i agree with the fact that other peoples actions do have an impact on us.i would never condem someone for their choices, but it certainly would impact on our choices regarding them.
the way we look at it, our safety is more important that the risk of offending someone.
to be honest its really rare we play, prob 2 or 3 times a year, but then it only takes once to catch someting doesnt it.
we use condoms for sex with other people, not for oral. so i guess there is a risk there. like other people have said, we have weighed up the risks and whilst its not ideal, thats as far as we are willing to take it.
i would not knowingly engage in unprotected oral sex with someone who i knew took more risks than me ( ie sex without condoms) but thats the problem isnt it, the majority of people dont give you their sex cv when you play. and even those who honestly say they dont do bearback, if they have had unprotected oral with someone else who does... its like a domino effect.
it is worrying.
we tend to be tested quite regularly and have been ok up untill now.
fronm the other side of the coin though....
ages ago ( a year or more) we were at a party hosted by a member of this site.
we were upstairs in the playroom with another couple from this site and had engaged in some softswing fun and were then having sex with out own partners.
now me and him dont use condoms between ourselves and so as we had only had sex with each other, and the other couple had only had sex with each other, no condoms were used.
a female half of a couple who may or may not still be members of this site ( i cant be arsed to check) came in the room and commented that we were all disgusting as she had not seen one condom in use during our session!
firstly we put her straight regarding who was with who etc and when she carried on i think i told her in no uncertain terms where she could go.
my question is, does anyone think THAT type of behaviour is acceptable?
i would not eat it, but then i dont eat chicken anyway lol
seriously though, i dont think its worth the risk, i would eat the yummy veg and bin it.
thankyou ever so much.
missy i will pm you shortly hun.
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a request!
god this is so embarrasing.
like i said earlier, tonguey had jumbled up some cards in some bags, and as a result we did not know who some of the lovely gifts we recieved were from.
process of elimination have sorted some, but i still am left with
a gorgeous bowl and set of vanilla pot pouree type stuff in a next bag ( i have an idea who i THINK this is from, but have not seen them on msn since last week and am worried that if its not them the real giver may think me very rude lol)
and two bottles of fizz. one was in a black carrier bag and one was not in any bag.
someone has already said one was from them, but am not sure which - so if the other is from you, please tell me lol.
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thank you, all of you for the lovely pms and messages on here.
i am now going to stop boring people to death with it.
but really looking forward to seeing some of you at the weekend, and the rest soon.
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it does appear that different airports have different rules then/
heathrow the other week was having everyone remove their shoes to be xrayed.
and after the normal security, there was aditional random searches of peoples bags.
just a point about tweezers, as far as i have known, tweezers have been banned from hand luggage for years.
every single airport i have flown from has had a no tweezer policy.
a point i would like to make though, all this extra rules does not make us any safer.
i flew into heathrow today, prob one of the biggest terrorist target airports and yet we could have done anything!!!
i was quite flustered and had put two full 500 ml bottles of pop into tongueys hand luggage.
we were asked the normal questions and had said we had no other liquids asside from our small sandwich bags.
the vase went through the scanner and they picked nothing up.
it was only 2 hours later on the plane that i opened the bag and found the bottles!
now that was a genuine error on our part, but how did they not pick it up?
whats the point of all this inconveniece if people can still take the stuff through?
we got back a couple of hours ago, it was BRILL!
am a bit tired after the travelling but have jumped forward 6 hours so not ready to go bed yet, so you lot have me here lol
thanks for the lovely pms and emails i came back to.
i have hundreds of pics and stuff that i will no doubt bore you all to death with.
now, who is going to bring me upto date with all thats gone on? or do i have to read everything myself?
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anyway, i have other things to be occupying me now.
lovely chatting to you flame, perhaps we will meet in a club one day!
you know what has pissed me off, you have generallised so much, you have practiacally accused all the non - asian swingers in the clubs you and the "people you have spoken to" of making asians feel unwelcome, uncomfortable and unwanted.
if you go to many places where everyone seems to get on and is socialble with each other, yet you feel like you never fit in, just a thought but it might not always be everyone else who has the problem.
ah sorry! my bad
i did not read the names and thought it was the origional poster who had played the " being predudice" card.
i appologise to the OP, its flame hot who i was asking the question of.
does the sex where u are half alseep, so no effrt into it count as casual? lol
can i ask the op in what way he thinks asians are made to feel uncomfortabel in clubs?
is it that you feel you are ignored?
or people are actually rude to you?
meant to say, its still got the mingin minge smell too. we were in selfridges food court yesterday buying treats, and the smell of sushi from the other end of the shop was still noticable to me, though tonguey could not smell it.
ok. have printed off the list for him, and am posting it to him in the morning, so those of you who have sent them, he should have more than adequate time to get them sorted for you. if anyone else has requests am sure he will do his best on the night if he has them.
i find it enfuriating.
i end up shouting at the achine in temper.
the worst one i had was bt and after being passed around for 10 mins they cut me off.
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:lol: 
) so that may take a bit of time :lol: .
though, obviously? :P maybe now WBB will stop stalking my PM box, issuing her unreasonable demands to name that tune? 
