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Oh come on, where are all the lazy arses who went to Clare n Steve's last night? Why arent you here posting telling us what a great time you had and aren't we all jealous for missing out on it?
Get a grip guys, it's gone midday. You should be recovered enough by now to do a quick post.
Tut
Get a grip guys, it's gone midday. You should be recovered enough by now to do a quick post.
Tut
Quote by MISSCHIEF
'I am wounded but I am not slain. I shall lay me down and bleed a while, then I shall rise and fight again.'
Wow, I've never heard that before - what a wonderful phrase!
I think it's wonderful too. Thankyou Ian, it makes me realise that it's ok to be hurt for a while, and that I will get up and start to live life again, and hopefully very soon.
Thankyou
Thankyou
To all who replied, and all who pm'd, a huge and heartfelt thankyou. I won't reply individually to everyone, cos you've all been so nice that it would take me forever, but I have a warm glow inside me knowing that people out there do care.
I'm sitting here right now after having several pm's from an incredibly nice lady, who I hope in time can become a friend, knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I can't see the light at the moment, but I know it's there, and I know in time that I'm going to be working my way towards it.
There is one last thing I should like to say, I never edit my threads, I never change what I was thinking at the time, but the thankyou section at the bottom of my original thread needs to be amended. It has come to light over the past night, that the person concerned wasn't such a good friend after all. So I should just like to add that despite your messing with my head at a time when I was already so down that I needed a friend, I will pick myself up and get on with life. It's the only way forward.
Jules
To all who replied, and all who pm'd, a huge and heartfelt thankyou. I won't reply individually to everyone, cos you've all been so nice that it would take me forever, but I have a warm glow inside me knowing that people out there do care.
I'm sitting here right now after having several pm's from an incredibly nice lady, who I hope in time can become a friend, knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I can't see the light at the moment, but I know it's there, and I know in time that I'm going to be working my way towards it.
There is one last thing I should like to say, I never edit my threads, I never change what I was thinking at the time, but the thankyou section at the bottom of my original thread needs to be amended. It has come to light over the past night, that the person concerned wasn't such a good friend after all. So I should just like to add that despite your messing with my head at a time when I was already so down that I needed a friend, I will pick myself up and get on with life. It's the only way forward.
Jules
Firstly the explanation. I have not been posting recently due to the fact that I am going through an incredibly crappy stage in my life. I am today at the lowest point I have been in such a very long time. I can't remember a time in my life when I have cried as much as I have cried just recently. I have shut myself off from everyone and crawled into my little corner to lick my wounds because it's the only way I know how to deal with things, and now it's time to draw a line under all the hurt and start to pick myself up again before I get any lower.
Secondly the apology. To all of you who have contacted me to offer the hand of friendship, only to have me refuse in my own inimitable way by saying "I'm fine" - I apologise. Friends can only be friends when you let them, and I have refused all offers of help and friendship thinking that I could struggle through this on my own. I had started to make good friendships on here, but me being me, shut everyone out of my life because I felt it was the right thing to do. Also, in my own misery I neglected to realise that other people out there have feelings too. I was a complete shit, and I apologise.
Thirdly the request. In attempting to re-join the land of the living, I have in the past few days put my name forward for a couple of munches. The first one being the Yorkshire mini munch. I'm not feeling on top of the world at the moment but need to start getting out and about and meeting people. If, at the munch, I disappear off outside for a minute or two, it's not because I'm bored, it's not because I'm a miserable moo, it's just that I think it's going to be a bit difficult for me just getting the hang of being around people again, joining in the chat etc, and it maybe that I need to withdraw for a minute or two, take a couple of deep breaths and regain my composure. Confidence is wonderful when you have it, but when you've lost it and are trying to get it back again, it takes a while. Bear with me please. Try not to see it as me being aloof, it's just me trying to cope.
Lastly, I want to say thankyou. To the person who has devoted spare time to me recently I want you to know that although I hurt, I will in time come to realise that you were a true friend. I appreciate your kindness and sensitivity when I asked for the impossible, and one day, maybe, I will be able to smile at the memories.
Looking forward (with some trepidation) to meeting new friends and repairing past friendships
Jules
Secondly the apology. To all of you who have contacted me to offer the hand of friendship, only to have me refuse in my own inimitable way by saying "I'm fine" - I apologise. Friends can only be friends when you let them, and I have refused all offers of help and friendship thinking that I could struggle through this on my own. I had started to make good friendships on here, but me being me, shut everyone out of my life because I felt it was the right thing to do. Also, in my own misery I neglected to realise that other people out there have feelings too. I was a complete shit, and I apologise.
Thirdly the request. In attempting to re-join the land of the living, I have in the past few days put my name forward for a couple of munches. The first one being the Yorkshire mini munch. I'm not feeling on top of the world at the moment but need to start getting out and about and meeting people. If, at the munch, I disappear off outside for a minute or two, it's not because I'm bored, it's not because I'm a miserable moo, it's just that I think it's going to be a bit difficult for me just getting the hang of being around people again, joining in the chat etc, and it maybe that I need to withdraw for a minute or two, take a couple of deep breaths and regain my composure. Confidence is wonderful when you have it, but when you've lost it and are trying to get it back again, it takes a while. Bear with me please. Try not to see it as me being aloof, it's just me trying to cope.
Lastly, I want to say thankyou. To the person who has devoted spare time to me recently I want you to know that although I hurt, I will in time come to realise that you were a true friend. I appreciate your kindness and sensitivity when I asked for the impossible, and one day, maybe, I will be able to smile at the memories.
