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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 63
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Sexlightened
I'd highly recommend Infusions. I've been a few times on a Saturday night with lady friends and it's a fun, friendly and very playful club.
The swimming pool is great as is the jacuzzi. I love the dark room which is almost totally dark and the playrooms upstairs, both in terms of the group plus the individual rooms are excellent.
I'm next there with a friend on 20 July so should be fun then too.
Sexlightened
Bambi, not sure if we are meant to confirm we are coming, but if we are please take this as my confirmation that I will be there.
Thanks
Sexlightened
Hi Bambi,
Sorry for the late confirmation, I usually attend your Xtasia party nights, can you please put me down and take this as confirmation that I will be attending
Thanks
Sexlightened
Quote by HnS
Hey guys,
any chance of a hotel list ?

If you haven't had a reply to this, there are plenty of hotels in Liverpool from the budget end such as IBIS or Premier Travel Inn in the city centre to the more expensive like The Hard Day's Night, The Hilton and Marriot to The Malmaison. All of those are in the city centre and while I don't know where this event is taking place, assuming it's the city centre almost any hotel is easy walking distance or a short taxi ride away.
Hope that helps
Mark
Mark,
stayed in Liverpool before and indeed just returned from a gig there tonight.
as per Social and Munch Guidelines the venue won't be revealed to people until much nearer the date, and then only those on the list.
however it's customary to advise people of hotels near the venue, without actually revealing the venue, in advance.
we keep asking, but to date no response
Ah, I see. This will be the first social I have been too and I hadn't actually read up the rules so to speak. well, here's hoping the organisers get in touch with you asap to let you know. Hope to catch up with you on the night.
Mark
Sexlightened
Quote by HnS
Hey guys,
any chance of a hotel list ?

If you haven't had a reply to this, there are plenty of hotels in Liverpool from the budget end such as IBIS or Premier Travel Inn in the city centre to the more expensive like The Hard Day's Night, The Hilton and Marriot to The Malmaison. All of those are in the city centre and while I don't know where this event is taking place, assuming it's the city centre almost any hotel is easy walking distance or a short taxi ride away.
Hope that helps
Mark
Sexlightened
Quote by Xtasia
There is also Xtasia which feels much more like a traditional nightclub. It depends what you are looking forward, but we don't find the play areas at Xtasia much good for couples' swinging. The beds are too small for four! ;)
That said I think Xtasia has new owners, so hopefully it will be something that changes, but on paper it's a great blend of nightclub and playing venue.

Just like to add new play areas are coming, work starts 1st July, so couples play area will be addressed, without loosing the nightclub element.
Paul & Flirt
I hope that you'll be keeping the couples whom like to play with singles areas too... lol
Sexlightened
2 clubs that stand out for me would be Xtasia in West Brom which is an old night club, has a dance floor and plenty of play areas. it's just been taken over so has had some changes done to it, which have improved the place and theres lot more planned so I believe, you may want to check with the club nearer to your visit.
The other is in Stoke on Trent and is called Atlantis Evolution which gets rave reviews off other websites and from people I have met who go there, I've been once a while ago.
Both clubs are mixed on Friday nights and Couples only on Saturday nights and like a night club both are clothed clubs. Most UK clubs are towel clubs which while slightly differnt with eacj club means you the guy strips to a towel on entrance or pretty soon afterwards and ladies normally strip to underwear or something very similarly sexy.
Sexlightened
Quote by Steve
I've a suggestion or two....
Not sure it would work or be very popular but......
How about limiting the number of single guys allowed in and maybe make them pre-book ?
Before anyone accuses me of single male bashing.....I'm a single male.....
I was present at the last get together organised by Bambi and I have to say I was ashamed to be a single male....
The behaviour of the guys in the upper area of the club was akin to a pack of dogs chasing a 3 legged cat :-(
Every time a cpl entered the area a group of them would practically hound them until they either left the area or allowed them to join in....
The sections in that area are clearly marked yet basically no notice was taken by these guys and they occupied all of them....
I'm not sure what can be done to alleviate these problems and maybe limits and pre-booking aren't the way dunno but it's just a suggestion...
Back when I was part of a couple we used to enjoy the company of single guys but I have to say what happened last Friday would have been very off putting and intimidating for me had I been a couple....
I don't wish to put a downer on what was yet another lovely social event organised by Bambi and I wish you all the best with the club :thumbup:

Well I'm also a single guy and was there last Friday too. In general I agree with what you state above. Unusually at a SH party night, there did seem to be a very large number of single males, whereas in the past I'd have said that the mix between singles and couples was less obvious. There was a bottle neck by the Grope Box, that was almost a wall of guys, it was hard for me to get through as a single guy.
I agree that once upon a time the rules of who went into what area in that section was quite strictly enforced, but for sometime now, no-one seems to bother about whom goes where.
I started a thread on another site asking what people would like to see at Xtasia since the new owners took over. Top of the list was male dress code and working showers the latter of which has now been addressed. Other peoples ideas was a larger dark room and a foam party which I'd personally love to see (not just on couples nights though).
Looking at what Paul & Flirt say at the start of the thread I like what they have sterted to do. Couples only in The Loft, assuming that means the mezzanine floor above the wet area and entranced near the bar sounds good, but I think might be fairly crowded for couples only, however that may mean more couples around the main club. The old couples room, I hadn't realised was a dungeon though I have been in there a few times, but the Grope Box being moved to there sounds fun. As for general cleanliness, well 10/10 for that. All in all a good start it seems.
Sexlightened
Quote by Too Hot
What is it like there these days? We last went about five years ago and it was packed with single guys who seemed to somehow find themselves stood right next to you or hanging around in your space.
We are looking for somewhere to go on Friday and would consider Cupids again but it is just no fun when Mrs is dressed all sexy and we get plagued with single guys. We don't mind single guys - but sometimes it can be just too much.

I haven't been to Cupids for a while myself, though it is on my list of places to visit this year. More often than not around Manchester I have been to Adam n Eves which is a pretty good if somewhat basic club these days. Nasic in the sence that it doesn't have lots of fancy rooms, but it's clean, well decorated, has a nice working jacuzzi and more importnatly has some very nice people whom go there a mix of singles (guys & girls) and couples.
Howvere this Friday, I'm off to the Swinging Heaven party at Xtasia in West Brom which has 85 confirmed people going, just check out the thread in the meets forum for more info if interested. Been to several of these parties before and each of them have simply been great fun and well worth the journey, or even staying overnight at the hotel 50 yards from the club.
Have fun whatever you choose to do.
Mark
Sexlightened
Actually Angie, unlike you, I'm not surprised you haben't had any responses, tjhough maybe you've had some privately.
As your a couple, I wouldn't worry about trying to set something up before you go tyo a club, I'd just go and be yourselves. I haven't been to either of the clubs you mention, I normally frequest Xtasia or clubs round Manchester, but I'm pretty sure you won't be the only couple in the club and that you'll soon get to chat to otheres especially if you let the hosts know your newbies when you arrive.
Just enjoy yourselves, draw up your own guidelibnes before you go into the club and then go with the flow. Mind you I'll drive down to take you in if your feeling really nervous....joking btw...smile
Sexlightened
Good to read that Mids. I have heard similar views to your own off another website from a couple whom seem to have become regulars at the place. Just to add to the comments you havemade here whats the admissions policy for single guys?
Sexlightened
Quote by Jorate57
Apologies up front if this appears ageist:-( we are a mid thirties couple who are looking for some guidance as to which clubs tend to have more thirty somethings going to them please? Thanks for your time and help upfront xxx

Don't forget 50 is the new 30.....smile
Sexlightened
bambi, You might like to confirm me on your list as I will defo be coming
Sexlightened
Quote by livelife_cpl
We are super excited too loveus2! This is our first social so if you see us quivering in the corner please come say hi! lol Any other newbies going please mail us so we can be nervous together? wink

You'll love it, it's a really fun night out and you get to do whatever you wish to do....smile
If you do get really nervous though and feel the need to quiver in a corner, there's a really good place in the club called "the Feel Free Box"..............you'll be as safe as houses in there......:)
Have a fun night and if you don't mind sharing a drink or saying hello to a single guy, feel free to say Hi...:)
Mark
Sexlightened
Well It's not local to you 2531, but as your first timers and based on your post it might be ideal for you. Bambi is organising a party at Xtasia in West Brom (near J2 of the M5) on Friday 25th May, there is a thread under club meets on this site.
Anyway, there's 130 people signed up to be going, a mix of couples and singles, and I can tell you from having been to several of these events over the last few years it's a really good event to go to. Dress code is smart casual for the guys, normally trousers and a shirt, while ladies dress in daring club wear down to sexy lingerie depending on the individual. The club is large with a dance floor, a couples room and various play areas, but I'm not really here to sell the club to you.
I think it would suit you because you can stay fully dressed for the whole evening if you so wish, while looking around and enjoying what takes place with absolutely no pressure to take part yourself, and yet having the freedom to dabb;e if the moment captures you. Because there are a lot of SH people there you will undoubtedly make new friends and contacts too and in short simply have a good time.
The Premier Travel Inn next door is 1 minutes walk from the club, with car parking too so it makes it ideal if you want to stay over.
So if you don't mind travelling and are happy to wait till end of May, go and pop your name on the list and gave a great night. The night btw is mixed with couples and singles, but as there are so many couples there the balance is good and you definately won't have the "being followed" feel while at the club.
Best of luck and have fun wherever you go
Mark x
Sexlightened
Quote by Serf
me and the mrs went to xtasia playful, its really good, nightclub experience.

Got to agree with you about Xtasia Serf, love that club, though obviously didn't mention it here as it's West brom rather than Manchester.
Are you going to the Swinging Heaven Party at end of May
Mark
Sexlightened
Well Playful, the best place to check would be the club reviews on this site and indeed on other sites too, though I do sometimes think the reviews are tainted by people trying to "Big" up a club at the expense of another one, just because they like the one they go to.
The club I've been to most recently in Manchester is Adam & Eves which is actually in Eccles, about 10 minutes drive from the city centre. The club is long established and has experienced a lot of changes over the years. It's clean, set over 4 floors, the main features are a jacuzzi and sauna, a mixed and 2 private rooms downstairs, and a mixed room on the 2nd and 3rd floor, the upper floor also being used by the smokers. Although the mix of people changes each night, I'd say the mix is couples with a sizable helping of single males and a few single females. You can socialise or play, the choice being yours. Some people love it, some hate it, I personally enjoy this club nowadays, and am glad I rejoined it last December.
There's also Cupids in Swinton,also about 10 to 15 minutes drive from the city centre. I haven't been for a while and it's been under new management for a good few months now, so I can't give an up to date review of the place. When I last visited it was quite big over 2 floors, had a good mix of couples and singles, however as I said this is a long time ago.
Slightly further afield is Partners in Bury, which is similar to the other 2 clubs but has a huge wet area and when i last visited a maze. I liked the club, but i always found, being a tall guy that the doors were undersized so i always seemed to have to stoop to get in and out of a room.
Beyound that theres Liaisons in Rochdale or No 3 Club in Chorley, but these are a fair track from Manchester, so I'll leave you to draw your own conclusions about them.
Hope this helps
Mark
Sexlightened
just a question or 2 about a black/white night.
1) Can white guys attend the club on such nights, and is it worth it, or are the ladies/couples that go only interested in black guys and nothing else. I knw that sounds a silly question but it is meant genuinely.
2) Do black girls go to black/white nights looking for white guys?
I've never attended such nights being a white guy, but I'd be interested to know if it's worth while considering going in the future especially if black girls go looking for white guys...smile
Thanks in advance for any replies
Sexlightened
I have to wonder a little about the credibility of the original poster, but I'll take it on face value and assume that it's just taken them several years to post.
Xanadu has actually been closed for several years now, and while I'd agree with the OP that it was a dump of a club, it had nothing to do with the real swingers I saw in there, albeit very few. I went to the club twice, in both cases the jacuzzi was broken but on the 2nd occasion a girl who was dancing alone stared to dance in front of me before inviting me to a private room, before then asking for money, clearly not a swinger club in my mind and no loss whatsoever to the world of swinging. As you have posted recently though, maybe your interested in looking at Swinging clubs close to Manchester again. The club reviews page both on this site and other similar sites give you an insight to many clubs round the UK and Manchester.
take your pick from Adam & Eves in Eccles (10 mins from city center), Cupids in Swinton (also about 10 minutes). Further afield theres Partners in Bury (about 20minutes away and Liaisons in Rochdale say about 30 minutes away. All have there own different qualities, all are worth a visit and I would say all are good clubs depending on your own individual tatstes. In each case the best nights are most likely Friday & saturday, but take your pick, try them all out maybe and post your comments back here maybe answering your own question.
Sexlightened
Quote by MidsCouple24
For me it was the smoking ban that made clubs less attractive, not just clubs but the pool hall, cinema and restaurants, I go to each of them far less these days but the clubs are the ones I frequent less, restaurants are not to bad because I don't smoke during the meal, the cinema I never went to that often anyway but now never go, as for clubs, when I go I am there for hours and seem to spend most of my time in the smoking areas, some clubs have done some great work on these areas and spent a lot of money on them but they are still freezing cold at this time of year especially as the very dress code of clubs and heat inside means you wear less.
I smoke a lot when I socialise and drink in fact when I drink I am a chain smoker but only drink around once or twice a month, this means that my enjoyment at clubs is severely de-hanced, now I am not saying change the smoking laws I am simply stating a fact as it applies to me.
I do think the smoking ban has affected more pubs and clubs than is quite realised.

