ummmm... depends on the inhibition!
There are some inhibitions I have that I wouldn't dream of ever wanting to overcome... MY hard limits, there are others I am prepared to push, with the right person/people in a situation where I feel I am in control and am able to allow myself to relax enough to let myself go, MY soft limits..
These limits are going to be different for everyone, Mr B and I also play a little with BDSM, I'm (Mrs) very sub and within these roles we have explored some scenes others would find repulsive... but we would never embark on anything new without first discussing it and making time afterwards to discuss how we felt about it and whether we would like to go any further... Using a "safeword", a word unlikely to come up in normal conversation and both agreeing to respect that if its used EVERYTHING stops, no matter what can be a great way to explore your boundaries...
First though, be with someone you trust.
Travel lodge book you in as per room and dont even ask how many people are going to be there... if you look at their booking confirmation for most rooms it will say "sleeps 4, maximum of 3 adults" some rooms have maximum of 4 adults but you have to do a bit of searching for those...
Basically if its simply a "room only" booking and not inclusive of breakfast most chains won't be too concerned... maybe a little jealous...
Some insurance companies also ask directly if you have ever had a test for HIV... simply that, no questions as to why, just have you ever been tested... if you answer yes you're classed as a higher risk...
Not exactly fair on a 14 year old victim, or someone who's een tested due to an alert from the blood bank after an operation 12 years ago, I can think of a myriad of examples where the answer would be YES yet you've only ever had one sexual partner, if any, in your whole life...
Point to add though.. if you knowingly say you have not had a HIV test when you have, no matter what the reason, if you (or anyone else for a end-of life claim) goto claim and they discover you have lied, they will not pay out. (and bear in mind, they will avoid paying out if they can.)
Some fasttest clinics are happy to never put your name to the tests if you're concerned on this level... you are given a codename and pin number (at least thats how they worked it in Devon 12 years ago) and your name never goes near any paperwork. can be worth asking about anonimity if you're concerned.
Well, for us, as soon as I was certain we were both definate about going into the swinging scene and clubs etc, I insisted we visit our local GUM clinic, for us its in the center of Birmingham, Whittal street Clinic... we were made very comfortable and answered honestly as to why we were there...
because we NEEDED to know that BEFORE we played we were positive that we were both clear of any problems... neither of us have had any problems in the past, but we have both had a few partners although in the last few years together have been more or less faithful to just each other so we were relatively sure that there wouldn't be any problems...
Happily there weren't amd we left with a HUMONGOUS bag full of condoms, femdoms and leaflets galore... (lol, find a place to hide that lot from an inquisitive 11 year old!) and a promise that once we started swinging, firstly we would always use protection and secondly that we would be visiting the clinic every 6 months, the nurses and doctors we spoke to RESPECTED our honesty, asked sensible questions and gave useful safety advice, not simply about sexual health either... things about ensuring our safety when meeting people for the first time, most obvious, some not so, but never did we feel wrong about our (intended) actions, we have to say THANK YOU to everyone there and we look forward to seeing you all again in the Summer!
Seriously, there was no feeling of being judged, only respect for our decision to pro-actively ensure ours and everyone elses we came into safety and health in the best way we could...
ahhh... you don't have to move to get the lower london energy company prices... in fact often being out of a companies normal catchment area means you'll get it at a lower price than those within their catchment area...
says us talking from the smug position of having managed to get a 5 year price freeze 3 years ago with EDF energy! (they've attempted to buy us out of the contract 4 times now! yeah right!)
My sister has two young children, both very bright and when her eldest daughter went up to secondary school she found it, put simply "boring". Despite being in the top sets, in one of the best schools in the area she wasn't being challenged... and started finding other activities to keep her amused...
The school didn't contact my sister when her daughter started skipping school, in fact she had missed over three-quartes of a term before my sister found out about it... by then her daughter had taken up smoking, been drinking alcohol and even experimented with drugs... at the age of 11-12 years...
My sister HAD noticed something was wrong, she had asked the school, who instead of mentioning that she actually hadn't been attending simply said she was keeping up with her classes (and she was, despite not being there), her doctor refused to help, saying she !semmed ok" to him, meanwhile her daughter was becoming more and more aggressive and un-caring...
By the time the whole story came out, my sister was pulling her hair out, she had been to the school, social services, her doctor, charities and even the police... NO-ONE would help...
Its a year later now, and finally she has managed to get her daughter off the cigarettes, alcohol and drugs, we actually took her into our own home for 9 weeks (we live 200 miles away) to get her away from the youngsters she was mixing with and give her some time with no chance of getting hold of the alcohol etc... She has moved now, from Lancashire to eastbourne and the fresh start has hopefully helped, but where was the help then? Would this really help those in this sort of position? Or once again only those well-known trouble makers who ALREADY have social workers, ASBO's and police family support workers?
Her daughter although going off the rails, did so quietly, without being an outright nuisance to her neighbours or being vicious to others outside the family, and therefore wasn't classed as a problem... I don't see that changing, and yet its for these families that need the help...
ummm...
actually we HAVE been asked why "thebrummies" before... we didn't point out the obvious.. maybe we should move...
okies, this must have happened to most of us... either you say something or your partner does that simply spoils the moment!
My examples:
During the first month or so of our relationship Mr B compared me to a Walrus as we got a little ambitious with some of our positions... :shock:
Now, literally today! (told him I'd get himback!) in the middle of a very wet session (he can only blame himself!) simply saying, out of nowhere... "Its like shagging a cup of tea!" :eeek:
Both times had the pair of us rolling with laughter, but it did kinda ruin that mood... (well, for a few minutes anyway :P )
I know, his blood was keeping other areas other than his brain working, but...
Anyone want to share theirs?
