I love history. From all eras, and like nothing more than trapsing round a ruin. What i have learned though, is that history is written by the victors, and so is always going to be one sided. The truth isn't always how it appears to be.
Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
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i find it incredibly sad that we are now 47 pages into this discussion and still no further forward. I'm sorry that i feel that the integrity of the site which i thought was based enitrely on openess and honesty is proving itself to be not of that nature.
The verification thread was dealing with some real issues by the people posting, and asking real and valid questions, or, requesting that concerns raised be explained. All of this has been done in an open, respectful and honest way.
The fact that we are all still awaiting some sort of response is fueling the debate about there being alternative theories behind the implementation and quite frankly, is now also leading me to a similar conclusion. Since there has been no response, it seems obvious that an alterior motive is in the working.
The integrity of this site, which i have never before questioned, as i have never had to, as the intergrity has always been open and honest, now has me questioning that very principle. What is this site without integrity????
I haven't posted very much of late, as i have felt that until answers are forthcoming, my opinion is irrelevant anyway. There isn't any point to post something where opionions are blatantly ignored.
The other point i would like to make, and this is without any critisism to anybody at all, is that to get anywhere, we have to stick with this issue.
To allow our views to wander onto other ways in which to fulfill verification systems only detracts our attention away from the issue at hand. Some of the ideas have been well worth thinking about, but until we have a move forward within this debate regarding verification, and the entire integrity of this site, then discussion is pointless.
With all my love hugs and kisses
Little
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My experience of the ad system and the lets meet up is really quite frustrating.
I am a size 18. I have big boobs. I state this quite clearly in all my ads. I dont' have an issue with my size, build or my boobs, but feel that since not i'm not everyone's cup of tea, its only fair and avoids timewasting by being honest from the beginning.
I get quite annoyed when i have spent time getting to know someone. Exchanged emails, blethered on msn and then we exchange pics, only to be told that i'm not the right size or a bit too big for there liking. Its as though what i have just said comes as a surprise. :shock:
So reading someone's ad is all important. It saves an awful lot of time and embarrassment for everyone. I don't mind if when we meet up we don't click, this is afterall just natural and human nature that not everyone will click. At least we can have a laugh and build a friendship along the way, as has happened on a few occasions.
As for replying, i do if they have done as i have asked them to do. Thats my only criteria for replying. Send a willy pic which hasn't been requested, and i'll not reply. If i find someones ad to be offputting in a certain way, but they have done as i have requested, i will reply with a, you might try this sort of thing.
Ultimatley, if people respect my wishes, then i will repay that with respect back.
Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX
How far away is Glasgow???
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Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX
So the problems we had, have now increased.
The divisions are becoming apparent.
Adult conversation over a simple "+", are causing debate which is a circular debate, in that its not getting anywhere. So the division itself is caused.
The introduction of the "+" for whatever reason, or for whatever it means, is causing a division not just within the confines of the chatroom. You can read the beginnings of the division, you can see, the dividing lines becoming apparent in there nature.
What for?
Who wins?
Even if, there was a full scale solid argument published on this forum on behalf of the "+", the "+" has achieved, by its nature, the division it was evidently never meant to make.
There is no question in my mind, that the "+" being introduced for whatever reason, for whatever validation is, by the very fact of its introduction a division of some sort.
Go back to the ethos of this site.
Tolleration.
Of who? what? why? What is the purpose of the ethos?
Respect.
Of who? what? why? What is the purpose of the ethos?
The "+" signifies SOMETHING. The significance of the something, is in itself almost irrelevant. As adults, we will find, and make use of all of our abilites to find holes, split hairs etc. We will make a point of attaching significance to things which we identify as being true and real.
SOMETHING is therefor flawed. "Something" is going against what some individuals feel to be the ethos of the group.
Just becuase i may not claim to understand it, doesn't mean that i am wrong/ right. Just because those who are "for" the system, don't understand why others are "against" the system, DOES NOT mean that the argument against is wrong. It means that all our interpretations of SOMETHING is different.
This post is neither for or against any argument, i have made my views and opinions known elsewhere in this thread.
The essence of my argument is the SOMETHING. Quite simple in its nature. Quite relevant to me. Just because you may read this, and not understand it, does not mean, that i am wrong, neither does it mean, that you are right. It simply means that we don't understand one another.
If we can agree that we understand, that we each have differences, then we are moving forward. The circle is no longer a circle, but instead, takes on a bigger persona. It could even become spherical in nature.
To agree to disagree is an adult thing. To be adult, means that you have an objectivity about you. I believe i am being objective in my opinions. I believe i am open minded to everything.
Whilst the SOMETHING remains in place. The chatroom has no alternative but to be, in some form or another, an expression of division of something.
And if i'm talking pish, in your opinion, which is fine, then the arguments and the divisions will only intensify. If anybody understands the points above, then they will also see where the "againsts" are coming from. If you can't understand, it doesn't mean you are wrong, it just means that you can't see it.
The only solution to prevent divison from increasing in its nature, is for us all to listen to one another and agree to disagree. However, the only step for a reconcilliation is to look at the source of the initial division.
With all my love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX