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SpiritedAway
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 61
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Just as a brief unhijack, I think one of the nice things about the regular forum community is how (in general) respectful everyone is of each other.
OK, it goes a little awry at times, but I wonder if any of the journalists who obviously do their 'research' here have noticed this.
I think that SH is an Adult site in more ways than just the obvious one and I hope that this starts to be reflected in any media reporting of an alternative lifestyle.
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OK, it goes a little awry at times, but I wonder if any of the journalists who obviously do their 'research' here have noticed this.
I think that SH is an Adult site in more ways than just the obvious one and I hope that this starts to be reflected in any media reporting of an alternative lifestyle.
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Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
Spirited - The Dark Side of the Moon avater lady - she is especially good.
Chirstmas?
Bittersweet but magical it.
She is, I'm going to stick with her for a few days I think
She's confusing the hell out of some of the newbie guys, I've got one nice PM today
It might be a bit of a shock when he finds out I've slightly different parts to the ones he's expecting :wink: SA
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For me it was in the communal showers in a field study centre in The Lake District while I was still at school.
The rules were that the girls went in first at a set time and later on, when the girls had vacated the place, the boys went in.
A lovely girl and I sneaked in later together, it was my first time in a shower and absolutely wonderful - only trouble was we got caught by the headmistress.
The fuss was tremendous and were we were in big trouble, but its a great memory :twisted:
I hope she feels the same - haven't had any contact with her for nearly 20 years.
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The rules were that the girls went in first at a set time and later on, when the girls had vacated the place, the boys went in.
A lovely girl and I sneaked in later together, it was my first time in a shower and absolutely wonderful - only trouble was we got caught by the headmistress.
The fuss was tremendous and were we were in big trouble, but its a great memory :twisted:
I hope she feels the same - haven't had any contact with her for nearly 20 years.
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The question that comes to my mind is do the journalists actually believe what they write?
The Worksop Journo wrote "the unsavoury leisure activity" but in all my dealings with the press on emotive subjects there's always an agreed 'angle' for the story.
The purpose of newspapers is to sell as many copies as possible, and like most news media, to attract readership and audience its much easier to sensationalise and condemn something than try to understand it and present a more liberal viewpoint.
To be fair, both news articles had interiews with people who are fairly tolerant, and the police spokesman in Stockport is quoted as saying "we have received no complaints from the public", which is not given as much enmphasis as it deserves, but at least it there.
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The Worksop Journo wrote "the unsavoury leisure activity" but in all my dealings with the press on emotive subjects there's always an agreed 'angle' for the story.
The purpose of newspapers is to sell as many copies as possible, and like most news media, to attract readership and audience its much easier to sensationalise and condemn something than try to understand it and present a more liberal viewpoint.
To be fair, both news articles had interiews with people who are fairly tolerant, and the police spokesman in Stockport is quoted as saying "we have received no complaints from the public", which is not given as much enmphasis as it deserves, but at least it there.
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I wondered how a car can 'look suspicious'
Maybe the headlights are too close together, or it makes strange, furtive engine noises
I liked this phrase "gawping onlookers" - a bit og an unusual spelling for "wanking"
:lol:
But what great idea the reporter has, averyone can pose as journos to go out dogging and let the police know so that they won't be arrested :wink:
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All the ladies I've ever known have also been real women and all the real women have been ladies as well.
Oh yeah, and I've loved them all for it too!!!
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Creep.
:shock: I hope you don't really think that Vix, cos its true. All women have both these different characteristics in varying degrees, with some one side or the other is more dominant, I think.
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I'm really going to show my age here 
My first car was a '69 (appropriate year) Hillman Imp. Bought when I was 19 and at college.
It was great except for a leaky radiator, which was easily repaired with some sealant that I put in the cooling system.
The only trouble was that I left the heater on and the sealant blocked the vanes up too - it was the coldest car in world after that :cry: Still did another 40,000 miles though being used by various members of my family
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PS got a '77 TR7 after that, but really found my car niche when I got my first XJS
My first car was a '69 (appropriate year) Hillman Imp. Bought when I was 19 and at college.
It was great except for a leaky radiator, which was easily repaired with some sealant that I put in the cooling system.
