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Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 45
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Quote by Cherrytree
I don't like this one dunno
If someone replies to a post I've done and puts this in, I always feel as if it not only says "I don't know the answer" but also "what a stupid question!"
or something like that - there's definitely some negativity in there.
And I think it's because my mother used to do it along with rolleyes and :fuckinghell: . I can just picture her face - except she wasnt yellow and bald.

aww Cherry .....
Do you like this one though kiss kiss kiss
yeah just type the emoticons on there whilst you're in chat and they'll show up on screen.
Quote by Stormwalker
Can someone tell me how to use smilies please.

rolleyes
:giggle:
Stormy smackbottom
4fingers.....when you're writing your post.....look to the left and you'll see a list of them that you can click on.....for more of the click on 'view more emoticons' underneath them. Or when you get used to them you can type them.
:thumbup:
Quote by Dawnie
M&S
Ps you lot are in soooo much trouble when I get my hands on you smackbottom

Why dunno
:giggle:
PK you are bloody lovely kiss
Easy or Hard dunno
you no why Mrs.....:giggle: but you're lovely too kiss
I'm not answering that question though.....might get myself into trouble :giggle:
Quote by anais
Fabulous (Princess) shoes lol
Princess Twirly Frocks or My Little Princess Dolly

Princess Twirly Frocks every time :giggle:
M&S Tights.......or cheapo tights from the market :giggle:
Ps you lot are in soooo much trouble when I get my hands on you smackbottom
Quote by markz

My mum is exactly the same as me

can I have her number........ rolleyes
bugger off smackbottom
Quote by Dawnie
I'm at my worst on the phone, and will avoid any phone conversations at all cost confused Texting is a lifeline to me!
LP.....PM incoming!

Same for me redface
I'll talk to Shireen and family for hours but I hate talking to anyone else. At my worst, I don't answer the home phone because I don't know who it is. I can send massive amounts of text just so I don't have to call someone rolleyes
I'm the same, talking on the phone really scares me.....and I don't answer my landline unless I know for sure who it is.
I guess that if people meet me in a work or even some social settings they would see me as being very confident, but in actual fact, deep down I'm painfully shy. A lot of people don't understand this when I say that I'm shy, and it's only when people get to know me better that they begin to see it. I'm aware that a lot of people when they first meet me think I'm arrogant or as most of my best pals have said, they thought I was 'up my own arse' until they got to know me better.
I guess I do put on an act to some extend to mask this.....it's not because I thing there's anything wrong with being shy, it can be quite endearing in some people, but I guess that I worry that people will see it as a weakness and exploit it, so I put up my barriers and don't let them see that side of me.
If I tell people that I don't know that well that I'm shy, they just laugh it off and say that I can't be because I have nothing to be shy about, but deep down, I really am. My mum is exactly the same as me, and I guess that after seeing the way she deals with it I've followed her lead in how to behave.
Quote by firelizard
The nearest I can get to an explanation is that a man would satisfy my emotional needs more than a woman could. I like to feel protected and looked after and something in my psyche tells me that a man can do this for me more than a woman.

That's a really good explanation of how I feel.....I don't know why I feel that way but for some reason I just do.
Quote by splendid_
kate,
mine is a similar situation. Sexually I am bi. Infact I love having sex with men (now) they are fascinating and are like a new toy to me.

dunno why but that's just tickled me chick :giggle:
Quote by splendid_
Romantically,sexually, emotionally and mentally I can only have a relationship with a woman... I toyed with whether I could actually extend my new found 'bi-ness' to a relationship with men. I just don't think that I can for all sorts of reasons. (this is a generalisation and I apologise in advance for any offence) but men have a different attitude to 'you' when they have had sex with you and it leaves me cold. Men do seem to be unable to switch between how I am in bed (in my case) filthy and anything goes. To how I am out of bed. I am very open but dislike crudities (I am not talking things off the starter menu as I love them- Crudités)
The majority of my very very bestest friends are men though.
I am struggling to put it into words.
In bed I am bi. Out of bed I am a lesbian through and through.
that said all of the people in my life know about my lifestyle so I am hiding nothing.
I have waffled enough.
splendid

Yeah I think we're pretty similar only the other way round, if that makes sense.....although generally I tend to get on better with men as friends as well, so may be that's got nothing to do with the sexuality thing dunno
Quote by neilinleeds
*scrabbles around for a label*
situationally bi? emotionally straight? perhaps? confused i.e. in the right circumstances, with the right people, at the right time, you might be bent as a ten bob note, but generally speaking, it's pretty much heterosexual as far as long term partners go? confused

