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LondonGuy75
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 48
0 miles · Greater London

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Sexlightened
Hi Sarah, I was about to post the same thing.
I gave them a ring, yes they are open. We probably spoke to the same woman!
Sexlightened
Has anything happened to Rios, its website seems to be down and it the site no longer comes up when google searched.
Has anyone heard anything?
Sexlightened
I believe that 0871 numbers are/will be regulated by PhonePlayPlus (formerly known as ICSTIS).
There should/will be a Code of Practice governing what the service can do and how it is promoted etc.
I am sure the site owners will have already looked at this.
Sexlightened
As a straight guy, just to confirm what others have suggested, I wouldn't find it a turn on at all, unless there was female involvement.
Sexlightened
I found the first time I was really nervous and because of that I didn't enjoy things as much as I should have.
Our second experience I really really enjoyed I was so much more relaxed and everything still felt like a novelty.
Sometimes you just have to get through that first time to break yourself in.
Tim
Sexlightened
Quote by Mrcoupleseekfun
Our perception has changed quite a bit, when we first started me & Mrs C decided that we'd never swing on a first date so to speak....which is all well and good in theory.
Having recently been to Infusions in Blackpool it doesnt quite work like that does it?
In that sense our perceptions have changed in that we now do whatever we feel comfortable with.
With regards to the lack of posts in LMU, i would hazard a guess that its down to 90% of the requests being from single males. A (very) quick scout through the posts backs this up as i struggled to find a post from a couple or single female that hadnt had at least 1 reply!

Ours didn't get any replies sad
Sexlightened
I think it will be more of a slow down than a recession, I've read interest rates are more likely to go down than up. Possibly quite soon.
House prices though are expected to at last level off, although I have heard that before. There is still a shortage of supply, so I don't expect a house price crash.
Sexlightened
Living in London, I think house prices have just become silly. I think that everyone should be able to buy their own home, but the prices are really making things difficult for first time buyers.
Our solution was to go for shared ownership, which has allowed us to part own our home, with the intention that we will buy a house properly in the future. Even if you did lose a house in the past this might still be an option for you?
On the subject of ball games. we have actually have problems with this in our area. But in our case the teenagers involved are deliberately kicking balls at our house, rather than just playing and having fun. So I can understand this could upset people. If they are playing away from peoples homes and not causing a disturbance then this sounds better. Is the green where they are playing close to this man's house? Are they hitting his house, or his car? Have your kids been rude to him?
Sexlightened
We received an email from someone claming to be from the Swinging Heaven Magazine. The profile name is 'SHMeditor'asking us to call them to discuss the Erotica Exhibition.
Did anyone else receive this email? Is this genuine?
Excuse the paranoia!
Sexlightened
Hello, we are Tim and Lene an early 30s soft swing couple in North London. We wondered if any other couples wanted to meet up with us, perhaps for a drink, with the hope that things would go further in subsequent meets.
Lene prefers guys under 40. Photos and a more detailed description are on our profile.
We hope to hear from fellow soft swingers.
Sexlightened
Yes, as mentioned above this looks really similar to Second Life, except that the shagging is only one part of Second Life.
When I first used Second Life I went to some of the sex locations. It was pretty dull to be honest.
Sexlightened
Thanks Frecklebird, I've also now heard that my MP is raising the lack of Police response with the Borough Commander and word has it that George Bush has declared the gang part of the Axis of Evil and is considering a pre-emptive strike. OK, the second part isn't actually true.
Sexlightened
Just to give an update to those that gave advice, I seem to have managed to get an army of bureaucrats on the case.
1) Our local Councillor is querying with the police why they didn't advise us that they could not respond to our two 999 calls.
2) Our housing association is asking the police to patrol our area more often and has asked for the address where the teenagers live.
3) I'm waiting to hear from the teenagers housing association.
4) The council are referring the problem to some guy who deals with anti-social behaviour.
Hopefully all this activity will lead somewhere.
It is just a shame that the kids parents haven't come outside when there have been confrontations or police visits.
Sexlightened
Thank you to everyone for the additional advice. The relevant people at my housing association and the teenagers association all seem to be on holiday or are sick at the moment, but perhaps this isn't a bad thing as things may calm down over the next week.
I've been in touch with my local Councellors and one of them is following up a concern I had regarding the Police. They failed to respond to two 999 calls I made and I think I should have been advised that no one was on their way, the Councellor agrees with this.
I hope to arrange meetings with the relevant people at both associations and hopefully some strategies can come out of that. The postings have given some great suggestions for things I can request.
I have also learnt how potentially dangerous further confrontations could become. Thank you to everyone.
Sexlightened
I read in the guardian the Government are thinking of making paying for sex illegal.

