading all these replies and outlooks. X hope some of the pit falls are over come by me and others and i meet lots of you at the bristol massive lol x
i was thinking what stops soem people from atending a social.
i dont mean things like the differences between a social and munch, i mean attending in general if its something you would actually like to attend.
i think (being in cornwall) attending any event tends to result in travel and hotels.
i know its typical for them to be held on a saturday, but i cant help thinking if its a planned ahead event you could get a friday or monday off work, and not everyoneworks mon-fri any way.
its just peved me that i was lookig for a hotel on a sat and its £70, change that to a sunday and it drops to £19. much more affordable.
so would you be more likely to attend if the hotels were much cheaper? or would the day put you off?
xx fem xx
i cant remember what you wanted an answer to now and im logged in on my phone so takes to long to go back. Some will recall i suffered in october09 from a full blown break down. Ive been recieving input from several professionals since every week. Its bloody tiring lol. As a child i witnessed a mother who showed no emotion and often would just disapear for a few weeks. A alcoholic father who was constantly having affairs with my mothers friends. A stash of explicit porn and moving home every 18 months all of this feeds into our sub consious. I have always been independent and proud of that. Never needed a man. Avoided love. And thought swinging was the answer to my chosen lifestyle. I got sex, i had fun, i never did love or was likely to suffer from the pain of being cheated on. Even met married men as it was safe to me. Anyway i am learning its all avoidence and i need to understand who i am, what i want and what im sacred of. Or i realised i will always push people away and end up lonely. Therapy is bloody hard work but i think with deep rooted experiences that have moulded us its the only way to start to change. X x
can i ask why do you have bra in your user name?
only met you both the once at a munch. Im very sorry about your loss. X x
i consider a munch to be a social event, but one that is held in a private venue where no vanillas would likely to be.
there would be a list and only those on that list could get in.
it would be purely social and no sexual pressures or activity.
a oppertunity for those who have been swinging to offer advice to the new people,
a oppertunity to see who is likely to turn up.
a oppertunity to meet face to face with people off the forums and now chat and put names to faces.
a chance to make connections that may possible turn into swinging meets later on.
all in all a protected but fun evening for swingers to attend.
i will be keeping a close eye on the munch date you are planning and hopefully will be able to attend.
xx fem xx
i think we all need this at times.
its good that you have the insight to know when its not right and step back rather than be a twat or say something to get banned.
i did the same thing a few months ago. didnt trust myself to post in the frame of mind i was in lol.
take care and find your peace of mind xxx fem xx
at one of my sessions at work for young mums, we wrote different stds on post its and they had them stuck to their foreheads and they had to guess what one they had by asking what symptoms they might have.
maybe not a good subject matter if your hoping to have a swinging party though lol
xx fem xx
house of pain, jump around. love that song
xx fem xx
i love the roasted red pepper one from m & s.
marmite is yuck
and whats with asparagus making ya wee smell yuck?? ffs wee smells yuck anyway.
and coffee is double yuck.
xx fem xx
Some of you may be aware i discolsed that last october i suffered from a breckdown.
In the height of this i was a mess, i was medicated up to the eye balls and couldnt tell you if it was night or day, or sometimes who i was, but that was extreem.
The meds allowed my body to recover and recoup some strength and kinda forced me to sleep and relax.
i'm sure I'm not the first and wont be the last that will suffer from this.
I'm not thick, I dont have learning difficulties, I had and in fact still have a important job which is very stressful,with that and personal life changes and generally the state the country is in and tired of being whipped by inflation etc i snapped.
I was a stable, confident independent woman. People would have met me, some would have swung with me.
I am still recovering, and although back at work and appearing normal again, i do have depression and dark clouds on some days, and live with a certain amount of fear that i could relapse.
I am not playing right now, I cant be arsed to lol. I'm getting more pleasure out of a soak in the bath, a bed with clean sheets and an early night than meeting what was advertised as a tall tonned single 40 year old vwe guy that typically turns out to be a deceptive married fat 50 year old small dicked guy lol.
If I met him and failed to say "oh 7 months ago i was ill with stress and i still take meds", who would be the bigger lier?
If i had diabities and took meds to control it should i disclose that?
The fact is i dont give a flying fook who knows i was ill, but there is still so much predudice about mental ill health that judgements are made before meeting someone.
Im not dangerous, well no more than I used to be, I wont start crying, well not unless the sex is really crap, and i wont start laughing like a mental patient, well not till you drop your trousers anyway.
i wouldnt meet when feeling ill, so why should i disclose this to some one im about to fuck? i dont want a relationship just sex.
xx fem xx
i know its childish but on the james blunt song when he sings "hes got a semi by the sea" i cant help giggle. I had to stop refering to the junk by the back door as "a load of crap in my back passage that needed clearing out" lol x fem x
thank you for looking into this for me, and resolving the issue.
it was hopefully just a block pm'er with his copy and paste messages.
although when i went into my profile i could see my pics, but that must have been casue i was looking and they are mine lol.