Yes it's pretty much that I am only heterosexual when it comes to long term partners go. But it's not that I only find women attractive when in bed, in fact thinking about it I probably see more women walking down the street that I find attractive, than I do men dunno See now I start thinking about it again, I start confusing myself again confused But there again maybe it's just because women are generally the more attractive sex confused
Quote by neilinleeds
i tend to call meself bi, cos it seems more honest, cos i can't get away with straight. obviously i'm not really all that straight, cos i have these little tendencies, occasionally, but truth of the matter is, i'm not straight, i'm not bi, i'm not gay, i'm not CD, or whatever else, even though i occasionally do all the lot of 'em. truth is, i dunno what to call meself anymore? dunno none of the labels seem to fit all that well, or particularly accurately? confused
there isn't an established label for "enjoys sex regardless of gender, but don't you try and pin me down daddio!" confused
n x x x ;)

I think the key to all this is that it's very hard to put oneself into one label, and after being convinced last night that I'd sorted it in my own head.....now I'm not so sure.....maybe I should just accept that I'll never fit into one particular label and stop worrying about it :lol2:
Quote by Dawnie
PK, fancy a snog :giggle:

YES.......and I'll hold you to that one Mrs :lol2:
Now as most of you know....I've always had a problem with describing myself as bi sexual......in that I'm not bi sexual because I wouldn't have a relationship with another woman.
I've just always found it hard to put myself into a category.....but I've just been out for a drink with a few friends and think I've worked it out.
I'm not bi sexual, but I am sexually bi!
I've tried to find my old thread about this but the search button doesn't like me tonight.
OMG :bounce: WOW :bounce:
So happy for both of you.....you are two really lovely people and wish you both all the happiness in the world kiss
Quote by Freckledbird
So am I right in thinking I'm a timewaster as I don't have a webcam?

Absolutely. All timewasters together eh?
Oooooooooo I've just had a thought - we have a webcam but it's still in the loft from when we moved in here. So do we count as timewasters or not? confused
Well I stood on mine and broke it, so I guess I'm a timewaster too :lol2:
Quote by essex34m
So am I right in thinking I'm a timewaster as I don't have a webcam?

no it's OK not to have one.....just so long as you don't have 3 limos......that's when you become a timewaster :lol2:
Quote by swcpl2005
It's the association with owning a limo company and not having a webcam that I can't work out. Very bizarre rolleyes
Anyway, is it a rat, or a siberian hamster? :taz:

I'm struggling with that one too....I didn't have a cam for years, only because I never got round to getting one , purely because it wasn't that high a priority for me. I know there were a few people who thought I wasn't genuine when I said I didn't have one......but I just thought "oh, well, their loss". I only have one now because a lovely lady from here gave me one she didn't want (kiss) otherwise I reckon I still wouldn't have got round to getting one.
oh and I'm going for Siberian hamster :giggle:
Quote by Dawnie
Seems I might have to consider what I wear when I go to the next Wigan Munch innocent

just so long as you wear the tights :giggle:
Sensible answers.....off this lot.....rotflmao you'll be lucky :lol2:
Sorry only kidding.......there aren't any set ways to get things to progress from a social meeting to playing, but I'd just say to play it by ear and most importantly don't feel pressured into doing anything that you don't want to do.....take your time and if you decide that you want to play with the couple that you're meeting, find a way between the two of you to make sure you are both happy with the situation.
As for how to get things going.....I guess that depends on you, and them, and how you like to play things. Some people are confident to dive straight in, where as some like to play a sexy game to get everyone in the mood. Have a chat before hand with the couple to see how they would like things to go, just so that you know what to expect and no one is disappointed.
And last but not least.....have a bloody good time :thumbup:
Quote by easy
.............Good question......I don't think I would pay for it myself, as FB said I have a vibrator for if I need that :lol2: and I don't think I'd do it just to go somewhere, ie. in the true escort sense, not sure why really but partly because, friends, family and colleagues would be a bit surprised as to where this mystery bloke has popped up from and I'm a crap liar anyway :lol2:

OK so why would you feel the need to lie to peers and family? Why not just tell them that he's a bloke you've rented to accompany you? Surely there's nothing wrong with that? confused
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, just that if I was to hire a fella for a social arrangement it would be because I didn't want to go on my own and I don't think I would be happy to admit to friends etc that I didn't have anyone else to bring and that I had to hire someone.......although I can't see myself ever being in the position as I can't think of any event that I wouldn't be happy to attend on my own.
Quote by Freckledbird

At the cinema ... ATONEMENT ... Superb adaptation and visually stunning film.

Oooh I quite fancied seeing this. You recommend it then?
Might go on Sunday.
Fee
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If you liked the book, then you will love the film. Promise.
The book's been recommended to me. Is it one of those films that you're better off reading the book first, if you're going to read it at all?
I read the book when it came out and it's brilliant, haven't seen the film yet but will be going to see it at some point despite the fact that I don't normally like going to the cinema. I'd be tempted to say read the book first, but having not seen the film yet I might be wrong.
Quote by Dawnie

Only quoted you Dawnie as you were the first one to say it, but prostitution is not illegal, only soliciting. I may be cynical, but when I hear politician's going on about banging on about legalising things to protect the girls on the street etc, it's actually because they know that the girls at the top end of the market are earning good money and very few of them declare their earnings, so they are missing out on a big wad of revenue......as I said, probably just me being cynical :lol2:

You might be right about politician's PK but if anyone else that has a job has to pax taxes, why shouldn't a sex worker dunno
I'm in no way saying that sex workers shouldn't pay taxes, just that I think that the governments reasons behind legalising the industry are possibly more but to the fact that they realise they can earn more revenue by regulating it. Some working girls do declare their earnings, but a lot don't, and the government are are aware of this......that was all I was saying.
Quote by Dawnie
Health cover is there for those that want it...if you ever ring up your local GUM clinic for an appointment and they tell you there's awaiting list.....try ringing them back a bit later and tell them that you're a hooker......generally they'll then see you that day or the next....ok this may not be the case everywhere but it's just an example.smile

There is some kind of ruling now which means anyone that rings a GUM clinic should be given an appintment within something like 48 hours. (I should has listened more at my uni lectures to know the exact details)
What I meant by health care though PK is proper health care that other workers get, payment when off sick type of stuff like any other worker would get, not just easier access to a GUM clinic.
I'm sure there is some sort of ruling now about people visiting GUM clinics.....but I'm not sure if the NHS are able to cope with at the moment....or at least this is what I've been told by people attempting to make appointments at the GUM clinic.
As for sick pay etc.....yes whilst in an ideal world that would be fair.....in practice, in an industry where girls change where they work as often as they change their knickers, I can't really see how that would work out.
Quote by Dawnie
I don't think I would pay for it myself, as FB said I have a vibrator for if I need that :lol2: and I don't think I'd do it just to go somewhere, ie. in the true escort sense, not sure why really but partly because, friends, family and colleagues would be a bit surprised as to where this mystery bloke has popped up from and I'm a crap liar anyway :lol2:

I have been thinking about this since I asked the question confused
If I wasn't involved in swinging then I think I might be tempted to pay for sex. I do have toys and they would keep me amused for a while. I could even consider going to a normal bar and attempting to pull some lonely male. After a while I just think I might need a good hard fuck and if paying for it was the only option to get a seeing too when I needed it, I think I'd be bloody tempted confused
And if that was the case, good for you girl and I'd be telling you to go for it.....as I said to Phil, there is nothing wrong with paying for it, for whatever reason.
Quote by Dawnie
For some reason it seems to appear that women don't pay for it whilst men do.......is that because men have stronger urges, or is it just that it is more accepted within society for men to use hookers whilst women haven't got to that point yet. Or maybe it's because it's so much more readily available to men (if you don't believe me have a look in your local paper for massage parlours and you'll probably find there are a few in places that you pass everyday) and that women have to go to more effort to arrange something?

Is it more based on the easy of access though dunno
Street corners, phone boxes, back pages of the papers and Ian even got propositioned in Safeways but for men, you just don't see it dunno
I've rarely seen a male advertising unless it is for gay sex confused
I think that's the point I was trying to make....sorry I don't put myself across to clearly at times, I try to say something and it comes out as something else that no one can make sense of.....one day I'll work out a way to post where I make sense confused
Quote by willxx69
Sappho would like to extend her grateful thanks to the ladies of the Forum - particularly FB nd PK - for the suggestion of train travel on Monday. No doubt the other drivers on the M6, M5 and M4 will be equally grateful!
Sappho (via Will)

kiss for Shappho too. It was all FB's idea, not mine.....but think it's a good idea for everyone involved.....don't know about you but I love going on the train rather than driving. I hardly ever get to do it but, it's great to be able to sit there and read a book, do some work or even just daydream away. Don't know about anyone else but I also find there's something sort of 'romantic' about going on the train. biggrin
Quote by Freckledbird
Oooooo I wouldn't know if he's no good - was just speaking generally redface

Well we can do a 'before and after' experiment on him and see what our findings are :giggle:
That is so long as Will doesn't mind
:twisted:
Quote by willxx69
It's a long bloody journey by train - but probably safer!
It takes an AWFUL lot of gin to get me pissed. Any room in the jacuzzi?
Will

I'm sure we can find room for you biggrin now pass the bottle of gin over here cos I've been told you're no good if you've had too much :lol2:
Well as FB's sorted you with a drink and you're now in agreement over getting the train (he's easily persuaded ain't he....or did you spike his drink FB?)......I think I'll go and jump back in the jacuzzi before it gets too busy... biggrin
ohh hello Will......looks like it's our turn to wait on you tonight biggrin what you drinking Sir...
and FB's right.....get the train on Monday kiss
Quote by jaymar
mmm white grenache :lickface: please may I have a glass, or two?

I'm sure Choon will be on his way with it in a minute....in the mean time, are you joining in mine and Winchys game? :twisted:
Quote by winchwench
Howabout a girlie drinking game of some sort? We get merry, Tune gets to watch wink

I do hope we get to play this game neked Winchy biggrin wink
Quote by Freckledbird
We could all tease Choon :twisted:

now that depends on what sort of teasing you're planning FB, is that pulling his hair and calling him names teasing ......or teasing teasing :twisted: