I still cant see illicit extra marital affairs being anything but wrong. OK so you might say and think that there's no harm in it if the one partner never finds out. The old adage of ignorance is bliss comes to mind I guess. Surely though a married relationship is built on trust and honesty and fucking about behind your partners back, who would more than likely be appalled at such an occurrence, flies in the face of trust and honesty?
If sex is a problem in a marriage for no physical or emotional reason and due to ones different desires then that should be discussed between partners and possibly, because i am a believer in it, third party professional help. At that point maybe some issues can be discussed and an understanding of each others needs gained and allowances made. Swinging maybe one of numerous options but the important thing is that its honest and not deceitful. If there is then still no ground gained then bigger questions might have to be asked if the urge to cheat and lie is still too great.
I am a bit of an old hippy i guess and the idea of staying with someone for financial or situational needs whilst being deceitful and cheating doesn't sit comfortably not at all. The idea of having honest sexual freedom within a relationship however does sit comfortably. I guess I will always condemn the actions of cheating and until someone can convince me that there's an honest way of being deceitful I can't see me changing my mind.
I know there are always exceptions to the rule. We know of a lady who has been unable to have a sexual relationship with her husband for many years. She suggested a long time ago to her husband that he find sex elsewhere as it was hard on him to be deprived of that physical part of their relationship. Hard on her I might add to that too. Her only only rule to her husband was that she wasn't to know about it and so he goes on 'shopping trips'. He has had relationships on a purely physical basis with other women and they have known of his situation and other times he may use a sex worker. Of course his wife knows what he does but between them it's not mentioned.
I wouldn't condemn these actions and I'd even go so far as to applaud them to a degree. I guess extra marital in these types of extreme situations is different and I guess there are other circumstances where i would feel the same but I cant immediately think of any. These 'extra marital affairs' are different to the 'shagging behind a partners back' reasons though aren't they?
Swinging in some peoples, maybe most i don't know, minds is wrong and that's fair its their lives and they should do and act as they feel they should. Swinging is different though isn't it? Swinging is or should be done with a partners full knowledge (hopefully participation as well)and agreement. In our swinging life we've met a married single guy whose wife didn't swing but we met her, with him, in a pub and found out for ourselves that she was fine about him doing this so that was cool.
In my mind, and under the values I hold, these extra marital affairs done without the other partner knowing, and at the very least acquiescing, are wrong as its deceitful without, as I allude to above, some sort of acknowledgment and knowledge from their partner is wrong.
I sort of dig the idea of shrep now but f*ck me I cant be arsed to suss out how to use it. far too complicated for my low end over taxed mind
Think the whole idea of a site for extra-marital affairs sounds total shit to me personally - it puts me in mind of opportunists, victims and predators
What a really unwholesome idea it is to go looking to f*ck someones wife or husband knowing full well it is illicit and that by doing so could result in causing someone, somewhere a lot of pain and heartache.
Oh and before the arguements regard "yeah but it could be saving a marriage" or "You don't know the circumstances so don't be so quick to judge" etc. Well that's bollox. People should look to what they're thinking before embarking on such ventures and then judge their own standards and ethics first.
Could J & I be added to the list Please NWC After 6 years wanting too come to a Wigan munch we're bloody well going to make this one if there's space for Lost.
Well at long last, and after many inquiries and requests, a social in Gloucester.
The social will be held at a swingers lifestyle club on Saturday the 22nd of October in Gloucester.
The cost will be £10 per couple or single fem/male, this is a special 'low rate' and a cool discount on the usual entry cost the hosts have kindly allowed us for this one evening, so it would be great to take advantage of it. This fee will be payable through collecting on the door and signing, those on the invite list, in. This will be done rather than having to pay online as is usual at this venue. but be assured all the money collected will be going to the club.
As this is a swing club it will of course be open in its usual fashion, and due to the clubs rules and layout, this works very well. There is a licensed bar (very reasonably priced drink to) which is located in one of the two comfortable ground floor social areas. These areas are full dress no play areas well away from play rooms so well suited for those wanting to meet up and have a good time in a no pressure environment.
Obviously those wishing to see or use the clubs other facilities and explore the racier areas are of course welcome to do so though it must be emphasised that there will be people not associated with the social group using them too.
Please sign up and come along, as there are so many great swinging people in the area, it would be a shame to miss this opportunity to get together in this super venue.
If anyone needs any information or requires a hotel list then please don't hesitate to mail us through Swinging heaven and we'll endeavour to do our best to answer
FiredupX2
Wiltscouple01
TCP
Eat2completion
hornyandcurious
iamagreedygirl
kingofswong01
Lost
Altec2000
Jyn
Cin65
Slaters
Tweeky
Lickermuffin
Digge
lilnfil
Pretendimhuman
KinkybifemUK
two4onemore
Amati&Northern Biker
time222222
SuzieJon
JimnMary
Fungi_2008
Sjwilts
Blacksweetman
Tinyeon
PeteandKate
Juicyj
2forU2010
johnnyboy9
A big LoL from here - Himnher think how fuc*ed up a lot of people would be without prescribed medication - Lets be honest Viagra has probably helped millions of normal people do normal things normally and improved their lives immeasurably. It's not as if its Crak cocaine now is it.
Buck Cherry ... Crazy Bitch
Break me down, you got a lovely face
We're going to your place, and now you got to freak me out
Scream so loud, getting fuckin' laid
You want me to stay but I got to make my way
(Chorus)
Hey! You're a crazy bitch
But you fuck so good I'm on top of it
When I dream I'm doing you all night
Scratches all down my back to keep me right on
repeat chorus
Take it off, the paper is your game
You jump in bed with fame
Another one night paid in full
You're so fine, it won't be a loss
Cashing in the rocks just to get you face to face
(Chorus X2)
Get the video, fuck you so good
Get the video, fuck you so good
Crazy bitch, crazy bitch
Crazy, bitch
(Chorus X2)
Baby girl you want it all
To be a star you'll have to go down
Take it off no need to talk
You're crazy but I like the way you fuck me
(Chorus X2)
You keep me right on
You're crazy but I like the way you fuck me
the 2nd battalion parachute regiment
feeling smug about
Just wondering why a lot of bi guys, not all of course, won't meet guys unless they come as part of a f/m couple. Is it a case of they're only bi so they can get some pussy action and if it means dealing with cock then that's the price they're willing to pay?
If on a meet with a guy or a couple and the guy seems to be great and all is going great guns until the point when the guy and yourself finds Mr Johnson aint getting up to play. Are you understanding or do you think "What a useless bas*ard"?
I know it can be a little dissappointing when J is with a guy and all is going well until its da dadadaaaaaaaaa condom time. At which point the guys Mr Johnson decides bollox to it and goes into erectus impossiblus mode. Granted, most of the time it just takes a little extra persuasion to encourage back to atention but other times it looks like a waste of arm and throat muscles and time would be better spent enjoying a cup of coffee and filling in a take a break book.
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its a high walled totally enclosed private area at the venue with more enough space for however many 
I'll get me coat
