This is a thread that loosely relates to Lost's thread on "enjoying seeing your wife get shagged" ...........
Here goes...........
myself and miss srne are just venturing into the world of having another male join us for the sole purpose of miss srne's sexual gratification, and my own desire to watch this unfold, and as such have started the ball rolling by sending out a few mails to various men advertised as single.
We have been going through a difficult time with the swinging thing lately, we have met some great couples and had some great meet up's but as miss srne has led a somewhat sheltered life, she finds it hard to fully "let go sexually" and enjoy the experience as much as she could.
We have discussed options to try to get round this as she freely admits she loves the meet ups but feels that she "holds back" and feels a little nervous to orchestrate the ideas in her head into actuality whilst on the meet up.
In the past I used to see her "holding back" as we have come to call it, and took this as her not enjoying swinging, thus we kind of lost track a little of meeting up with people and using the site due to not communicating about what was really going on.
Since then we have come to the conclusion, after much deliberation that it is probably better and will serve a purpose for us to have a sub/dom relationship where swinging is concerned.
Now before you all start with sexist pig comments, this is because miss srne has pre-learned social issues about sex and sexual behaviour due to a strict upbringing that she finds difficult/nigh on impossible to shake fully.
The way we discussed getting round this was by me taking on the dominant "master" role and her adopting the sub "slave" role.
We have found this works when the two of us are playing because miss srne now feels like she is doing something for me that i enjoy and she feels naughty and sexy by doing this without having to do it herself as this has always been a psychological block for her. When meeting other people she feels that if im in control she can just do as I ask and enjoy the experience without this pressure to have to take any sort of lead.
Miss srne has said "it's not that I don't want to do things, it's that i feel that I cant because I feel like people might judge me because of them". This has never been the case for me as i was brought up quite liberally and told that I must do what makes me happy regardless of social stigma or peer pressure.
Does this make sense at all to anyone or have any other couples met with this type of problem? As we would really like other peoples opinions on this, your a great bunch of people on here so your opinions count, we would appreciate any advice, comments etc!!
Although I have never spoken to Mr and Mrs Keykey, I would like to add to what others have said and hope that mrs keykey can be strong and get over her loss in time through the help ans support of her family and friends. I hope she can celebrate his life through happy memories they have shared, rather than mourn his loss.
My sympathies are with you mrs keykey during this difficult time.
Put us down as definates please unless something really bad happens lol!!xx
I would become a forestry ranger or zoologist what an awesome job that would be for me!!
I now have job i love but if retraining and expense/time were no option those would be the two top candidates!!
Hi,
we are looking for GENUINE (early confirmation sought via phone) preferably bi but also gay females who are into roleplay and particularly S&M and bondage type play.
We are looking for feminine temptress types who like to be in control and have a kinky imagination to help us break into the S&M scene, we are virgins so go lightly(ish) lol!!
Anyone who is into this type of scene any information would be greatly appreciated!!xx
For us we prefer to have one off meets usually. the reason is because we like the eroticness of it all the excitement that comes with meeting new people.
We have met a couple of couples more than once and that was due to getting along on a personal level!!
Over familiarity though could possibly lead to all sorts of problems!!
I have a little knowledge of this as harassment is one of the issues I deal with in my line of work.
Like others have said, harassment is a personal feeling, when you feel you have been singled out for "special treatment" or feel that an individual or group is making the course of your daily life (whether that be in work or your day to day routine) difficult.
Again as others have mentioned, harassment takes many forms and each form has it's own sub-text in law for the classification of it. Sexual harassment is obviously different from racial harassment etc,etc but the underlying effect remains the same, a feeling of your emotional health being deteriorated by another person/s actions!
I work with people who have suffered all kinds of harassment from physical abuse to psychological tactics to make them feel inadequate, and might hopefully be able to advise you on your situation and/or course of action.
Feel free to PM me and we will try to come to some sort of resolution to better your situation.
If not, good luck with it and don't suffer in silence!!
The best way to go about it properly and to maintain the correct motivation is to get a personal trainer at your local gym.
You don't need to pay for one every time, but maybe once a week out of a 3 day a week training schedule. I do personal training and the people I train have all said that they would not have as much motivation where it not for me "encouraging them" to work a little harder, go a little faster and try a little more. Personal Trainers also devise healthy eating plans and minor lifestyle changes that can really make a difference in the bigger picture. A personal trainer will usually cost between £15 and £20 an hour and once a week that is not too bad considering the benefits you will get compared to training or "going it alone", I'm sure your local gym will be able to help!!
Good Luck!!
Life isn't all about the house you live in and the car you drive etc,etc.
If these things are supposed to make you have a "better life" but the price of having the bigger house and better car are too high, then are you REALLY having the "better life", struggling to pay for them and working every hour possible to maintain them?
A while back I had a really good job and was getting paid a lot of money, but I hated the job and got no satisfaction. I left and now I have a job that pays less than half of the last one and we have had to make some lifestyle changes in the form of the cars we drive etc but my quality of life and enjoyment of it has quadrupled!!
I'm mot sure about a real recession in the very worst sense Jaymar, but I think there may be tough times ahead for the people who are already struggling a little to maintain the lifestyle that they now have. I think some folk will have to make sacrifices to pay the bills, and that shiny new car on the drive they have on HP might turn into a not so shiny and new one etc.
Some people will inevitably always be looking longingly forward to the day that they can re-afford that shiny new motor car and fall back into the consumerism trap, whilst others will come to realise that they never needed it and are better off without it!!
Anyway enough rambling, I'm off to pay for a litre of petrol :shock:
