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Sappho
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 60
Straight Male
0 miles · Wiltshire
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Sorry to pour cold water on this thread, but what gives certain members the right to call other people's tastes into question with generalistic and disparaging comments such as 'crap' and 'shite'?
This is addressed in particular to HornyLondon and SiGo. I've noticed that SiGo also did this with the British sitcom thread. So what if one person likes the Darkness or Coldplay and another doesn't? Does it really lower a person in your eyes if they prefer the Vicar of Dibley to Blackadder?
Come on, fellahs. Everyone has a right to personal opinion, but you have no right to disparage others' because they do not coincide with your own. By all means disagree as is your right, but do so constructively please.
Sappho
This is addressed in particular to HornyLondon and SiGo. I've noticed that SiGo also did this with the British sitcom thread. So what if one person likes the Darkness or Coldplay and another doesn't? Does it really lower a person in your eyes if they prefer the Vicar of Dibley to Blackadder?
Come on, fellahs. Everyone has a right to personal opinion, but you have no right to disparage others' because they do not coincide with your own. By all means disagree as is your right, but do so constructively please.
Sappho
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Will, I need a word. Kindly step into my office, would you? Have you had breakfast? Condemned men should always eat heartily you know...
Now I've been looking at dates for when BlueEyes can wear her hat...
Oh, bye then!
Sappho xxx
Sappho waves hankie as Will bombs it out of the BFZ as if amassed hordes of crazed and scorned women were chasing him to attach crocodile clips to his testicles.
Will, I need a word. Kindly step into my office, would you? Have you had breakfast? Condemned men should always eat heartily you know...
Now I've been looking at dates for when BlueEyes can wear her hat...
Oh, bye then!
Sappho xxx
Sappho waves hankie as Will bombs it out of the BFZ as if amassed hordes of crazed and scorned women were chasing him to attach crocodile clips to his testicles.
I suppose if I am absolutely honest I don't see myself as a non-smoker or former smoker just yet. The urge is still there, the desire to smoke, but the odd thing is that I don't want to because there are too many important people relying on me not to.
Today I sat in my favourite cafe with a hot chocolate. The waitress saw me reading Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking. "Oh, I read him four years ago," she said. "Haven't smoked since!"
Then it was the turn of the manageress who explained that she was a smoker who wanted to give up, again. It ended with a time-honoured confabulation of women giving mutual support; the former smoker, the novice ex-smoker and the would-be quitter. I didn't read much of my book, but I left feeling reassured and happier than I went in. That could have been the hot chocolate of course, but I don't think so.
There is one thing about Carr's book which has stuck in my mind. I won't quote the whole book, but this in particular is an important distinction in how you view stopping smoking.
Essentially he says, by using the phrase 'giving up', makes it sound as though you are making a sacrifice in stopping smoking. In fact, as he points out you are sacrificing nothing, but gaining in health, wealth, wellbeing and happiness. So, I'm no longer giving up, I'm now quitting.
Lots of love to my fellow quitters
Sappho xxx
Today I sat in my favourite cafe with a hot chocolate. The waitress saw me reading Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking. "Oh, I read him four years ago," she said. "Haven't smoked since!"
Then it was the turn of the manageress who explained that she was a smoker who wanted to give up, again. It ended with a time-honoured confabulation of women giving mutual support; the former smoker, the novice ex-smoker and the would-be quitter. I didn't read much of my book, but I left feeling reassured and happier than I went in. That could have been the hot chocolate of course, but I don't think so.
There is one thing about Carr's book which has stuck in my mind. I won't quote the whole book, but this in particular is an important distinction in how you view stopping smoking.
Essentially he says, by using the phrase 'giving up', makes it sound as though you are making a sacrifice in stopping smoking. In fact, as he points out you are sacrificing nothing, but gaining in health, wealth, wellbeing and happiness. So, I'm no longer giving up, I'm now quitting.
Lots of love to my fellow quitters
Sappho xxx
Gentlemen, gentlemen, this is all very sweet - I've never received so many proposals - and it's very flattering.
However, have you stopped to consider that i might actually accept one of these proposals? Spurious they might be, but they're in writing!
Perhaps I'm getting a little tired of the single life, perhaps it is time to settle down? Now which proposal will I accept?
Sappho xxx
However, have you stopped to consider that i might actually accept one of these proposals? Spurious they might be, but they're in writing!
Perhaps I'm getting a little tired of the single life, perhaps it is time to settle down? Now which proposal will I accept?
Sappho xxx
I think you've raised a valid point Andrew in the defence of single men, you are not all the same and you do contribute a role to swinging; but it should be said that when single men have been criticised it has been for often equally valid points such as lack of respect, rudeness, not taking 'no' for an answer, or seeing their gender as an immediate passport for sexual encounters.
It has been proven that there are several single (or single-acting) men on this site who have shown respect, wit, humour, kindness and decency in their posts, and have become valued members of the cafe. There are, however, a group of single men who have shown none of those characteristics - they are the ones who tend to get short shrift and mickey-taking.
Sappho xxx
It has been proven that there are several single (or single-acting) men on this site who have shown respect, wit, humour, kindness and decency in their posts, and have become valued members of the cafe. There are, however, a group of single men who have shown none of those characteristics - they are the ones who tend to get short shrift and mickey-taking.
Sappho xxx
Thanks for the reminder NiceGuy!
Okay, it's Day Eight, and so far I haven't grossly insulted anybody (to my knowledge), yelled a lot or commited GBH on anything more defenceless than a Somerfield Chocolate Brownie dessert. Will is still speaking to me, the forbearing soul.
The craving is there - catching me unawares at odd moments. Mornings are easier to contemplate without the ritual caffeine and nicotine breakfast, I'm sleeping better, and my health is still improving.
One confession... I tried to buy cigarettes on Saturday in Tesco's. My daughter reminded me, quite forcefully, that I didn't smoke anymore. So I didn't buy the cigarettes and I thanked my daughter. I think I just had a mind lapse, particularly as I had my infant Gorgon with me.
Everyone needs their own personal minder - anyone like to borrow mine for a while? Comes highly recommended, very vigilant, makes Ruby Wax sound like Mrs Tiggywinkle. Anyone? Please...?
Sappho xxx
Okay, it's Day Eight, and so far I haven't grossly insulted anybody (to my knowledge), yelled a lot or commited GBH on anything more defenceless than a Somerfield Chocolate Brownie dessert. Will is still speaking to me, the forbearing soul.
The craving is there - catching me unawares at odd moments. Mornings are easier to contemplate without the ritual caffeine and nicotine breakfast, I'm sleeping better, and my health is still improving.
One confession... I tried to buy cigarettes on Saturday in Tesco's. My daughter reminded me, quite forcefully, that I didn't smoke anymore. So I didn't buy the cigarettes and I thanked my daughter. I think I just had a mind lapse, particularly as I had my infant Gorgon with me.
Everyone needs their own personal minder - anyone like to borrow mine for a while? Comes highly recommended, very vigilant, makes Ruby Wax sound like Mrs Tiggywinkle. Anyone? Please...?
Sappho xxx
Gman wrote:
Yes Gman, I do pieced patchwork and crazy patchwork as well as freestyle embroidery, cross stitch, needlepoint and ribbon embroidery - however I tend to raid the local charity shops for fabrics rather than pay inflated prices for Rose & Hubble!
Sadly though I could never get the hang of knitting - to my chagrin!
Sappho xxx
Sappho... just a question re sewing etc....My partner is into buying expensive fabric , cutting it up and then sewing it back together.... American quilting.... does look gorgeous though.. do you do anything similar?
Yes Gman, I do pieced patchwork and crazy patchwork as well as freestyle embroidery, cross stitch, needlepoint and ribbon embroidery - however I tend to raid the local charity shops for fabrics rather than pay inflated prices for Rose & Hubble!
Sadly though I could never get the hang of knitting - to my chagrin!
Sappho xxx
Judy
I completely agree with your point of view and you have my sympathy. I experienced exactly the same thing a few months ago. I objected to references to drugs and the use of bad language and took the brunt of their animosity. It was extremely upsetting and very unpleasant.
I also agree that regular chatters should uphold the room rules when mods and sysops aren't in. The room moderators do a fantastic job, particularly over the last few days, but they are all volunteers and they do have lives and sleep patterns outside the chatroom. If the regular room users don't uphold the rules, or indeed enforce them, it will become a free-for-all for all the idiots in Christendom and, as FredFlintstone points out, the chatroom will be lost.
