... I've chatted in the chatroom to some folk who immediately get put off because I say "I'm not looking". What's that all about? surely it's better to be up front and say so than to lead people up the garden path.
So I have an interest in the subject... doesn't mean I have to dip my toe (or other) in, just to be accepted. There's a distinct tendency to think swingers are 'shag mad' and will go with anything and everything... major mistake to make.
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TheAnalogKid
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 120
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The alternative interpretation of results (tongue in cheek)
0-10 posts
"I'm still perfectly sane"
10-20 posts
"OK, so Im sane, but like strangers"
20-30 posts
"and the strangers seem to like me"
30-40 posts
"I feel warm when people reply"
40-50 posts
"I can quit this thing anytime I like"
50-100 posts
"I have quit this thing many times before you know"
100-200 posts
"Ok, so I still havent met anyone yet... I'm very choosy"
200-300 posts
"The trouble is... so are they"
300-400 posts
"You b'stards have to look past my unnattractive features"
400-500 posts
"I only came here for fun anyway, I never actually wanted to meet any of you"
500-1000 posts
"If I can't win a woman, I'll win the posting league"
1000+ posts
"Look.... it takes my mind off wanking ok?"
0-10 posts
"I'm still perfectly sane"
10-20 posts
"OK, so Im sane, but like strangers"
20-30 posts
"and the strangers seem to like me"
30-40 posts
"I feel warm when people reply"
40-50 posts
"I can quit this thing anytime I like"
50-100 posts
"I have quit this thing many times before you know"
100-200 posts
"Ok, so I still havent met anyone yet... I'm very choosy"
200-300 posts
"The trouble is... so are they"
300-400 posts
"You b'stards have to look past my unnattractive features"
400-500 posts
"I only came here for fun anyway, I never actually wanted to meet any of you"
500-1000 posts
"If I can't win a woman, I'll win the posting league"
1000+ posts
"Look.... it takes my mind off wanking ok?"
.... just be yourself mate... and try to explain what you're looking for without it coming across as 'desperate'. If you've got a little patience and half decent manners you'll be fine... people will chat and who knows, things just happen!
What rarely happens though - is when guys start pestering or think they are God's gift and assume swinger = easy lay.
Welcome to the madhouse anyway... and good luck
What rarely happens though - is when guys start pestering or think they are God's gift and assume swinger = easy lay.
Welcome to the madhouse anyway... and good luck
.. thank God depth of imagination goes further then length of cock....
and before you boys all get over excited, you're supposed to measure from tip to base that's nearest your belly button... NOT the underside, where pushing your balls down and a bit of optimism give you an extra inch and a half!!!
anyway, the vagina's nerves are concentrated within the first inch, hence a predominance in those favouring girth over length.
<-- still eating horsemeat hoping to end up hung like a horse.... but all I've got so far is buck teeth and taken to liking 4 lumps of sugar on my coffee.
and before you boys all get over excited, you're supposed to measure from tip to base that's nearest your belly button... NOT the underside, where pushing your balls down and a bit of optimism give you an extra inch and a half!!!
anyway, the vagina's nerves are concentrated within the first inch, hence a predominance in those favouring girth over length.
<-- still eating horsemeat hoping to end up hung like a horse.... but all I've got so far is buck teeth and taken to liking 4 lumps of sugar on my coffee.
Had you been a little closer, I'd have loved to have taken some fine art shots of you both... prefer photography to video though.
Don't worry... I'm a serious photographer, not into the 'oh let me take them let me take them crap" lol.
Have you considered erm.. hiring someone. Or, you could do a thing called Time for Prints (basically, you let a photographer take the pics for their portfolio, but they don't charge).
Good luck! If ever you're in the North... then a photo session might be feasible.
Don't worry... I'm a serious photographer, not into the 'oh let me take them let me take them crap" lol.
Have you considered erm.. hiring someone. Or, you could do a thing called Time for Prints (basically, you let a photographer take the pics for their portfolio, but they don't charge).