I have to agree with you there Midscpl. I'm a non smoker but for many years I thought you had to smoke to be a swinger....smile
I do think the smoking ban has had a profound effect on club attendance, and while the law will never change, it is a pity they couldn't have found a way to legally filter the smoke quickly out of a building without forcing smokers outside. Mind you that will open a whole new debate and that definately ain't my intention...:)
Sexlightened
Quote by MidsCouple24
I'll throw in 2 other options for you Young Couple.
First off Adam & Eves in Eccles which might surprise a few people. It's a long established club which has had it's ups and downs over the years. I recently started going to this club again, late December 11 and was really surprised about the place. It's very clean, friendly and quite compact over 4 floors. There is no dress down policy, heck you can keep your coat on if you really want to, but you'll find it's warm enough...smile It seems to have a good mix of single guys,single ladies and couples, some of whom are active and some of whom aren't. It's only downside is that there isn't a smoking area, so smoking is allowed on the top floor where there is a skylight, though late in the night you find that smoking does take place in the reception/bar area too, so if your totally anti smoking then that could be a problem. The club has 2 private lockable rooms otherwise it's open. Currently I'd actually say this is one of the better manchester clubs though I haven't been to No 3.
Outside of Manchester try Xtasia in West Brom, theres actually a Swinging Heaven party there at the end of May (Check it out in Club Forums). This club definately doesn't have a dress down policy,it's a wear what you want thats smart casual for guys and ladies, well wear whatever best suits your mood, though it always surprises me when the odd lady wears trousers to this particular venue...:) The club has a large dance floor, a large couples only room and a large mixed area, with good additional things like the Feel Free Box and The Dark Room with Fridays being mixed nights and Saturdays couples only. The mix of people are young like you to older like me...:) Personally if i was taking a lady for the first time to a club, and not having seen every club in the country, Xtasia on a SH party night is definately the one I would go to.
Best of luck anyway and have fun.

Xstasia is about an hour n a half to two hours (busiest section of motorway in europe to negotiate) away from Manchester, half an hour away and just off the M6 is Atlantis which is a "nightclub attire" club and very newbie friendly, social areas are all downstairs and play areas upstairs which means you can just dance or chat without going near to the action but if you want to see what is going on there is a lounge area upstairs too, there are also private lockable rooms in case watching makes you horny and you fancy some fun by yourselves.
Also Xstasia is one of those clubs that advertise "paid girls" on site to take care of men, which is cool with some but also something you should be aware of in case it's not for you.

Hi Midscouple,
Well first off, let me agree with you, Atlantis is a wonderful club, though I have only been once for the SH party. The reason I haven't been back is I'm not sure how accomodating it is to single guys, it has a real feel of being a couples club, but if you think different well I'm more than happy to try it out again. My memory of the place was it was really lovely, great music, mix of dressed and undressed people throughout the club, really nice upstairs too and if it has a downfall it was tring to park the car. I know you guys are big supporters of Atlantis too, and I don't blame you, it is a little gem.
Xtasia, I agree is a bit of a trek on a Friday night from Wirral where I live, but I often stay over at the Premier Inn which is right next door. It is worth the journey though and it is a much bigger club than Atlantis but that isn't always good. Most people in the bar/dance area are dressed in nightclub or very sexy nightclub attire and you have to choose to go into the play areas if you want to watch or take part in things. As for "paid girls" I'm really not sure about that, though I do know that outside of the actual hours the club is open for swinging they do have paid shows with girls taking on whatever they do, I've never been to one as it isn't part of the actual swinging night. The ladies and couples I have met in Xtasia I would say would be similar to yourselves in that they go to the club to do whatever they wish to do whether that be socialise only through to all the variations that swinging in a club can have, and that those ladies/couples aren't paid...there again maybe I'm being naive.
In short I think you make a good call over Atlantis and that A&E and Xtasia have their own merits and attractions that all can enjoy
Sexlightened
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
I'll throw in 2 other options for you Young Couple.
First off Adam & Eves in Eccles which might surprise a few people.

