I was actually going more for the slut image, than the tart image... Darn it...
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Anyone fancy a shag...??
That's a sex site. This is a swinging site. We do things differently here. I highly doubt your blatant attempt at a tart is gonna work on here, oh no. Quote by bayboy1664
So people are not allowed an opinion then?
I simply made the point that on a swingers site you have to be naive not to realise that some will be perturbed if others will not meet.
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Thing is this is supposed to be a swingers site not a place for old mates to chat and keep up. That is what facebook is for. Unless you are upfront all the time about the fact that you are not meeting at all then you leave yourself wide open (and rightly so) to the charge of time waster.
And the fact you fail to realise this and think those that get annoyed with you are in the wrong perfectly demonstrates the cliquey nature that has now greatly damaged the credibility of the site as a place for actual swingers who meet rather than just a chatroom.
You're aware I take it that many, many users ( if not most in fact ) go through stages where they're actively looking for meets, periods where they're not looking to meet at all, and periods where they're just generally open to the possibilities SH occasionally offers and will see what happens to come their way. How do you suggest they should go about things, not that your opinion on the subject is of any concern whatsoever as far as the way other people choose to use the site goes, you understand. I'm getting a little tired of hearing the expression "time waster" on this site. It seems to me to be a term that's banded about by frustrated and impatient people as a way to justify to themselves why someone they've talked to once or twice hasn't shagged them yet!!
I think anyone tempted to run around labelling people as time wasters needs to calm down, take some time to make an effort and see where that takes them - it's likely to be a damn site further than getting pissed off and moving on just because you don't get a guaranteed fuck after saying "hi" in the chatrooms!
Luckily for him hardly noone reads the bloody forum any more, but might wanna think about changing his ad. About as appealing as a wet weekend in Cleethorpes at present. ( No disrespect meant to lovers of that fine seaside town, wet weather or otherwise, obviously. ) Would any other time wasters like to unite with me?
Seems I'm in your club whether I like it or not. As it happens I do like it, and sign up gladly. Quote by greenbook
Morning neilinleeds, were you up early or just to bed late ;)
A bit of both fella, a bit of both. My sleeping pattern's a bit to cock at the moment. Be getting on time for a snooze before long. sorry Neil these generalisations ain't posted to offend sadly its how we have found the differences in the two scenes, and also why we treat the two scenes very differently and feel that for most there would not be a crossover as such
I am not trying to say one is better than the other, my post was asking if there is a crossover, it was not meant as an attack at either the fetish or swinging scene.
The point I was trying to make is that I have only heard about this kind of thing happening once or twice in my 10 years in the fetish scene but I have spoken to at least 3 people in the last year who have experienced it at swinging events. I realise this is only 3 people out of the many thousands who enjoy the swinging scene but I can only go on what people I have spoken to have told me.
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we also found that swinging was about sex /shagging and the body, where as Bdsm was a complete discovery about someones body and mind and senses with zones being found that where far more erotic than could ever be imagined , would i bring it into a swinging meet NO is the answer as most would not want to understand let alone try
I don't for one minute imagine I'm in some way an exception that proves a rule. Sweeping stating that doesn't stand scrutiny IME.Quote by greenbook
Sadly what you say about respect and etiquette and the differences between the respective scenes I have been told by others. I would have to say that most Fetish events I have been to are some of the safest club environments for women. From my first time visiting a fetish event etiquette, respect and consent were drummed into me as the most important thing and non consensual touching is very rare to the point than when it does happen it causes a huge cafuffle.
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To be fair, I believe "broken" was used to denote a possible technical issue rather than the efficiency/value of the rep system.
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Oh and just to add. We always thought you were more gay than you are
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Oi you, out of context how?
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:therethere: But then don't they say bald is sexy?
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quoting out of context
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On men grey = distinguished.
*sigh*
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This system seems very unfair or it's broken?
we're being over zealous in leaving rep for people we don't really know.
Any thoughts?
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Single men seem to be scared of any connection on the whole and prefer married women for that reason...... like they are any less demanding or emotional! :P
Women are usually more open and honest..........
You cant be a nice and dirty even on here it seems
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I'm sniggering like a 9 year old here. Just got the bedroom to do now. Slight problem in that the two halves of the bed base won't go round the corner at the top of the stairs, but will get them up there somehow if it kills me! 