The only trouble was that I left the heater on and the sealant blocked the vanes up too - it was the coldest car in world after that :cry: Still did another 40,000 miles though being used by various members of my family
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PS got a '77 TR7 after that, but really found my car niche when I got my first XJS
Yep, all those guys should have something on their helmets
Seriously though, I cam off my bike a couple of weeks ago (for the first time in my motorcycling career) and it was the weirdest thing, as I slid along the ground all that went through was 'I hope I don't damage anything vital, like my neck'.
I had that luxury cos I had armoured leathers on, kevlar and neoprene are wonderful things
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Seriously though, I cam off my bike a couple of weeks ago (for the first time in my motorcycling career) and it was the weirdest thing, as I slid along the ground all that went through was 'I hope I don't damage anything vital, like my neck'.
I had that luxury cos I had armoured leathers on, kevlar and neoprene are wonderful things
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I agree that you need to be able to talk about this with your new guy, ultimately, if you stick with him and attempt to give up your lifestyle it will become a bigger and bigger problem for you - and even if resentment doesn't build, disappointment and regret will. Been there, done that - it ain't great.
However, I'd like to propose a slightly different approach, one that is slightly gentler and hopefully less risky in terms of hurting each other.
Sitting him down and talking it through all in one will be a lot for him to take in one go. It will leave both of you with little room for manoeuvre, negotiation or compromise. It might take a bit of time for him to get used to the idea, but he may react very badly and feel hurt and rejected.
If you introduce a bit of kink a little at a time he'll probably be an eager participant, you can build up to the full admission. I think that you'll find out very quickly whether he is open minded about such things in your relationship by doing it this way.
The swinging part is likely to be the most threatening to him so he needs to feel secure with you, and if you've built up the kink well so that he also becomes addicted to it you'll probably find you don't have too much of a problem with the final step.
Think of it like climbing the stairs, its easy one step at time, very difficult scaling a sheer cliff.
Thats how I would do it, but it may not be right for either you as an individual or as a couple.
Good luck and keep the faith.
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However, I'd like to propose a slightly different approach, one that is slightly gentler and hopefully less risky in terms of hurting each other.
Sitting him down and talking it through all in one will be a lot for him to take in one go. It will leave both of you with little room for manoeuvre, negotiation or compromise. It might take a bit of time for him to get used to the idea, but he may react very badly and feel hurt and rejected.
If you introduce a bit of kink a little at a time he'll probably be an eager participant, you can build up to the full admission. I think that you'll find out very quickly whether he is open minded about such things in your relationship by doing it this way.
The swinging part is likely to be the most threatening to him so he needs to feel secure with you, and if you've built up the kink well so that he also becomes addicted to it you'll probably find you don't have too much of a problem with the final step.
Think of it like climbing the stairs, its easy one step at time, very difficult scaling a sheer cliff.
Thats how I would do it, but it may not be right for either you as an individual or as a couple.
Good luck and keep the faith.
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Its not illegal to pay groups of women (or men) to have sex and film them doing it.
Essentially they're still being paid for having sex so I don't see the distinction.
But apart from that, all 'mainstream' employment is the state being paid for the use of one's body, be it to manual work or more cerebral things. Working in any industry is the selling of something you've got to someone who wants to buy.
The ridiculous situation at the moment is that ALL employees are protected by law. While prostitution, brothels etc remain outside the law then all those working within that part of the sex trade will not have any protection from unscrupulous employers - its about time there was a pragmatic recognition of the way things ARE and not the way society (based on outdated religious and political values) thinks they should be.
Until this happens the women working as prostitutes will continue to be vulnerable and unprotected (as well as untaxed and unpensionable).
OK rant over
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Essentially they're still being paid for having sex so I don't see the distinction.
But apart from that, all 'mainstream' employment is the state being paid for the use of one's body, be it to manual work or more cerebral things. Working in any industry is the selling of something you've got to someone who wants to buy.
The ridiculous situation at the moment is that ALL employees are protected by law. While prostitution, brothels etc remain outside the law then all those working within that part of the sex trade will not have any protection from unscrupulous employers - its about time there was a pragmatic recognition of the way things ARE and not the way society (based on outdated religious and political values) thinks they should be.
Until this happens the women working as prostitutes will continue to be vulnerable and unprotected (as well as untaxed and unpensionable).
OK rant over
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