Good luck! If ever you're in the North... then a photo session might be feasible.
don't confuse Dominance and submission with BDSM, they aren't the same thing.
Heather's right that there's a seriously large number of people playing games online without a clue about what they are doing. Depending on the level of 'play' you want to get into, I'd recommend attending a club. Talk to people there, there's a better cross section of folk Dom/me and sub alike.
Domme is the term for female Dominants.
A bit of bossing around and friendly play is great... have you considered finding a regular play partner where you could all get into role play (scening) together... rather than seeking out a ready made Domme? I'm sure it would be just as much fun finding a regular partner who would like to experiment in this area too. (Although you should seek proper advice on bondage play if you're going to attempt anything serious!)
Heather's right that there's a seriously large number of people playing games online without a clue about what they are doing. Depending on the level of 'play' you want to get into, I'd recommend attending a club. Talk to people there, there's a better cross section of folk Dom/me and sub alike.
Domme is the term for female Dominants.
A bit of bossing around and friendly play is great... have you considered finding a regular play partner where you could all get into role play (scening) together... rather than seeking out a ready made Domme? I'm sure it would be just as much fun finding a regular partner who would like to experiment in this area too. (Although you should seek proper advice on bondage play if you're going to attempt anything serious!)
.. depends on how interested in the D/s lifestyle you are...
a bit of role play, or something more serious?
There are some quite serious BDSM clubs around, although D/s isn't really about BDSM they are often interrelated.
Is it just a casual basis you're lucking at... lighthearted adult fun?
a bit of role play, or something more serious?
There are some quite serious BDSM clubs around, although D/s isn't really about BDSM they are often interrelated.
Is it just a casual basis you're lucking at... lighthearted adult fun?
I agree with the comment that if you feel you've been fucked, then you have.
Since most of us reckon that arousal mostly occurs in the mind... then 'fucked' is what you feel mentally as well as physically. Who cares where, or with what ;-)
/Kid
p.s. Remember it's erotic to use a feather. It's downright kinky to use the whole chicken
Since most of us reckon that arousal mostly occurs in the mind... then 'fucked' is what you feel mentally as well as physically. Who cares where, or with what ;-)
/Kid
p.s. Remember it's erotic to use a feather. It's downright kinky to use the whole chicken
Hardware firewalls are even dumber (arguably).
Erm, the Linux statement... not at all I hold by it entirely.
You cannot make a claim that 'Linux is inherently more secure'. It's not. You cannot readily compare both operating systems as if one were more secure than the other. It's misleading in a big way.
The arguments for Linux being more stable and less prone to security holes is the very same argument used against it... open source for example, for = gets peer review on a grand scale, against = even easier to discover exploits. Security is far more complex than the O/S itself, and both Linux and Windows do rather well. However, they both suffer from different problems, and can't be compared. There's nothing 'inherently' more secure about one than the other... I'd be delighted if you can demonstrate to me an area where this is the case.
The linux lion worm managed to exploit linux as readily as did msblaster on windows.
Erm, the Linux statement... not at all I hold by it entirely.
You cannot make a claim that 'Linux is inherently more secure'. It's not. You cannot readily compare both operating systems as if one were more secure than the other. It's misleading in a big way.
The arguments for Linux being more stable and less prone to security holes is the very same argument used against it... open source for example, for = gets peer review on a grand scale, against = even easier to discover exploits. Security is far more complex than the O/S itself, and both Linux and Windows do rather well. However, they both suffer from different problems, and can't be compared. There's nothing 'inherently' more secure about one than the other... I'd be delighted if you can demonstrate to me an area where this is the case.
The linux lion worm managed to exploit linux as readily as did msblaster on windows.
All worms have to execute on the host machine...
The trick is getting it to execute on your machine...
Traditionally, people would would either send you a trojan (any program that pretended to be something it wasn't). The user would run it, and it would appear to do what it was supposed to... except unbeknown to the user, it would also install something nasty (e.g. a worm, or a spying application).
Once people got used to email problems, a few folk discovered that un some circumstances, you could make a webbrowser crash with malformed scripts, damaged web link addresses, or in some cases even malformed html. When this was discovered, people then found out that the way in which the browser crashed caused the browser to start executing code.
This made hackers produce specificially formatted webpages that would crash explorer, and then execute code of their choice... commonly termed 'buffer overrun' errors.
Buffer overrun errors where then carefully sought out in lots of places... especially a nice little feature that Windows offers called 'RPC' Remote Procedure Call. This feature allows computers to share computation by giving one pc some code to execute, that can call up another PC and then ask it do some computation too... basically talking to each other to get the task done. Sadly, this suffered from buffer overrun problems too. This is the exploit that msblaster uses.
msblaster works like this...
it will operate on either a random subnet, or the users subnet.
It will scan tcp port 135 on 20 blocks at a time (incrementally)
If any response is returned from a scan, it will issue an RPC request that will cause a buffer overrun on the destination pc. This will result in an administrative shell being opened on port 4444 talking to the target pc.
The target pc will issue a tftp -1 GET which will basically download the msblast worm from the host pc to the target pc.
Next the START command is issued on the target pc.. and the
infection is complete.
The process is repeated over and over for every infected pc.
The user need only be on the net running a pc that supports RPC (for Windows).
Firewalls are ONLY an aid to security, they are not a guarantee. Many firewalls can be bypassed with incredible ease... firewalls such as Norton, BlackIce, Outpost, Zonealarm etc will be oblivious to http tunneling on port 80 from any trojan in the internet explorer process space.
Fortunately, worms are harder to get through firewalls than trojans are... since worms need to replicate and need to exploit other pc's vulnerabilities on many ports. A trojan (of the spying variety) typically only ever needs to transmit to one location, with a dedicated listener at the other end. Where http tunneling might be expected.
So... keep your firewalls... they don't do any harm. Don't place blind faith in them. You'll be sorely disappointed.
The trick is getting it to execute on your machine...
Traditionally, people would would either send you a trojan (any program that pretended to be something it wasn't). The user would run it, and it would appear to do what it was supposed to... except unbeknown to the user, it would also install something nasty (e.g. a worm, or a spying application).
Once people got used to email problems, a few folk discovered that un some circumstances, you could make a webbrowser crash with malformed scripts, damaged web link addresses, or in some cases even malformed html. When this was discovered, people then found out that the way in which the browser crashed caused the browser to start executing code.
This made hackers produce specificially formatted webpages that would crash explorer, and then execute code of their choice... commonly termed 'buffer overrun' errors.
Buffer overrun errors where then carefully sought out in lots of places... especially a nice little feature that Windows offers called 'RPC' Remote Procedure Call. This feature allows computers to share computation by giving one pc some code to execute, that can call up another PC and then ask it do some computation too... basically talking to each other to get the task done. Sadly, this suffered from buffer overrun problems too. This is the exploit that msblaster uses.
msblaster works like this...
it will operate on either a random subnet, or the users subnet.
It will scan tcp port 135 on 20 blocks at a time (incrementally)
If any response is returned from a scan, it will issue an RPC request that will cause a buffer overrun on the destination pc. This will result in an administrative shell being opened on port 4444 talking to the target pc.
The target pc will issue a tftp -1 GET which will basically download the msblast worm from the host pc to the target pc.
Next the START command is issued on the target pc.. and the
infection is complete.
The process is repeated over and over for every infected pc.
The user need only be on the net running a pc that supports RPC (for Windows).
Firewalls are ONLY an aid to security, they are not a guarantee. Many firewalls can be bypassed with incredible ease... firewalls such as Norton, BlackIce, Outpost, Zonealarm etc will be oblivious to http tunneling on port 80 from any trojan in the internet explorer process space.
Fortunately, worms are harder to get through firewalls than trojans are... since worms need to replicate and need to exploit other pc's vulnerabilities on many ports. A trojan (of the spying variety) typically only ever needs to transmit to one location, with a dedicated listener at the other end. Where http tunneling might be expected.