It's a question of choice, isn't it? Do chatroom users choose to use, abuse or lose?
Sappho xxx
I completely agree with your point of view and you have my sympathy. I experienced exactly the same thing a few months ago. I objected to references to drugs and the use of bad language and took the brunt of their animosity. It was extremely upsetting and very unpleasant.
I also agree that regular chatters should uphold the room rules when mods and sysops aren't in. The room moderators do a fantastic job, particularly over the last few days, but they are all volunteers and they do have lives and sleep patterns outside the chatroom. If the regular room users don't uphold the rules, or indeed enforce them, it will become a free-for-all for all the idiots in Christendom and, as FredFlintstone points out, the chatroom will be lost.
It's a question of choice, isn't it? Do chatroom users choose to use, abuse or lose?
Sappho xxx
Mr FC wrote:
Nope! I can also do tiling, use a mitre saw and change a plug. Not to mention basic decorating, making curtains, plain cooking and I'm a slut in the bedroom. Anything I can do for you?
Sappho xxx
AAhh!! women knowing about allen key's and screwdrivers sacre bluer, Is nothing sacred.
Nope! I can also do tiling, use a mitre saw and change a plug. Not to mention basic decorating, making curtains, plain cooking and I'm a slut in the bedroom. Anything I can do for you?
Sappho xxx
Perhaps the times aren't changing so rapidly - there is hope after all, just a little.
When I was a kid I used to spend hours going through my Granny's ragbag, cobbling fabric together. Now, although my own daughter is a highly sophisticated and mature rock chick, she does the same with my stuff and has spent the last couple of days customising T-shirts. I taught her to sew and embroider when she was six and she still enjoys it.
She can also erect flatpack furniture without help and knows the difference between an allen key and a screwdriver. Washing up? Now there's a mystery. We do have a dishwasher - it's called Mum.
Sappho xxx
When I was a kid I used to spend hours going through my Granny's ragbag, cobbling fabric together. Now, although my own daughter is a highly sophisticated and mature rock chick, she does the same with my stuff and has spent the last couple of days customising T-shirts. I taught her to sew and embroider when she was six and she still enjoys it.
She can also erect flatpack furniture without help and knows the difference between an allen key and a screwdriver. Washing up? Now there's a mystery. We do have a dishwasher - it's called Mum.
Sappho xxx
Quote by steveg_nw
I did however get an e-mail a couple of weeks ago that was a pic of an erection and went something like:
Hi, I'm XXXXX. If you're ever in London and want to get together...............
I still haven't worked out why he thought I'd want to.
Steve, perhaps he could a glimpse of your rather lovely nether regions? Perhaps your fame is spreading, my friend?
Sappho xxx
Hello N,
The plight of the single male has been discussed on the forum ad infinitum and the advice generally boils down to the following:
Become a player in the cafe, let people get to know you as you get to know them, and you gain a distinct advantage over those single males who post single-line ads in Let's Meet Up. Remain polite, respectful and humorous.
Meets are increasingly based on trust and prior aquaintance from a personal safety point of view, and of course as a result of the recent adverse publicity.
I hope you find what you are looking for here, but you are more likely to find long term friends than short term shags.
Sappho xxx
The plight of the single male has been discussed on the forum ad infinitum and the advice generally boils down to the following:
Become a player in the cafe, let people get to know you as you get to know them, and you gain a distinct advantage over those single males who post single-line ads in Let's Meet Up. Remain polite, respectful and humorous.
Meets are increasingly based on trust and prior aquaintance from a personal safety point of view, and of course as a result of the recent adverse publicity.
I hope you find what you are looking for here, but you are more likely to find long term friends than short term shags.
Sappho xxx
Hi Kriss,
Every sympathy! I thought my nick was obviously girly. I still get asked in the chatroom am I 'm or f'? I'm often tempted to reply with 's' for Sappho or 'h' for hermaphrodite... but I think that would cause confusion!
I do wonder if there is a site out there called 'Frontal Lobotomies R Us', and they send their members to us... ?
Sappho (a girly woman-type fem) xxx
Every sympathy! I thought my nick was obviously girly. I still get asked in the chatroom am I 'm or f'? I'm often tempted to reply with 's' for Sappho or 'h' for hermaphrodite... but I think that would cause confusion!
I do wonder if there is a site out there called 'Frontal Lobotomies R Us', and they send their members to us... ?
