Phwaaaoooooor. Get that cute butt somewhere in my vicinity and let's lock the door.
jules
xx
I got lost in all the last bit of this thread! Do I need to be drunk to follow what's going on, or do I just need to be completey loopy (the first I can manage, the latter I will work on but getting there).
Jules
Awwww happy birthday Mal. I'd shag ya, but then I'm a tart lol
Jules
xx
Well, sometimes we do the silent treatment on purpose, cos we know it bugs the crap out of you. But sometimes, when we're really hurt, we fall into silent mode until we can figure out how we want to deal with stuff, because sometimes it's better to say nothing at all than say all the wrong things that we will totally regret.
Not a help I know, just another point of view to screw you up even more.
Jules
xx
Go girl!
Damn right you have nothing to be ashamed of. Dave and I both work full time, but with demanding kids and the cost of living, we have no fecking money whatsoever lol.
Keep smiling you two, life may be a bitch but its better than the alternative!!!
Jules n Dave
xx
Oh good grief and lordy lordy! I hardly dare post anything now. Although meatballs, I think Freckle made a very good point, does your wife know you swing? It's one of the things you need to be really honest about. To some people it really won't make a difference and they may be happy to meet you alone, but most people on here (I hestitate to say all because I can't speak for everyone), will ask for honesty. You have to remember that you are a guest in their lives, and that any untruths you tell could affect them, especially if Mrs Meatballs finds out and isn't happy!
Think about it.
Jules
xx
Hi there babe
Good on ya! Count us in for a donation at the munch.
Jules n Dave
xx
Ok I have to ask. An invite to what? Advice about what? You're not giving us much to go on, and although I'm a relative newbie myself, I would love to put my twopennorth in and offer advice if I knew what the heck I was advising on.
Jules
Well, I suppose this is going to be a slightly controversial post, but nevertheless I'm going to do it anyway.
We haven't been using this site very long, and I have mainly chatted in the room, before becoming comfortable enough to start posting in the forum. We went to the Chesterfield Munch, to get to know people and to show our faces and let people know we were genuine, and we will be going to the NW Munch too, so looking forward to meeting people there.
The chatroom is manic, and I know a lot of people have difficulty chatting in there, as do I, but I dont generally talk in private. I prefer to just go in and say hello and have a general chinwag so that when people do meet me at parties and stuff, they will be able to relate to who I am. (I keep saying 'I' cos its me on the computer, but I do have a hubby, as some of you who have met us will know).
Right, here's my gripe. Sometimes, there are people in the chatroom, who start to chat privately to us. And sometimes, if they come across as genuine, I will carry on the conversation and we get to know each other and things progress, and we arrange to meet up for a drink. On two occasions now we have arranged to meet someone when the conversation has started from a private chat in the room. And on two occasions, we have been 'stood up'. Now one of those occasions was completely our fault. We were too inexperienced and niaive to recognise the signs that this wasnt a genuine person, and with hindsight, we should have known. The other however, seemed very genuine, I took time to get to know them, to have a good old chat about everything under the sun, and then arranged to meet for a drink. They didnt turn up.
Now, sometimes these things happen, family commitments, work, the unforeseen, whatever. We know this. But a phone call would be nice. A text message saying sorry but we have to cancel. Anything.
I know in some other sites, they have a list of members who are verified as genuine. I suppose in the great scheme of things it wouldnt really change much. There are still people out there who get their strange and weird kicks out of arranging meets and not turning up, but at least if there is a list of people who are genuine, its a place to start.
What do others think?
Jules n Dave
Ok, I have to admit that I do make some harsh (but wrong) first impression judgements.
My first impression of se7endriver was formed when he put a posting on here about the bi social meet. And my impression was 'what a tosser!' I was absolutely determined not to like him, but when I met him, albeit shortly before he and the other guys went to the pub, I realised what a lovely bloke he is.
I do try really hard not to jump to conclusions about people, cos I wouldn't like to be judged by anyone until they got to know me.
jules
Just one request - Invite meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
jules
xx
Gemma, it was lovely to meet you and I had a good time too.
By the way steve, did you find your 'chocolate bottoms' we left on the coffee table for you?
jules
Put me down as a definate. I had so much fun at the last one, and am saving my pennies for a certain toy I had my eye on.
Jules
Hi there meatballs
Well, if you really are genuine, then you will stick with it. Unfortunately there are an awful lot of timewasters around, which makes it all the more difficult for us genuine people to prove that we are sincere, and thats not just for single males, it goes for single females and couples too.
You need to just start chatting to people, in the forums and in the chatroom too. Then when you feel a bit more comfortable, go to one of the meets and just say hello to people.
If you're looking for a 'quick fix' I'm afraid that I don't think there is one, but if you are as genuine as you sound then just keep on talking to people and see what happens.
jules
By the way
I do realise that as most of you havent met me, you may be suspicious as to whether or not I am actually female (steveg met me at the chesterfield munch but doesn't remember lmao).
If anyone would like to speak on the phone just to check I am female, if they would care to pm I will let them have my mobile number.
jules
xx
Hi there
Well, even though I've been chatting in the room for a while, I've still to get the hang of this 'forum' thingy, and have only in the past week or so got around to reading some stuff that's on here.
I think this womens only meet is a fantastic idea, and I think it's wonderful of Steve to arrange it.
Right, here's my problem. Dave and I are very very new to the scene, and I would love to come and meet other bi females, but am going nowhere on my own (I'm sure most of you know what I'm on about when I say I need to feel safe).
So, I would love to come to the meet (sorry I know it's a last minute thing), but I need Dave to drive me up, and actually bring me to the door and check that everything is ok. If it's ok with you steve, then Dave will toddle off with you to the pub, and pick me up again when the meet is over.
If you could let me know one way or the other that would be great.
Hope to meet you all soon
jules n dave
Well, I'm not very bright on this thing, but after finally figuring out how to post a reply, we would love to come. Let us know where so we can book accommodation. Course after all this I might realise that I haven't posted a reply at all and all this text has whizzed off somewhere into cyber space.
Ah well, c'est la vie.
jules n dave