So... keep your firewalls... they don't do any harm. Don't place blind faith in them. You'll be sorely disappointed.
a) Linux is not inherently more secure than other operating systems.
The only security benefit that linux offers is it's relative lack of numbers, and therefore not as often exploited.
b) Many trojans arrive from 'friends', that's the typical purpose of a trojan. People want to spy on folk they know... not strangers. So beware folks of nice people sending you 'a cool utility to make you safer'.
c) Not all trojans / Virii arrive via Email, or file transfers. A large number of exploits have demonstrated buffer overrun errors in Web pages and RPC calls that execute code. Basically, this means that surfing some sites can be risk enough, as can merely being online. Depending on which operating system you're using the exploits vary, but the recent msblaster and derivatives can have devastating consequences on network performance.
Regarding the number of hits a firewall detects... there are a number of reasons why people get hit...
a) Firewall's are actually quite dumb.... not at all as intelligent as you're led to believe. Most cannot tell the deifference between legitimate use of your computer and misuse. So they expect YOU to tell them what's ok and what isn't.
A lot of hits on your pc are caused by 'Netbios'... basically, that's your pc booting up on trying to find other pc's on it's netwrok neighbourhood. There are thousands of computers booting up and using the same ISP as you. As a result, many of them are configured to use 'netbios' to try to search out other computers on the same network. Unfortunately, when someone's knocking on the metaphoric door of your computer, it's not possible to tell if it's a friendly face, a wrong house number, or a burglar!!
b) Recent worms cuch as msblaster / naachi do the same thing... they scan a range of network addresses in an attempt to sniff out ofhter computers that are prone to attack. Even if you're pc is nice and safe and clean, everybody elses PC might not be. Therefore, you're still prone to attack from all the other nutters (most of whom are blissfully unaware their PC's are doing this).
c) You have some seriously dodgy chat friends with a grudge or a morbid curiosity ;-)
The only security benefit that linux offers is it's relative lack of numbers, and therefore not as often exploited.
b) Many trojans arrive from 'friends', that's the typical purpose of a trojan. People want to spy on folk they know... not strangers. So beware folks of nice people sending you 'a cool utility to make you safer'.
c) Not all trojans / Virii arrive via Email, or file transfers. A large number of exploits have demonstrated buffer overrun errors in Web pages and RPC calls that execute code. Basically, this means that surfing some sites can be risk enough, as can merely being online. Depending on which operating system you're using the exploits vary, but the recent msblaster and derivatives can have devastating consequences on network performance.
Regarding the number of hits a firewall detects... there are a number of reasons why people get hit...
a) Firewall's are actually quite dumb.... not at all as intelligent as you're led to believe. Most cannot tell the deifference between legitimate use of your computer and misuse. So they expect YOU to tell them what's ok and what isn't.
A lot of hits on your pc are caused by 'Netbios'... basically, that's your pc booting up on trying to find other pc's on it's netwrok neighbourhood. There are thousands of computers booting up and using the same ISP as you. As a result, many of them are configured to use 'netbios' to try to search out other computers on the same network. Unfortunately, when someone's knocking on the metaphoric door of your computer, it's not possible to tell if it's a friendly face, a wrong house number, or a burglar!!
b) Recent worms cuch as msblaster / naachi do the same thing... they scan a range of network addresses in an attempt to sniff out ofhter computers that are prone to attack. Even if you're pc is nice and safe and clean, everybody elses PC might not be. Therefore, you're still prone to attack from all the other nutters (most of whom are blissfully unaware their PC's are doing this).
c) You have some seriously dodgy chat friends with a grudge or a morbid curiosity ;-)
I can buy into the 'stranger' element... but then for that I think a club is an easier way to enjoy that aspect. (and safer).
Communication media like this tends to promote 'getting to know'. It's different for men than women to be fair.. women can say "meet me now" and the chances are, some guy will do so. It's less likely the other way around.
