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kcshaggers
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 57
Straight Male, 60
0 miles · Kingston upon Hull
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Hello! Well I'm sure that are lots of people here that can give you some excellent advice.
it seems that at the moment she holds the idea as a fantasy not to be acted upon. Trying to hurry her towards your goal of swinging with others will not make her any more comfortable with it .
I suggest using her fantasy and yours as you are doing now . . .enhancing your sex lives together. Talk to each other about what you would like to do with others either together, seperate etc. Try and work out what each other really wants. And check out with her in the cold light of day whether she really meant what she was saying or was it all brouight on by your brillaint love making! I would think that as yet she's still trying to work out for herself if she is ok with all of this.
It's taken mr KC and me a year or so if not longer where we are at the point that I am comfortable with the idea of him participating in sex with another woman. And to some degreeit's taken him time to be ok with my fantasies . And we are a very open couple with each other that trust each other implicitly.
You really need to be patient with her and remember that you both need to work together on this, don't rush it, be honest with each other and accept each other's limitations and set yourselves some ground rules.
Good luck x
it seems that at the moment she holds the idea as a fantasy not to be acted upon. Trying to hurry her towards your goal of swinging with others will not make her any more comfortable with it .
I suggest using her fantasy and yours as you are doing now . . .enhancing your sex lives together. Talk to each other about what you would like to do with others either together, seperate etc. Try and work out what each other really wants. And check out with her in the cold light of day whether she really meant what she was saying or was it all brouight on by your brillaint love making! I would think that as yet she's still trying to work out for herself if she is ok with all of this.
It's taken mr KC and me a year or so if not longer where we are at the point that I am comfortable with the idea of him participating in sex with another woman. And to some degreeit's taken him time to be ok with my fantasies . And we are a very open couple with each other that trust each other implicitly.
You really need to be patient with her and remember that you both need to work together on this, don't rush it, be honest with each other and accept each other's limitations and set yourselves some ground rules.
Good luck x
rocked - Mr KC and I have rejuvenated our sex lives - (I've just come off anti-depressants which totally wrecked my libido) - feel like teenagers again. Mr KC bought me lots of nice new sexy underwear to celebrate -
sucked - my immediate manager is fecking useless. I would personally like to shake her and slap her silly - and not in a nice way
sucked - my immediate manager is fecking useless. I would personally like to shake her and slap her silly - and not in a nice way
I certainly didn't pay that amount. MR kC and I went for 2 weeks all inclusive for about £1,200. Well worth it.
LOL I forgot about the porn channel! Funny didn't matter what I'd been watching when I switched it off - it always came back on the porn channel??????????? Seemed to be a commen theme when you talked to the ladies! Lots of sheepish looking men at this point stood around!
LOL I forgot about the porn channel! Funny didn't matter what I'd been watching when I switched it off - it always came back on the porn channel??????????? Seemed to be a commen theme when you talked to the ladies! Lots of sheepish looking men at this point stood around!
Mr KC and I went two years ago - fantastic!
they have been naughty tho - Watchdog I mean - there is plenty of areas for all those that don't want to get involved in anything. There is clear warning about the poolside entertainment ( 3 pools - only one with the adult stuff).
The eveniong stuff is inside a big "hut" - only people who are willing to partic[pate in some way are allowed in. No cameras, videoa etc. great exception is taken to this. Again people are told before the night begins. There are plenty of bars etc to enjoy if people want to do something else.
The beach has security - to make sure children from local hotels don't stray into the site.
The hotel was immaculate, food excellent, and for those [people who complained about the entertainment whilst they were eating ( on the prog) - why didn't they move? the dining room is big enough for goodness sake.
I did not meet anyone who was upset by it all.
I would go back tomorrow except for the cat that Cancun was so commercialised and far away from interseting sites
they have been naughty tho - Watchdog I mean - there is plenty of areas for all those that don't want to get involved in anything. There is clear warning about the poolside entertainment ( 3 pools - only one with the adult stuff).
The eveniong stuff is inside a big "hut" - only people who are willing to partic[pate in some way are allowed in. No cameras, videoa etc. great exception is taken to this. Again people are told before the night begins. There are plenty of bars etc to enjoy if people want to do something else.
The beach has security - to make sure children from local hotels don't stray into the site.
The hotel was immaculate, food excellent, and for those [people who complained about the entertainment whilst they were eating ( on the prog) - why didn't they move? the dining room is big enough for goodness sake.
I did not meet anyone who was upset by it all.
I would go back tomorrow except for the cat that Cancun was so commercialised and far away from interseting sites
Well as newbies ourselves, we read the rules and advice before posting. We also read a fair few threads so as to avoid annoying anyone or saying things that may offend and get a general feel for the place.We have been posting fairly tame comments but then I think that is appropriate as no-one knows us. using a sledge hammer approach will hardly endear people to us. We appreciate that this is a community built on trust. I hope we can gain that trust but it's us two that have to work at that and not other people who have been here well before us.
And I am sure that in the future we will be "baited" - but reading other threads, regulars fall foul of each other but it's not taken persoannly, they move on - life is too short to get hung up on a post that has a dig at you if you can't take it in the spirit in which it was sent.
Anyway, please feel free to pull the post to pieces!
Mr & Mrs KC
(((mike))) you have been so brave to admit that you have engaged in this behaviour.But as little gem pointed out - you repaetd behaviours you had seen within your home. You know that doesn't excuse what you did but knowing the reason why and being man enough to accept what you did was wrong has led you to become the man you are today. Be proud of where you are now.
I know my children are still left with issues. My daughter in particular cannot sit in a room without the door open - she sees it as her "escape". So you see, whatever you seen in your home will always affect you in some way
And NN? :cry: So sorry what has happened to your daughter and your family. Ditto what everyone else has said. But also throw in that you will be approaching the media as a result of their ineffectiveness and ignoring the serious issue of an assault on a child. That usually stirs them up. Hugs to you.
A bit late back into the fray but Really pissed off about the comments on domestic violence. I have to agree with others that have been in that position. And how many times have you been a victim of that then WM? No? Then don't make ridiculous comments taht are not supported by experience or fact.
Being part of domestic viiolence is not only about the physical pain but the complete and utter demolition of you as a person - slowly and carefully, you are eroded until you are nothing, no pride, no confidence, slow and painful death of the person you once were. And boy are they good at it - so slow you don't even know it's happening.
I can't even express how debilitated a person becomes, how dependant they become on this shit who is abusing them. So how does anyone walk out on someone when they haveno faith in themselves, when they truly believe that are to blame for all of this happening . . . .? It;s bloody hard and each of us fuinally reach that point when something says enough. I only wish it had been sooner for us all.
And another point about disabled people . . . you reckon they just get up and get on with it? Ah life is simple in your world then? Must remember to tell my son that . . .just get up and get on with it kid!
Being part of domestic viiolence is not only about the physical pain but the complete and utter demolition of you as a person - slowly and carefully, you are eroded until you are nothing, no pride, no confidence, slow and painful death of the person you once were. And boy are they good at it - so slow you don't even know it's happening.
I can't even express how debilitated a person becomes, how dependant they become on this shit who is abusing them. So how does anyone walk out on someone when they haveno faith in themselves, when they truly believe that are to blame for all of this happening . . . .? It;s bloody hard and each of us fuinally reach that point when something says enough. I only wish it had been sooner for us all.
And another point about disabled people . . . you reckon they just get up and get on with it? Ah life is simple in your world then? Must remember to tell my son that . . .just get up and get on with it kid!
Yep it has to be mach 3 for us as well. I have really strong hair - everywhere- and other razors ot hair removing stuff just doesn't work. And waxing - er no!