Looking forward (with some trepidation) to meeting new friends and repairing past friendships
Jules
Generally, I like christmas. I get very giddy and excited if I see so much as a single snow flake, I walk around with a cheery smile on my face wishing everyone I meet a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
This year however, I have had a particularly shitty christmas, and it looks like the New Year is going to follow along the same lines. I am in the frame of mind at the moment where I can't wait for it all to be over so I can get back to my office and bury myself in work in the vain hope that all the hurt I'm feeling will just slowly subside.
I know that there are people worse off than me, it just doesn't feel like it at the moment.
HNY to everyone
Jules
This year however, I have had a particularly shitty christmas, and it looks like the New Year is going to follow along the same lines. I am in the frame of mind at the moment where I can't wait for it all to be over so I can get back to my office and bury myself in work in the vain hope that all the hurt I'm feeling will just slowly subside.
I know that there are people worse off than me, it just doesn't feel like it at the moment.
HNY to everyone
Jules
Well, I was just having a clear out, and had filled a couple of bags with clothes and stuff to put out for the bin men tomorrow, then got a bit fed up and came down to read threads.
I can't believe I was selfishly going to chuck out stuff (which there is nothing wrong with), without thinking of who else might want it, and if it would make any money for a good cause.
Well done Sean for pricking my conscience. All the stuff is now still in the bin bags, but put to one side to take to Oxfam the next time I go into town.
Lovely idea.
J
I can't believe I was selfishly going to chuck out stuff (which there is nothing wrong with), without thinking of who else might want it, and if it would make any money for a good cause.
Well done Sean for pricking my conscience. All the stuff is now still in the bin bags, but put to one side to take to Oxfam the next time I go into town.
Lovely idea.
J
Well it's just a shame that some petty minded people can't live and let live. Just because we don't conform to their idea of what should and shouldn't be discussed, they take umbrage and kick us out.
Well, good luck to all who decide to stay. I for one won't be staying.
Merry christmas to all.
Jules
Well, good luck to all who decide to stay. I for one won't be staying.
Merry christmas to all.
Jules
Well, I got up at 7 this morning, and I've let the dog out, and I've had a cup of tea and a slice of toast, (and yes before you ask I've let the dog back in again ) and I've been sitting here reading threads.
I'm not going through a very good time at the moment, in fact those of you who know me (and there aren't too many of you yet because I'm a very private person) will know that I'm going through a pretty crap time, and yet sitting here reading all the various messages, it's like having coffee with friends. I have met one or two of you at munches, although the people I have met more than likely won't remember me because I'm very quiet and usually stand in the corner just watching the world go by, and it is quite a nice feeling sitting here and watching people sign in and knowing that they are doing the same as me, coming here to say hi to everyone.
So, hi to everyone, those of you who know me and those of you who don't yet know me but might in the future. Whatever you're doing have a great day, and smile in the knowledge that just by logging in to the site, you are saying hello to us all.
Jules
) and I've been sitting here reading threads.I'm not going through a very good time at the moment, in fact those of you who know me (and there aren't too many of you yet because I'm a very private person) will know that I'm going through a pretty crap time, and yet sitting here reading all the various messages, it's like having coffee with friends. I have met one or two of you at munches, although the people I have met more than likely won't remember me because I'm very quiet and usually stand in the corner just watching the world go by, and it is quite a nice feeling sitting here and watching people sign in and knowing that they are doing the same as me, coming here to say hi to everyone.
So, hi to everyone, those of you who know me and those of you who don't yet know me but might in the future. Whatever you're doing have a great day, and smile in the knowledge that just by logging in to the site, you are saying hello to us all.
Jules
Normally I don't contribute to serious threads. Not only has everything already been said, or at least most things have been said, but people can get quite touchy when it seems their views are being challenged, but as everyone else has had their say, I might as well have mine.
I'm a single female, and the big wide world out there is damn scary. Coming into a friendly forum such as this is safe, well moderated, and there are a variety of people with a variety of different wants and needs to chat to. 'Chatting' being the operative word. I want to get to know people, safely, take my time, build up a rapport. I have done this very recently, because I have been allowed to come onto the forum and 'be myself'. Not put on any airs n graces, not put myself out on limb by stating what I am looking for and asking people to contact me, but just by chipping in now and again, with my own weird sense of humour, I have made friends with like minded people who think I'm nice just for being me.
I did recently recieve a pm from someone who had a go at me for posting 'inane drivel'. I don't mind that. It just serves to point out that this person and I would never in a million years get along and I wouldn't waste my time attempting to build a friendship with them.
Don't stop us from being silly, the silly ones of us kind of clump together in our own little thread and try not to annoy the heck out of everyone who wants to have a serious discussion. We're not hurting anyone, we're just being us. If you're a 'serious' person, and you see the thread has been started by me, then just don't read it. I don't have a problem with that.
Live and let live, love and let love.
jules
I'm a single female, and the big wide world out there is damn scary. Coming into a friendly forum such as this is safe, well moderated, and there are a variety of people with a variety of different wants and needs to chat to. 'Chatting' being the operative word. I want to get to know people, safely, take my time, build up a rapport. I have done this very recently, because I have been allowed to come onto the forum and 'be myself'. Not put on any airs n graces, not put myself out on limb by stating what I am looking for and asking people to contact me, but just by chipping in now and again, with my own weird sense of humour, I have made friends with like minded people who think I'm nice just for being me.
I did recently recieve a pm from someone who had a go at me for posting 'inane drivel'. I don't mind that. It just serves to point out that this person and I would never in a million years get along and I wouldn't waste my time attempting to build a friendship with them.
Don't stop us from being silly, the silly ones of us kind of clump together in our own little thread and try not to annoy the heck out of everyone who wants to have a serious discussion. We're not hurting anyone, we're just being us. If you're a 'serious' person, and you see the thread has been started by me, then just don't read it. I don't have a problem with that.
Live and let live, love and let love.
jules
