I'm still feeling a bit guilty about my 500 being so heavily biased towards single letter guesses in the hangman thread
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Mr_D_and_HotTart
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 57
Bisexual Female, 63
0 miles · Hereford and Worcester
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I think the title of the thread hits the nail on the head - "A lost erotic art" indeed.
Phonesex, like cybering or camming can be wonderful between the right two people, but like any of the seductive arts it does take skill, imagination, and a constant regard for the other party's feelings, which is often lacking.
I'm rather surprised that the orginal post seems to concentrate on the 'getting into someone's head, almost being in the room' type of phonesex, because I've always thought the imaginative, scenario-building unreal fantasy type of phonesex to be more rewarding. Possibly this is because it's all too easy for this kind of thing to end up with her giving long floral descriptive comments about her movements and feelings while he's trying to think of yet an other synonym for 'I'm still having a wank"
For me the most rewarding phone sex is the kind where there is narrative freedom, where you can condense "I test you mercilessly for 15 minutes then untie you" from 15 minutes of real time down to a single sentence, or do things that are pushing your personal limits then discuss them afterwards ("that was great, but please never do xxxxxxx to me in real life!"). The medium can also force a loved one into describing their likes and dislikes more graphically than they would if the events were actually taking place, I've discovered several little kinks and preferences about partners through phonesex, which I wouldn't necessarily have detected in the heat of real-world passion.
Of course, phone sex doesn't push everyone's buttons, especially on this site where we have a lot more real-world sex availalbe to us than most people do, but it does have it's time and place, especially as a means of foreplay, for some people.
Phonesex, like cybering or camming can be wonderful between the right two people, but like any of the seductive arts it does take skill, imagination, and a constant regard for the other party's feelings, which is often lacking.
I'm rather surprised that the orginal post seems to concentrate on the 'getting into someone's head, almost being in the room' type of phonesex, because I've always thought the imaginative, scenario-building unreal fantasy type of phonesex to be more rewarding. Possibly this is because it's all too easy for this kind of thing to end up with her giving long floral descriptive comments about her movements and feelings while he's trying to think of yet an other synonym for 'I'm still having a wank"
For me the most rewarding phone sex is the kind where there is narrative freedom, where you can condense "I test you mercilessly for 15 minutes then untie you" from 15 minutes of real time down to a single sentence, or do things that are pushing your personal limits then discuss them afterwards ("that was great, but please never do xxxxxxx to me in real life!"). The medium can also force a loved one into describing their likes and dislikes more graphically than they would if the events were actually taking place, I've discovered several little kinks and preferences about partners through phonesex, which I wouldn't necessarily have detected in the heat of real-world passion.
Of course, phone sex doesn't push everyone's buttons, especially on this site where we have a lot more real-world sex availalbe to us than most people do, but it does have it's time and place, especially as a means of foreplay, for some people.
You need to avoid anything that a buyer might strongly object to, so nothing really bright, or heavily patterened. The good news is that plain coloured carpet is usually cheapest!
You might consider large rugs rather than carpets where possible, since wooden floors are 'in' and it means you don't have to pay for a fitter, and you can take them with you when you go! Try your local diy shop or Ikea for cheap rugs rather than a specialist carpet shop, the prices will be much better.
You might consider large rugs rather than carpets where possible, since wooden floors are 'in' and it means you don't have to pay for a fitter, and you can take them with you when you go! Try your local diy shop or Ikea for cheap rugs rather than a specialist carpet shop, the prices will be much better.
Thanks for the clarification, Jags... actually I meant that in general the cammers have low post counts and the people with higher post counts tend to be more negative, I wouldn't want to put words into anyone's mouth!
I guess I could have made that clearer - however the effect is the same, I'm in favour of positive action, and glad that the matter is being looked into
I guess I could have made that clearer - however the effect is the same, I'm in favour of positive action, and glad that the matter is being looked into
Can we really be talking about the same smiling bundle of energy that was bouncing round at the Notts munch?
I didn't get to have proper conversations with a whole lot of people I half-know from chat or the forums, due to lack of time (and being rather preoccupied ), but Marya was right up at the top of the list titled 'wow, really nice person, must chat to next munch'.
... and now there won't be a next munch
Here's hoping she misses us so much that she comes back (if only to tell me if it's pronounced Mary-a or Mar-ya!)
I didn't get to have proper conversations with a whole lot of people I half-know from chat or the forums, due to lack of time (and being rather preoccupied
), but Marya was right up at the top of the list titled 'wow, really nice person, must chat to next munch'.... and now there won't be a next munch
Here's hoping she misses us so much that she comes back (if only to tell me if it's pronounced Mary-a or Mar-ya!)
Just an observation from me (I know this is a subject that annoys a lot of people), because I see a lot of the senior figures from SH being negative about camming in this thread.
I'm going to hold my hand up and say I'm in favour of camming.
I think that most of the problems with camming getting in the way of chat, cluttering up the 'let's meet up' forum and so on are simply because there isn't a 'proper' place for it here.
While I sympathise to some extent with those who don't want this site to include camming, please remember that many of us have the same sort of 'I find this idea slightly distasteful' feelings about some of the content of the "cd tv and fetish" ads section, or indeed the whole dogging section.