NOOO!
I'd have more faith in Gordon the Gopher!
thank you hisandhers... we've been on this site since April 2005 (where did all that time go :shock: ? ) and always enjoyed the chit chat, more often than not though on the chat itself, maybe 2008 will change things...
Hi folks, finally saying hello on the forums, some of you will already have chatted to at least one of us in chat, usually the west mids room. Often browsed the forums, (yup, a true lurker!) and thought it about time we said hi. Been on SH for a loong while now, love the site in general, have same quibbles as most others really, but you're never gonna please everyone so tough, hoping this year to finally take the plunge abnd start meeting a few of you... (lol, thats if you'll have us! :P )
Right, thats the waffling done, off to see what chaos we can cause.. :twisted:
might be interrested in coming hopefully get to know more ppl and put some face or masks to names lol
well, I could happily link to my current blog, but to be honest that blog wouldn't show the me (or us LOL, I forget him I'll get clobbered!) that I would want to show on here... and that is a person I CANNOT show on a family based site...
hmmmm...
anyone recommend a hosting site maybe where it would be possible so we could link in to that?
HIyas, don't know where to put this but would anyone consider adding BLOGS onto the site??
I dont know how many people would use them, or even if people would be interested but it would be a great way to introduce yourself properly and really let people see who you are...
I have a blog on another forum, but its a family site and so wouldn't be anything like the blog I would post here! But I do find its a great way to browse through members and see who is really interactive with the site and who they are as people...
Just wondering what anyone thinks??
I've seen posts about blogs, but as far as I can tell never one suggesting linking them in with SH...
Rather than "pain" I think the sensation is "fear"...
Its a fear that you're not about to ejaculate but instead about to wet yourself...
Getting past that fear takes real trust with the person you're with, you need to relax and allow it... I mean whats the worst that can happen? You actually do wet yourself? If your with a regular partner that shouldn't be a problem but I think its highly unlikely...
The first time this happened for me with my partner now, we both kinda paused in absolute shock... there was just sooo much liquid everywhere!!! TAlking afterwards we both admitted that at that time, just for a moment we had wondered whether I had wet myself, but my partner soon realised that wasn't the case...
The only problem now is I don't cum like this very often and HE sometimes questions just how much I have enjoyed myself and needs reassurance occassionally...
But on the few times when it DOES happen... HE sleeps in the wet patch!!!
hee hee.. got that one sussed! :twisted:
OKAY, you've trawled through the posts, you've chatted in the chat rooms, you've flirted till you're numb???
We both know that feeling, and along with our two pet cats we have prepared a recipe that'll help cheer you up...
After all you want to eat well and keep your strength up for when you're NOT alone don't you??
:happy:
Batchelors Omlette (Works just as well as a Batchelerette Omlette!)
An omlette with a difference - tasty, nutricious and easy to prepare.
Ingredients
8 oz lean cooking steak.
4 eggs
4oz button mushrooms
a little oil
1 large spanish onion
1 glove garlic
1 teaspoon oregano
1 teaspoon tumeric
1 tablespoon Tarragon
around 8ox spinnach leaves
a tablespoon cooking oil.
Vinegar
salt
You will need - a food liquidiser
A VERY sharp knife
Method:
slice the onion and garlic into chunks
dice the cooking steak.
Heat the cooking oil in a frying pan under a gentle heat.
Put in the onion, garlic, oregano and tumeric and allow to cook slowly.
Chop the mushrooms into quarters, and add to the frying pan.
crack the eggs into a bowl and wisk in the tarragon.
Using the sharp knife, chop the spinnache leaves into small strips, being carefull not to...
OK - place your hand under a running cold tap and bind with a clean tea towel until the bleeding stops.
Rince the blood off the spinnach and blend in the liquidiser with the eggs and tarragon for 2 minutes at high speed.
You where supposed to put the lid on the liquidiser first.
Using the spatchelor, carefully scrape the egg mixture from the ceiling and walls, and put in the bin.
Remember the frying onions and garlic ?
Carefully scrape the blackened mass into the bin, and put the frying pan in to soak.
Put the cooking steak down for the cat to have.
Go to the nearest pub and drink beer untill you can no longer feel the pain in your hand. Or feet.
Visit the chippie en-route home, and get a large kebab with chips, curry sauce and mushy peas.
Season to taste with the vinegar and salt !
Bon Apetite !
oh dear, what we done getting involved with this crowd... they're actually battier than us :O
Mrs SLAPS Mr... "It's YOUR fault"...
OKIES!
Waving hiyas to Davej who pointed out very nicely that were had a kinda large tag! lol, we have shrunk it so those of you who are cursing us because you starting to have to scroll your page just to read posts after we've been there can now relax!
Sorry we didnt notice, we have rather large fat screen lol, ahhh well....
We've been on here well over a year now, and to be honest it has taken a lot of time to get our confidence etc up enough to start going into chat, and the forums... At the moment our pics are very basic but we hope to rectify that one soon :P
We don't overly mind if someone doesn't put anything in their profiles, but anyone who doesn't will have to acknowledge that people WILL be wary of them... its happened to us, people are a little more wary until they know us better and certainly with the amount we have had in the past on the profile thats understandable...
Where we have the problem is when someone tries to continually push themselves at you, a very big part of this for us (and I'm sure most will agree) has to be TRUST, and that needs to be earnt... you have to be confident first with who you're with and then with anyone else involved, even going dogging this will come into effect, anyone being too pushy or rowdy will simply scare couples etc away and to be honest thats all I can say to people, take it slowly, go at their pace and MAYBE, just maybe something will come of it...
Even if it doesn't we've had such fun on the site by relaxing and enjoying ourselves and look forward to much more....
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