Sappho (a girly woman-type fem) xxx
1. My daughter's acerbic wit and her achievements
2. Feeling I've done something right for a change
3. The way my heart leaps when something wonderful happens
4. Waking up next to Will on a Sunday morning
5. Long luxuriant baths
6. A freshly changed bed
7. Finishing a project and being able to say, 'I made that'
8. Making someone laugh
9. Receiving a PM
9. Being liked
10. Being half of a couple
Sappho xxx
2. Feeling I've done something right for a change
3. The way my heart leaps when something wonderful happens
4. Waking up next to Will on a Sunday morning
5. Long luxuriant baths
6. A freshly changed bed
7. Finishing a project and being able to say, 'I made that'
8. Making someone laugh
9. Receiving a PM
9. Being liked
10. Being half of a couple
Sappho xxx
I used to have the nick Flora - a pretty girl's name not so far removed from my real one. However, too many smart comments regarding my spreadability put the mockers on that one. 
So where did Sappho come from? I wanted a nick that was descriptive of me and my interests. ShropshireBiBintinSpecs was accurate, but hardly complimentary... I considered Aphra (Aphra Behn) but 'Sappho' seemed more apt.
And in case you were wondering, Sappho was an Ancient Greek poetess who, legend has it, died for love. I don't intend dying for love, I shall just live for it.
Sappho xxx
So where did Sappho come from? I wanted a nick that was descriptive of me and my interests. ShropshireBiBintinSpecs was accurate, but hardly complimentary... I considered Aphra (Aphra Behn) but 'Sappho' seemed more apt.
And in case you were wondering, Sappho was an Ancient Greek poetess who, legend has it, died for love. I don't intend dying for love, I shall just live for it.
Sappho xxx
Hello Don - and welcome to SH!
Despite recent events which have provoked some reticence on the part of regulars here, you'll find us friendly and willing to accept a new and articulate member with open arms. I can only suggest that you allow us to get to know you as you get to know us, and you have certainly made a most excellent beginning in that direction.
Therefore, have fun in the forum!
Sappho xxx
Despite recent events which have provoked some reticence on the part of regulars here, you'll find us friendly and willing to accept a new and articulate member with open arms. I can only suggest that you allow us to get to know you as you get to know us, and you have certainly made a most excellent beginning in that direction.
Therefore, have fun in the forum!
Sappho xxx
Quote by KitKat
Think that must be 5 Jags, Djohn knows Kat and me and you and your mum and 'some one else'!
Kit
xxx
Hang on, DJohn knows Jags, Jags' Mum, Kit, Kat, me, Will and A.N. Other - that's... um... seven!
Goodness John, your circle of friends is just getting bigger all the time!
As for it being a small world, when I had an ad I was recognised, so I made him join the forum!
Sappho xxx
Hello Tom Magix and welcome to SH.
Forgive me for being so cynical - blame it on the times - but your post struck me as a particularly inept form of cub journalism...
Asking for acceptance, showing awareness, getting chummy - wham, in with the direct question.
SH has welcomed a lot of newbies over the past few months, but only in the last few days have we been asked direct questions like yours. Normally people are more concerned about their own place in the grand scheme, not the community's as a whole.
Naturally, if you are genuine, I apologise for doubting you and say have fun in the forum.
Sappho - still cynical xxx
Forgive me for being so cynical - blame it on the times - but your post struck me as a particularly inept form of cub journalism...
what advice can you lot give me? this sort of thing's got a bit of bad publicity recently, personally i don't know what the fuss is about. how do you lot feel about this?
Asking for acceptance, showing awareness, getting chummy - wham, in with the direct question.
SH has welcomed a lot of newbies over the past few months, but only in the last few days have we been asked direct questions like yours. Normally people are more concerned about their own place in the grand scheme, not the community's as a whole.
Naturally, if you are genuine, I apologise for doubting you and say have fun in the forum.
Sappho - still cynical xxx
As the lovely BlueEyes has pointed out we have had 97 new members enrolling - probably more at the point of this post.
Not everybody has posted a hello in the Cafe, but I have noticed a thread running through three examples of new member.
Can anyone spot the differences? They are few and far between - the similarities are much stronger. Naturally this must be coincidental.
So is the new in-thing for the early twenty-somethings, experimental sex on the swinging scene? How experimental would they like to get? Have they got a clue what they are talking about?