But again, this club enforces the dress down rule. We tried it once and as you go in, you are directed to the changing area to get your clothes off, as a result of this, we have not been since and stick with Partners where you do have a choice.
Also, Adam & Eves (and I understand is the same at Cupids) there is no where safe to leave vaulables or the clothes you have taken off. You do have an area to hang them and I have never heard of anyone having anything taken, but they dont provide lockers for your clothes etc (however, the owners will provide an envelope for you to seal any small valuables and those are kept safely behind the bar).
Just picking up on the points you made NWC.
First off I have been to Partners and I agree with you it's a good club, but unless it's changed since i was last there (sometime ago I would add), you can stay dressed so long as you stay in the main reception area of the club but if you start to wander through the club for example through the maze etc, I thought you had to get changed first.
At A&E, your right, the lockers are open, theres a single guys changing area on 1st floor and a sepearte couples/single ladies changing area right by the reception. Any valuables you have are handed over to Reception and kept in shall we call it ice cream tubs but i think they rae better than that, maybe sandwich boxes,,,smile The same would be true of handbags and your booze too. I have to say the last 2 times I have been to A&E I sat chatting at the bar fully dressed for about an hour, and even went and watched some football on TV fully dressed before getting changed to go through the rest of the club. I would defo agree that if your going to go around the club you definately have to get changed first.
I'm not particularly affiliated to any club, they all have different merits, but based on recent attendance at A&E after giving it a miss for a couple of years I have to say I'm quite impressed with the changes that have taken place there.
Sexlightened
I'll throw in 2 other options for you Young Couple.
First off Adam & Eves in Eccles which might surprise a few people. It's a long established club which has had it's ups and downs over the years. I recently started going to this club again, late December 11 and was really surprised about the place. It's very clean, friendly and quite compact over 4 floors. There is no dress down policy, heck you can keep your coat on if you really want to, but you'll find it's warm enough...smile It seems to have a good mix of single guys,single ladies and couples, some of whom are active and some of whom aren't. It's only downside is that there isn't a smoking area, so smoking is allowed on the top floor where there is a skylight, though late in the night you find that smoking does take place in the reception/bar area too, so if your totally anti smoking then that could be a problem. The club has 2 private lockable rooms otherwise it's open. Currently I'd actually say this is one of the better manchester clubs though I haven't been to No 3.
Outside of Manchester try Xtasia in West Brom, theres actually a Swinging Heaven party there at the end of May (Check it out in Club Forums). This club definately doesn't have a dress down policy,it's a wear what you want thats smart casual for guys and ladies, well wear whatever best suits your mood, though it always surprises me when the odd lady wears trousers to this particular venue...:) The club has a large dance floor, a large couples only room and a large mixed area, with good additional things like the Feel Free Box and The Dark Room with Fridays being mixed nights and Saturdays couples only. The mix of people are young like you to older like me...:) Personally if i was taking a lady for the first time to a club, and not having seen every club in the country, Xtasia on a SH party night is definately the one I would go to.
Best of luck anyway and have fun.
Sexlightened
I agree about the comments re the SH party nights, the club is busy with a good mix of socialising, dancing, couples playing with couples only and couples playing with singles too. There's normally about 100+ people there at these party nights and you can normally get a good price at the Premier Inn if you book early enough.
On other nights, well I went mid November on a non SH night and while it was a lot quieter than on the party night, it was still a good night. The club seems to cater for most tastes and doesn't have the feel of couples being stalked by single guys as happens in many clubs especially on quiet nights.
The other thing to remember is Friday night is a mixed night and saturday night is a couples only night.
Sexlightened
Just been having a quicklook through the club sites to see what's happening this New Year's Eve and got something of a shock. I know everywhere charges for party nights and one might expect it to be a bit dearer on New Years Eve, but Cupids in Swinton near Manchester seem to have won the prize for the most expensive night out that I've seen...
The club site quotes prices of £60 for a couple, £90 for a member and £125 for a guest. Now it does include free alcohol all night and a buffet but wowzers that seems really expensive to me...............unless you know better.
Maybe people would like to list down the prices of the clubs that they tend to frequent for this Saturday's New years Eve party and then we can all at a glance see who's charging what. And does anyone think Cupids price is reasonable.
Happy New Year to one and all
Mark