I have no idea what the right way to deal with camming is (3 cheers for the mods for taking on this tough decision!), but I do think that once it has found it's place, it will be easy to avoid for the nay-sayers.
I also wonder how much of the 'problem' with camming is due to the same surfiet of single males that every section here has? Do solutions to this need to be in place too before the problem will be fully resolved?
I'm going to hold my hand up and say I'm in favour of camming.
I think that most of the problems with camming getting in the way of chat, cluttering up the 'let's meet up' forum and so on are simply because there isn't a 'proper' place for it here.
While I sympathise to some extent with those who don't want this site to include camming, please remember that many of us have the same sort of 'I find this idea slightly distasteful' feelings about some of the content of the "cd tv and fetish" ads section, or indeed the whole dogging section.
I have no idea what the right way to deal with camming is (3 cheers for the mods for taking on this tough decision!), but I do think that once it has found it's place, it will be easy to avoid for the nay-sayers.
I also wonder how much of the 'problem' with camming is due to the same surfiet of single males that every section here has? Do solutions to this need to be in place too before the problem will be fully resolved?
Age discrimination seem to me to be a bit of shorthand for discriminating on the grounds of maturity (or immaturity). There is nothing wrong with wanting to play with people who's intellect appeals to you, and it's quite hard to make an accurate snap judgement about someone's maturity, so falling back on age limits seems inevitable?
This is another point in favour of munches as far as I can tell - you can meet people and discover the age they behave, and the age they look, rather than the rather blunt instrument of simply counting the rings!
This is another point in favour of munches as far as I can tell - you can meet people and discover the age they behave, and the age they look, rather than the rather blunt instrument of simply counting the rings!
Goldfish... the hamster will wake you up at night rattling it's bars and scuffling about like a burglar.
When the goldfish expires through lack of attention, replace it with a thin slice of carott in a bowl. If the kids notice it's not swimming, eat the carott. This guarantees they will never ask for a pet again!
When the goldfish expires through lack of attention, replace it with a thin slice of carott in a bowl. If the kids notice it's not swimming, eat the carott. This guarantees they will never ask for a pet again!
Nice to see interest in munches going up after the great success of the Notts event! I'm sure DeniseBabe will be around to update the list again soon.
As has been said in the past, if you have a very low post count, we'll get back to you nearer the time. Munches are for active members of the community, if you are still around and posting when we finalise things than that should be fine.
Following the success of the charity auction at the Notts munch, we will definitely be doing the same thing at this munch too, hopefully we can raise a similarly impressive sum of money for a good cause
As has been said in the past, if you have a very low post count, we'll get back to you nearer the time. Munches are for active members of the community, if you are still around and posting when we finalise things than that should be fine.
Following the success of the charity auction at the Notts munch, we will definitely be doing the same thing at this munch too, hopefully we can raise a similarly impressive sum of money for a good cause
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Maybe all munches could have some sort of auction, for a different registered charity each time? With the choice of charity being the decision of the munch organiser.
Yes, this should definitely be a regular fixture, we've already decided to do this at the Essex munch, hopefully we can make charity donations a regular part of munches.
...and if it's not that, please let us know a bit more about the problem. Telling us where the problame happens, and any error messages you are getting would be good place to start.
I'm sure we can talk you through this, but at the moment that's such a vague description of the problem that it could be any one of a million things!
I'm sure we can talk you through this, but at the moment that's such a vague description of the problem that it could be any one of a million things!
A few quotes from the Notts munch from forum or chatroom friends I'd not met in real life before:
"I thought you'd be shorter"
"I thought you'd be older" (I had this one twice... flattery will get you everywhere, ladies!!)
"I thought you were black"
Do I really come across as Sammy Davis Jnr. in my posts?
Did anyone else get shocks when they finally put names to faces? :shock:
Everyone was pretty much as I expected, with the exception of several ladies who I expected to be :lickface: but actually turned out to be
hwoar: :rascal: :phwoar: :smitten: :smitten: :lickface: and more!
"I thought you'd be shorter"
"I thought you'd be older" (I had this one twice... flattery will get you everywhere, ladies!!)
"I thought you were black"
Do I really come across as Sammy Davis Jnr. in my posts?
Did anyone else get shocks when they finally put names to faces? :shock:
Everyone was pretty much as I expected, with the exception of several ladies who I expected to be :lickface: but actually turned out to be
hwoar: :rascal: :phwoar: :smitten: :smitten: :lickface: and more! A huge thank you to Clare and Steve from me too. A great venue, good company, affordable drinks and a load of nutters in silly outfits, what more could we want?
Still reeling from the 3 hour drive home, but I'm awake enough to apologise to everyone I didn't get round to talking to... particularly Vix, Celtiq, everyone who's posted in this thread so far and a great many people who's name badges flashed past before I could read them... mind you, I was being distracted by a rather lovely lady the whole evening :D :D
Still reeling from the 3 hour drive home, but I'm awake enough to apologise to everyone I didn't get round to talking to... particularly Vix, Celtiq, everyone who's posted in this thread so far
and a great many people who's name badges flashed past before I could read them... mind you, I was being distracted by a rather lovely lady the whole evening :D :D 