I think it would be better to regulate it rather than push it further underground. Think of all the tax revenue being lost.
Parlours and agencies etc could have a Kyte Mark so that people knew they safe and no one was being exploited.
Sexlightened
Thank you for the advice Columbia. I have been keeping a log, but it isn't that detailed. Your advice sounds great.
It seems there might be some progress the teenagers seem to have taken there chaos to another area further down the street and well away from us.
Sexlightened
I didn't say in previous posts that the police have had other complaints regarding, I think, these teenagers.
The police said a group of teenagers had been moved on from a few blocks away following a similar complaint and when they came out someone had made a complaint that a ball was being kicked at their fence in an area behind the block of flats the teenagers come from.
Also one of our neighbours intends to complain at a residents meeting which hopefully will be taking place in the next few weeks.
The aggression though does seem to be targeted just at us.
Sexlightened
We use Freecycle and it is great. We have got rid of some unwanted stuff and have been given some great items as well.
One weakness is that there are often no photos of the item on offer, so you can't be as sure of what you will get compared to something like ebay.
Sexlightened
I actually did think when I took the football, I wonder if the Police will accuse me of theft smile
The Police suggested I install CCTV to overlook my front door and the parking space I own infront. They were very specific in how they worded their advice, which made me wonder if I installed a camera to cover a wider area I might be breaking some privacy law.
They also said if I put a dummy camera up I could end up being sued, although they didn't explain why.
Responding to another post, unfortunately I have't been able to find out exactly which flats the teenagers live in. I know they are mostly from a block of flats, but I don't know which one. I would like to speak to the parents if I can find out who to speak to.
Sexlightened
Thanks Frecklebird, I think taking photos is OK as we showed photos we had taken to the Police.
Sexlightened
Quote by Freckledbird
I can understand that it's really difficult, but if it's just you (and I don't mean that in a belittling way), I would try to ignore them - they'll get bored if they're not getting a reaction.

Thanks Frecklebird, that is the advice my Dad gave as well. Although he did also suggest I keep complain to the council and anyone else I can think of.
I am not sure whether to pursue these complaints. The people I have complained to are experienced in dealing with these problems, so perhaps I should ask what they think is the best approach.
Sexlightened
Thanks for your post Mike. There are about 15 of them.
Seriously we are not trying to wind them up. I did however initially make the mistake of responding to their attempts to wind us up.
When I took the ball it was because they were kicking the ball closer and closer to Lene. I felt they were doing this deliberately and took the ball. Yes, we should have probably just gone inside instead of carrying on with the argument, but I am human and I lost my temper.
I work for a college in a rough area of London so I have some experience of relating to teenagers and we have no problem getting on with our neighbours teenagers.
I have tried reasoning with the teenagers but they just took the piss and began taking penalty kicks at my door as soon as I went inside. I will certainly try being more friendly to them in the future if things calm down, but at the moment I have decided to stay clear of them.
Both Lene and I live in a housing association property as well, as part of a shared ownership agreement.
Sexlightened
Thanks Frecklebird, the abuse seems to be just directed at us. They kicked the ball at our door a few weeks ago, and without my knowledge Lene went out and had a go at them. She is from Switzerland and they don't really experience this kind of behaviour in her former town. I went out to support her and there was a massive argument. Since then they have been targeting us, hoping to get a similar reaction.
We are now trying to ignore the behaviour, however, I am complaining to literally everyone I can think of to put pressure on the police and their housing association to take action.
The behaviour is intimidating. For example one teenager went up to her grabbed his crotch and shouted fuck you at her. This was in the context of an argument we were having with them after they had decided to take penalty kicks against our front door.
Sexlightened
Has anyone here got experience of dealing with difficult teenagers?
A group of teenagers near where we live have been making our life quite difficult, kicking balls at our windows deliberately and shouting abuse at us in the street. It has got so bad that Lene can't go out in the evening on her own.
We've been in contact with the local police, but they haven't been much help. They didn't even speak to the teenagers directly and seemed to be advising that we just accept the situation. They made comments like, it is very rare for there to be any violence in these situations. Quite how they can make this judgement without actually even speaking to the teenagers amazes me.
The teenagers are from a housing association, so I have emailed their landlord. I've also contacted the council and even our local MP.
I've taken the ball temporarily off of the teenagers before, but I don't want to risk doing that on a regular basis. Confronting them myself just seems to be agravating the situation.
I'm thinking maybe I should just declare the area a dogging zone to create a distraction smile
Seriously though does anyone have any advice? Or have you experienced similar problems?
Sexlightened
I've sent an PM with a link.
I'm not sure if I am allowed to post it here, but if you just search erotic audio stories on google you will have plenty of choice.
Sexlightened
I notice as soon as some new women appeared he immediately dumped Chanelle. Didn't he do that last time when they put the actress/fake australian in
Sexlightened
Ohhh poor Chanelle. sad
They were always doomed, once she came out of the house she was going to find out all the things he had been saying about her behind her back.
Sexlightened
Hi Duncan,
I hope I understood your post correctly. Looking through the thread it seemed to me that overall couples/single females were giving advice on the type of approach they prefer.
It seemed many prefered a more subtle approach to direct very sexual demands.
People are just saying what their individual preferences are I thought?
I do agree that when it comes to a one to one meet a couple can control what they want etc.