Nothing wrong with picking a guy up from the net... it's just (arguably) a little less reliable and more dangerous if it's a quick turn around time from "Hello" to "fuck me now". For me, a club is the optimal place for that type of sex.
Communication media like this tends to promote 'getting to know'. It's different for men than women to be fair.. women can say "meet me now" and the chances are, some guy will do so. It's less likely the other way around.
Nothing wrong with picking a guy up from the net... it's just (arguably) a little less reliable and more dangerous if it's a quick turn around time from "Hello" to "fuck me now". For me, a club is the optimal place for that type of sex.
.. that the type of people who find you appealing think on a level other than purely sexual.
The irony is, often that's the most sexy aspect of all. There's nothing finer than not being someone's 'fuck', but being you, and liked for it.
Call me old fashioned, but I think that's a good thing
The irony is, often that's the most sexy aspect of all. There's nothing finer than not being someone's 'fuck', but being you, and liked for it.
Call me old fashioned, but I think that's a good thing
I couldn't agree more...
insincerity lessens the impact of the story, esp when it's cut and pasted.
Even it's penned personally, then wonderful, but I'd still not want one in response to an ad.
It's good that someone's written purely as a form of expression in here. There's a finite value in 'Horny woman seeks man' type posting!
insincerity lessens the impact of the story, esp when it's cut and pasted.
Even it's penned personally, then wonderful, but I'd still not want one in response to an ad.
It's good that someone's written purely as a form of expression in here. There's a finite value in 'Horny woman seeks man' type posting!
An awful lot of time is wasted not filtering out the idiots / fakes.
This can certainly add to one's frustration.
Most genuinely people have a habit of going out of their way be accommodating and readily able to offer some simple validity checks. It's more often than not the fakes that show a great deal of reluctance to get things out of the way... thus dragging out the 'let's get to know each other' period... they seem to require a lot of pictures and details in order to 'get to know'.
It never ceases to amaze me how people who claim to be willing to share their bed seem reluctant to share a phone conversation. I know it's not always the case, but more often than not... it's an early warning sign.
If the female of the couple is unwilling to speak, then that's another warning sign.
When you use a site such as this, as good as it is, you have to be realistic. Realism means accepting that there will be fake people. Indeed a reasonably high number of them. You either buy into that and work with that fact, or you adopt another strategy... such as visiting a club etc.
It's extremely annoying putting up with investing your time on folk who are either total fakes, or are genuine, but don't play fair... and string you along. That's people for you. Nothing we can do to change it sadly. All we can really change is our ability to deal with it. If you discover you've been had, or time wasted... move on, and smile in the knowledge that at the end of the day they've reached the limit of their little pleasure... they've chatted to you, swapped a few pics... but never met you. Just laugh at them and think of the extra fun you'll be having when you meet other genuine folk.
This can certainly add to one's frustration.
Most genuinely people have a habit of going out of their way be accommodating and readily able to offer some simple validity checks. It's more often than not the fakes that show a great deal of reluctance to get things out of the way... thus dragging out the 'let's get to know each other' period... they seem to require a lot of pictures and details in order to 'get to know'.
It never ceases to amaze me how people who claim to be willing to share their bed seem reluctant to share a phone conversation. I know it's not always the case, but more often than not... it's an early warning sign.
If the female of the couple is unwilling to speak, then that's another warning sign.
When you use a site such as this, as good as it is, you have to be realistic. Realism means accepting that there will be fake people. Indeed a reasonably high number of them. You either buy into that and work with that fact, or you adopt another strategy... such as visiting a club etc.
It's extremely annoying putting up with investing your time on folk who are either total fakes, or are genuine, but don't play fair... and string you along. That's people for you. Nothing we can do to change it sadly. All we can really change is our ability to deal with it. If you discover you've been had, or time wasted... move on, and smile in the knowledge that at the end of the day they've reached the limit of their little pleasure... they've chatted to you, swapped a few pics... but never met you. Just laugh at them and think of the extra fun you'll be having when you meet other genuine folk.