thank you again xx fem xx
i did think it may have been a line but when i clicked on my profile yep there were all my private pics in a public folder. I wouldnt mind so much if it was just a tit or flange pic, but they arnt they are all clear face pics. Which also means they could be viewed by non members and in the galleries. I have since moved them to a private album. The same thing happened to me last time. Which is why my pics have alwaya remained private. I am only on my phone at the mo, but when i log in on the pc i will e mail with the people who said they could see them. Im not sure meaty if i should be extra offended now you mentioned it as i only got 3 meet request based on my pics lol. Oh re email, no i never read the pm there i read notification that i had mail. X
ok i know i dont log in very often but i do read my emails on my registered e mail account. So why is it so difficult to update members of important changes ? I recieved a message today saying he liked my photos, couldnt understand as i know my photos have always been set as private. Well i log in to see new profile lay out and there are my face pics on public view. To say im extremly fucked off is a understatement. For a site that deals with a sensetive area you would hope privacy is respected.. Ffs
posting in the main cafe is a good start, i never would have taken a look see at your profile otherwise.
now if i was slim and lived closer i woudl have considered some light banter and flirting and maybe even a pm.
the profile is lovely, sorry lovely sounds wet. its a good profile and nice pics, although i like the body shot i dont like the urinals in the background.
i dont know what advice i can give, but ensure you fit someones expectations before messaging them, hang out in a chat room, banter around the forums, that sif you like teh social side.
there are different types on here, some who never use chat rooms or the forums and will hunt out the ads and profiles when they are seeking asingle male, they may then see how active they are on teh site to get a rounded feel for who they are and good forum posts may help?
i know i will be shot down in flames, but i have found alot of teh single ladies are um larger, so that will rule out alot of ladies who will see your profile and message you, alot of the others wont cosider them selves slim even if they are lol so again might not message you. but dont change that cause if slim is what you are attracted to dont settle for something else as the spark wont be there and it will be picked up on.
and the introduce forum, well i think its pants, i refuse to go in there. i think it alinates (sp) more newbies than welcomes them, as the regulers get tired of constantly saying hello,so stop doing it. much better just to have a hello thread in the cafe forum in my opinion.
good luck,
xx fem xx
sorry its boring, but i have never hired a car before.
i have just booked one on line and pre paid but it doesnt seem that clear about deposits.
its with hertz and ive booked with my credit card, now will they take a deposit when i go and collect the car? or will they just hold my card details till i return the car? and does anyone know how much the deposit would be?
the super insurance with is £12 a day but i looked on and found one that would only be that for the whole period.
is it worth buying this insurance at all?
any one with any answers or experiences with hertz?
xx fem xxx
i think they look lovey, never found a man into them or chasity, which i also like.
xx fem xx
oh saw some vey decorative snake jewled ones before that were nice
hi suze,
i met you both at a munch and although i have a terible memory i remember you both and thinking how warm you both were.
i am so sorry that you have lost bart, well the physical anyway, i feel he will keep you warm and embrace your grief but keep strong.
dont rush anything, just do what feels right and sending big hugs your way.
keep well love fem xx
i have had this phone for over a year now , but today for some reason it keeps saying memory full delete. i have gone through teh phone and there is nothing in it and states i have plenty of memory space, it wont accept new messages saying there is no space.
does anyone have this phone or know how to fix this,
i have taken batery and sim out, re started it, restored factory settings, nothing is helping.
thank you
xx fem xx
he joined in 2005 so no upgrade required,
have you read the ones that seem to have been read, sometimes i have those types ad i realise i have never read them?
xx fem xx
i dont read much about this whole thing, but i feel the more people read the more confused they get.
when people say the ice caps are melting and we will be covered in water how?? if ice weighs the same as water then melted it wont make the levels rise any more will it?
i know we have floods, but thats to do with rain and drainage surely? if we keep covering the land in tarmac and concreete then the rain has no where to soak into the ground, maybe thats why its getting hotter?
recyclying, the energy it takes to carry the product home, wash the tin, the water used to wash it then put it out or take it to recycle, the petrol used to collect it or take it there etc etc, does all that effort really out weigh the enviromental cost of just binning it?
the answer is less packaging or more degradable packing i think.
if the world is heating up as the gas cant escape then why did they stop us using hair spray? if we had carried on teh hole would be big enough for all this gas to escape wouldnt it?
yes some og this is tounge in cheek but my end thoughts are yes i think we have global warming, does it deserve the panic or taxation and money making scams we are facing? NO.
xxx fem xx
if his behaviour was as described i would still write to admi with my suspicions, that way im sure if this was to happen say 20 times they would start to get a idea hes a possible fake, all it soemtimes takes is an email questioning his behaviour from admin and he will probally disapear.
xx fem xx
if you have god cause to think a couple is a single, a female is a mels etc then report them, its everyones duty to weed out the fakes.
he probally wanted you to leave a voice mail so he could join other adult sites as a couple by faking he was a female when having to leave a message on those sites to get verified.
no photos, no further chat, no accepting of bull shit excuses of , i dont have a camera, dont have a cam, cant buy a cam, cant work these computers very well, etc etc.
xx fem xx