I'm more hairy than him - apparntly i have high levels of testosterone which increases my hairiness but also my libido. So I can live with that!
I have to agree with some of the points that Duncan made.
I do think that schools socialise our kids too much in the sense that quite often their indivdualtiy is knocked out them, freedom of thought is repressed and behaviour is rigid.
And then, bugger me, we spend thousands of pounds, particularly in the public sector, o courses trying to stick it all back in again!
My eldest has ADHD. So yes he's active, annoying, goddamn dangerous sometimes but . . . he thinks outside everyone else's parameters, he is energetic with his life, he accepts all that is different around him - he seems unable to hold prejudices, malice etc. Does not go down well with the school - awlays trying to get him to act like everyone else? And learn in the same way as everyone else. Why???????? He is who he is. He's not out there committing crimes, being a nuisance etc etc.
Middle son is the proverbial "geek" - so he fits in well with the school system.
Daughter dresses like a goth. She is 12 but is confident in her appearance and expressions. Do they like this. No. She doesn't look the same as everyone else. . So what. She shouldn't have her hair dyed black, shouldn't wear her boots for school (which are just heavy goth ankle boots but they don't like the skulls - which are hidden by her trousers) blah blah blah.
Schools are so now driven by short term results.
Anyway I am aware that I am ranting now .
I do think that schools socialise our kids too much in the sense that quite often their indivdualtiy is knocked out them, freedom of thought is repressed and behaviour is rigid.
And then, bugger me, we spend thousands of pounds, particularly in the public sector, o courses trying to stick it all back in again!
My eldest has ADHD. So yes he's active, annoying, goddamn dangerous sometimes but . . . he thinks outside everyone else's parameters, he is energetic with his life, he accepts all that is different around him - he seems unable to hold prejudices, malice etc. Does not go down well with the school - awlays trying to get him to act like everyone else? And learn in the same way as everyone else. Why???????? He is who he is. He's not out there committing crimes, being a nuisance etc etc.
Middle son is the proverbial "geek" - so he fits in well with the school system.
Daughter dresses like a goth. She is 12 but is confident in her appearance and expressions. Do they like this. No. She doesn't look the same as everyone else. . So what. She shouldn't have her hair dyed black, shouldn't wear her boots for school (which are just heavy goth ankle boots but they don't like the skulls - which are hidden by her trousers) blah blah blah.
Schools are so now driven by short term results.
Anyway I am aware that I am ranting now .
I don't think we've been formally intoduced yet. But what better way than to say have a great birthday x x xWell as someone who lives in one of the cities with the lowest educational attainments . . . .
I have three very different children. Eldest with special needs, 2nd doing x3 GCSE two years early and youngest -m pretty average I would say. All the kids have therefroe required different input from the education system.
I belive, like many others, that school is not just about what we can learn educationally but also being able to socialise and interact with others to develop ourselves to our greatest potential at that particualr stage in our life. Unfirtunately for my eldest child, life will always be difficult but the world will not change for him. he needs to learn to adapt himself so he can fit in and be as valued as anyone else. I could not teach him these skills by myself - his peers are often the best motivation that he has to try out new things and share the failures and successes with them.
And I have to agree with many others, parental input, support and encouragement is vital for the children to achieve their potential wherever they are being educated.
I have three very different children. Eldest with special needs, 2nd doing x3 GCSE two years early and youngest -m pretty average I would say. All the kids have therefroe required different input from the education system.
I belive, like many others, that school is not just about what we can learn educationally but also being able to socialise and interact with others to develop ourselves to our greatest potential at that particualr stage in our life. Unfirtunately for my eldest child, life will always be difficult but the world will not change for him. he needs to learn to adapt himself so he can fit in and be as valued as anyone else. I could not teach him these skills by myself - his peers are often the best motivation that he has to try out new things and share the failures and successes with them.
And I have to agree with many others, parental input, support and encouragement is vital for the children to achieve their potential wherever they are being educated.