Love Sappho the Cynic xxx
Not everybody has posted a hello in the Cafe, but I have noticed a thread running through three examples of new member.
Quote by darksoldjah
25/m close to sutton, surrey, hello all :twisted:
Not a bad looking bloke I guess, very experimental and not to bad with experience although never really tried this... so here is hoping to new experience learnt...
where's everyone at then?
Quote by kush
Hiya
my name is kushan.. and i have just discovered this website and am sort of new on this scene.. im of an experimental nature( not sure if the vocab was correct)...
im 21 male and live in london
Quote by The Bouncer
Hi
Im new here, south east london DJ,
who is very expermentive & very interested in the swinging & doggin world
Can anyone spot the differences? They are few and far between - the similarities are much stronger. Naturally this must be coincidental.
So is the new in-thing for the early twenty-somethings, experimental sex on the swinging scene? How experimental would they like to get? Have they got a clue what they are talking about?
Love Sappho the Cynic xxx
Day Three - don't worry, I won't keep up this diary for long!
This morning was the worst, the one where I really wanted to smoke. Every sympathy Byron - I'm with you there! I prowled around the house trying to find things to do until I decided to take myself off in to Shrewsbury for staples. My staplegun is empty and I need it for putting up silver stars for a school function at the end of the week.
Okay, I got my staples... three hours after arriving in Shrewsbury! Inexplicably I also acquired a CD, a skirt, a blouse, a velvet top, a bra and thong set in pale pink satin, a very rude T-shirt (to be unveiled at the Midlands Munch), shoes to match the skirt and blouse, handbag to match the shoes, a christening gift - oh and Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking.
I dragged my purchases back to the car and called Will. "Don't ever let me go shopping unsupervised again!" However, I was on a serious high! I know I won't be when I get the bank statement!
Pretty twitchy this evening, but I've perused the forum as usual. A friend called who was once a 40 a day Marlboro smoker. He hasn't smoked in eight years. Lots of advice about taking Vitamin supplements - ascorbic acid, Vit B12 and MultiVitamins. Another trip to Boots in the offing.
I hope I sleep better tonight - last night I was constantly woken up by that dry cough associated with recovery from smoking. My friend says give it three weeks to start feeling better and to lose the cough. I am going to be such a bitch at the end of that three weeks thanks to nicotine withdrawal and disturbed sleep! Apologies in advance! (I think Merdith Brooks' 'Bitch' will become my theme.)
Love to Kit (how was the first day?), Kat (are you getting a very dry mouth too?), BlueEyes, Byron and Bassdude - and anyone else going through this. It isn't fun but it has to be worth it doesn't it?
Sappho xxx
This morning was the worst, the one where I really wanted to smoke. Every sympathy Byron - I'm with you there! I prowled around the house trying to find things to do until I decided to take myself off in to Shrewsbury for staples. My staplegun is empty and I need it for putting up silver stars for a school function at the end of the week.
Okay, I got my staples... three hours after arriving in Shrewsbury! Inexplicably I also acquired a CD, a skirt, a blouse, a velvet top, a bra and thong set in pale pink satin, a very rude T-shirt (to be unveiled at the Midlands Munch), shoes to match the skirt and blouse, handbag to match the shoes, a christening gift - oh and Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking.
I dragged my purchases back to the car and called Will. "Don't ever let me go shopping unsupervised again!" However, I was on a serious high! I know I won't be when I get the bank statement!
Pretty twitchy this evening, but I've perused the forum as usual. A friend called who was once a 40 a day Marlboro smoker. He hasn't smoked in eight years. Lots of advice about taking Vitamin supplements - ascorbic acid, Vit B12 and MultiVitamins. Another trip to Boots in the offing.
I hope I sleep better tonight - last night I was constantly woken up by that dry cough associated with recovery from smoking. My friend says give it three weeks to start feeling better and to lose the cough. I am going to be such a bitch at the end of that three weeks thanks to nicotine withdrawal and disturbed sleep! Apologies in advance! (I think Merdith Brooks' 'Bitch' will become my theme.)
Love to Kit (how was the first day?), Kat (are you getting a very dry mouth too?), BlueEyes, Byron and Bassdude - and anyone else going through this. It isn't fun but it has to be worth it doesn't it?
Sappho xxx
